Must know answer...

[*Robert* 2]

LMAO!!! hahahahahahahahahaha

That smilie just KILLS me Lorelle!!!! :lol:

Rebecca!!! You go girl!!!

Linababe,

Please fill in your timeline for this fantasy so that we can help answer your questions about it and perhaps even calculate when it will come to pass.

Yodrak

I would love to have 2 men and basically watch - umm but then again i guess its fantasy as I dont think I will ever be in that situation ...

Yodrak youre too funny lol

More humor from Professor Yodrak!!! I love it!!!

[SmileyGuy 0]

I do not know but it drives most men crazy!

Peter Miami

Maybe it's due to the fact that us men get excited thinking that we may actually learn how to please a woman through extensive observation.

[Linababe 0]

[...] Our bodies are nicer to look at than a man's I think (no offense, guys). [...]

i think many men (including the one sleeping in my bed) have gorgeous bodies ... nothing is sexier than seeing him walk around the house after his bath with nothing but a towel around his waist YUMMM

I agree - I mean my mans body lol umm walking around the house with just the towel round him still slightly dripping from the shower ummmm ok this topic is gonna get me into trouble

[aussiewench 10]

I do not know but it drives most men crazy!

Peter Miami

Maybe it's due to the fact that us men get excited thinking that we may actually learn how to please a woman through extensive observation.

now thats a good excuse if I ever I heard one

[*Robert* 2]

Maybe it's due to the fact that us men get excited thinking that we may actually learn how to please a woman through extensive observation.

Yeah.... that's the ticket!!! Training!!!

[SmileyGuy 0]

I do not know but it drives most men crazy!

Peter Miami

Maybe it's due to the fact that us men get excited thinking that we may actually learn how to please a woman through extensive observation.

now thats a good excuse if I ever I heard one

Just the facts Wenchie!

Edited July 14, 2006 by SmileyGuy

[gimygirl 0]

Have you ever kicked your hubby out of the bed because you wanted to spend time with your friend, Buzz instead?

Buzz could finish the job off if I was left lacking yes I wouldnt kick him outa bed to do it though

[Ban Hammer 15,154]

Have you ever kicked your hubby out of the bed because you wanted to spend time with your friend, Buzz instead?

Buzz could finish the job off if I was left lacking yes I wouldnt kick him outa bed to do it though

hey isn't that wenchie's son on the left?

Edited July 15, 2006 by charlesandnessa

[almaty 19]

sister lorelle, i see that you are up to your usual stuff..and i missed most of it..damn

[babybunny 2]

Have you ever kicked your hubby out of the bed because you wanted to spend time with your friend, Buzz instead?

Buzz could finish the job off if I was left lacking yes I wouldnt kick him outa bed to do it though

hey isn't that wenchie's son on the left?

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

IMO there is no right and wrong when it comes to sex between a couple in a relationship/marriage. Each couple should have their boundaries and each know and share the others boundaries as even a small difference may create issues. A small eg A male that objects to his female partners use of a vibrator.....perfectly ok if they both share that objection.....can create issues within the relationship if the female wishes to use one. It usually comes down to an inadequacy issue on the males part when this arises....'Dont I satisfy her'. Have heard this time and time again from various couples. The same goes for something as natural as oral sex if one or the other objects.

As for the girl on girl fantasy within a marriage/relationship (threesome), it can and will create problems when the boundaries that were set are crossed. A perfect example is my ex marriage. I was curious, it was my fantasy but he made it all about him totally and as I was to find out later after the marriage broke up, he spent a great deal of time being a sleeze in trying to lure other gals. It made me sick to the stomach. The only time it ever happened I was railroaded into it and wasnt even attracted to the girl. He spent more time with her then me....boy was I pissed as he went way past the boundaries that were set I am sharing this to give warning of what can happen and why I would NEVER even contemplate it again within a marriage and why I am so very grateful that my hubby has no interest outside of porn.

I did however have a blast when I wasnt in a relationship.

I agree with you. Each couple has to ask themselves if having a mutually agreed extramarital encounter is going to help the relationship grow. My personal opinion is that it never will based on the premise that we humans are emotional beings and we tend to form emotional attachments. While sex outside of love can exist, the primary relationship's foundation is built on love. Any act outside of love, in my opinion, works against that foundation.

