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I wondered why you would post this in here.Then you made it all wonky We don't ToT in our area, not worth the time to walk all the streets for 3 houses if we're lucky and then they only give 1 tiny little thing. We went out to a friends area, lots of kids. I think the cold kept many inside, as there weren't as many as last year. Not as many houses either but still plenty giving out candy. The Tornado was a Vampire and the Jedi well he became a Mandalorian. Mommy froze, came home and has been dealing with charlie horses all night. Being allergic to cold sucks.

There are a lot of crossing from Canada. You will have to be more specific or search the Canada forums. I didn't import any cars, I did bring 4 kids, a dog, two cats, a bird which I had to have a Vet meet us at the same time I was going to cross so he can check her over. A hamster, a U-Haul, a truck and my now MIL's car. I crossed and the Twin Saults border, not many go that way and I was lucky that there was a new guy who had experience with the visas. He was able to teach two other BO what to do since they had 5 visas to process.

It is good he is coming back. Now moving forward you two can work together to figure things out.

I agree with Tbone, if your friend really needs or wants help then follow the link above. That is our very own one and only Pushbrk

He just needs to get back home. JeanneAdil mentioned that he might not have started in a good place. From what you said about the sister you didn't and still don't know. I would be worried that she drugged or poison him. With the comments she made about him and his religion along with her own mental illness. I know it is a stretch but you did not know her. Then your husband suddenly started losing weight and his mind in just a few short months. If he felt you were injecting him in his sleep, or your family was following him. I would be worried about drugs/poisonings. Too late now to run blood work, but search your house high and low. Some drugs can stay in your system for awhile and that might explain why he felt he was being followed. Please be careful and make sure you keep an eye on your husband's health when he gets back.

I replied but I guess I was ignored. You are not the first to blend families and far from the last. WHat you are wanting is just prolonging the inevitable. They will not adjust until all are in the same house and no longer feel like a vacation. That can be months to years. From a mother of 6

You had 4 yrs to discuss all things needed to blend your two families. If she arrives at the border with a different address then you and they ask about why you all will be living seperate. You can bet your last dollar that she will be on the next flight out. If they catch any whiff of something off they will turn your fiance right back. The visa as mentioned is to get married and adjust asap. They give you 90 days because sometimes it can be difficult to get a JP or someplace to get married. It is not a try before you buy visa. Kids will do better adjusting when they aren't living in a temporary place and then put into the next place and wondering what is next. I moved here with 4 kids ages 8-16 I can tell you for sure if we lived in a temp home first then moved to my then fiance's home it would still be just as much of a learning curve for all involved. It takes months, possibly years to adjust. 90 days will not cut it. Have you talked about expectations? Discipline? Bedtimes? From experience you discipline your kids and only your kids, do not step on the other parent's toes. The other parent handles their own kids. THis does not mean each other kids can be disrespectful at all. YOu two really need to come up with parenting plans. This can be easy or hard depending how you both handle things and the kids involved. If any have any type of learning, special needs, behaviour, disabilities and the other parent is not used to it that alone can cause issues. The way one handles a child who is not like the others can vary and many times if the other person has zero experience with things like that they will not understand. Check this forum too we have many posts like this about kids.

~~MOved to Moving HEre and Your New Life, from K1 P&P - as the OP is asking about slowly merging/acclimating two families.~~

~~MOved to AOS from Work, Student and Tourist Visas, from Tourist Visas- the OP is now in the US, has married and wanting to adjust.~~

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~~Moved to SSN, from AOS Family K1/K3 P&P- As the questions is about SSN's~~

I think this is the latest in the month I've seen them send them out. COngratulations! One step closer.

Just remember their new programing/tech is what is dishing out more DS 5535 like crazy.

~~Moved to MOving Here and Your New Life, from Taxes and Finances - as banking is discussed here often.~~

If the court order mentions living in the US it will solve a lot of issues.

A US court cannot grant a foreigner custodial rights. The child's birth country will always have jurisdiction unless both parent are in the US.

We do not allow whatsapp groups on VJ.

~~Moved to General Immigration DIscussion, from IR!/CR! P&P - the OP's spouse is already in the US~~

All forms here on out write his new name and place the old name in the Other names used box. Police check in both names. Bring his certified copy/court order of legal name change with him to the interview along with a photocopy of it. Also get the new passport done asap.

If they are back to allowing ppl other then the one with the appointment then your Husband can wait in waiting room. Not the office during the actual interview.

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~~Moved to AOS from Work, Student & Tourist Visas, from IR1/CR1 P&P~~

It's because the SAVE system didn't find you right away. I had the same issue years ago long with many others. I think what you have new is your temporary license for thos 60 days. Normally they send you away with nothing saying come back later.

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