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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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Okay, so here is a short description of the issue, and I will follow it up with what I have already done... and then you guys can hopefully tell me what else I need to do.

My husband is from Morocco. Getting him here was really easy. Once he was here he started drinking and when drunk physically abusive. He says he doesn't remember being abusive and agreed to stop drinking. Every time we come close to an immigration process he straightens up and becomes a wonderful husband. But right after starts drinking again and becomes abusive. We just had the most beautiful baby girl in November and he has physically assaulted me several times since.

In February of this year we both signed the i751 petition to lift conditions. That day he got drunk and assaulted me while holding my daughter. He has been verbally, and emotionally abusive every since. He is now out of the house... so please do not worry.

Here is what I have done:

* Filed a Domestic Violence Protection order. He has been removed from the home and is to have no contact with me or my children (this includes the baby we just had)

* I wrote a letter to USCIS requesting my name be removed from the petition, his visa and as his sponsor, and attached a copy of the DVPO to the letter.

* I filed an application with the Passport Issuance Alert Program for children so he can not get her a passport and attached a copy of the DVPO to that with wording "law enforcement shall use any and all means necessary to keep said child in the United States".

* Have secured an Attorney and just filed for a Dissolution of Marriage which requests him to get 52 weeks of DV treatment, 35 weeks of drug and alcohol treatment and parenting classes. Once finished he would get 2 hrs once a week supervised visits. He also will have to pay child support and 1/2 of daycare.

So that is the back ground, and what I have done. Here is my question. WHAT ELSE do I need to do? He has had his biometrics appointment, but does not have his 10 year card yet nor has he had an interview. His behavior in the weeks leading up to the protection order was bizarre and he was planning a vacation back to Morocco in June/July. I have no idea if he is planning on coming back or not.

So, what else should I do? What would happen to him immigration wise based on what he has done to me and my children?

Thanks for QUICK responses. *Please know that I love my husband and tried for 3 years to make it work. I begged him to get help and he had every opportunity to change and he chose to throw us away as I warned him I would do this for over a year.

Thanks :)

Mona

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Ireland
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Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear what youou have gone through. That sounds like such a heart breaking ordeal for you and your family.

I think you have done quite a bit in order to protect your family from him. May I ask if he had an alcohol problem before he left Morocco? Did he even drink prior to entering the states? It sounds to me that the complete change of scenery has perhaps messed with his head and he must be struggling.

As for what else you could do, well it depends on how far you want to go. If you want no more contact with him then I would advise completely moving everything to a different location leaving no record of where you are moving to. That is if you want all ties cut.

Good luck and best wishes

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear what youou have gone through. That sounds like such a heart breaking ordeal for you and your family.

I think you have done quite a bit in order to protect your family from him. May I ask if he had an alcohol problem before he left Morocco? Did he even drink prior to entering the states? It sounds to me that the complete change of scenery has perhaps messed with his head and he must be struggling.

As for what else you could do, well it depends on how far you want to go. If you want no more contact with him then I would advise completely moving everything to a different location leaving no record of where you are moving to. That is if you want all ties cut.

Good luck and best wishes

You know I am not sure. I know I saw him drink one time in the 2 years we talked on line and that was because he was at a wedding. But he told me he didnt drunk very often. Now he says he came to the cyber cafe drunk every day. So I honestly do not know what to believe from him. I am going to be petitioning the court to allow me to move but because we are married and have a child, for the time being I still have to stay in the home until the divorce is complete... then hopefully I will be allowed to leave.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Pakistan
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I am very sorry to hear this happened to you and my best wishes are with you.

My only suggestion to you is to dissolve the marriage as soon as possible (if indeed you have come to the conclusion that this marriage cannot be saved), and then inform USCIS that you are withdrawing the I-751 petition that you filed together with your husband on the basis that you are now divorced.

Since your husband has a 2-year green card, I believe he will not become immediately deport-able, and can file for ROC separately on his own on the basis that he entered into marriage with good faith intentions, although, I don't see him getting very far with that, what with all the domestic violence that resulted in divorce.

Good luck.

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Sorry your marriage took this turn, but I wish you would have filed criminal charges against him, his 2year green card would be toast! You have done very well in your divorce perpetration!!

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USCIS

05/29/2011: Married

08/12/2011: Sent I-130 packet.

