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It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

It should be tears of joy because you found out this soon. You are lucky to find it & smart to acknowledge reality. The next level of reality will be when you realize you were wrong to think it would change because at the time; again he seemed sincere. Of course he is good at the game but there is no need now to waste your efforts or your money on this type of person.
He spent the week before your wedding with her? I can only imagine how that was explained but its a clue to what you will endure until you just focus on you.

A man was in relationship with someone, then he says she are nothing to him => worst human being ever. If other woman finds out, he might say same thing about you. Don' waste tears on this dude, divorce here in the States.

Apply for visa, take in docs showing ties to your country
and GC. tell them you did not like living in the US & the marriage
was not working so you want to live in your own country,but
you must show job now and ties at home for you, not your family

CR 1 especially because you are from Pakistan & plan on marrying there. K 1 brings so many things into the situation that can be overcome by the CR 1.

Duuude... They [many cultures] do that because they have no other choice in terms of raising money to provide for their families, not because it's "natural" to want to be away from their spouses and children.

I moved to the USA to be WITH my husband so living apart on purpose doesn't make sense to me at all. Of course she wants a divorce.

I believe ESTA form only checks if a name is on blacklisted and it doesn't check your background. Chances are USCIS will find out your arrest record. I don't know much about caution but an arrest needs to be listed on USCIS. I would recommend you to consult an experienced lawyer, your case is not safe for DIY. Good luck.

just like you'd divorce a USC. check out the website for your city/county for the divorce process.

DCF is almost certainly going to be faster (even with the delay), but of course it's up to you. It will be a year or so just for the I-130 approval.

For the immigrant the process is a wild ride of emotions with a seeming Pandora's box of events that never end. During that its Asian style to get a lot of those " experts " helping. The motive for some of that is questionable anyway.
Many experience this including me to some extent. I also had the " help " from people but I had my husband in Thailand most of the time.
My suggestion to calm her is to explain that the drama is in the processes not the interview really. Her confidence should come from the unusual strength of the case in an area ( relationship ) where many have problems due to weak ties to each other. There isn't any need to fear the interview from what I can see. Mine was easy & so should hers be.

For the immigrant the process is a wild ride of emotions with a seeming Pandora's box of events that never end. During that its Asian style to get a lot of those " experts " helping. The motive for some of that is questionable anyway.
Many experience this including me to some extent. I also had the " help " from people but I had my husband in Thailand most of the time.
My suggestion to calm her is to explain that the drama is in the processes not the interview really. Her confidence should come from the unusual strength of the case in an area ( relationship ) where many have problems due to weak ties to each other. There isn't any need to fear the interview from what I can see. Mine was easy & so should hers be.

To keep you as an option. Guilt.
Trust your gut. Something has happened. Not being able to reach him on his mobile is a red flag, one that says he doesn't want you to reach him. Not wanting to talk about the visa - also a red flag.
One of the conditions for both my wife and I was being able to reach each other at any time. Even if you allowed him a girlfriend it should still be the rule.

You said you have a child on the form when the child was still unborn ?
Now that is born you of course have to but before it was born you didn't have to.
You have several red flags even though the CO mentioned just one.
1. Only one visit (usually won't work for Lagos, they want frequent visits)
2. Several pages of communication and 40 photos is not enough for Lagos
There is a very, very slim chance that your attorney or a senator could initiate a second interview while the case is still at the embassy.
Highly unlikely though but worth a try.
Once the petition is send back to USCIS it will expire ....no if's and but's about it and a lawyer can do nothing about it anymore.
Petitioner will then receive a letter after about 6 months from USCIS that says she can file again, you don't have to wait until you
receive it but can re file a K1 or get married and file a CR1.
I advice you to have a lawyer that has done Lagos petitions before or you may get disappointed.
Also gear up for expensive DNA testing to proof the child is truly yours, I would want to know that anyway if I were you, you don't know who
else your friend slept with.
Since it is a pattern in high fraud countries to temporarily pretend to be in a relationship with a USC and then dump them
to get the former lover to come over, the CO is of course thinking that and refused to issue the visa.
When did 'your friend' become pregnant ? When you had already met your fiance online or before you met her ONLINE ?
You said before you met her, not sure if you meant in person or online. That could complicate things even more.
Front load the next petition ! Include much more evidence and photos with your fiance and your family.
The more face to face real live visits the better, they don't care that she can't visit for this or that reason, they want to be
convinced that you are genuine, so convince them.

If I were the CO, I would think the same thing. I would assumed you left a friend of yours who got pregnant by you because you met your American fiancée. And Nigeria is well known on VJ as one of high fraud countries for U.S. visas.

She won't have been denied for being beautiful. You've said she appeared to them to be without strong ties to her home country. You were not present I assume? Difficult to know exactly what was said then.

This!
You can always call the embassy to postpone your interview while you sort things out with your wife. It's a huge, life-changing decision.

Of course you can look for work on a tourist visa, you can not accept a job.

Yes there is nothing to stop her from looking for a job. If the employer is willing to wait for her work clearance there is nothing that says you cannot look for a job. Don't let people tell you you are wasting your time, not everyone here has only a high school diploma.