meadowzephyr

You are mistaking an IMBRA waiver (which is a short letter, as you describe) with a waiver of inadmissibility (which is not a short letter but is an I-601 or I-212 waiver form in its own right).

I hope your correct Theresa...thak you for your reply..you have singlehandidly lowered my blood pressure 50 points.

Let me guess...he said using his services would speed up your case?
You got robbed. How do I know? Because I would not do YOUR I-129f for $300. Considering what they must do and gather and fill out anf follow up with people that think they need an update every 5 hours, then I would charge a lot more than $300. Divide $300 by the hours needed. And I'm cheap. If, on the other hand, my intent were to rob you, I would offer you a price too good to be true (you've heard that before right?) take your money and run.
This is not a diffiult process and you have found VJ. Do it yourself
Presumeably you have a COPY of everything that was prepared, just print it out and sign it, send it in with a new fee and write it off to "edcuation and training" Education is expensive, count this a 3 credit hours of immigration class and you got a pretty good deal. Before it is over, $640 is barely a blip on the radar anayway.

Some countrys have cultures that require a wedding ceremony be held before a marriage happens.
Some embassys ask to see this and if its not been done people are denied K-1 visas because they did not follow the norm cultural practice.
As long as the OP is clear that it is a cultural wedding ceremony and they did not marry they should be fine. If it is not the norm or they wore white wedding type attire and everything looks very wedding like then it can pose a red flag and make things difficult for the OP.

Fire your attorney, they are just milking your for money. There is no way she can obtain asylum from France. When you say they won't let you get married I assume you are talking about the corrections facility she is in will not give permission for the marriage.
Let's break down the relevant issues. She came on the VWP and got married. She left the country (returning to France where she is fearful for her life) and returned to the US again on the VWP. She filed for AOS but missed her appointment because her vacation was more important than living legally in the US. She divorced. She met you. She was picked up by ICE (because of some domestic violence issue?) and is being detained. She has filed a frivolous asylum claim in an attempt to remain incarcerated for a longer period of time waiting for her asylum request to be denied so she can be removed from the US.
She needs to just ask for a voluntary departure now and hope you can file for her and obtain a waiver for her overstay.

I've crossed the border thousands of times (literally) as I am a dual citizen and one thing I learned is that different CBP agents have different tactics to see how you react. Some of them act like the officer you talked about and other times they try to act buddy-buddy and then turn answers against me. Some play dumb, some act like they don't care. In the end it always turns out okay even if it seems like they have been out to get me. They just have these weird tactics to try to work on people. I suspect everything will turn out okay and the officer was trying to make you uncomfortable on purpose to see how you would react. Some people under pressure like that will just give up or confess to something they have been hiding. Although it may see ridiculous to you, if the officer has seen it happen before then they know it works and that becomes their method. Anyway, just a though.
Good Luck!

First question, why can't you spend 90 days in the US? Your girlfriend is a tie to the US. If you are denied a tourist visa you lose the ability to use the VWP
good luck

VWP REQUIRES a return ticket to be used, so this person is lying to you.
They can ask the US government to deport them and Uncle Sam will pay for the ticket. If they are from a VWP country they should have CC cards they can use for emergencies.
This sounds like a NIGERIAN scam, are you sure it's not? There is a scam that someone gets into a friend's email and says they are stuck somewhere and need $$$ to get home. They have no friends in the world, etc, and need money from you!

Only you can make this decision. My advice is take time...as much as you need to figure things out. Hubby and I went through something similar when we were first married. It broke my heart. I yelled, I screamed, I cried. He got defensive and tried to turn the blame to me. BUT, after talking....really talking, after things calmed down, he realized how much damage he had done to our relationship. How much he had hurt me. He knew that if I stayed...things would have to change and that it would take me a VERY long time to trust him again. Is our relationship the same as it was when we first fell in love? No....but I would say its stronger and deeper. So it changed for the better after time.
It was really hard to trust hubby. Really hard. He made things easier though by giving me all his passwords for email, and phone. He completely stopped chatting online (he went astray online) and never ever complained if I asked him what he was up to online.
I've heard a leopard doesn't change its spots, once a cheater always a cheater....but I don't think its true. We're all human, we all make mistakes. Some of those mistakes are huge. But depending on the person, you learn from those mistakes. I love hubby and I know he loves me...and I thought WE deserved the chance to survive it. This was 6 years ago and our marriage is strong. Could I come back here in a few years and say he's done it again? I suppose I could, but so could anyone.....
Good luck and I wish you strength for whatever decision you make because whatever you decide it will be hard work.