08/15/2011: NOA1, Priority Date

02/22/2012: NOA2 - Approved

02/25/2012: NOA2 - Received hard copy in mail

NVC

03/06/2012: NVC received

03/07/2012: NVC Case Number, BIN & IIN Assigned

03/08/2012: DS3032 sent by email (auto response received immediately)

03/13/2012: Re-send DS3032 by email (auto response received immediately)

03/13/2012: Received (2)Email with DS-3032 Kit and AOS Bill instructions

03/14/2012: AOS bill appears as PAID

03/16/2012: Mailed AOS package (I-864)USPS EXPRESS

03/16/2012: DS-3032 Accepted Via Beneficiary Email (Took 8 DAYS from 1st Email)

03/20/2012: IV bill invoiced & paid $404.00

03/21/2012: IV bill Payment reflecting PAID / AOS checklist received

03/30/2012: IV package DS-230 sent via USPS Priority

04/02/2012: IV package Delivered @ 11:55 am w/signature

04/12/2012: Re-Sent DS-230 Part 1 W/Photocopy of receipt from Hong Kong Police Via USPS EXPRESS

04/13/2012: DS-230 Part 1 package Delivered to NVC ATTN:DR @11:52am

04/17/2012: CASE COMPLETE (41 Days @NVC)

04/22/2012: Request Expedite

04/24/2012: Expedite Approved!(2days)

04/25/2012: Case sent to U.S. Consulate General in HONG KONG

Medical / US Consulate / POE:

04/30/2012: U.S. Consulate General Hong Kong received

05/16/2012: Interview Scheduled May 22, 2012

05/22/2012: Interview APPROVED!!!!!!

05/26/2012: Visa in Hand (9 months 11 days from NOA1)

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Colombia
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I am so sorry for all this. i hope your life gets back on track. from what you said i am glad that u have pretty much blocked him from your life


AOS JOURNEY

02/24/2012---MAILED I-485,I-130,I-765, TO CHICAGO LOCKBOX
03/05/2012---CHECKS CASHED BY USCIS
03/08/2012---I-765 WAS TOUCHED
03/17/2012--RECIEVED RECIEPT NOTICE FOR I-485,I-130,I-765
03/23/2012---RECIEVED BIOMET
RICS APPOINTMENT
04/05/2012--I-485 RFE MAILED
04/07/2012--I-485 RFE RECIEVED
04/10/2012---RFE REPLY WAS SENT TO USCIS FOR I-485
04/10/2012---WENT TO BIOMETRICS APPOINTMENT IN ELIZABETH NJ(NOW THE NEWARK OFFICE)

04/18/2012---RFE RECIEVD BY USCIS
05/21/2012--- EAD APPROVED CARD PRODUCTION EMAIL RECEIVED
05/24/2012--- SECOND EAD PRODUCTION EMAIL
06/26/2012-- AOS INTERVIEW!!!!!!!!!
06/28/2012----APPROVED/CARD PRODUCTION EMAIL
07/07/2012-----10 YEAR GREEN CARD ARRIVES

N-400 NATURALIZTION

03/21/2016--- MAILED/FILED N-400

03/24/2016 ---- PACKAGED DELIVERED

03/28/2016---- NOA RECIEPT NOTICE RECIEVED

04/08/2016--- BIOMETRIC SCHEDULED

04/22/2016-- BIOMETRIC DONE

06/20/2016--- INTERVIEW SCHEDULES

07/29/2016--- INTERVIEW/OATH

07/30/2016--- REGISTERED TO VOTE/PASSPORT

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REPLACEMENT I-94 JOURNEY
01/20/2012--I-102 MAILED
01/27/2012--USCIS RECIEVED PETITION
02/02/2012--RECIEPT NOTICED RECIEVED
03/05/2012--RFE MAILED
03/10/2012--RFE RECIEVDD
04/05/2012---RFE REPLIED TO
04/17/2012--USCIS RECIVED IT AND IS UNDER REVIEW
07/11/2012-- STILL IS UNDER REVIEW HAHA

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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I'm so sorry to hear this, and BRAVO for leaving!! That takes a great amount of strength and self worth. That was probably the best decision you could have made for yourself and your kids. I pray for your healing, and hope you never look back.


Never give up on anything God has told you to believe for; never quit doing anything He has clearly shown you to do. Your diligence will pay off with a blessing from God." -Joyce Meyers

K1 Journey

-Filed August 2009

-Approved October 2009

-Interview in Casablanca January 2010

-Results DENIED

CR1 Journey

-Married March 2010

-Filed June 2010

-Approved October 2010

-NVC Journey 13 Weeks

-Interview in Casablanca March 2011

-Results DENIED

-USCIS received May 10, 2011

-NOIR received January 30, 2012

-NOIR sent February 21, 2012

-NOIR received by USCIS February 22, 2012

-NOIR response February 28, 2012--REAFFIRMED!

-NVC received petition March 19, 2012

-Petition sent to Casa March 20, 2012

-Consulate called husband to set interview March 26, 2012

-Interview set for April 2, 2012 at 3pm!!

-Interview results--APPROVED!

