My K1 Visa filipina wife left me and is cheating on me..

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

We've been married for 10 months now, and shortly after she got her job, she started having less and less to do with me. I've been doing my best to be the best husband and she stopped being affectionate and started staying out 3 or 4AM at night and going to the bars with her friends. Then when I started to have a problem with her actions, that's when she moved in with her co-worker, she's younger than her and not married, but overall, I've been trying to work with her to resolve this and get her to move back in and she has stopped all communication for a full 3 wks now and now I see she added some guy on her facebook that lives here in the city. She never does that and I have a feeling she's been cheating on me and that's why she doesn't want anything to do with me now. I ended up running into her at the gas station by my work and she bought beer (she never drinks beer) and cigarettes and then ended up sitting in her car talking on her phone for like 10 minutes and then an SUV pulled up and a guy got out of that car and got into her car and I recognized him from a guy she added on her FB. She had posted a video on her wall with all <3 <3 <3 <3. She blocked me before she ever moved out almost 2 months ago, but I had another account for my job and that's how I am able to still see her FB. Also before she left, I checked her immigration status and it said this: Your Current Case Status for Form I485, APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS

Card/ Document Production

On September 13, 2012, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you. If you move before you receive the card, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283

We have not went for any type of interview or anything, since she went for her EAD. Is getting a green card REALLY this easy? She ended up getting it in the mail like a few days later. How does this work? I tried calling immigration and they told me they couldn't discuss it with me without her being there with me. I don't know what else to do? She lied and did NOT have true intentions when she came here. What should I do or what steps should I take if any?

[-=Mai and Timmy=- 12]

wow this is really so sad to hear, wow I cant believe of what ive read now ,, geez I hope youre okay anyway..after this sad moment of your life.

[pieroot 43]

wow, sorry to hear your sad story. I hope you'll be able to move on and find someone who truly loves you.

[Cmptrsdeal 76]

wow this is really so sad to hear, wow I cant believe of what ive read now ,, geez I hope youre okay anyway..after this sad moment of your life.

No I'm seriously ASKING for anything I can do to prove she came here in false pretenses and get an annulment and send her #### packing...

[Anh map 2,098]

No I'm seriously ASKING for anything I can do to prove she came here in false pretenses and get an annulment and send her #### packing...

That is "it" in as nutshell: what can you prove? Do you have proof that she deceived you and only was interested in you as a way into the US? ICE cannot, and will not, spend time on a case like this without you supplying compelling evidence for them to act on. Infidelity is not enough. That can happen in any relationship.

As far as divorce or an annulment, you can initiate that. That occurs in family court which is outside the immigration realm.

*Moved from Adjust Status forum to Effects of Major Changes forum*

[ca_babe 129]

No I'm seriously ASKING for anything I can do to prove she came here in false pretenses and get an annulment and send her #### packing...

You said in your other thread that she wanted to go home shortly after arriving in US because she didn't like it here. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/335995-wants-to-give-up-and-return-to-philippines/

I'm sorry that she left you. But if her intention was to marry you and leave you, she wouldn't want to go home after 2 weeks of her arrival. Just because your marriage didn't work out as you had expected doesn't mean she entered the marriage fraudulently.

[Tan Light 0]

Surely there's a reason why she was acting like that, not just because you think that she is cheating on you, you could just send her back to the Philippines as if nothing happened.. Beers, Bars, Staying out on 3am and a guy from Facebook can't prove the she is cheating unless you caught her in the act,suspicions could not help you resolve your problems. Talk to her about your relationship's issues, Ask her straight to the point,ask her if she still loves you and listen to her..then after that,that's the only time you should make a decision... but think for a million times.. Ask your lawyer what's the best thing to do ... When marriage have problems, the first thing that a person should think is how to save it, not to find a reason to end it... the day you put the ring on her finger, that's the day you promise to love and to stay with her no matter what happens..

