I married the wrong sister

[chavelle 6]

I don't know how many people have run into this situation before but here it goes anyway. So a couple of years ago I got married to this girl from the Philippines. I thought we were in love but found out that she was just really good at manipulating people. Eventually I was able to file a K1, get her to the US, marry her then find out she had someone back home. I had that marriage annulled for marriage fraud. So I go about my business dating other girls. But now, I end up with her sister. Eventually I do want to bring her over. My question is will their relationship be a burden to my petition? Also, will I have to send a copy of my annulment papers with the K1 petition? Has anyone run into this before?

My thoughts on this are that any girl who is willing to get with her sister's ex-husband has questionable morals, no matter how "in love" she may seem with you. This kind of relationship is asking for trouble, and is bound to create even more family drama--resentment, jealousy, fights. I personally wouldn't want to get myself involved in a mess like that or be a catalyst for the break-up of family relationships. It's just not worth it. No matter how hard it may seem, end the relationship and move on to find someone else that isn't willing to risk destroying her relationship with family. Family, after all, is first and foremost. Another way to look at it is, would you marry a girl that your own brother or sister had been in a relationship with, whether married or boyfriend/girlfriend? Would you be willing to ruin your relationship with him/her for a so-called love with their ex? Or on the other side, how would you feel if your own brother/sister told you they were going to marry your own ex?

I am not sure if you are Muslim or not but I think you may be because your spouse is from Morocco. If you had knowledge about Islaam, you would know that two of Prophet Muhammad's daughters married the same man, Uthman bin Affan. When the first sister died of malaria, the other sister married him later. Maybe you should keep quiet and know your own spouses religion if not your own.

I dont mean any disrespect, but this sister is not passed away. This is an entirely different situation.

sorry, back to topic

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger? Allaah said in the translation of the meaning,

“neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah.”

[al-Hujuraat 49:12]

Speaking irresponsibly or without thought is no excuse for broad insulting statements.

Oh get over yourself. The posts were not religiously motivated so why bring religion into it? It was simply someone's personal thoughts on a particular issue. Maybe you should consider that the intention here was not to insult or offend anyone so why are you making such a big deal about it? If you support two women marrying the same man then good for you, if someone else doesn't, it isn't any of your business.

Well said...Cheers mate.

[tmma 467]

huh?

How did Allah get dragged into this?

All I got to say to the OP best of luck-it's my thoughts you may need it on so many levels.

[Ban Hammer 12,901]

In Philippines you can have mulitiple wives, if your Muslim.

Sure make me want to move to PI and change religion.

What a life.......

one drawback to that would be multiple mother's in law. unless, of course, you marry sisters.

[shaggy_mutt 0]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

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[Y's_habibitk 2]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

Congratulations, Zayd. I've been trying to tell people how wildly unreasonable some Muslims are, but you've done a much better job than I ever could!

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WOW!

[Bobby+Umit 161]

For a second there, reading the title, I thought perhaps a different "sister" came over and got married to the OP, then he realizes it... (like twins or something)

[DanielParul 50]

Her statement was unconditional and general. Whether she intended it or not, she insulted all women who fall into this category. It is incumbent for the Muslim to defend all other Muslims who are slandered, so what about the daughters of our beloved Messenger?

[Joni 1]

you know what I think man?both sisters are playing you/have played you and you fell.you are probably thwe family's bridge to america.do they have another sister or close relative,cos my take in this is that this sister will 'dump' you when the time is ripe and pass the ladder on to another sister.GET REAL & WAKE UP MAN! no sane sister marries her sister's ex for any reason.even love has certain limits.

[justashooter 430]

the name ITLOG is EGG in english.

is the OP filipino? by roots?

its a given that he is a USC. but maybe perhaps filipino by ancestry?

the OP has already stated that the first marriage was annuled and that the girl returned to phils. if he had not so stated it would look like immig fraud, since we assume that OP is phils, and maybe even a cousin or something.

now to the more interesting angle: making it seperately with a pair of sisters? yes, it's good. threesome with sisters? very good. i'm just not going to tell you about my wife's sister...