-Civil documents in--April 5, 2012

-Consulate called April 6, 2012 to pick up visa following Monday

-IR1 received--April 9, 2012

-POE--May 9, 2012

-Applied SS card--May 23, 2012

-Received SS card--May 26, 2012

-Received Welcome Letter--May 29, 2012

-GC mailed--June 1, 2012

-Received 10 year GC--June 4, 2012

-Applied for citizenship--February/March 2015

-Request for more proof/evidence--July 2015

-Approved--July 2015

-Citizenship Ceremony-- August 2015

NO MORE IMMIGRATION!!????

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (apr) Country: China
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Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits forum.


Our journey:

Spoiler

September 2007: Met online via social networking site (MySpace); began exchanging messages.
March 26, 2009: We become a couple!
September 10, 2009: Arrived for first meeting in-person!
June 17, 2010: Arrived for second in-person meeting and start of travel together to other areas of China!
June 21, 2010: Engaged!!!
September 1, 2010: Switched course from K1 to CR-1
December 8, 2010: Wedding date set; it will be on February 18, 2011!
February 9, 2011: Depart for China
February 11, 2011: Registered for marriage in Wuhan, officially married!!!
February 18, 2011: Wedding ceremony in Shiyan!!!
April 22, 2011: Mailed I-130 to Chicago
April 28, 2011: Received NOA1 via text/email, file routed to CSC (priority date April 25th)
April 29, 2011: Updated
May 3, 2011: Received NOA1 hardcopy in mail
July 26, 2011: Received NOA2 via text/email!!!
July 30, 2011: Received NOA2 hardcopy in mail
August 8, 2011: NVC received file
September 1, 2011: NVC case number assigned
September 2, 2011: AOS invoice received, OPTIN email for EP sent
September 7, 2011: Paid AOS bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 9, 2011)
September 8, 2011: OPTIN email accepted, GZO number assigned
September 10, 2011: Emailed AOS package
September 12, 2011: IV bill invoiced
September 13, 2011: Paid IV bill (payment portal showed PAID on September 14, 2011)
September 14, 2011: Emailed IV package
October 3, 2011: Emailed checklist response (checklist generated due to typo on Form DS-230)
October 6, 2011: Case complete at NVC
November 10, 2011: Interview - APPROVED!!!
December 7, 2011: POE - Sea-Tac Airport

September 17, 2013: Mailed I-751 to CSC

September 23, 2013: Received NOA1 in mail (receipt date September 19th)

October 16, 2013: Biometrics Appointment

January 28, 2014: Production of new Green Card ordered

February 3, 2014: New Green Card received; done with USCIS until fall of 2023*

 

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Morocco
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Call me crazy but I have seen this post previously on VJ. Right when she said that he hit her with her child in her arms I knew I had read it somewhere else. :thumbs:


Oct 28,2006 Met online in Yahoo messenger
Dec 2,2007 Traveled to Morocco and decided to stay
Jan 7,2008 Got married in Zaio
Mar 2,2008 Got my Moroccan residency
Oct 23,2008 Direct Consular filed at consulate
Oct 31,2008 Got interview call for Dec 22nd
Nov 11,2008 Medical exam done
Dec 22,2008 Interview and got approved
Dec 23,2008 Visa issued, thanks to God
Jan 20,2009 Flew home to Texas.
Jan 21,2009 Living and working in Los Fresnos, Texas
Oct 30,2010 Filed I-751 Lifting of Conditions
Nov 2, 2010 NOA1
Dec 10,2010 Biometrics
Mar 23,2011 Approved Lifting of Conditions
Oct 28,2011 Filed N-400 Naturalization
Nov 02,2011 NOA 1
Nov 28,2011 Recd text/email placed inline for interview schedule
Dec 01,2011 Recd text/email interview scheduled,pending letter
Jan 10,2012 Interview Date
Jan 10,2012 Interview Cancelled and will be rescheduled per
USCIS as Farid can only interview after Jan 20th
Feb 23,2012 Citizenship Interview Date-Farid passed. Wohoo
July 6,2012 Oath Ceremony-McAllen Texas

March 20,2013 Petitioned for Momma

March 9, 2015 Momma arrives in Texas to live with us.