[hawkeyez 45]

We've been married for 10 months now, and shortly after she got her job, she started having less and less to do with me. I've been doing my best to be the best husband and she stopped being affectionate and started staying out 3 or 4AM at night and going to the bars with her friends. Then when I started to have a problem with her actions, that's when she moved in with her co-worker, she's younger than her and not married, but overall, I've been trying to work with her to resolve this and get her to move back in and she has stopped all communication for a full 3 wks now and now I see she added some guy on her facebook that lives here in the city. She never does that and I have a feeling she's been cheating on me and that's why she doesn't want anything to do with me now. I ended up running into her at the gas station by my work and she bought beer (she never drinks beer) and cigarettes and then ended up sitting in her car talking on her phone for like 10 minutes and then an SUV pulled up and a guy got out of that car and got into her car and I recognized him from a guy she added on her FB. She had posted a video on her wall with all <3 <3 <3 <3. She blocked me before she ever moved out almost 2 months ago, but I had another account for my job and that's how I am able to still see her FB. Also before she left, I checked her immigration status and it said this: Your Current Case Status for Form I485, APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS

Card/ Document Production

On September 13, 2012, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you. If you move before you receive the card, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283

We have not went for any type of interview or anything, since she went for her EAD. Is getting a green card REALLY this easy? She ended up getting it in the mail like a few days later. How does this work? I tried calling immigration and they told me they couldn't discuss it with me without her being there with me. I don't know what else to do? She lied and did NOT have true intentions when she came here. What should I do or what steps should I take if any?

Step #1 = Lawyer

Step #2 = get divorce ASAP and don't give her anything.

Step #3 = Put it behind you and move on to the next adventure.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

We've been married for 10 months now, and shortly after she got her job, she started having less and less to do with me. I've been doing my best to be the best husband and she stopped being affectionate and started staying out 3 or 4AM at night and going to the bars with her friends. Then when I started to have a problem with her actions, that's when she moved in with her co-worker, she's younger than her and not married, but overall, I've been trying to work with her to resolve this and get her to move back in and she has stopped all communication for a full 3 wks now and now I see she added some guy on her facebook that lives here in the city. She never does that and I have a feeling she's been cheating on me and that's why she doesn't want anything to do with me now. I ended up running into her at the gas station by my work and she bought beer (she never drinks beer) and cigarettes and then ended up sitting in her car talking on her phone for like 10 minutes and then an SUV pulled up and a guy got out of that car and got into her car and I recognized him from a guy she added on her FB. She had posted a video on her wall with all <3 <3 <3 <3. She blocked me before she ever moved out almost 2 months ago, but I had another account for my job and that's how I am able to still see her FB. Also before she left, I checked her immigration status and it said this: Your Current Case Status for Form I485, APPLICATION TO REGISTER PERMANENT RESIDENCE OR TO ADJUST STATUS

Card/ Document Production

On September 13, 2012, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you. If you move before you receive the card, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283

We have not went for any type of interview or anything, since she went for her EAD. Is getting a green card REALLY this easy? She ended up getting it in the mail like a few days later. How does this work? I tried calling immigration and they told me they couldn't discuss it with me without her being there with me. I don't know what else to do? She lied and did NOT have true intentions when she came here. What should I do or what steps should I take if any?

OP, you're in the begining stages of stalking. You need to stop before you allow yourself to get goaded into stupid stuff.

Get a divorce, notify USCIS and proceed to move on with your life. Gowon has learned in his time (I'm old enough to almost be your Dad) that you can't keep someone that doesn't want to be with you. You have no properties or kids together so it's as clean as a break that you can get adn she moved out on her own without you having to get all messy like.

You're not going to get her deported and it's not your job, you're going to notify the USCIS and you're going to move on. I read your bio page and saw how you met and your activities you did when you first met, those, IMHO, were all wrong.

