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    laylalex reacted to Crazy Cat in All Things Coronavirus (Part 2)   
    I'm not buying it.  This is unscientific and unverified OPINION.  Like all the other Covid stats, it is impossible to know who died FROM the vaccines vs who died WITH the vaccine.  What qualifies these polled individuals to know if a vaccinated family member died BECAUSE of the vaccine?  It is opinion.
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    laylalex reacted to beloved_dingo in UK rule compared to US   
    For U.S. immigration, you could get a qualified joint sponsor to overcome the income requirement (most typically this is a relative of the U.S. petitioner who is willing to do this), but it does not overcome the issue that you both would need enough funds to live on and pay the various fees involved regardless of a joint sponsor. How expensive life in the U.S. is varies A LOT from place to place, but you still have to have money coming in to live on.
     
    I understand you want to have children, but please consider that having a child to "solve" the immigration problem is not a good idea at all. You're talking about taking on a huge physical and financial burden to get through an immigration loophole. Considering the financial constraints and physical/mental health issues involved, rushing into starting a family is not the answer. 
     
    A few questions to clarify the situation:
     
    1) how much time have you both spent together face to face?
    2) has your boyfriend worked before? how long has it been since he's had a job?
    3) does your boyfriend have insurance?
    4) is he being treated for his bpd?
    5) how old are you both?
    6) if you moved to the U.S. where would you be living (what state)?
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    laylalex reacted to ROK2USA in K-1 or CR1 for long distance relationship?   
    How do you know you'll only be able to meet twice before the visa is approved and you move to the US?
    How do you know you won't be able to live together before you move to the US? 
    Have you explored living together in a third country?
    You have 2 years to figure out alternate plans as opposed to just "meet once, file K1 or get married, meet again, move to the US.
    It sounds like you are a planner and it is great you have an idea of what might happen when you meet 2 years but a lot can change. 
    Maybe your partner will be able to get a job closer to you and you can meet more often. 
    Why the rush to move to the US as soon as you meet?
    I would explore alternate options after you both graduate. 
    You're both young so you can take your time and explore options. 
    And you don't know if you will actually "click" in person when do you eventually meet. 
    I would try to be more flexible in your plans... 
     
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    laylalex reacted to beloved_dingo in K-1 or CR1 for long distance relationship?   
    We are also talking about the commitment of marriage...there are many types of heartbreak to consider, not just of an immigration variety. 
     
    Meeting in person is step #1 no matter what. No one will know whether their online LDR has a chance or not until that occurs. 
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    laylalex reacted to Lil bear in Returning Resident visa (SB-1) Denied, Please Advise   
    Is your Green Card not yet expired? Is it a 10 yr GC ? 
     
    If it is unexpired, then you should be able to  board the flight into the US.
    Expect significant questioning to follow if the CBP officer asks how long you have been out of the US.. some returning GC holders havent been asked at all but dont count in it !   Expect to be sent to secondary. Don't hand in  your GC. Expect pressure to relinquish your GC and sign the I 407 Don't give in to it .. politely refuse and request that you be referred to the Immigration court to have your case heard. Politely but firmly hold that line. Don't get dragged into discussion or debate and dont give more info than asked. Answer honestly but minimally. Take your chance to argue in front of the judge. 
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    laylalex reacted to TBoneTX in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Scintillating Thursday repartee, yawn man.
     
    Thrilling Thursday report, see man:
     
    Ex-Mrs.-T-B. took new puppy to nearby vet, little thing sick/barfing man.
    Ex-she-man called us later in tears, tearful ex-she man.
    Puppy has parvovirus, apparently quite serious man.
    Took puppy back to adoption place to turn it in, tearful ex-she man.
    They couldn't guarantee that it would survive or that ex-she would get it back, sigh man.
     
    Ex-Mrs.-T-B. reported all this to us in tears, tearful ex-she man.
    Cousinette Mini-B. was reportedly in tears, too, tearful junior she man.
     
    We told ex-she man that this was not her fault, si and no man.
    We said that baby animals get sick just as baby human beans do, si man.
    We said that Mini-B. would probably handle the news better than any of us, si man.
     
    However, ex-Mrs.-T-B. visited the vet next door to adoption place, visit ex-she man.
    They say that the doggie can be treated as an outpatient, si man.
    They must do Many (2+1) treatments for Many (2+1) consecutive days, si man.
    Ex-Mrs.-T-B. took doggie home so it wouldn't be alone, and will transport it to vet daily, si man.
    We will therefore up-pick Mini-B. from skool tomorrow, too, will do we man.
     
    Tonight (Thurs.) was supposed to have been ex-Mrs.-T-B.'s night with Mini-B., si man.
    Thing with doggie necessitated rescheduling for Friday, si man.
    Doggie's treatment necessitates that we give Mini-B. to ex-she man on Saturday morn, that's OK man.
     
