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my fiance is in nigeria he is 32 and i'm 48 is that going to be a problem I pray to god not for Love doesn't come that many time some please help me

Unfortunately the CO may see it as a problem......the age thing can go either way you will just have to pray about it. There has been some couples the age difference doesnt effect them and on the other hand it does. Ur fiance should be prepared to answer questions about the age difference it is culturally normal and expected that Nigerian men have children.....good luck


November 5, 2010 Interview 7am APPROVED!!!!!! (6months 4weeks 1day) THANK YOU LORD!!!!!

(look at my about me page in my profile if you want to see my entire k1 journey)

AOS Journey:

Feb.4, 2011 Mailed AOS packet

Feb. 7, 2011 Pkt delivered in Chicago

Feb. 10, 2011 Received txt and email of NOA for AOS, EAD, and AP

Feb. 11, 2011 Check cashed for AOS

Feb. 12, 2011 Touched

Feb. 14, 2011 received hard copy of NOA for AOS, EAD& AP

Feb. 18, 2011 received appt letter for biometrics

Feb. 28, 2011 biometrics appt @10am

Feb. 28, 2011 received txt/email AOS case transferred to csc

Mar 1, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 3, 2011 received hard copy of AOS transfer to csc

Mar 4, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 28, 2011 Received txt/email saying card production has been ordered. (1month 3eeks 3days)

Mar 28, 2011 Received 2nd txt/email saying we have registered this customer permanent residence status

Mar 29, 2011 Received 3rd txt/email says card production has been ordered.

April 1, 2011 greencard and welcome letter in hand!!

April 5, 2011 received txt/email EAD card production ordered

Will Start Removing Conditions Dec 2012!!!!

Dec. 26, 2012 mailed ROC paperwork

Dec. 28, 2012 NOA for ROC paperwork

Jan. 7, 2013 received bio appt letter

Jan. 24, 2013 bio appt.

June 22, 2013 10yr green card received

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I agree with the above statements. As I indicated in an email reply to you, you will need to have proof that the relationship is solid and strong, which includes submission of the proper documentation and proof of an on going established relationship.

Take time to read up on what needs to be done prior to proceeding with your visa application, and have all your documents in order prior to sending them in.

Weather age is an issue with the CO or not, still, that is much further down the road for you. YOU will need to meet in person regardless, so again I suggest you meet first and go from there.

Good luck.

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I have no family my mom and dad are both dead and no sisters no brothers

Nigeriaorbust is referring to his family.....good luck :thumbs:


November 5, 2010 Interview 7am APPROVED!!!!!! (6months 4weeks 1day) THANK YOU LORD!!!!!

(look at my about me page in my profile if you want to see my entire k1 journey)

AOS Journey:

Feb.4, 2011 Mailed AOS packet

Feb. 7, 2011 Pkt delivered in Chicago

Feb. 10, 2011 Received txt and email of NOA for AOS, EAD, and AP

Feb. 11, 2011 Check cashed for AOS

Feb. 12, 2011 Touched

Feb. 14, 2011 received hard copy of NOA for AOS, EAD& AP

Feb. 18, 2011 received appt letter for biometrics

Feb. 28, 2011 biometrics appt @10am

Feb. 28, 2011 received txt/email AOS case transferred to csc

Mar 1, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 3, 2011 received hard copy of AOS transfer to csc

Mar 4, 2011 AOS Touched

Mar 28, 2011 Received txt/email saying card production has been ordered. (1month 3eeks 3days)

Mar 28, 2011 Received 2nd txt/email saying we have registered this customer permanent residence status

Mar 29, 2011 Received 3rd txt/email says card production has been ordered.

April 1, 2011 greencard and welcome letter in hand!!

April 5, 2011 received txt/email EAD card production ordered

Will Start Removing Conditions Dec 2012!!!!

Dec. 26, 2012 mailed ROC paperwork

Dec. 28, 2012 NOA for ROC paperwork

Jan. 7, 2013 received bio appt letter

Jan. 24, 2013 bio appt.

