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You're one of the lucky ones... or well read ones. A lot of immigrants don't realize that it's required and they end up having problems when trying to get their citizenship. It can also cause issues when going to get a job at places like the Postal Service. So just be sure that you make sure it gets done before your 26th birthday.

Having a child together is a just one more piece of evidence. That sounds terrible but to USCIS a baby is just one piece of the picture. It's not the only evidence a couple can provide to prove the relationship is real. Nor is it the best evidence that can be used. That's spending time in person. The couple must include a number of other pieces of evidence for proof. I'm sure that more than one couple has been denied even though they have child(ren) together. So if USCIS doesn't think that having a child is the only evidence you need, why would they make special consideration for it? There's a saying that goes "poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine." I'm pretty sure that's more the way USCIS operates.
Let's take this a step further. If having a child together was enough to auto expedite an approval or was enough evidence of a bonafide relationship, then a lot of people would choose to do that. It would suddenly become THE way to commit fraud and then it would lose most of its weight as evidence. Because you are married and your spouse will land in America with a greencard, you should have to have way more proof than a child to show your relationship is legit. Shoot, because I went the K-1 route, I get to prove my relationship is legit three times (in country, AOS, and ROC) compared to Mona Lisa who will only have to prove it this once. So I guess I agree with the USCIS' view that a child is one small piece of the picture and shouldn't warrant any special treatment.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

Your relative in America wants you to come back and fight? Has she agree to represent you? Can't you just authorize her to represent you in your absence? I mean if she wants this fought so much, let her do it. But if she says she can't because she doesn't do immigration law, then I'd assume that she is acting like a hurt relative and not a lawyer and I'd ignore her advice. But there's no reason why (legally) you would have to be in the country to have an American lawyer represent you.
The point was made earlier about if you had Advanced Parole when you left. If you didn't, your green card application was denied and you have nothing to fight for.
As for coming to America, having your baby, and getting a divorce, I'd think hard about this. I believe custody of the baby should be a major concern for you. You might end up in America only to find out your child can't leave without your ex husband's permission. That possibility alone would keep me away from America.

My husband got his greencard with one joint bank account statement and a couple pictures. AOS doesn't require much to file and get approved. But you should start collection relationship evidence after filing anyway. You might need it for the interview (or you might not) but you'll definitely need it for the step after the initial greencard (Removal of Conditions - ROC).

I had doubts early in my relationship so I slowed things down. I friended his friends who spoke English and got to know them. A lot can be learned about a man by his friends. And more can be learned on Facebook if you're willing to look and actually see. I also visited a couple more times and got to know people in the neighborhood. And watched how they interacted with him. I then watched how he treated me compared to how he treated others who he also loved. He had to prove to me through serious actions that he was who he said he was. The thing that convinced me was actually a neighbor teen boy who was talking about his dreams and then turned to me and said "don't take him, please don't take him. We need him here. He's a real friend who takes care of us."
My other word of advice is if you have doubts now, they don't get easier to ignore. If you can't live with the doubts you have or the differences of opinion that you've discovered then you might want to step back again. Cultural differences are real and aren't always easy to overcome. The best advice is time... lots and lots of time (including face to face time). And if your parents are willing to travel, maybe some face to face time between your dad and your fiancé (or a good male friend who can be in the room with him alone). They can ask the hard questions for you.

Send what you've gathered up to this point tomorrow. And then continue to gather other evidence until you have an interview or are approved for a 10 year card. I think knowing it's been submitted on time would be worth the risk of a possible RFE for more evidence later. Plus the sooner you get it in the better chance you'll have the NOA1 before your current card expires. Otherwise your employment will be effected for lack of legal status (but hopefully only for a couple days).

What Penguin was asking was how long ago did your ex fiancé cancel the first petition? How long ago did you break up with your first fiancé? How long have you been with your current fiancé and how much face to face time have you and your current fiancé had together? Because the answer to those questions will determine if that first petition will cause you any problems. Having a previous petition doesn't mean a second petition will be difficult. But if the filing of the two are close in time, you'll have more questions asked of you. The closer the two petitions were filed the more evidence of a genuine relationship you'll need to include.

Send what you've gathered up to this point tomorrow. And then continue to gather other evidence until you have an interview or are approved for a 10 year card. I think knowing it's been submitted on time would be worth the risk of a possible RFE for more evidence later. Plus the sooner you get it in the better chance you'll have the NOA1 before your current card expires. Otherwise your employment will be effected for lack of legal status (but hopefully only for a couple days).

What Penguin was asking was how long ago did your ex fiancé cancel the first petition? How long ago did you break up with your first fiancé? How long have you been with your current fiancé and how much face to face time have you and your current fiancé had together? Because the answer to those questions will determine if that first petition will cause you any problems. Having a previous petition doesn't mean a second petition will be difficult. But if the filing of the two are close in time, you'll have more questions asked of you. The closer the two petitions were filed the more evidence of a genuine relationship you'll need to include.

We went through some rough patches mostly caused by me (USC). My husband has been very patient and understanding but I'd get tired of being the one who had to do whatever because he didn't know the culture, or his language skills weren't quite good enough to do it alone, or pay for everything because he couldn't work, or grocery shop because he didn't want to buy the wrong things, or drive everywhere because he didn't have a license. The more independent he's become the happier we are. He's more confident and I don't feel like everything's on my shoulders. I guess you could say we're truly equals now. We also went back to his country to visit and it was good for me to be reminded of all his strengths. It helped to restore his confidence and to restore my confidence in him. It made me think of all the struggles I would have had if I'd moved there instead of him moving here. So I gained back some patience in the fact that he's still adjusting. And it made me appreciate all the things that he'd has had to relearn since coming to America.
You're not alone in your struggles. You married a great person. Their personality hasn't changed and they're the one you fell in love with. There's just some major differences in your relationship. You're the one who's got to go to work where as before you were probably fairly stress free and on vacation when around them. They're stressed because of all the things they have to learn, all the things they used to be able to do but can't right now, they're bored or lonely since they have a very limited social circle, and/or because they feel like a burden to you. And you're stressed because you are trying to help them with all the things they're stressed about plus all the things that stressed you before they arrived. But trust me, it does get better. Find a good friend or see a counselor and get yourself some support.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

While no one can tell you what they're looking for, I'd recommend sitting down with your wife and going over the interview as precisely as possible. They might have focused their time on one particular topic that you would want to be sure you and your wife are on the same page for. But most likely they want to know if your relationship is real which means that you'll be asked questions to see if your answers match hers.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.

You have an ongoing investigation for fraud and you think that USCIS should have focused primarily on your marriage? Even though there are ways for Americans to bring loved ones to the country, the USCIS is more concerned about what's good for the nation than for keeping that citizen happy. So if they are concerned that you are going to be a bad resident due to an ongoing investigation than that will be their focus. In addition if they believe you're involved in one fraud, it would be a natural assumption that you wouldn't feel bad committing immigration fraud as well. Have you consulted a criminal attorney about the criminal investigation? If you have, be sure to tell them what you said. I would assume that your statements would be admissible in court. And the next time you get called to USCIS for an interview, take a lawyer.