Steven,

OK....how can I ask this without you going off on one and start talking about "MATURE LOVE"?? HMMM...sod it...here it goes...and I WANT THE GOD'S HONEST TRUTH...Haven't you EVER, albeit while you were in love with someone or not...just wanted to have some honest to god, knee slapping, ### slapping, hard core sex??? EVER???? Come on now...Ian and I love eachother with everything we have and then some...but yes we have times where he can come home from work or whatever the case may be and both of us are just out of our minds and just GO FOR IT if you know what I mean. And yes, there are times where we TALK about "what if we did this..." or "what IF we had another woman for ME to enjoy while HE watched"...but none of it means that we love eachother anyless or that it isn't MATURE LOVE. And to touch up on what Aussie said before, she said that if the two ppl went OUTSIDE of the barriors of what the couple first initiated THEN there would be problems. If the couple that was in love were BOTH all for it and they kept within the guidelines that they set, then there won't be any problems, and I am quite sure that if Aussie reads this she will set me straight, and I will then appologise for interpretting her wrong. But even if I am wrong, I still feel that IN MY OPINION that it still stands true. If Ian and I WERE.,,,...and I said "IF" we were to follow through with ANYTHING that we have ever discussed, there would be guidelines/and or rules set...Ian is not like most of the men that I have ever encountered before, he will go above and beyond the call of duty when it comes to making sure he doesn't hurt me, and respects me and how I feel completely. It is probably hard for you or anyone else for that matter to completely understand what I mean without you actually being with us 24/7 and without knowing the kind of upbringing I had and the things I had to endure growing up..things way to personal to ever post or even talk about with my closest m8s.

FOr the most part, Ian and I "make love" and it isn't just sex, but yes, there are times when we just have some plain, raw sex...and we are completely fine with it...there are no regrets afterward...its just spontaneous...IMO..and this is only MO...people need to relax and stop trying to read into things and not try to find something that isn't there..any two consenting adults that love eachother have spontaneous sex..without it meaning that it is going to cause problems and what have you...AGAIN I REITERATE...IT IS MY OPINION ..but would also like to add that I am quite sure after reading MOST of the responses, that I am not the only one who thinks that lol..

LJ

Edited July 15, 2006 by Laura_and_IanM

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I agree with you. Each couple has to ask themselves if having a mutually agreed extramarital encounter is going to help the relationship grow. My personal opinion is that it never will based on the premise that we humans are emotional beings and we tend to form emotional attachments. While sex outside of love can exist, the primary relationship's foundation is built on love. Any act outside of love, in my opinion, works against that foundation.

Steven,

OK....how can I ask this without you going off on one and start talking about "MATURE LOVE"?? HMMM...sod it...here it goes...and I WANT THE GOD'S HONEST TRUTH...Haven't you EVER, albeit while you were in love with someone or not...just wanted to have some honest to god, knee slapping, ### slapping, hard core sex??? EVER???? Come on now...Ian and I love eachother with everything we have and then some...but yes we have times where he can come home from work or whatever the case may be and both of us are just out of our minds and just GO FOR IT if you know what I mean. And yes, there are times where we TALK about "what if we did this..." or "what IF we had another woman for ME to enjoy while HE watched"...but none of it means that we love eachother anyless or that it isn't MATURE LOVE. And to touch up on what Aussie said before, she said that if the two ppl went OUTSIDE of the barriors of what the couple first initiated THEN there would be problems. If the couple that was in love were BOTH all for it and they kept within the guidelines that they set, then there won't be any problems, and I am quite sure that if Aussie reads this she will set me straight, and I will then appologise for interpretting her wrong. But even if I am wrong, I still feel that IN MY OPINION that it still stands true. If Ian and I WERE.,,,...and I said "IF" we were to follow through with ANYTHING that we have ever discussed, there would be guidelines/and or rules set...Ian is not like most of the men that I have ever encountered before, he will go above and beyond the call of duty when it comes to making sure he doesn't hurt me, and respects me and how I feel completely. It is probably hard for you or anyone else for that matter to completely understand what I mean without you actually being with us 24/7 and without knowing the kind of upbringing I had and the things I had to endure growing up..things way to personal to ever post or even talk about with my closest m8s.