June 22, 2013 10yr green card received

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Hello My Sister!

I am going to try to be as sensitive and diplomatic as possible. I would be REALLY careful with this relationship in light of the huge age difference. Typically most african men that I've encountered are very adamant about having a woman younger or at least close to their age who is still in her child-bearing years. I do not know you or your man but my instincts are telling me that he may be using you for the greencard. You can cuss me out and so can everybody else but i really took the time out to respond to you because I care. I am 5 yrs older than my african husband and believe me it ws a big deal to him concerning how his friends and family would perceive an older woman. Let me give you some history about my husband and me. We married in 2007, he arrived in 2008. For the most part it has been nothing like he described it would be while he was waiting to get over here. In my case, we are united by our religious beliefs at this point. I actually would LOVE for him to leave but he keeps saying in the african culture it's not proper to leave the marriage. All those wonderful words, promises and expressions of love he spoke while in africa, have been very minimal at best since he arrived in 08. If I had to do this all again, I would have stayed single or met somone already here in the states. Please understand I'm not bitter, Im not african bashing and all that other jazz, I'm just trying to ask you to think long and hard about marrying someone who is 16 years younger than you, from another country, and with SO much to gain from marrying a US citizen. Please dont be a victim!!!! Again, I'm still married and he and i are still together but i wish someone would have forewarned me of how a person who's desperate would sell his own soul to get out of poverty.

**Stuck in this unusual marriage***


I130

September 6, 2007-Sent I130

January 18, 2008-NOA1

February 24, 2008-Touched

April 14 & 15-Touched-RFE trick

May 23, 2008-Aproved!!!!!!!! (Thanks to the MAN above)

May 26, 2008-Touched (Holiday)

May 31st-Recvd Hard Copy in mail

I29F

February 18TH, 2008-NOA1

February 24TH, 2008-Touched

April, 14TH & 15TH-RFE trick

May 22, May 23rd -Touch, Touch

May 23-Approved!!!!!!! (Thanks to the MAN above)

May 26, 2008-Touched (Holiday!)

May 31ST-Recvd Hard Copy in mail

NVC

May 29TH, 2008-129F received at the NVC-YES!

May 30TH, 2008-130 received at the NVC

Consulate-June 3rd

INTERVIEW-August 27TH

Interview-PASSED WITHOUT ANY ISSUES-10 MINUTE INTERVIEW

SEPT 20TH-Arrived in NYC then to Charlotte-YEAH!!!

AOS

February 4TH-mailed I485 & I765

Feb 8TH, NOA 1 for both-Received Feb 5TH

March 4TH Biometrics done

March 19TH RECEIVED INTERVIEW LETTER-INTERVIEW DATE April 30TH at 9:30

April 13TH RECEIVED EAD... FINALLY!!!!!!!!!!

APRIL 14TH-GOING TO SS OFFICE TO ORDER SSCARD

April 19TH-SS card received

April 20TH-Lerners Permit obtained

April 30TH- AOS Passed-10 minute meeting, wouldn't call it an interview, very, very simple.

May 18TH=GREEN CARD RECEIVED

NEVER ABLE TO VIEW CASE ONLINE-SAME INVALID# MESSAGE

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You have threads in several areas all dealing with potential problems in your relationship. Relationships aren't always balanced and life isn't always perfect. Loving a person from another country isn't cheap. Nigerian relationships have a horribly high failure rate. If you look at the top 10 Nigeria posters half are not together ( really bad because I am in the list of of the top 10 twice at the top and the bottom ) African culture isn't what the US is. Unless you have a better grasp of this I think you are in way way over your head. This process will cost you thousands of dollars and take you a long time. There is no way to be certain that you aren't being used , statistics show there is a 50/50 chance that you are being used. You are running about making wedding plans for a man you have not met face to face and who you don't know a fanily background for. Do you know that in Nigeria people hire investigators to check out the family they intend on marrying into ? My current husband was dating a woman with a engineering degree and walked away when the family report came back negitive. Nigerians are actually facinated with the way US citizens jump into relationships so blindly. You need to take a big step back. Go there and meet your fiance. Find out more about the culture. Protect yourself. Think with your brain and not with your heart and your "lower parts"


This will not be over quickly. You will not enjoy this.

