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It's very quiet in here.
 
 

You don't need to have a big wedding. When we got married it was just our kids, his mom , grandmother and three of his friends. We had lunch together and a cake afterwards. Afterwards we went to a nice hotel at the beach  for a couple days. Simple....and the kids loved it.

How old is your sister? Oh wait, she is already a mother so she can make her own decisions. 
 
If he is affiliated with ISIS, immigrations will find out and he won't get a visa.

This is also good advice, especially since the NHS can test your levels at no extra cost to you. I'm embarrassingly pasty but as soon as my GP heard I had moved to the UK from Florida, she immediately ordered vitamin D level testing and sure enough! It really did help and vitamin D deficiency is pretty common in any northern place. Please see how the NHS can help you feel better since your family cannot presently sponsor you to immigrate to the US.
 
(And as an aside for those who are annoyed at UK complaints- I actually loved the weather in the UK! Granted, the northernmost place I lived was Sheffield but I found it better than FL since it was so rarely extreme in any direction and there's a lot more sunshine than people let on! I'm apparently in the minority but we do exist  )

OP,  Please seek counseling and medical care for depression.  Your spirit and health will improve with treatment.  You need not suffer when there are many options to improve your situation.

Once your brother or sister become American citizens, then they can sponsor you.
Will take at least 10 years at minimum to process so you'll have to put up with the weather in England a bit longer.
 
 

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

I think that people just have to be cautious, like you would do with any other relationship.
 
Yes, there are people who abuse the American partner to get a GC. But there are also Americans who bring their foreigner partner here, promise them heaven on Earth,zijn and turn out to be a completely different person.
 
As I said, everywhere you have #$@& -ed up people. And if you want to avoid GC don't date a foreigner, it's that simple.
 
Off course this site is dedicated on GC, but alot of people give great and valid advice when they see alot of red flags. Problem often is; the American doesn't listen to their valid advice.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

I think that people just have to be cautious, like you would do with any other relationship.
 
Yes, there are people who abuse the American partner to get a GC. But there are also Americans who bring their foreigner partner here, promise them heaven on Earth,zijn and turn out to be a completely different person.
 
As I said, everywhere you have #$@& -ed up people. And if you want to avoid GC don't date a foreigner, it's that simple.
 
Off course this site is dedicated on GC, but alot of people give great and valid advice when they see alot of red flags. Problem often is; the American doesn't listen to their valid advice.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

I think that people just have to be cautious, like you would do with any other relationship.
 
Yes, there are people who abuse the American partner to get a GC. But there are also Americans who bring their foreigner partner here, promise them heaven on Earth,zijn and turn out to be a completely different person.
 
As I said, everywhere you have #$@& -ed up people. And if you want to avoid GC don't date a foreigner, it's that simple.
 
Off course this site is dedicated on GC, but alot of people give great and valid advice when they see alot of red flags. Problem often is; the American doesn't listen to their valid advice.

I personally feel this is an under statement. Everything is case to case. Not all USCs paid everything. 
My husband is the USC but over all he spent $365 for the entire process. Just the 129F petition. I paid my tickets and I paid my own visa fees. 
I had my own money for AOS. I personally organized our documents. All his efforts were to simply signed everything I had already organized, as well as, comfort me when depression kicks in being "stuck" in life and being homesick.
 
Agree on this! One year is too much to place your life on hold just because the other one can't decide just yet if they are ready to commit and get married. I guess one year is fine, if you don't have a life prior (Probably just sleep at home country and wait for USD monthly allowance from foreign fiance). But, if you are used to working, it is difficult not to feel productive. 

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

It still surprises me when US citizens decide to start dating foreigners, bring the foreigners over to the US and marry them without knowing them well enough and then whine about how bad the system is when they find themselves cheated by the foreigner. I mean, come on, people.. You're adults, you should know not to marry someone you don't know, or be adult enough to man up and admit your stupidity if you still take the chance. Not blame the system or anyone else.
 
If you can't handle a long-distance relationship and actually get to know the person you intend to marry to make sure the person is what you're looking for - then don't date people who live in another country. Many of us have done it successfully, and actually taken our time to find out about each other before deciding to get married and live together, but it clearly isn't for everyone. Might sound harsh, but the truth is that some of you just can't handle it.

Why don't you stick just to an American partner? No one makes you get into a relationship with a foreigner after all.

But it's a poor career choice.

and mods. Mods work hard

Actually most sports have unions and there are still issues. Look at Major League Baseball this offseason. The free agent market imploded and you could argue a degree of it was collusion by owners. Owners see more value picking up a prospect at the league minimum of 500,000 a year versus paying out 10 million a year for a free agent in their prime.

So hard work and prosperity have a poor correlation.  
I would carry on with this discussion but I am late for a meeting and I made poor choices and still need to work toward retirement. 

I didn't mean to suggest they were the same thing. I don't believe in wage equality just based on hours worked. I also wasn't claiming wealthy people don't work a lot. I'm saying how hard someone works isn't a linear relationship with their salary. Some high paid individuals work very hard, some don't. Similarly some poor people don't work very hard, but others do. A shift at a restaurant, while potentially not as taxing mentally as surgery, is VERY hard work. You can be on your feet non-stop almost the entire time. If you do that 60 hours per work, that should be enough to support your family. Should you be paid a surgeon's salary? Of course not. On the opposite end of the spectrum - My wife in the past frequently commented on coworkers in Oil and Gas who would do around 1 hour of work in a day, and would be getting paid north of 100,000 pounds.
 
I do, however, believe that a hard working individual should be able to support their family no matter what their career. I believe that, at a minimum, you should be able to feed, cloth, house and protect your family while working 60 hours a week. I don't care if you flip burgers, clean toilets, or perform surgery. I think this should be one of the benefits of living in a wealth, advanced economy. No one who works hard should be unable to feed themselves or their children. All of those jobs need to be filled, so we should pay them fairly for it.
 
Beyond those basic necessities, of course more skilled jobs should be paid more. As I said my bigger issues are with inherited wealth and passive wealth. My father makes more money every year than I do and he doesn't work at all anymore. He just pays a financial adviser and they make him more money. They take a cut of course, but he still pulls in more yearly than I make. I'm sure I'll be in a similar position at that point in my life, but it's still a flawed system from a societal perspective, in my opinion.

As do most teachers, nurses, parking lot attendants, cashiers, baristas, iron workers, etc...............