    Din-din was air-fried Angus-beef hamburgers, ingest Two Guys man.
     
    Uncle T-B. turned Many (2x2x2x2x2x2 + 2x2x2x2 + 2x2x2 -1) years today, aged senior he man.
    We told him that he is merely Many (2x2x2x2x2 -2 -1) years old for the Many'rd time, calculatory we man.
     
     
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    laylalex reacted to Mike E in starting an LLC   
    The advice being given here is advice for tax evasion and for how to obtain taxpayer ID for someone not authorized to work.  
     
    Therefore I am out of this thread.  
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    laylalex reacted to Family in starting an LLC   
    Anyone can set up an LLC ( foreign citizens, foreign companies..). Set up is easy , online , check pricing . 
    After setting up LLC , get EIN aka TIN  from IRS and you are good to go. 

    https://www.irs-ein-tax-id.com/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=main-irs-ein-taxid&utm_term=irs ein&utm_content=b&gclid=CjwKCAjw0dKXBhBPEiwA2bmObbJLJ9PvUNwFnTB-Q1V7aUN8X8fT2TBQpOeGu1O7QmOy4qXhWa2zTBoCH5wQAvD_BwE
     
     
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    laylalex reacted to Prisonmate in Female Cousin got caught posting photos of herself   
    Thanks to all for your responses. My wife and her family decided to give her one more chance. However, if she gets caught doing it again, she will be kicked out of the house.
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    laylalex reacted to Adventine in Female Cousin got caught posting photos of herself   
    So was Maria posting photos of herself because she needed more money? Or because she was trying to catch a romantic partner? Or even because she thought it was fun?
     
    How are her grades? Apart from this incident, what's her general attitude like?
     
    If this incident was a one-time thing, and Maria is otherwise a good student and a respectful, helpful member of the family, chalk it up to a dumb teenage idea. 
     
    But if this incident is part of a larger pattern of irresponsible behavior, then your wife may be justified in cutting her off.
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    laylalex reacted to RO_AH in Female Cousin got caught posting photos of herself   
    100% this! Everyone has done stupid stuff. What's important is, is this a long pattern of stupid behavior? Is she the type that if you give her a change she will actually appreciate it an improve, or think haha I pulled one over on them? This is what I would base my decisions on. I put my sister in law through Sr. High school and college. She just graduated a few days ago. I had to be stern with her a few times, but she always appreciated what I did for her and always improved herself. It was worth the investment.
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    laylalex reacted to TBoneTX in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    They suck, si and sigh LL ma'am.
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    laylalex got a reaction from TBoneTX in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Summer colds are the worst, even worse when you end up working the entire day from home even though you feel like trash. 🤧
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    laylalex reacted to Ontarkie in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Yes they are. Feel better soon. 
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    laylalex got a reaction from Ontarkie in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Summer colds are the worst, even worse when you end up working the entire day from home even though you feel like trash. 🤧
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    laylalex reacted to Neonred in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Hooray!  As of a little after 3:00pm today we have AC!  
     
    Was up to 87 in the house again before they finally got it working.
     
    Going to sleep well tonight!
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    laylalex reacted to Neonred in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Todays update.
     
    AC guy showed up @ 11:30 to check to see if I had indeed picked up the right part.  He verified it is correct.  Said he will be back later...
     
    Time for another beer.  Got to keep hydrated in this heat and humidity.
     
     
     
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    laylalex got a reaction from Asia in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Report in from halfway through the British Invasion: I am alive! My mother and mother-in-law are off to Vegas tomorrow morning for some light (heavy) indulgences, including spa treatments, some gambling, and some show which they were both snickering about so it's probably something like Chippendales or whatever the latest "sexy" iteration of Cirque de Soleil is out there.
     
    My stepdaughter is growing up so fast -- she is most certainly a tween now. She also has far better fashion sense than I had at her age, which is depressing. She also seems to know everything about everything, which I also claimed at that age, but I suspect she might actually.  She's scarily brilliant, just like her dad. I've been getting along well with her mum, too, after I got over some of my insecurity being around her. She's just so nice about everything, and to everyone, nearly all the time, and she's just an all-around lovely person (most of the time). But Alex says he is very aware of why they never got back together, and I should stop making problems where there aren't any. My sister-in-law floats in and out as she feels like it -- her sort-of boyfriend (always unclear) lives in Beverly Hills, and so she stays with him until she's tired of it. He and I are acquainted and the less said the better but I'd get sick of him too. I am enjoying seeing everyone, but also enjoying the nights I let him be where they're staying and I am blissfully alone.   
     
