daviddelen

For K1visa, from application to visa approval may take up to 8 months. Not two years as you have mentioned. The Jakarta consulate is not a busy embassy, that is good news. However, you need to be able to have proof of income during the K1 interview she's attending. From what I understand the consulate accepts co-sponsor.However, adjustment of status requires $1,070 that being said it is better for you to get a permanent job and safe some money until she is here. Skype and facetime are very useful tools to connect, it will be gruelling but nothing lasts forever This I experienced first hand.
If you have any more question regarding the process or the consulate, feel free to message me. Otherwise this forum is an excellent one to help you gauge timeframes and procedures. Good luck
Blooms

1. the length of processing has little to do with whether or not they approve or deny a petition, and more to do with the workloads of the various USCIS service centers. for some, a decision (approval or denial) will be made in 3 weeks, for others, 6 months.
2. getting the I-129F petition approved is generally pretty easy - both of you have to be legally free and able to marry at the time of filing, and have met in person at least once in the two years prior to filing the petition. if for some reason you did not provide evidence of those two things (or if you missed something out on the forms), it is more likely that they will send you a request for further evidence, rather than outright deny you.
so, here is my question - if you are unable to get a permanent job in the US, are you sure that living in the US with a new wife who will be wholly dependent on you for a good number of months before she is able to work, drive, etc is the right decision for you? (no judgment from me either way, i am just curious as you seem more intent on returning to indonesia). personally, i would focus on getting things ready for your other half while the petition is pending - stuff like finding a job, place to live, etc - especially since you've been away from US soil for 5 years.

Might be an idea to wait and see?

Here is a link that has attorney's addressing your particular issue.
http://www.lawqa.com/qa/if-i-got-married-in-philippines-annulment-necessary-to-get-married-again
I couldn't agree more with the other posters statement about Cherry Blossoms. I was burned there, too. It's certainly a dangerous place to look for a wife. You sound like a great guy. I hope things work out for you.

Did you ask the agents to show ID they were LEOs? If not, don't let anyone in your house without proper identification.
If they were from ICE/USCIS you have nothing to worry about. It was must a routing visit.

I think it is naive to naive to think that just because you have a genuine relationship a Stokes interview is not a problem. The CO has complete authority to decide your case and they can make mistakes just like any person. It's like saying nobody has ever been wrongly imprisoned.

This is reckless advice. In the face of a Stokes interview, there is everything to worry about. "Real" couples have no immunity against the CO's absolute power.
To the OP: Germany is not known as a high-fraud consulate. However, if a Stokes interview is demanded, the beneficiary might be given a 221g at her interview, and your presence can be demanded at a second one (the Stokes).
There are no drawbacks whatsoever to the petitioner's being on the consular premises (or within physical shouting distance of them) when the beneficiary is being interviewed.

I think it is naive to naive to think that just because you have a genuine relationship a Stokes interview is not a problem. The CO has complete authority to decide your case and they can make mistakes just like any person. It's like saying nobody has ever been wrongly imprisoned.

I think it is naive to naive to think that just because you have a genuine relationship a Stokes interview is not a problem. The CO has complete authority to decide your case and they can make mistakes just like any person. It's like saying nobody has ever been wrongly imprisoned.

I believe that is "Stokes" interview.

First- No 864, no immigration. Period.
If your dad hasnt signed it, or if he does sign it and you receive it and destroy it instead of submitting it to them- then your wifes immigration is at a halt. Until they have an 864 that meets the criteria- no visa.
As for your personal issues. Clearly you must see you and your wife are NOT compatible. People can come along and post all kinds of 'helpful
posts explaining her behavior or encouraging you to stick it out, but the bottom line is sometimes people are just not compatible.
You want a wife who will behave a certain way- due to her emotional trauma/history- she is not it. You state youd be fine with her if she actively sought therapy and took heavy meds. She has no interest in doing such. Just like you cant force a square peg into a round hole, you cant make your wife be the woman you want her to be. You have to accept her for who she is- problems and all and you dont. So---incompatible.
IMO you should NOT present the 864 to the consulate. Advise them that you are no longer intending to immigrate as you will be divorcing. Then file for divorce and move on.

She doesn't respect you, she doesn't accept responsibility for her own actions, she doesn't listen to what you'd like and takes offense, etc....
This is the dating stage when people are normally at their best behavior, what do you expect it will be like when she's no longer at her best behavior?

