Lee&Ana

Wow, oh wow. I am curious as to which country the op is from?
Who cares about what school the child goes to? Op, you are in possibly the worst situation a person can be in and you are worried about what school your child goes to. And all these other posters are only focusing on that.
Your family definitely threw you under the bus by not telling you your fiancé was pregnant by another man. Who does that? Your family is making my family look like saints. The minute you found out about the pregnancy, you should have packed your bags and went back home. Right there, your relationship was doomed. From that moment on, you lost all your self esteem and became a door mat and punching bag. Your wife is obviously a person without character and morals, so how do you expect to have a productive, healthy life with a partner like that? I have heard about some messed up situations in my time on earth, but this takes and eats the cake. Cheating is one thing, which I wouldn't forgive, but having another man's child while you are in the process of coming to the USA. No way.
Is baby daddy even contributing financially to his child? Not that this is the issue at hand, but definitely a consideration. Or his he just sticking his nose in to exacerbate the situation?
And your family's deception and secrecy is unbelievable. Who doesn't tell their family member who is immigrating that his wife/fiancé is cheating and having another man's child? Appalling behavior to say the least.
Newsflash. Your wife has done probably the worst thing a woman could do. Add to this the fact that you are coming to a foreign country trying to build a new life.
The problem is that you have zero self esteem or self worth. How can you expect to have anything in life if you allow people to keep feeding you garbage sandwiches and you eat them while saying thank you in the process?
Until you develop some standards for behavior, you will continue to be everyone's doormat. There isn't a forum in the world that can help you with the problems you are experiencing.

He is mainly looking to vent and receive moral support because he was taken for a ride and that is a terrible feeling.

I'm sure you guys discussed those details about giving money to her family back home before she made the move so I'm not gonna comment on that. But you guys got home, you packed your bag and left? Why? It makes no sense. She's here alone, has nobody and you decided it's best to leave her be while you went to your family and phase everything out. Never run from your problems, just solve them. I don't know her true intentions so can't comment on that, calling the cops was the most extreme thing she could do, but you left her alone literally, don't know how badly that can affect some one.

Just to make sure though, have her get CENOMAR to check if she has any marriages recorded.

Make sure she wants to be back with you for the right reason and not because she realized you are the only way back to US. I mean, God knows what else friends tell her. Make the right decision that benefits you, not in the heat of the moment.

I've remember a few of your older threads, and went back to read a couple I'd missed.... I also agree with others that perhaps it's best for you to visit her first for an extended vacation before starting any sort of immigration process again....see where not only her heart is at, but where her HEAD is at.   Spend some time together, not just with her but also her family.   Have some hard conversations, and then have some more.
 
The last thing you need is for her to bolt on you again after spending time, money, emotion and energy on the CR-1.    
 

How has your relationship been this whole time? They are going to want proof and not just the stuff at the start and end.
 
Talk is cheap if you haven't kept in touch and not just once a month or even once a week,. I mean like a normal married couple who are trying to fix things. I would not believe anything has changed. You need to go see her and really see what is going on and not with your heart but with your head. The one above your shoulders. Because once she gets that visa if she has any false intentions she can enter the US anywhere and never be seen by you again. 

Your wife's friend is full of carp.  It took us 8 months but that was back in 2013.  Now it is taking 12-14 months.  Unfortunately you and your wife blew it when she left.  IR-1 is your only choice now.  But at least she will be allowed to work a few days after she arrives this time.  You mentioned that the cost didn't matter so I guess you can afford to visit her because unless she owns an SM Mall she is 99% unlikely to get a visitors visa at this point.  Good luck and God Bless, david

What year did your friend get their spousal visa? It's common knowledge that processing times have increased tremendously over the past 2 years for ALL categories. Applications for all visas, green cards and other immigration benefits have quadrupled or maybe more across the board. Unless you know this friend personally and spoke to him/her one-on-one and heard from his/her own mouth the details of the spousal visa processing, it's very very hard to believe the process only took 7 months.
 