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I'm 39 and my fiance is 24. There was not a single mention of our age difference at his interview in Malawi - we were approved and as of 6 days ago he is here in the US with me now.

I'm sure how much scrutiny you will receive depends on the country and embassy - just collect as much evidence as possible, lots of photos with the family as well and as many in-person visits as you can manage.


K-1 Visa
05/17/2010 – Petition mailed to USCIS via certified return receipt.
05/27/2010 – NOA1 issued
06/03/2010 – Touch/NOA1 hard copy received in US Mail
10/27/2010 – 5 month mark
10/28/2010 – Spoke to USCIS representative – 'still pending'
11/04/2010 – Spoke to USCIS representative – 'still pending', but service request generated
11/05/2010 – Notified that background checks are not complete - looks like we're in for a looong wait...
12/07/2010 – Received email notification of NOA2
12/16/2010 – NVC sent the case to Embassy in Malawi
02/28/2011 – Interview
03/14/2011 – VISA APPROVED!
05/04/2011 – Fiance and I came back to the U.S. together! smile.png
07/01/2011 – Married!

AOS
07/02/2011 – I-485 packet mailed to USCIS via certified return receipt.
07/06/2011 – Packet accepted.
07/07/2011 – Check cashed and NOA1 issued.
07/22/2011 – Received biometrics letter.
07/29/2011 – Biometrics completed (walk-in)
08/23/2011 – EAD Approved
08/31/2011 – EAD card arrived in the mail.
09/12/2011 – AOS interview - APPROVED! GC production ordered
09/21/2011 – Green Card received!!!

Removal of Conditions

06/13/2013 - I-751 packet mailed to USCIS via certified return receipt.

06/17/2013 - NOA issued

06/19/2013 - Check cashed

06/21/2013 - Received NOA in mail.

06/26/2013 - Received biometrics letter.

07/02/2013 - Biometrics completed (walk-in)

11/18/2013 - APPROVED! Card production ordered

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my wife is 25 years older than me , I am here in united states now , they gave me 8 months AP hell and then visa , its been almost 1 year i am in US now.


NATURALIZATION Timelines.
09-23-2013 N-400 Sent
09-25-2013 N-400 Delivered
09-26-2013 Priority Date
10-1-2013 Acceptance Email/Text
10-1-2013 Check Cashed
10-04-2013 Received Receipt
10-7-2013 Finger Print Letter received
10-28-2013 Finger Print Date
10-29-2013 Status Changed to Inline for interview
11-06-2013 Interview scheduled
11-09-2013 Interview Letter Received
11-25-2013 Yellow Letter to bring Drivers License,
12-12-13. Interview Date /// Approved
12-16-2013 In-line for oath Scheduling
4-16-2014 Text/Email that Scheduled For oath ceremony
4-19-2014 Received Oath Letter
5-16-2014 , Oath Ceremony, I am a New Citizen. Thanks Allah.
Notice to everyone reading my Naturalization Timeline
That it took me 5 months to have oath after the interview is only because i requested for a name change,
this is what delayed my case by months

______________________________________

4th Sep 2009 Interview ISL Embassy
Administrative Processing Starts
28 April 2010 AP completed just out of blue.
30 April 2010 Visa received


21 Months Total from start to VISA received


8 Months in AP TOTAL 239 Days

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my fiance is in nigeria he is 32 and i'm 48 is that going to be a problem I pray to god not for Love doesn't come that many time some please help me

Hi. Please read and try your best to understand all the advice that is being given to you. No one here has any reason to hurt you. Please think about what you are doing and listen to your inner self.

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