Thanks for your reply. I will try to prove every facet of our relationship to the best of my ability. In our case, we met in person, I lived in her country, we spent nine months living together, and the last picture I took in Mongolia was the two of us at the airport. I think I have a pretty solid case. She doesn't even know what facebook is, doesn't have the internet, but we still talk on the phone and I can prove that. I think worrying is just the way that I can make the time pass and feel like I'm doing something while I wait for the people I love to join me. So long as the CO is willing to look at the case as any normal person would, there's nothing I can think of that would lead them to consider it a sham.
As for the money situation, my current salary is more than 125% of the poverty limit. However, I have not had this job for over a year, and my taxes will show much less (I was living in Mongolia, after all.) Therefore, I'll show pay stubs and a letter from my employer. I don't think it will be a problem.
The only issue is that our relationship could be viewed as unconventional. She is older than I am by 11.5 years and has four children. She doesn't speak English. I'm from an upper-middle class family and she is from a poor district in Ulaanbaatar. These are some of the things which made me love her, though, as it has turned her into a very mature, kind, drama-free, understanding person. I'd like to write such things so that the officer can understand why I would fall in love with this person as opposed to someone younger and well-educated, as most of the Americans who I know who had relationships with Mongolians do. I hope they have an open mind enough to realize that everyone looks for different things in a partner.

Going to school is permissible, as he is not living there but going to school. Many members do this as it is more cost effective, but as I understand it you do need to do a few things. Hopefully you can find some post from Gary and Alla or Gary finds this thread to help you out.

Not a requirement, but it probably helps. My fiancee didn't wear one, and she told the officer that we were waiting to buy a better quality ring in the US with better warranty terms.
Just a note though - even though I say it's not a requirement, you should check with other people that have gone through the same embassy as your future spouse is going to head to. There's some embassies out there that have crazy demands on proof of a relationship. Really, any question that you ask about the interview process should be directed at someone who has gone through it already at your specific embassy. You're just going to get a broad generalized answers here. It's unfortunate that the embassies sometimes work differently from others and not consistently everywhere in the world, but it does happen.

I already know USCIS does not accept electronic media. Perhaps you should read that thread again. Their photos were not on the CD. They had stacked loose photos in an envelope. The CD and photos were returned to them. They did not return only the CD.
"They returned my photos stacked together in a loose envelope and Facebook communication on a cd due to format incompatibility."
"I indeed put the passport photos in the plastic bag, but if they can't approve loose photos in an envelope, I don't understand why t would become acceptable for them if they are stacked inside a plastic bag?"

Yup, like the previous poster said, just make sure to chose a state that doesn't require too much in advance of the wedding. Some states require a certain amount of time between the marriage license and the wedding, some require other things to be done first. So just pick a location that makes it easy to get married as a tourist. Make sure to request a ton of copies of your marriage certificate afterwards. Between Canada's immigration process and anything you may need to accomplish in Panama (including someday if you have children and want to pass on your citizenships), you'll be burning through marriage certificates all the time.

I understand how you feel. I am from a very rural area in Vietnam. When I first came to America, I was scared of everything. My husband's family was nice and took turn to take me to work because I did not know how to drive. I failed driving test many times and it was very frustrated. I felt so lonely in US and it was really hard to socialize with people because my English was not great. I did not understand jokes or stories that people were telling. I took English classes and a few months later I was lucky to pass the exam to go to the university. I had no idea how I did it. I went to school and felt extremely stressful because of language barrier and culture shock. Everything was new to me. I felt like I looked really stupid in front of people and they thought I had no common sense. I could not remember the street names or I felt too scare to go to the store to buy things....anyway, I was lucky to find a job and worked as a cashier. I had to learn about the dollars. These little things seemed easy to everyone but I had to sit down and tried to figure the money out. I finally got it. People at my work laughed at me sometimes because I always looked so tense and nervous. I eventually passed the driving test, I started to feel comfortable at work, and my English improved quickly because I listened to lectures everyday at school and talked to customers at work daily. I have learned so much in 5 years since I came here. I promise you that things will get better and you will be more comfortable after a few years.

If lunch together is possible it is wonderful way to break up the day. I think we have missed 5 lunches together in 5 years. That little extra effort I made to get home every day has made our marriage much deeper and richer.
Tita and I talked about this prior to her coming here, it was hard for her then she started getting adjusted and she found a job she likes and made friends at church. She stays in touch with her family via the internet and calls her parents from time to time. She gardens, and recently we got a little train set that we both like.
I am hopeful you find something meaningful to pass your time.

We did have an infopass about an emergency parole and they said it didn't meet criteria. We also did push back his hearing 3 times but they couldn't move it further than two weeks. My husband is not a liar and we aren't stupid.

Read the USCIS instructions for form I-129F: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-129finstr.pdf
It will explain all in details.
The VJ guide is a summary checklist of what your US fiance needs to include in his petition package.