That girl is trouble. If you are going to marry it should be because you love each other unquestionably or you both mutually benefit and agree to a relationship that starts without love but will hopefully include it at some point.
You should not get married to someone who is so obviously looking for a greencard that it isn't even funny. You will be the one stuck with being divorced with a psycho ex-wife, maybe some alimony and child support payments, etc. Marriage is like a lifetime commitment to drama with someone like that.

If you think it is bad now it will be a thousand times worse if you marry.

None of us here are experts on relationships........thats kind of a personal thing you have to work thru on your own..........with that being said with the information you have provided if i was in your shoes i would run fast in the opposite direction.....the school of hard knocks has taught me love dont cure everything and if there are issues big enough to make you doubt the feelings and dedication to you from your partner chances are that you should just move on
sara

Yes people have been in this situation before its called " FRAUD", but most of them get out of the situation by not marring, calling USCIS, ICE and reporting it. This is a HOT mess, like others stated but i will be very frank with you. You are a mark , i can tell from what ur saying that you are his next mark, he has an unborn child coming into the world and " YOu" want to marry him, he slept with someone got them pregnant and left them because he couldnt get along with them hummmmmm now this is a up standing man and he has done this 2 times. You know he is has major problems lying being the top one followed by DMV and you still want to marrying him. Girl wake up you are a MARK, this will destroy you if you marry.

No matter what you think he will say, you need to tell him you will return to his country. It is my very strong feeling he will not want to do that. I also fear that you are being taken for a ride. It won't help him, because he will be deported, and this could potentially mess your life up in a major way.

Chances are slim to none. He married a US citizen, obtained a conditional green card, was denied a permanent green card due to the relationship not being real, has a child with another woman, meets you and want to get married after he is placed in deportation proceedings while having a pregnant girlfriend who can't get him a green card.

He was charged with domestic violence, he is in removal proceedings, he wants to lie to Immigration, you are dating just two months, girl you should think ten times before getting married to someone so messy.
I doubt his AOS will be approved,since the Law prohibits aliens in removal proceeding to adjust status, unless the removal is terminated or an "exemption is submitted and approved,and the chance to have the AOS approved is almost non existent.
Today I was contacted by someone that had last week the AOS denied ,because her husband got married when in removal proceedings.Here is part of the denial,and I saw many decisions like this one here.This couple is married 5 years.
"A review of your file revealed that you married xxxx , while you were in deportation, exclusion, removal, or judicial proceedings. Therefore, the petition is deniable under section 2 04(g) of the Act unless proceedings have been terminated, or you request a bona fide marriage exemption and demonstrate through clear and convincing evidence that your marriage was entered into in good faith and not to circumvent immigration laws. Section 245(e) of the Act provides:Restriction on adjustment of status based on marriages entered while in admissibility or deportation proceedings; bona fide marriage exception. - ( 1) Except as provided in paragraph (3), an alien who is seeking to receive an immigrant visa on the basis of a marriage which was entered into during the period described in paragraph (2) may not have the alien's status adjusted under subsection (a). (2) The period described in this paragraph is the period during which administrative or judicial proceedings are pending regarding the alien's right to be admitted or remain in the United States. (3) Paragraph (I) and section 204(g) shall not apply with respect to a marriage if the alien establishes by clear and convincing evidence to the satisfaction of the that the marriage was entered into in good faith and in accordance with the laws of the place where the marriage took place and the marriage was not entered into for the purpose of procuring the ·alien's admission as an immigrant.

So than you have already married him than? Yo keep saying your marriage?
But he didn't marry the mother of the children so that's a none issue when they parted. And honestly it looks suspect why he didn't marry her. Was it because she was not a citizen and couldn't help him get a green card? See how this gets more and more gray and suspect.

He will donate all his properties to charity. You will not receive a dime, well you will get your greencard eventually so it is good for you.
Another troller.

restraining orders really don't work with the paranoid schizophrenics. Its more likely to make them more agitated and feel the need to do something than to make them understand they need to stay away from someone. I had a family member who suffered from this mental illness, words can't really begin to describe how irrational their behavior can be.

The conventional wisdom is appealing the decision takes much longer and costs more than re-applying. You just need to over come the reason they denied you in the first place. Also an appeal can only succeed if you can prove the denial was improperly given. With you saying they'll just deny again if you re-apply, I have a feeling you know there is something wrong you didn't overcome in the original petition.

It's kind of a moot point.....because her diabolical plan is to use her current husband to gain her US citizenship and then throw him away like a piece of trash.
Then she no longer falls under the laws of the Philippines.........and off she goes.

Your kids miss their dad? You want to be with him? Go back to the Philippines.
Problem solved, you're welcome.