Is anybody else's spouse like this?

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

He's got good taste. Cheerios rock! A box is like three servings and then it's empty.

HELL YES!!!!!! I like LIFE and I'm lucky if I get three servings out of box.

[Darnell 8,478]

Oh my - I am fearful for Abdul now - must to assume his wife saw this up on the computer when she got home.

Anyone know Abdul, can do a telephone check in ?

[Operator 1,925]

Oh my - I am fearful for Abdul now - must to assume his wife saw this up on the computer when she got home.

Anyone know Abdul, can do a telephone check in ?

It may be he is too weak to get to his keyboard. Someone send that man a care package.

[Austramerican 83]

I'm not married yet, but I lived with Ben for a year before he had to go back to Australia for us to file the K-1. I LIKE cooking so I did a lot of the cooking, I grew up not exactly well off and I was always taught never to waste food also. I had 4 siblings so basically when I learned how to cook it was for many people, though I was never FORCED to learn how to cook, I just enjoy it.

BTW, for all the "man is the king of the house" and "cooking and cleaning is womens work" types, my dad is man enough to make the money AND cook and clean, he cooked most of the time in our house growing up! HE wanted to because he enjoys it, my mom and him shared the duties and he was never ashamed or scoffed at it as women's work because thats what a REAL man does! It's supposed to be a partnership, and while in my house I don't expect my man to cook and clean if I am the housewife (which I won't be til we have kids), he is man enough to do the laundry, dishes and take out the trash when we were living together, and I didn't even ask him to, he just wants to because we are a team and support each other.

He's even taking it upon himself to learn how to cook meals because he appreciates all the delicious meals I made for him and wants to return the favor <3 And thats the way it should be, if he acted like Mr King of his castle all the time and just took it for granted that cooking was my job it would take all the joy out of cooking and quite frankly he would have to make his own meals But fortunately we are a team as it should be!

Your house can be how you like as long as you are both happy, but that's not to say that everyone should live like you.

As far as this guy, that sucks. She is not being fair. However, having a serious sit down talk with her about how it makes you feel and how you feel it is unacceptable is a lot better to do than holding it all inside until you explode. Also asking her what prompts this behavior and that you feel it is hurting the marriage is a convo that totally needs to happen asap. Obviously you married her for a reason, its time to man up and have a conversation as husband and wife, but more importantly, as adults. Not talking or just mentioning it passively is not going to help, you need to have a straight up one on one convo, both of you are married to each other so there should be some mutual respect between you, and love. Ideally if she understands how important to you it is and if you can understand that she can't change asap (she needs to be willing to compromise at least) then you two can be on the road to healing. Good luck.

[Nina~ 431]

Oh thank you for the explanation on Ukrainian customs. So why do you think his American wife is so stingy and unwilling to do her job?

I didn't explain Ukrainian customs, I explained 3rd world mentality and that is definitely not an unique Ukrainian thing.

[Nica_In_Love 98]

I gotta say I was laughing at the "king of the house" phrase as well. I find it funny that some of the best chefs in the world are men, but how ridiculous since cooking is a woman's job, isn't it?! *Sarcasm* At home, my husband and I share the duties, just like Austramerican has mentioned. There isn't any chore that is just mine or just my husband's, everything is shared even snow shoveling, which some people leave for the men to do. When he cooks, I do the dishes, and when I cook he does the dishes, and so forth. My father is also an excellent cook, his mother always taught all of her sons to cook and do their own things. She did this because she wanted them to be able to take care of themselves; "You never know who you're going to end up with" she used to say.

Anyway, in relation to the OP, I don't know what's going on with him and his wife. There are always 3 sides of a story, so hopefully he'll come back and give us an update. Granted, I don't think the wife is right in limiting his food but there must a reason for her doing it.

[Susita 175]

He's got good taste. Cheerios rock! A box is like three servings and then it's empty.

