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[gimygirl 0]

[...] Our bodies are nicer to look at than a man's I think (no offense, guys). [...]

i think many men (including the one sleeping in my bed) have gorgeous bodies ... nothing is sexier than seeing him walk around the house after his bath with nothing but a towel around his waist YUMMM

[Reba 2]

Heck, even I get hot and bothered to see 2 women goin' at it. Or 2 men. Sexy is sexy. My motto is "why limit yourself?"

Hubby has done the orgy thing and now says "meh, been there done that" and I've done the threesome thing, so we've both got it out of our system.

But I can still fantasise about Kate Beckinsale in a PVC corset if I wanna!

Edited July 14, 2006 by Reba

[rclouse 0]

But I can still fantasise about Kate Beckinsale in a PVC corset if I wanna!

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[gimygirl 0]

i think people should just be themselves and do what makes them happy within the agreed upon acceptable boundaries in their relationship! however, i do realize that sexual honesty can be a bit daunting to some people.

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

LJ,

But that's what you wrote!

I do think it's interesting sometimes how people will say (or write) something that actually means something quite different from what they're thinking. It's often not obvious in conversation, especially face-to-face conversation, when there are other ques as to what the person is thinking. So we understand what they mean despite what they said. But in writing, when there's nothing more than the words on a piece of paper, the literal meaning is clear but the thought behind it is not.

And like you, I am often curious to know why people do - and say - the things they do.

Yodrak

I didnt mean that it is taboo for women to think of having two men.......I take it YODAK you are the sort of person where u have to be really careful of how you word things?? lol... ...(Ian says I should be a shrink always wanting to know why ppl do the things they do...etc lol) .....

LJ

Sharon,

Excellent.

Yodrak

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*How'd I do, gentlemen?

LOL SORRY YODRAK...I see your point. Yes unfortunately that is the downfall of writing opposed to talking face to face..sometimes things get interpretted a different way then what was really meant. Yes I am very curious about what makes ppl tick. I have a game that I like to play when I am out and about and have actually got Ian doing it with me now...I like to observe ppl and make up my own story about them and their life...Ian is very creative lol.

In all honesty, my opinion on this matter is that I think to each is own. I don't think there is anything wrong with it whether it remain fantasy or not. It's human nature to be curious whether or not ppl admit to it or not. I think that ppl tend to repress their thoughts or feelings due to their own upbringing. I tend to walk on the different side because I wanted to break away from the strict, cynical world my mother and her family belonged to. Everything was very hush hush, I am right you are wrong, children have no stress...you know what I am on about...I broke way from that. No I have never tried any of the said fantasies but I would never say that I would never try it. I think it all depends on the circumstances and what have you. I don't know if I would be comfortable with Ian watching me getting it on with another woman but the thought of him watching turns me on...does that make any sense??? lol. I feel very comfortable with my sexuality and always have been, but I tended to always walk on the cautious side when it came to sex. Remained a virgin until i was almost 20 lol. I married the first time when I was 22...divorced when I was 31 (last March) and remarried this year...so that gives you some idea of how many or I should say how few men I have been with. I am not saying that I haven't been sought after or that I was a prude, I just didn't feel like my body was something to just give away so easily.

Something someone said to me in another thread is what sparked this off in a way, that and the talk that constantly goes on at the poker site I belong to. It seems that two women at once is the fave topic. I don't mind the talk actually, quite frankly I find it humorous...but I just wanted to get to the bottom of it...so all ideas, thoughts, comments are welcome...

LJ

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I don't even like to see two STRAIGHT people go at it, let alone two people of the same sex.

That explains EVERYTHING.

[Traviesa 0]

Plain and simple, guys like to watch. That's why we have porn. All the excitement-none of the work. But I think you will find many a man to like the idea of actually being in the middle of those two women, rather than just watching. Some are just like that-Javier's not which is fine with me, because I'm not attracted to other women that way....however, I can honestly say that if I had my chance I might enjoy 2 guys at the same time-not interacting with each other, but both interacting with me only. Javier would never go for that though...nope, not in a million years.

