brettdresseur

It doesn't come within a country mile of being blackmail. Read what he's saying: don't call him again at his work. He said that TWICE. Maybe he can't be interrupted like that, or his boss will barbecue him for taking personal calls.
He has no obligation to help, and he appears to have stated what he remembers and can legitimately claim is true.
It's not unreasonable that he would be off-pissed at being contacted in this way or for this reason. He has "bad memories" and wants to forget them. Risk contacting him again at your peril. Quit poking wounded animals with a stick.

none taken.
since i am the one that just started my journey then i should be the one crying about the length of time it will take for it to all end, but i, unlike some people choose to just deal with it instead of whine about it. i, just like the rest of you really can't do anything to speed up this whole thing. bashing the faceless workers that are the pawns of the evil empire that is the USCIS is completely and utterly pointless (as regards to this whole topic is basically saying in the first place)
yes i understand that this forum isn't strictly for the administrative advice but also as a sounding board for people who just want to vent
what i don't understand is people can post that everyone is entitled to their opinion and then lash out at those who differ from their opinion.
there are filers who i've seen waited a year for their I-130 approval and end up just expressing their gratitude rather than spend the whole 12 months cursing the same system that they're relying on.
i can go on and on about what my point is but since it's obviously gone over some people's heads then so be it. like i said that was my 2 cents.
we can go about it in a positive manner such as encouraging people who filed after us or just be bitter little souls in some corner crying about the conspiracy of the U.S. Government to do them harm by keeping them away from their loved ones.

It wasn't meant as an insult. I was trying ,in a humurous way, to tell the person to be patient by paraphrasing the GEICO commercial with R. Lee Ermey.
I get tired of seeing people whine about situations that they put themselves in by their own choice. It's one thing to complain about how long the process takes but it gets ridiculous to hear people make assumptions about how bad the workers at USCIS are just because it is taking longer for their petition to be processed than what they expected. I am not a USCIS employee but I am a Federal employee. I am in my 36th year of working for the IRS and I know that just like any private company or organization the USCIS and IRS have many good employees and a few bad employees. So I get mad hearing complaint after complaint about how bad the USCIS employees must be just because someones petition is not moving as fast as that person thinks it should.
There, I have whined about whiners on this forum.

my whole point was that not everyone gets screwed. you're right. it is a matter of opinion to say that the service people are getting is substandard. what are you comparing it to? seriously, you act like you've never been to your local dmv and gotten screwed by the bitter person behind the desk.
all i'm saying is that bitching and moaning about the whole experience really is pointless. we all signed up for this, didn't we? we all knew exactly what was going to go down. 5 months and change at CIS and 4 and change at NVC blah blah blah. it's a choice to say boohoo look at me i have to wait months and months oh god forbid a year for my spouse. at the end of the day, though... did it make the wait go by faster? did it change the way the system is ran? no it didn't and it won't change anytime soon.
it's just my opinion that it's a little pathetic to bash the same system and the people who work in it and at the same time clamor to live in the country that employs that system.

i get it. it's a painful experience to be away from your loved one while we wait for the process to run it's course...
but what i don't understand is why people act like it's a surprise. why the whole self-entitled rants? "i'm mr and miss U.S. Citizen and i demaaaaaand some service"!!!! i mean, the U.S. Govt. didn't MAKE you marry someone that isn't a U.S. Citizen. we all knew it was not going to be "i now pronounce you U.S. Citizen because you married one", right?
if people hate the system so much then why not pack all your sh*t and move to your foreign mate's country? ohhhh that's right... because as much as people b*tch about the States, it's probably a whole lot better than the mate's country.
the time frame given to us are estimates. NOT U.S. BACKED GUARANTEES. if they want to get you out of there as quickly as possible or let you rot for an eternity, guess what, that's the choice we made.

There's an awful lot misinformation or misunderstanding in this thread. This post contains the best advice I've seen so far.
Without pointing out any specific posts that contained misleading or incorrect information...
Sex offenders are required to register their address whenever they move. That information is publicly available. The OP would be doing neither a favor to the public nor a disservice to her fiance by posting any information about him because anyone who wants to find this information can do so. You can find information on sex offenders living near you at the Department of Justic NSO public website:
http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/Portal.aspx?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
The questions in section C.2 of the I-129F have to do with the IMBRA, which is about disclosure - not denial. The Adam Walsh Act is something entirely different - it's about sex crimes involving children. Someone with a conviction covered by the AWA is not eligible to submit any family visa petition. Getting a waiver is possible. The thread linked in the post I quoted above contains stories of people who have gone through the process, and some have been successful.
Finally, we don't know the circumstances surrounding what the OP's fiance did. There is a huge amount of porn on the internet. It's not possible to know the ages of every model or actor/actress depicted in those photos and videos. It's not like they pose with their ID cards. Title 18 of the federal law requires that producers of sexually explicit material verify the ages of the people depicted in their work, and that they keep the proof of age on file. There have been many cases where young people have lied about their age and used false ID in order to make money as porn models and actors/actresses. Anybody remember Traci Lords? She went into the adult film business as an actress when she was only 15 years old using a fake ID. She even appeared in Penthouse magazine when she was only 16. Would everyone who purchased that particular issue of Penthouse be classified as a sex offender?
The point is that it's illegal to possess this material, even if you were unaware that the persons depicted were under age. We don't know the exact nature of the material that the OP's fiance had, nor if he was aware that the material depicted children who were under age. The fact that a professional psychologist confirmed that he wasn't a danger is a pretty good indication that he's not a potential child molester.