Secondly, sorry to say this, but the fact your wife won't be happy to hear that this may take 12+ months isn't a very good sign. It comes across like she wants to get back to the US as fast as possible. When it comes to immigration, it's extremely important to be realistic about timing. It's a bit of a red flag when someone wants to rush the process. If you rush into this process without truly cementing your relationship with your wife FIRST, the repercussions could be catastrophic. If she bails AGAIN, it will be hard for her to come to the US. It's already highly unlikely she'll be able to get a tourist visa to see you, considering she abandoned the K1 process. If she abandons the spousal visa process, they'll never give her a tourist visa for sure. I don't think they ban people for abandoning applications more than once. However, CBP and American officials will always be able to see her history when/if she tries to enter the US.
 
But that's mostly the consequences for HER. There's also the possibility that if things do not work with her, you may meet another foreign lady and fall in love with her in the future. If you have TWO abandoned petitions on your record, USCIS will scrutinize any future petitions from you to a much much greater extent. Tread very very very carefully.

Well my wife took 10mo for approval but that was back in 2015. 
 
I think it’s way longer now.  She should know now that immigration matters are never a quick process and #1 stop listening to friends. 

The current processing time for spousal visa is 12 - 14 months. There is no other option that is faster.
 
You probably already know the odds of her getting a visitor visa in the meantime.

Unfortunately there’s no easier/quicker way to do this all over again. You do have an option and that will be to file an IR1 visa. Expect it to take around 12 to 14 months and she will need to wait it all outside the U.S. A K-1 visa is a fiancé visa and not for married people and can’t be issued twice to the same person. Divorcing and remarrying just to secure a K-1 to make the process quicker is not even an option. Your wife can visit while her IR1 is being processed, however; she will need strong ties to be able to secure a B1/B2 visit visa. This will be an uphill battle trying to convince the consular officer especially with her past immigrant intent.

I am a long time member.  My wife came to the USA in May 2015, got married, filed AOS and then left and went back to the Philippines and her green card was cancelled at USCIS by me.  This happened in September of 2016.  She departed voluntarily 2 days later.
We never divorced.
She wanted to come back to me since December of 2016 and realized she made a huge mistake.  
So here I am 19 months later and find that I still love her and want to bring her back to the USA and work it out.  
Realistically, what option would be the best?
If I file IR- 1, how long would it take and would we have a good chance to be approved?  Would we have to meet in person again?
Or would it be better to divorce and file K1 all over again?
At this point, I don’t care about the cost, I just want to have an easier way to be reunited with her?  
All opinions and questions are welcome and encouraged.  
 

Why didn't you think about this before your fiancé spent all this time, money and energy to get you here? Contrary to popular belief, the streets are not paved in gold. Your fiancé paid a lot of money and spent a lot of time to bring you here. Additionally, he sacrificed a lot. I know I did. Just because this whole process for you was "Free" does not mean it was free for him.

Wow. Your situation sounds exactly like mine. Almost to the letter. PM me op if you want to compare notes

To all the guys that brought their pinay fiancé to the USA and then got married: when your wife started working, did she contribute to the household expenses or did she keep the money for herself while expecting you to pay for everything?
My wife expects to be chauffeured to work by me, especially during my normal sleeping hours, but keeps all her money for herself.
She has been talking non-stop about taking a vacation to the Philippines and could care less about contributing to our lifestyle here. She is obsessed about how much money she has. When she doesn't get that much work she complains but also complains if she works 6 days a week.
Recently, a job was offered to her that pays significantly more than she is making now and has steady hours yet she is not interested because she wants nothing to stop her from vacationing in the Philippines.
For those curious, my wife has been here almost 14 months and married almost a year.
How are all the Kano husbands dealing with the homesickness, immaturity and possible money grubbing that they have to endure like I do. Anyone who is not married to a pinay need not reply.