[Y's_habibitk 2]

As far as it creating problems...

pretend you are a CO at the interview, would you be suspicious if this was the senario?

It is their job to be suspisious anyway, throw this into the mix and... wow.

[sabrina bossie 0]

uhm.... what the??? a sister? oh my gosh!!! you gotta be kidding

[pcana 0]

the name ITLOG is EGG in english.

is the OP filipino? by roots?

its a given that he is a USC. but maybe perhaps filipino by ancestry?

the OP has already stated that the first marriage was annuled and that the girl returned to phils. if he had not so stated it would look like immig fraud, since we assume that OP is phils, and maybe even a cousin or something.

now to the more interesting angle: making it seperately with a pair of sisters? yes, it's good. threesome with sisters? very good. i'm just not going to tell you about my wife's sister...

And you're trying to be funny I'm assuming??? FAILED.....

[FCH 1]

you know what I think man?both sisters are playing you/have played you and you fell.you are probably thwe family's bridge to america.do they have another sister or close relative,cos my take in this is that this sister will 'dump' you when the time is ripe and pass the ladder on to another sister.GET REAL & WAKE UP MAN! no sane sister marries her sister's ex for any reason.even love has certain limits.

i was gonna post the same thought but yeah - i think so too.

i do know family matters are not the concern here --- the petition is. even religion is not the point.

but still... the family probably didnt want to let you go. so the other sister "took over".

you gotta admit egg, something doesnt add up here.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I don't know how many people have run into this situation before but here it goes anyway. So a couple of years ago I got married to this girl from the Philippines. I thought we were in love but found out that she was just really good at manipulating people. Eventually I was able to file a K1, get her to the US, marry her then find out she had someone back home. I had that marriage annulled for marriage fraud. So I go about my business dating other girls. But now, I end up with her sister. Eventually I do want to bring her over. My question is will their relationship be a burden to my petition? Also, will I have to send a copy of my annulment papers with the K1 petition? Has anyone run into this before?

HI...IT SEEMS UR SITUATION IS VERY COMPLICATED. I JUST HAVE ONE QUESTION FOR YOU. DO YOU THINK THIS SISTER OF YOUR EX-WIFE REALLY LOVES YOU AND WILLING TO MARRY YOU FOR REAL? ITS NOT NORMAL FOR A SISTER TO MARRY OR BE WITH HER SISTER'S EX-HUSBAND OR EX-BF...NOT UNLESS IF THEY ARE KIND OF GAME OR LIBERATED, AS WHAT WE CALL IT. AND DON'T YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS WHY THIS SISTER COMMIT TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU WHEN SHE KNOW'S U WERE THE EX-HUSBAND OF HER SISTER?....SOMETHINGS NOT REALLY RIGHT.... IM NOT SAYING U BREAK HER UP...I JUST HOPE THAT WHEN YOU MARRY AGAIN, U WILL FIND THE RIGHT ONE AND NOT JUST SOMEONE WHO WILL MARRY YOU FOR SOME PERSONAL INTEREST OTHER THAN LOVE...COZ IF THATS THE CASE...YOU BOTH WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. GOODLUCK...

What the???? The OP asked for immigration advise not your take on his ways....

oh, and please DO NOT TYPE IN CAPS. Bad netiquette.

Bad netiquette???....

Hmmmmmmmmmm.....etiquette u mean...i dont care. What i said was just my opinion... M.Y.O.B

It is called Netiquette online, noob. FYI: "I" is capitalized, and "don't" has an apostrophe. Grow up and learn how to behave in online forums little one.

[miss g 1]

omg get real you dont know-- how would you feel if people started trashing your relationships you dont know shznit about the real deal so dont make assumptions just give advice in the nicest way possible no need for all this bs - we dont know her true intentions and if he is willing to find that out then let him.. its his own probs RIGHT?