What's the story with American Women?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Hopi

[Welshcookie 17]

I think it took my husband completely by surprise when he ended up marrying a old dumpy Welsh chick ......love 'im

[homesick_american 1]

Not this old chestnut again.

Get over yourselves boys -- no one cares, methinks thou protesth too much about your dating problems at home.

Hahahaha....really. Maybe the OP is the kind of guy who could ONLY get a foreign woman desperate enough to marry anyone just to get to America.

[Henia 11]

Why are so many men like ourselves seeking wives overseas? What has changed in American women that sucessful, intelligent (albeit not-so-handsome as Mel Gibson) men such as oursleves choose to go overseas to find a decent companion??

I'd be curious to discover the motivations my fellow man has for going overseas to find a spouse.

I am curious to know this myself. I have asked my husband the same question and his reply was:

I am more flexible

Not insanely attached to tradition

I am controled by my family

I am practising my religion correctly (this is important for him)

I am not a type to gossip

I am interested in him for material gain

I am well educated and independent

I am reliable

He can count on me throu the thick and thin

We think alike, on a more logical level

Hmmm... but I am still wondering what's so special?

[Dr. Obvious 49]

You know, they had a show about this in Germany. Apparently, the German men they found for the show were the kind of knuckle dragging Neanderthals that said that those damn German women wanted careers and lives outside the home and worst of all, RESPECT, those witches! The men wanted a submissive southeast Asian wife that would cook and clean and service them daily. Many of their women spoke little, if any, German. I found it all hilarious and sad and then hilarious again.

I didn't pick my husband because I didn't want an American. It just happened that the man I fell in love with was German. There was no plan or anything. I am sure that is true for the vast majority of people here, male or female Americans.

Edited September 30, 2006 by Wacken

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

The answer to the question is that most American women would not appreciate triple visits to Disneyland.

Sorry, I just had to pull that one from VJ history!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The answer to the question is that most American women would not appreciate triple visits to Disneyland.

Sorry, I just had to pull that one from VJ history!

Hi Bethanie! Welcome back!

[kirk and Jenny 0]

I live in a town of 900 people. The 3 most eligible women for a relationship are an axe murderer and 2 meth freaks. The world expanded my horizon from 3 women to about a million women. What attracted me to Filipino women is that Filipino people are into community versus american people are into self. (We are the me generation and its' progeny). So why are men looking for foriegn wives, probably the same reason women are looking for foriegn husbands. It is hard to maintain a relationship if 2 individuals are into "self" or "me".

For instance, I would aske my ex-wife, whether the fact that I put off my life and career for her career generated good feelings in her toward me. "No" she would say.

[kirk and Jenny 0]

P.S. There was a line on this forum about accepting one's fiancee's family living here. The general response was "no way, I would not sacrifice for my fiancee". If my fiancee wanted her family here, I would say yes. My ex-wife's mother lived with us for quite a while. You want to please the one you love. If my family wanted to move nearer to us my fiancee would say "great".

Again, relationships work because we get along on most things and are willing to sacrifice some on the things we are different on.

[michellek1976 0]

We met online and were not seeking someone foreign.

I think my fiance and I both appreciate the little things we wouldn't necessarily get from someone of our own country. The extra consideration, the excitement of something different, the anticipation of seeing your lover again.....

I can't wait to be with him to cook for him, keep a nice home, massage him after work - but I think that's more about pleasing the man I love than being a non-American. I haven't had these domestic impulses for all men I've dated - just this one!

[Chuckles 0]

This is not a contest.

I see lots of wonderful stories here on VJ. People who met serendipitously and fell in love like some sort of fairy tale. Finding love when you were not looking for it is very romantic and I am very happy for those who found it. But you are the lucky ones.