FOr the most part, Ian and I "make love" and it isn't just sex, but yes, there are times when we just have some plain, raw sex...and we are completely fine with it...there are no regrets afterward...its just spontaneous...IMO..and this is only MO...people need to relax and stop trying to read into things and not try to find something that isn't there..any two consenting adults that love eachother have spontaneous sex..without it meaning that it is going to cause problems and what have you...AGAIN I REITERATE...IT IS MY OPINION ..but would also like to add that I am quite sure after reading MOST of the responses, that I am not the only one who thinks that lol..

LJ

Laura, I appreciate what you are saying, and I can relate to what you talking about - having a go at it with your spouse that is pure sexual. I was married for over a dozen years, so I'm not exactly wet behind the ears. I don't feel comfortable using this forum to go into too much detail about what happens in my bedroom (as Frances commented), but for the sake of understanding, I'll share with you what I can.

Letting go of inhibitions with your spouse is possible BECAUSE you love and trust each other, so even when the sex seems raw it's still within the confines of a loving relationship. Having fantasies that you share with each other as I said in my first reply to this post is harmless and actually I believe is beneficial - as long as they remain just that - fantasies.

If a married couple believes that they can bring in a third party into their bedroom without it having a detrimental effect on the marriage, then more power to them. However, I honestly don't believe it can happen. I realize there are plenty of open marriages - people who openly swing and seem content, but again in my opinion, when a married couple is emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally satisfied within that marriage, they won't need to make their fantasies into reality.

Please feel free to PM me and I'll be more than happy to talk more openly about it.

Cheers!

[*Robert* 2]

I agree with you. Each couple has to ask themselves if having a mutually agreed extramarital encounter is going to help the relationship grow. My personal opinion is that it never will based on the premise that we humans are emotional beings and we tend to form emotional attachments. While sex outside of love can exist, the primary relationship's foundation is built on love. Any act outside of love, in my opinion, works against that foundation.

I think there's one major flaw in your argument Steven, which is you are assuming all relationships are built on love. Who says a particular relationship has to be based on love? Can't it be based on trust instead? Can a reltionship be built on financial grounds as well?

Is it not possible for two people to love each other and not trust each other? Conversely, is it not possible for two people to trust each other and not love each other? What is more important... love or trust?

Since humans are emotional beings, can't humans respond to their emotions, not matter what those emotions are, including the urge to have raw unbridaled SEX? You don't have to be in love to have sex, but you have to have some sort of feelings for each other to make love, though those feelings don't have to actually BE love. Just a strong attaction to each other at an emotional level.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I agree with you. Each couple has to ask themselves if having a mutually agreed extramarital encounter is going to help the relationship grow. My personal opinion is that it never will based on the premise that we humans are emotional beings and we tend to form emotional attachments. While sex outside of love can exist, the primary relationship's foundation is built on love. Any act outside of love, in my opinion, works against that foundation.

I think there's one major flaw in your argument Steven, which is you are assuming all relationships are built on love. Who says a particular relationship has to be based on love? Can't it be based on trust instead? Can a reltionship be built on financial grounds as well?

Robert, I was specifically talking about a marriage and in that case, I'd say that without a foundation of love, the relationship (marriage) is merely an arrangement.

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

I think to really achieve mature love, it takes a concentrated effort of two people's total monogomous love and devotion. I just don't see how anyone can have sex outside of love (I mean I know it happens, but once you've tasted real love making - pure physical sex leaves the mouth dry). We're emotional beings and our pursuit of connecting with other humans is emotionally driven. Having sex for sex sake is contrary to that. I suppose some people just never reach mature love so perhaps that kind of open relationship works for them. I think there's something noble in choosing to make love to only one person for a lifetime.

oh I dont know.....I have pure physical sex, sex for sex sake all the time with my buzz friend.

Some couples are able to look at a third person in the mix as an extension, just as one uses vibes etc within their relationship. There is IMO nothing wrong with pure raw sex.....its not always about making love, even between the couple themselves.

...but the likelihood of you becoming emotionally attached to your vibrator is slim to none.

hahahaha I think many gals would disagree there

Have you ever kicked your hubby out of the bed because you wanted to spend time with your friend, Buzz instead?

Maybe not kicked him out....................but.........oh never mind!