[almaty 19]

[...] Our bodies are nicer to look at than a man's I think (no offense, guys). [...]

i think many men (including the one sleeping in my bed) have gorgeous bodies ... nothing is sexier than seeing him walk around the house after his bath with nothing but a towel around his waist YUMMM

sister monique..sound like you need a shower..a cold one at that

Edited July 14, 2006 by almaty

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

Plain and simple, guys like to watch. That's why we have porn. All the excitement-none of the work. But I think you will find many a man to like the idea of actually being in the middle of those two women, rather than just watching. Some are just like that-Javier's not which is fine with me, because I'm not attracted to other women that way....however, I can honestly say that if I had my chance I might enjoy 2 guys at the same time-not interacting with each other, but both interacting with me only. Javier would never go for that though...nope, not in a million years.

MISS LISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS OOOOOOOOO I MISSED YOU!!! WHERE THE HELL YA BEEN??? lol Hope all is well with you...

Yeah I don't think Ian would be too keen on me either being with two men at the same time...let alone one other than him.. But that isn't my thing tbh. To me, Ian is the ONLY man that can satisfy me...fullstop. So to twist the original question a bit....where do you draw the line and call it cheating? Is it cheating if the SO knows about it, partakes in it, or just watches??? I don't know what to think. I guess if both parties are ok with it, then it wouldn't be cheating. But then again, could it bite you in the as$ if anything were to happen to the relationship??? So many ways to look at it eh?? lol.

LJ

[gwenneh 7]

Depends on how you define cheating. The term "cheating" means either "To act dishonestly; practice fraud." or "To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards." If we then expostulate that a person has laid ground rules in a relationship, then the violation of those rules, by definition, is cheating. If monogamy is not one of your rules, then you can't violate it, therefore there is no cheating. However, in order for this definition to be applicable, all parties have to be aware of the rules in the first place. Honesty is key in polygamy.

[Traviesa 0]

Plain and simple, guys like to watch. That's why we have porn. All the excitement-none of the work. But I think you will find many a man to like the idea of actually being in the middle of those two women, rather than just watching. Some are just like that-Javier's not which is fine with me, because I'm not attracted to other women that way....however, I can honestly say that if I had my chance I might enjoy 2 guys at the same time-not interacting with each other, but both interacting with me only. Javier would never go for that though...nope, not in a million years.

MISS LISSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS OOOOOOOOO I MISSED YOU!!! WHERE THE HELL YA BEEN??? lol Hope all is well with you...

Yeah I don't think Ian would be too keen on me either being with two men at the same time...let alone one other than him.. But that isn't my thing tbh. To me, Ian is the ONLY man that can satisfy me...fullstop. So to twist the original question a bit....where do you draw the line and call it cheating? Is it cheating if the SO knows about it, partakes in it, or just watches??? I don't know what to think. I guess if both parties are ok with it, then it wouldn't be cheating. But then again, could it bite you in the as$ if anything were to happen to the relationship??? So many ways to look at it eh?? lol.

LJ

What up Laura??? I've missed all my VJ amigas also...been going through some personal stuff, but feeling better now.

For me, I know that Javier is the best I'll ever have...part of that probably has to do with our comfort level. On the other hand, a new experience can be exciting. As for cheating, I think if both partners know about it and are truly ok with it, it's not cheating (it's called swinging, actually). It's really only cheating when you're married, and the other spouse doesn't know about it, and wouldn't be ok with it.

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

Depends on how you define cheating. The term "cheating" means either "To act dishonestly; practice fraud." or "To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards." If we then expostulate that a person has laid ground rules in a relationship, then the violation of those rules, by definition, is cheating. If monogamy is not one of your rules, then you can't violate it, therefore there is no cheating. However, in order for this definition to be applicable, all parties have to be aware of the rules in the first place. Honesty is key in polygamy.

JEESHHHHHH Gwen that was more than a mouthful...lol...Ok I think you eloquently answered that bit pmsl..THANKS!!!! lol love ya Gwenn...

LJ

[gwenneh 7]

JEESHHHHHH Gwen that was more than a mouthful...lol...Ok I think you eloquently answered that bit pmsl..THANKS!!!! lol love ya Gwenn...

LJ

The subject comes up a lot, as I have polygamous friends!

[Traviesa 0]

Interesting what getting married can do to change ways of thinking. I've seen it with myself. Wonder what it's all about. It's kinda weird-like the thought of getting married next month has reminded me of how young I still am.

[Sharon 1]

I don't even like to see two STRAIGHT people go at it, let alone two people of the same sex.

That explains EVERYTHING.