    On my own family front, my mother's family is exploding with a massive secret uncovered. My mother is one of 7, 8 originally but one passed. 4 of them have had their DNA tested -- 2 of the oldest and 2 of the youngest 3. Well, my mom and her closest in age sister are definitely full siblings, and turn out to be significantly more English and Scottish than they expected. And the 2 younger? Errrrrr.... where did all this Mediterranean DNA come from?
     
    Well, the entire family is up in arms, with one brother refusing to accept any of it and refusing to test, even though he is in between the two sisters who don't share the same father with my mom and her closest-in-age sister. He resigned from the family FB group today in protest! Apparently my grandmother was informed of the results of the two younger sisters a while ago, but she told them they were wrong, she definitely had never had sex with anyone but my grandfather, etc. Now they are trying to figure out whether to push the matter further with my grandmother who is in her early 90s. I think she may have hoped she could have taken this to the grave but now the can of worms is fully open. The hypothesis is that the bio-dad of the younger sisters was my grandfather's best friend.
     
    My husband thinks this last bit is most hysterical, because before he and I got together he was best friends with my ex. Today he said it had just occurred to him that it must run in the family. I did not appreciate this.
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    laylalex reacted to Ontarkie in Divorce processing   
    ~~Moved to Effects of Major Life Changes, from IR1/CRI P&P - As the topic of divorce is discussed here.~~
     
     
    Mod Hate off
     
    You can divorce in the State you are living in. 
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    laylalex got a reaction from Neonred in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Report in from halfway through the British Invasion: I am alive! My mother and mother-in-law are off to Vegas tomorrow morning for some light (heavy) indulgences, including spa treatments, some gambling, and some show which they were both snickering about so it's probably something like Chippendales or whatever the latest "sexy" iteration of Cirque de Soleil is out there.
     
    My stepdaughter is growing up so fast -- she is most certainly a tween now. She also has far better fashion sense than I had at her age, which is depressing. She also seems to know everything about everything, which I also claimed at that age, but I suspect she might actually.  She's scarily brilliant, just like her dad. I've been getting along well with her mum, too, after I got over some of my insecurity being around her. She's just so nice about everything, and to everyone, nearly all the time, and she's just an all-around lovely person (most of the time). But Alex says he is very aware of why they never got back together, and I should stop making problems where there aren't any. My sister-in-law floats in and out as she feels like it -- her sort-of boyfriend (always unclear) lives in Beverly Hills, and so she stays with him until she's tired of it. He and I are acquainted and the less said the better but I'd get sick of him too. I am enjoying seeing everyone, but also enjoying the nights I let him be where they're staying and I am blissfully alone.   
     
    On my own family front, my mother's family is exploding with a massive secret uncovered. My mother is one of 7, 8 originally but one passed. 4 of them have had their DNA tested -- 2 of the oldest and 2 of the youngest 3. Well, my mom and her closest in age sister are definitely full siblings, and turn out to be significantly more English and Scottish than they expected. And the 2 younger? Errrrrr.... where did all this Mediterranean DNA come from?
     
    Well, the entire family is up in arms, with one brother refusing to accept any of it and refusing to test, even though he is in between the two sisters who don't share the same father with my mom and her closest-in-age sister. He resigned from the family FB group today in protest! Apparently my grandmother was informed of the results of the two younger sisters a while ago, but she told them they were wrong, she definitely had never had sex with anyone but my grandfather, etc. Now they are trying to figure out whether to push the matter further with my grandmother who is in her early 90s. I think she may have hoped she could have taken this to the grave but now the can of worms is fully open. The hypothesis is that the bio-dad of the younger sisters was my grandfather's best friend.
     
    My husband thinks this last bit is most hysterical, because before he and I got together he was best friends with my ex. Today he said it had just occurred to him that it must run in the family. I did not appreciate this.
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    laylalex reacted to Bob in Boston in DMV Shredded My Wife's Green Card   
    A mistake is not criminal, total waste of time. Report to DMV and file a complaint there.
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    laylalex reacted to mindthegap in DMV Shredded My Wife's Green Card   
    Well you need to put in a complaint for a start….
    That employee needs immediate training so they don’t do it to others. 
     
    I’m sure someone will suggest it, so before they do, I will state DO NOT file an i-90 for a replacement card. They will willingly take your cash, then do nothing. An I-90 is not applicable for you - it even states this on page 1 of the form - so you are wasting your time and money. 
     
    The bad news is you can’t get a replacement card, so I hope you photocopied it. 
    The good news is you can get a passport stamp, which acts as a temporary card (in place of the expired card + extension letter). Stamps last twelve months. 
    Phone USCIS and state ‘infopass’ to the automated rubbish and it will eventually connect you to a human, and they will arrange a call back for an appointment (yes it’s a convoluted process). 
     
    LPR status remains unchanged. The card is proof of status, not the status itself, so relax, and yes, you can still file for N-400 if eligible. 