January 30, 2016 Momma leaves back to Morocco for a visit.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Morocco
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Call me crazy but I have seen this post previously on VJ. Right when she said that he hit her with her child in her arms I knew I had read it somewhere else. :thumbs:

never posted about this before. i posted back in 2007-2008 under a different name when we were going through the process of getting him here. But this topic was just started today. only talked about it on my facebook page with my friends last week. so unless you know one of my friends and they are blabbing... then you have not heard this from me before.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
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Call me crazy but I have seen this post previously on VJ. Right when she said that he hit her with her child in her arms I knew I had read it somewhere else. :thumbs:

As you wish... you're crazy. The post you're talking about from my recollection involved an immigrant female allegedly being abused by her USC spouse (I found the post I believe you're referring to and it confirms these stories are NOTHING alike but in the interest of not derailing this thread I will not post it). Totally different post/person/circumstances. You will often see similar stories but it's best not to bring it up unless you re-read the post you think it is like and the stories are identical (which has happened before).. otherwise you run the risk of minimising the OP's pain which is never good but also derailing the thread.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
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never posted about this before. i posted back in 2007-2008 under a different name when we were going through the process of getting him here. But this topic was just started today. only talked about it on my facebook page with my friends last week. so unless you know one of my friends and they are blabbing... then you have not heard this from me before.

No it wasn't you :) I'm sorry you're going through this. I just wanted to tell you I think you're doing a wonderful job of being proactive to protect you and your child.

My only suggestion regarding immigration is to make an Infopass appointment to confirm in person that you are withdrawing your support of the joint petition. Take another signed statement and another copy of the protective order. You want to be sure you've been removed from it. He should have contacted them to update his address once he moved out. It's also important if you've charged him with assault (if you haven't you should consider it) that you contact the police to let them know that they should advice ICE that a conditional immigrant is being detained on domestic violence charges. They should put him on immigration hold and he will face possible deportation.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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the only downside to this that if he leaves the state and never return, you won't get your child support money anymore. congrats on standing up for yourself! :thumbs:


"Family time is very precious and you should cherish every moment of it."

01/20/12 - I-130 sent to Chicago Lockbox.

01/26/12 - NOA1 received and processing at Vermont.

06/28/12 - NOA2 announced on status check.

06/29/12 - NVC received case learned on 07/2/12.

06/30/12 - Hard copy NOA2 received.

07/09/12 - NVC Casefile Number and IIN Issued.

07/16/12 - Receive and Sent DS-3032 via email.

07/17/12 - Mailed DS-3032 via mail, AOS bill received via email, paid online, Optin email sent.

07/18/12 - Optin accepted and new case number, AOS marked paid, emailed AOS packet.

07/24/12 - Assigned as Agent, IV Fee bill received via email, paid online.

07/25/12 - IV Fee marked paid, emailed IV packet.

07/31/12 - Emailed GZO Supplemental Packet 3.

08/02/12 - Case completed and commenced final review.

08/03/12 - Shipped all copies of forms/letters/documents to my wife - arriving on 8/9/12.

08/06/12 - Case completed final review.

08/09/12 - Appointment letter received via email interview date set 9/6/12.

08/14/12 - Medical exam done.

08/15/12 - Medical exam results all normal.

09/06/12 - Submitted required documents at the embassy and interview set next day at 0730.

09/07/12 - Visa approved, click here for review http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/view-dos-cis-reviews.php?entry=10401 .

09/14/12 - Visa received on hand!

10/07/12 - Arrived at NYC! click here for review http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/view-poe-reviews.php?entry=15293

10/20/12 - Received welcome letter from USCIS.

10/25/12 - Green Card received!

"Nothing is more difficult than the art of maneuvering for advantageous positions." - Sun-Tzu

04/27/13 - Submitted DS-160 online for parent-in-laws and sister-in-law.

05/01/13 - Paid DS-160 or MRV Fee Payments on CGI Stanley.

05/03/13 - Made appointment for 05/16/13 on CGI Stanley.

05/16/13 - Arrived at GUZ and impromptu notice on the front it was closed.

05/30/13 - B2 visa interview passed! Read review here http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/433263-b2-visa-was-approved-for-parentinlaw/ <p>

"Good ideas are not adopted automatically. They must be driven into practice with courageous patience." - ADM Hyman G. Rickover

08/08/14 - Mailed I-175 application.

08/11/14 - I-175 arrived at VSC.

08/18/14 - Received NOA1 with date 08/12/14.

08/27/14 - Received biometrics appointment for 09/09/14.

02/27/15 - GC in production from email notification.

03/02/15 - Received NOA2 with approval dated 02/25/15.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Egypt
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I'm so sorry to hear about this but you are strong you made the steps to get him out of your life.No one deserves to be abused and the children don't need to see this.Are you pressing charges on him for DV?I hope so and go through with it.Been there and this is the only way I found peace of mind in my life.wish you the best and we will be praying for you (F) May GOD keep you and your children safe always

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It is my guess that your husband has become an alcoholic. It happens. But people can improve IF they are willing to change.

This is the most difficult part and usually involves treatment and usually joining and attending Alcoholics Anonymous.

Not sure if you can wait for this transformation. It might be a very bumpy road and it might never happen.

Maybe you could try an Alanon meeting just to talk with others who might help you.

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