FAIL!! GROW UP

My congratulations to your fiance on dodging this bullet if this is how you deal with stress and a bump in the road.

That doesn't really solve the problem though, does it? I mean it will get her out of the picture, but if he's dirty he will continue to be dirty. He needs to stop this HIMSELF, or it just reeks of not giving a f***, you know what I mean? Just my opinion.

Your husband is being a dumbazz.

Don't worry about my past Dau Que, that is neither here nor there, I had a professional job in Missouri that moved me out to Indiana making over 50k a year, my crimes were when I was 18 so they never came up on a background check, and they had since been expunged years ago, I am pushing life in Viet Nam because unlike YOU I have ENJOYED my time here, and for ME it is a great place to live with a low cost of living. As far as informing the potential VNese bride/groom, my wife knew about my past history before I EVER came to visit her. I have nothing to hide when it comes to my past, it is what it is, and I have had a bad past, but I dont cry about it, because my past has made me into the person I am today, ever evolving and ever learning. Besides this post was about living in Viet Nam for $20,000 a year, not what a persons past is
Yes there is motorbike insurance here, not sure about apartment insurance, but I am sure someone would sell it to you, just dont know how good it would be. You can get about anything in Viet Nam you want for a price.

A word of advice here for anyone who doesn't know any better: You can never ask a question in any MENA thread as all the people who are bored here or have their own issues will come here and make it a madhouse and make you out to be the worst person in the world and then go off topic and start fights of their own like some zoo. I usually read and run because I get so disgusted, but I will say something this time and for anyone sane out there in MENA land: please don't ask for any advice in this forum or give any of the crazy ones on here any personal info-they will tear you apart unfairly while thinking themselves perfect!
Just because she asked a naive question does not mean that her relationship is doomed just because her fiance wants custody of his child (right or wrong)! Please. Get a life. There are a few of you who are sane on here, but I have been sadly disappointed reading the MENA forum for years now and it's too bad because I am married to a Muslim too and will never find a sisterhood here, that's for sure. I don't understand why people are so mean and nasty here.

Even with that you daughter must enter the US with a K-2 Visa before her 21st birthday. See the part where it says K-2 Visa Holder's age is fixed at the time they enter the US?
You will not be able to get through Petition Adjudication, NVC pass through, in country Medical & Consulate Interview in less 4 weeks. If she enters on a tourist Visa then she can't adjust status based on a K-2 Visa as she'd need to return to your country for the Visa interview and even if the Tourist Visa entry froze her age (which it doesn't) then once she leaves for the interview (K visas must be processed at the consulate) she would lose that.
So you're right the very recent decision does changes things a little bit but not enough to help you.

There is no reason to take offense at my comments, I was not being critical of you.
For her to become an LPR nowish she will need more than to simply be in the country before she turns 21. She needs to be here and have filed for AOS. Put simply that isn't going to happen.
I was critical of the USCIS Misinformation line and the drivel they fed you.
I'll repeat what I said:
If she arrives in the US before her 21st birthday...
Your US Citizen Husband can't petition for her because he married you after her 18th birthday.
You can petition her but since you are an LPR she will be in a family preference category and no immediate Visa number is available so she will have to wait years for a Visa number. While waiting she can't simply overstay her visa because the overstay would actually make her inadmissible and bar her AOS.
By the time you become a US Citizen, she will be over 21 and again subject to a family preference category.
If by positive feedback only you mean you want someone to tell you that you can get her here before her 21st birthday and then get her LPR status then no honest VJ member will give you that.
Even if you were able to get an expedite (which I can't imagine for this reason) getting from initial petition approval through the NVC to Consulate processing in 4 weeks is simply physically impossible.

I am so sorrry to hear that! For some people who thinks this is stereotyping, to be honest, I have been in US for a short while. actually, i know some ladies from Russia, Ukraine, slovakia and Moldova who marry USC for that reason and even some Americans in the area know about it. I believe there are some Americans who are really dealing with these people but let's face the reality. This is not for all the Ukraine, Moldova, Slovakia or Russia people it really happens. But I won't deny that I do have some some friends from these countries and they are good and married to USC but for real. I am so sorry for what you're going through right now.

Less than one year ago, you were posting about expediting a petition because your wife in the USA was pregnant and you wanted to come here sooner and help her. A few months after that, you were posting about co sponsors.
You're coming on here telling us now that the entire time your pregnant wife was struggling here in America, you've been chatting with another American woman online, YOU have been paying for long distance calls to talk to her (when you have a wife and child to support in the US), and you have this other woman coming to Morocco to visit you!?
Perhaps you should tell this other woman that you're married to another American and have a child here, instead of trying to scam her by telling her you're eligible for a K1.
You'd never get past the consulate in Casablanca anyway. Go ahead and try all you want.