[madtownguy 164]

I agree with Gowon you are being a little extreme in your pursuit to find out what she's up to. The relationship is over, don't waste time trying to fix it just move on. It's nearly impossible to prove she married you with no intention to stay with you. Being married only 10 months will make it very hard for her to adjust her status. Any relationship comes with the risk of ending, you just have to do your best to avoid it. File for divorce and head back to Philippines for the next one.. I'll give you some advice that usually fall on deaf ears, the less you care the more the girl will want you. I feel like you should have a minimum of 100 relationships before you consider getting married, I feel like you fell short of that number. I personally would stay away from craigslist, that's not a huge step up from getting a bar girl. Think outside the box for finding a good girl in Philippines. Realize that there culture doesn't frown that badly on bar girls which is the most degrading thing I've seen in my life. I've met many thai and pinay here in the US that would never in a million years work as a bar girl in there own country but yet are shaking their @ss on stage at a strip club here cuz it's not that bad in comparison. You're single and free again right now, enjoy it!

Edited October 11, 2012 by madtownguy

[Ontarkie 13,902]

If you have the mail with her green car in it mail it back to USCIS. You can put it in another envelope with a note attached saying she left (date). It is her responsibility to inform USCIS of her address change if she did not return the mail do not open it or mess with it. File for divorce/annulment and move on.

[Nick + Elizabeth 54]

I agree with Gowon you are being a little extreme in your pursuit to find out what she's up to. The relationship is over, don't waste time trying to fix it just move on. It's nearly impossible to prove she married you with no intention to stay with you. Being married only 10 months will make it very hard for her to adjust her status. Any relationship comes with the risk of ending, you just have to do your best to avoid it. File for divorce and head back to Philippines for the next one.. I'll give you some advice that usually fall on deaf ears, the less you care the more the girl will want you. I feel like you should have a minimum of 100 relationships before you consider getting married, I feel like you fell short of that number. I personally would stay away from craigslist, that's not a huge step up from getting a bar girl. Think outside the box for finding a good girl in Philippines. Realize that there culture doesn't frown that badly on bar girls which is the most degrading thing I've seen in my life. I've met many thai and pinay here in the US that would never in a million years work as a bar girl in there own country but yet are shaking their @ss on stage at a strip club here cuz it's not that bad in comparison. You're single and free again right now, enjoy it!

So much ####### in this post reply

~"the less you care the more the girl will want you." This is juvenile advice. If you are looking to have a sincere lasting relationship with a true connection to a woman don't follow that advice. If you are looking to play games and get laid by girls with low self esteem then go for it!

~"you should have a minimum of 100 relationships before you consider getting married" I'm 31 and have dated a lot and am nowhere near 100 relationship. That's completely absurd. I whole heartedly believe you will learn more about yourself and what you are looking for in a few long term committed relationships then 100 meaningless flings (because at a number that large, that's all they are).

~"File for divorce and head back to Philippines for the next one." Really?! You make it sounds like picking up a wife is akin to picking up a new weed whacker at Wal-Mart. If you meet someone overseas that is one thing, but looking at the Philippines as a place to serial hook one wife after another until you find something that pleases you is another.

Sheesh....

[Shiobhan 235]

Ah move on before your right becomes a wrong = accused of stalking, she's gone riding in the fast lane like lightening hopefully she dont

crash like thunder, if U do get stuff in the mail for her do not open just return to uscis with explanation she moved on, there's always 3 sides to a story

move on buddy....not being judgemental but meeting ppl via the net & formulating such relationship in a short time to me is a no no.

[Tahoma 2,291]

Andy...

It's good to see that you are no longer in denial and, instead, you're angry. However, you should channel your anger into something productive, like getting a divorce and moving on, rather than wasting it fruitlessly on revenge.

Look at the bright side: you learned a lot about red flags.

Nick + Elizabeth...+1...

Edited October 11, 2012 by Tahoma

[Laser1 63]

We have not went for any type of interview or anything, since she went for her EAD. Is getting a green card REALLY this easy?

That sounds strange. The US citizen spouse is required to attend the AOS interview.