    Did the idiot shred the extension letter too? 
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    laylalex reacted to Silentcloud in What are the implications of K1 visa Marriage falls apart?   
    Thanks and I liked your suggest of finding Russian/Ukrainian friends ahead of time which I couldn't do as I was busy in so many other things. How did you find Russian people ahead of time? Now that the war in ON Ukrainians don't like to be friends with Russians and it is understandable but I want to use the same strategy as you to find local Ukrainians here. We had a detailed talk and we both were in tears and finally looks like it will work out or at least a ray of hope I could see. Please let me know.
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    laylalex reacted to R&OC in What are the implications of K1 visa Marriage falls apart?   
    To be honest, I complained about everything in the US during my first stay. I hung out with friends from the same background and we all became a tribe of complainers. Until, I realised, I really do love the US and I am just being a total ignorant for complaining. The biggest mistake immigrants can do is to complain and compare. But its a common mistake and I would put it down to a cultural shock.
     
    Now as for your marriage, I believe marriage counselling and more tolerance is the way forward. My husband luckily got stationed in my home country for three years and went through the same situation. I heard him complain about Germany (not sure what German engineering is all about, this s*** doesn't work, complain about traffic lights (that was a big one), buildings stink because they are build for eternity/with concrete and do not allow for HGTV home projects). I had the luxury to observe my husband struggle with "light" immigration as he was only stationed there. He and I have become a lot more tolerant since.
     
    But in all honesty, it was a rocky road. I would give it way more time of at least 1-2 years. Even without immigration and a cultural shock, moving together isn't easy as newly weds and as a new blended family. There are so many layers of complexity. They have just arrived and she is in protection mode. Embracing something new takes energy. It helped me to meet other Germans who were fully assimilated in the US. Do you guys know other Ukrainian families that are happily living in the US? Perhaps church or other organisations may give her a tribe and a sense of belonging?
     
    I may be naive but I would turn in the AOS paperwork and give it more time. If it all goes south in a year, you are still able to pull it. Granted, I am an optimist and believe people turn around. I am not someone who throws in the towel quickly, so take my comment with a grain of salt.
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    laylalex reacted to Rocio0010 in Save The Last Rants For Me   
    Reporting myself back from the trip to Argentina. We came back about two weeks ago and had an amazing time there. 
    We landed into Buenos Aires, then we transferred airports to go to Iguazu falls. We made it to the hotel very very late at night, so we just showered and went to bed. The next morning we started our excursions, we went to the Wanda mines and hubby had a first taste of true steak at all-you-can eat. As soon as he took the first bite, he fell in love with the food and said “I can’t believe the ####### we eat in ‘Merica!”. Then on the second day we visited the falls on the Argentinian side, where we saw the Devils Throat (amazing) and we took a boat ride under the falls. Then at night we went to a restaurant and had the best steak I’ve ever had in my life. 
    Next day we went to the Brazilian side of the falls. In Iguaçu we visited Itaipu (the largest dam in the world) and then we saw the Devils throat from their bridges. At night we went to a restaurant where we ate steak (again!) and we also enjoyed a show with traditional South American dances. 
    The day after, we flew to my home State, Cordoba. 
    Worst flight experience ever. All passengers spoke Spanish, except Zach. This is relevant for later. About 30 minutes prior to landing I saw that the flight attendants were pacing back and forth, and not with a happy face. All passengers started looking at each other because we could tell something was going on. I just sort of brushed it off and tried to watch my movie. Then the captain started an announcement (in Spanish) 
    “Ladies and gentlemen, we have a situation in the cabin. The brake light is coming off in our panel, which might indicate that the brake is stuck. It’s most likely a false alarm, but out of precaution we’re going to do an emergency landing”. Kids started crying, people praying… and my husband asked me to translate for him. He has a avionics degree, so when the flight attendant explained it to him, he started calming me down, saying that it is a false alarm and that when he was in Iraq they used to get helicopters with false alarms like that all the time. I was panicking, crying, hyperventilating…. He was just guiding me to breathe in and out. Then about 10 minutes before landing the flight attendants started yelling “posición de emergencia!!! Posición de emergencia!!!” (They had instructed us to put ourselves into fetal position and use a jacket as a pillow to avoid hitting our heads with the seats). The plane went pitch black, longest minute of my life. Of course, everything was ok, just false alarm and a poorly managed situation by the crew. No need to freak us out. No less than five Argentinian passengers reached out to thank my husband because they overheard him explaining the situation to me, and helping me calm down. Right there I fell in love all over again with him!
    The next days were filled with love from family and friends, and good food! We even did a wedding celebration with our Argentinian family (dad hired some traditional dancers), taught my nephews to fish… so so much fun!
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