Not everyone has that good fortune, but just about everyone here has had the good fortune of falling in love in some way, and are seeking out marriage and family with the best of intentions. Why the self-rightous attitudes? Just because someone has a foriegn bride from the East/Far East does not make them an American-women hating, sex-starved, control freak looking for an 'easy ride' with some woman desperate for a green card.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Me thinks the OP was trolling.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

The story with american women is that we're increadibly desirable and hot and foreign men can't keep their hands off us B)

[Caladan 19]

I live in a town of 900 people. The 3 most eligible women for a relationship are an axe murderer and 2 meth freaks. The world expanded my horizon from 3 women to about a million women. What attracted me to Filipino women is that Filipino people are into community versus american people are into self. (We are the me generation and its' progeny). So why are men looking for foriegn wives, probably the same reason women are looking for foriegn husbands. It is hard to maintain a relationship if 2 individuals are into "self" or "me".

For instance, I would aske my ex-wife, whether the fact that I put off my life and career for her career generated good feelings in her toward me. "No" she would say.

I agree that a relationship doesn't work if both people are selfish, but it just strikes me as absurd to think that all American women and men are exactly the same selfish and that all foreigners are into community and family. There's just so many factors that influence a person's personality: religion, upbringing, area of the country, values, life experience.

Nothing wrong with looking abroad for love, but no one in any country is exactly the same as all of their countrymen.

I'm hardly marrying my fiance out of some belief that Canadian men are more virtuous and uncorrupted. I'm marrying him because I love him; if he were American, I'd be happier, because I could set a wedding date without a worry.

Not everyone has that good fortune, but just about everyone here has had the good fortune of falling in love in some way, and are seeking out marriage and family with the best of intentions. Why the self-rightous attitudes? Just because someone has a foriegn bride from the East/Far East does not make them an American-women hating, sex-starved, control freak looking for an 'easy ride' with some woman desperate for a green card.

Certainly not, and no one's said that everyone with a foreign bride hates American women. The OP on the other hand starts out by saying, essentially, what's wrong with these American women that they're not lining up at the door to kiss my behind for being successful and intelligent, so I am FORCED to look overseas?

That's a different question than: 'why'd you decide to marry someone from another country?'

[kirk and Jenny 0]

I live in a town of 900 people. The 3 most eligible women for a relationship are an axe murderer and 2 meth freaks. The world expanded my horizon from 3 women to about a million women. What attracted me to Filipino women is that Filipino people are into community versus american people are into self. (We are the me generation and its' progeny). So why are men looking for foriegn wives, probably the same reason women are looking for foriegn husbands. It is hard to maintain a relationship if 2 individuals are into "self" or "me".

For instance, I would aske my ex-wife, whether the fact that I put off my life and career for her career generated good feelings in her toward me. "No" she would say.

I agree that a relationship doesn't work if both people are selfish, but it just strikes me as absurd to think that all American women and men are exactly the same selfish and that all foreigners are into community and family. There's just so many factors that influence a person's personality: religion, upbringing, area of the country, values, life experience.

Nothing wrong with looking abroad for love, but no one in any country is exactly the same as all of their countrymen.

I'm hardly marrying my fiance out of some belief that Canadian men are more virtuous and uncorrupted. I'm marrying him because I love him; if he were American, I'd be happier, because I could set a wedding date without a worry.

Not everyone has that good fortune, but just about everyone here has had the good fortune of falling in love in some way, and are seeking out marriage and family with the best of intentions. Why the self-rightous attitudes? Just because someone has a foriegn bride from the East/Far East does not make them an American-women hating, sex-starved, control freak looking for an 'easy ride' with some woman desperate for a green card.

Certainly not, and no one's said that everyone with a foreign bride hates American women. The OP on the other hand starts out by saying, essentially, what's wrong with these American women that they're not lining up at the door to kiss my behind for being successful and intelligent, so I am FORCED to look overseas?

That's a different question than: 'why'd you decide to marry someone from another country?'

There are different aspects to different cultures. That does not mean that everyone in that culture fits those aspects. Filipino culture is more comunity, family and non privacy oriented. USA's culture is self and privacy oriented. It would be absurd to think all cultures are the same. Afterall, This country has been screaming diversity for over a quarter of a century.