Get rid of him and send him home. I regret filing AOS for my wife. It was a waste of $1,070. If he is acting up now, picture how much ####### he can pull when he has a work permit and 2 year green card. If it starts out badly it will just get worse. When I was in your position, my thinking was, she is adjusting, when she works it will get better etc. That was not the case. If there is no "honeymoon" during the honeymoon phase, you have nothing but an expensive lesson like I have.
Pm me if you want to talk privately and compare notes

Get rid of him and send him home. I regret filing AOS for my wife. It was a waste of $1,070. If he is acting up now, picture how much ####### he can pull when he has a work permit and 2 year green card. If it starts out badly it will just get worse. When I was in your position, my thinking was, she is adjusting, when she works it will get better etc. That was not the case. If there is no "honeymoon" during the honeymoon phase, you have nothing but an expensive lesson like I have.
Pm me if you want to talk privately and compare notes

Get rid of him and send him home. I regret filing AOS for my wife. It was a waste of $1,070. If he is acting up now, picture how much ####### he can pull when he has a work permit and 2 year green card. If it starts out badly it will just get worse. When I was in your position, my thinking was, she is adjusting, when she works it will get better etc. That was not the case. If there is no "honeymoon" during the honeymoon phase, you have nothing but an expensive lesson like I have.
Pm me if you want to talk privately and compare notes

Get rid of him and send him home. I regret filing AOS for my wife. It was a waste of $1,070. If he is acting up now, picture how much ####### he can pull when he has a work permit and 2 year green card. If it starts out badly it will just get worse. When I was in your position, my thinking was, she is adjusting, when she works it will get better etc. That was not the case. If there is no "honeymoon" during the honeymoon phase, you have nothing but an expensive lesson like I have.
Pm me if you want to talk privately and compare notes

. I guess you were a government contractor and they get paid way more than most people in the States. That being said, I have no idea what someone would spend $1500 a month on in the Philippines, much less in Mindanao. My wife didn't make in a year what you were sending to your fiancé in a month. I can think of a lot of things I can buy in a month for $1,500 and still have money left over.
I didn't make my wife pay for everything. I am "asking" her to contribute to our expenses. We don't have 3 children with one on the way that you do. But to expect to be driven to work and to not contribute is unacceptable. I feel as though I adopted a child from a 3rd world country as opposed to having a wife, partner and a friend which was the purpose of bringing my wife here.

. I guess you were a government contractor and they get paid way more than most people in the States. That being said, I have no idea what someone would spend $1500 a month on in the Philippines, much less in Mindanao. My wife didn't make in a year what you were sending to your fiancé in a month. I can think of a lot of things I can buy in a month for $1,500 and still have money left over.
I didn't make my wife pay for everything. I am "asking" her to contribute to our expenses. We don't have 3 children with one on the way that you do. But to expect to be driven to work and to not contribute is unacceptable. I feel as though I adopted a child from a 3rd world country as opposed to having a wife, partner and a friend which was the purpose of bringing my wife here.

My thoughts exactly. The fact of the matter is that the OP was lazy and didn't maintain her right to live in the USA. If the OP likes Canada so much, she should move there and be a high income earner that pays 60% of her income in taxes versus 35% in the USA although she will get "free" healthcare. The USA doesn't care about your little bit of taxes. They collect billions of $$$$ every minute. Stop passing the responsibility OP and act like an adult

My thoughts exactly. The fact of the matter is that the OP was lazy and didn't maintain her right to live in the USA. If the OP likes Canada so much, she should move there and be a high income earner that pays 60% of her income in taxes versus 35% in the USA although she will get "free" healthcare. The USA doesn't care about your little bit of taxes. They collect billions of $$$$ every minute. Stop passing the responsibility OP and act like an adult

My thoughts exactly. The fact of the matter is that the OP was lazy and didn't maintain her right to live in the USA. If the OP likes Canada so much, she should move there and be a high income earner that pays 60% of her income in taxes versus 35% in the USA although she will get "free" healthcare. The USA doesn't care about your little bit of taxes. They collect billions of $$$$ every minute. Stop passing the responsibility OP and act like an adult