We buy the huge ginormous box of Cheerios (with 3 kids and him, we kinda have to. One box would go in a day). I'm not home when he eats breakfast, he gets home from work @ 7:30am and eats breakfast with the baby. She's kinda into Cheerios, Kix and cream-cheese bagels, so that's what they usually eat.

No, man (sigh, man). I found rice in the cat's water bowl tonight, obviously flung by the rag-on-a-stick, see man.

Congratulations on your continuing adventures with reproductivity, and on Hubby for being able to cook anything, si man!

Your cat doesn't like rice-water?

Thanks for the congrats! We're in the market for a big house now, so that's my next adventure.

[himher 634]

Abdul - one solution might be to get that second, third, fourth wife

Then you can eat 12 times a day.....

My wife is so stingy that is bothers me so much. We are at the table and the servings she makes are super small.she is not calorie conscious.i have told her many times to make enough food so that the person at the table wants another serving they can get it.she never understands that.she hoards food and saves everything to be eaten later.you only get one serving,period.it offends me really.i have told her about this so many times but she repeats the same thing over and over.she buys something special from the store and tell me i will put this away for now. we can use it at such and such occassion.i have never seen anybody like this before.please heklp.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I didn't explain Ukrainian customs, I explained 3rd world mentality and that is definitely not an unique Ukrainian thing.

His wife is American. He is asking for an explanation of why his American wife is so stingy and refuse to perform in the role of a woman. Ukraine is not third world, so third world mentality is not even a Ukrainian thing.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I gotta say I was laughing at the "king of the house" phrase as well. I find it funny that some of the best chefs in the world are men, but how ridiculous since cooking is a woman's job, isn't it?! *Sarcasm* At home, my husband and I share the duties, just like Austramerican has mentioned. There isn't any chore that is just mine or just my husband's, everything is shared even snow shoveling, which some people leave for the men to do. When he cooks, I do the dishes, and when I cook he does the dishes, and so forth. My father is also an excellent cook, his mother always taught all of her sons to cook and do their own things. She did this because she wanted them to be able to take care of themselves; "You never know who you're going to end up with" she used to say.

Anyway, in relation to the OP, I don't know what's going on with him and his wife. There are always 3 sides of a story, so hopefully he'll come back and give us an update. Granted, I don't think the wife is right in limiting his food but there must a reason for her doing it.

The chefs are paid. They are men making money. Making money is a man's job. where is the contradiction?

And every day I am glad I married a Ukrainian. especially at lunch time.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

We buy the huge ginormous box of Cheerios (with 3 kids and him, we kinda have to. One box would go in a day). I'm not home when he eats breakfast, he gets home from work @ 7:30am and eats breakfast with the baby. She's kinda into Cheerios, Kix and cream-cheese bagels, so that's what they usually eat.

Your cat doesn't like rice-water?

Thanks for the congrats! We're in the market for a big house now, so that's my next adventure.

Happy house hunting!!!!! You need all the glad tidings you can get, the J-men must be so excited to be moving.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUADeRYIwW0

[Nina~ 431]

His wife is American. He is asking for an explanation of why his American wife is so stingy and refuse to perform in the role of a woman. Ukraine is not third world, so third world mentality is not even a Ukrainian thing.

My post was in response to you and not the OP. Third world or not, Ukraine is a developing country and their customs & attitude towards food are in par with other developing countries.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

My post was in response to you and not the OP. Third world or not, Ukraine is a developing country and their customs & attitude towards food are in par with other developing countries.

I am trying to understand why, then, you explained third world customs to a man with an American wife. ????

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

I am going to hazard to guess that Nina was trying to explain the attitude of the OP, not his wife.

But all the American women thank you for giving us another opportunity to be very thankful that you married a Ukrainian.

[Nina~ 431]

I am trying to understand why, then, you explained third world customs to a man with an American wife. ????

AGAIN, I was making a comment towards your post and not the OP. Good grief!