I am saddened by the judgment and critical feedback people offer this person. This person is obviously reaching out, and this is the best we can give him? I am ashamed at my fellow man that we would treat a brother so critical and with such "box brain" feed back. We are all human begins who need support and encouragement at times, not to be ridiculed or told we fall short in language, relationship, etc.
To my fellow man who post this....please know not all are judging and condemning. Please know that these hard times will bring you great opportunity for growth and awareness, if you choose the lesson offered...
Namaste
Michelle

If this forum teaches anyone anything - it's to really think about what kinds of personal information to share with the public. It's not really a good idea to divulge every thought, idea, personal conversation, private argument, etc. We all have personal lives and sometimes our lives get crazy or messy or whatever. However, not all of us feel the need to come to a public message board to talk about it in detail. If you're going to share all of this personal stuff you have to be prepared to face whatever reaction others may have whether good or bad. I don't share too much on these boards but it doesn't mean my life is perfect or that I don't have my own personal dramas to deal with from time to time. I just choose not to invite strangers to pick apart my life. I know that the OP and others are new at this and don't yet have their filter. Hopefully they can learn to either toughen up or be more careful with whom they share their personal business with. Also, ask yourself - would my SO, fiance, husband want all these ppl to know what we talk about, argue about, deal with or any other vulnerability? Probably not. I know I'd be pissed if my husband was on a public board discussing our personal business with strangers.

I'm glad that the OP has come to the conclusion that perhaps it wouldn't be in the best interest of the younger child that he be taken from his mother. I am, however, concerned for the OP that she feels that a man behind a computer screen (that she has never actually spent any RL time with) is all she has in life. This speaks volumes. I can now see why she would want to do everything to please "all she has". I've been a member of this forum for several years and it never ceases to surprise me how sad certain cases are. Just when I think I've seen the most bizarre, most naive, most gullible, most tragic and most sad...I see more.

Call me crazy, but shouldn't one meet their fiance before planning to take said fiance's child away from the child's mother?????????? Just a crazy thought that ran through my head. I can't remember if that thought was before or after the UNFREAKINGBELIEVABLE thought that ran through my head.....

Obviously, this girl is not a mother. If she was, she would never even suggest such a thing. As someone said earlier, be careful cause one day you might be the ex and he might be scheming of ways to take your baby from you.

PLEASE KNOW i MEAN NO DISRESPECT.... BUT.... ARE YOU FREAKIN KIDDING ME???
1st you tell us how his 2nd wife wanted nothing from him but a kid, now you come on here asking about taking that child from his mother?!?!?! Are you thinking clearly? I have seen enough to know that to Egyptian people, moms, dads, and extended family included, kids mean everything to them! EVERYTHING!!! There is no way this woman is going to simply rollover and allow her child to be taken from her and moved to another country to be raised by a foreign woman. She will fight that till her last breath. I also think it is SUPER SELFISH of you and him to even consider this. How will you communicate with this child? Do you speak his language? Do you honestly think you can raise this child better than his mother could? WOOOOOOOW really I couldn't believe my eyes when I read this post and had to re-read it to be sure it wasn't a trick of the eye a mere illusion. Time for you to have a reality check sister. Concentrate on yourself, your man and the child that has no mother, learn all you can to communicate with the one child he will be able to bring with him and keep your mind and hands off the child who obviously has a mom who loves and cherishes him. Tsk, tsk....

wow you got approved in less then 3 months and you''re complianing.. geez I would hate to think what you would do if you were on of the many on this board that have been waiting for 6 plus months and still don't have an answer

You have threads in several areas all dealing with potential problems in your relationship. Relationships aren't always balanced and life isn't always perfect. Loving a person from another country isn't cheap. Nigerian relationships have a horribly high failure rate. If you look at the top 10 Nigeria posters half are not together ( really bad because I am in the list of of the top 10 twice at the top and the bottom ) African culture isn't what the US is. Unless you have a better grasp of this I think you are in way way over your head. This process will cost you thousands of dollars and take you a long time. There is no way to be certain that you aren't being used , statistics show there is a 50/50 chance that you are being used. You are running about making wedding plans for a man you have not met face to face and who you don't know a fanily background for. Do you know that in Nigeria people hire investigators to check out the family they intend on marrying into ? My current husband was dating a woman with a engineering degree and walked away when the family report came back negitive. Nigerians are actually facinated with the way US citizens jump into relationships so blindly. You need to take a big step back. Go there and meet your fiance. Find out more about the culture. Protect yourself. Think with your brain and not with your heart and your "lower parts"

hey dude, sorry about the white slip, but am I wrong or are you miss quoting above? You indicate just receiving a white slip for a K1, but also just stated a finalized divorce in July 2010?? If this is true, then the fact that you were not "legally free to marry" is the reason for your white. Please correct me if I am wrong in your wording. Good luck!