Actually I HAVE found the GUIDE section, but it lists 3 "documents" links I need for K1 Visa......where we have never done this before, it is quite confusing, as to EXACTLY (since we want it done properly)which documents they want for the initial application....I realize us NEWBIES must be a bother to you old hands...if that is the case perhaps you should ignore the bothersome posts and move on

How far can you travel ? Can you go on a train or boat ? Can you travel at all in a plane ? I would start looking at other places a Nigerian can travel without a visa ( there aren't a lot ) and see if they are in your ability to get there. THe list I find is below
The easiest way to list all the countries you may visit visa free is to split them into continents. In the Americas you may access Barbados for six months, Dominica for 21 days, Grenada, Haiti, Saint Kitts and Nevis for three months and Turks and Caicos Islands for 30 days.
In Asia you can freely arrive in the following countries to which you will then be issued with a visa once in the country. In Azerbaijan, Cambodia, Laos, Macau and Timor-Leste you are granted with a 30 day visa. In Bangladesh you are granted a 90 day visa.
In Europe you may visit Kosovo for 90 days. In Oceania you may access Micronesia, Nauru, Niue, Vanuatu and Palau for 30 days, Cook Islands for 31 days, Tuvalu for one month, Samoa for 60 days and Fiji for fourmonths.
In Africa Nigerian passport holders can visit the following countries visa-free; Benin, Burkina Faso, Cape Verde, Cameroon, Chad, Ivory Coast, Ghana, Gambia, Guinea, Liberia, Mali, Mauritania, Niger and Senegal.

I'm sad that so many VisaJourney members are so badly informed about US immigration law when it comes to inadmissibility. Yes, you have now incurred the 10-year ban under INA 212(a)(9)(B), but there IS a waiver available through your dad, even if he's only a permanent resident and not US citizen. Let's look at the law, shall we? Always a good thing to try if you're going to tell someone their legal options and start suggesting "giving up" for the next 10 years.

In other words, you're banned for 10 years, the time when you were under 18 didn't count but since you spent 2 more years in the US after that, the ban applies all the same. However, if your father can file a complete packet demonstrating the hardship he would experience if you were banned for 10 years, you have a chance at a visa. Things to do RIGHT NOW:
1) Talk to a lawyer. Any of the three linked in my signature are good, trustworthy choices who know their stuff and would have a good idea if you have a shot at a visa.
2) Join immigrate2us.net. These kinds of situations are common knowledge around there and you can get a lot of good, informed advice from people familiar with the law as it applies to people in your situation.
Your presence in the US not only can be detected by officials through any means they want, but actually, it was supposed to have been specified on documents filed up to this point, and I would be concerned about submitting any DS-230 or other paperwork that fails to acknowledge your unlawful presence in the US, as it could be (rightfully) construed as misrepresentation for the purpose of attempting to et a visa. Also talk to one of those lawyers about how to correct this situation if you have filed paperwork that didn't mention your presence in the US.
Also, I highlighted the section of the law that states that the ban began WHEN YOU LEFT THE US, not when you attend the interview. Please, VisaJourney members, try to familiarize yourself with the law you're referring to before you tell people legal information. Immigration is a complex area of law, and the fact that this is a DIY site is awesome, but we've got to avoid blatant misinformation, too, or the quality of this site is diminished!
You're in a rough situation, but this isn't the end. There is hope. Good luck!

I've been FB-free over 2 years already and absolutely LOVE it that way. My true friends are ones that I actually connect with, be it in person or on skype (distant lands). A whole new world opens to you when you start living for yourself and stop seeking others' approval and acceptance for your little personal reality show.

Well...
I've deleted my FB and have been "deactivated" for more than 1 year now. I couldn't be happier! I had that addictive need to attend to FB'ing. Then it hit me, why is the owner a BILLIONAIRE. IF he wanted us to be on FB, we SHOULD be paid to be FBooking, JUST as a journalist is paid to post news. Make NO darn sense!
I do miss the old days of "sharing/chatting/chewing the fat".
It's a matter of perception.
Three people at my workforce have been fired for posting photos that MY boss deemed inappropriate even it was during their off hours.
I am NOT going to lose my job over FB. There are parts of MY life I don't want to air out my laundry or for the world to see.
It's not easy to part from FB, but there's a whole 'nutter world out there to be explored.
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I agree! Even if it is deleted if they wanted it they could find it.

Ah - just noticed you are adjusting from the VWP/tourist visa.
This might explain the lawyer's concerns - at any point on Facebook for either of you did you mention intending to stay BEFORE the non-USC arrived in the US. Did any friends or family send messages talking about it etc.
The lawyer might be worried that there is something which shows intent to immigrate before arrival. Only you can know for sure whether there might be something - deactivating might be a good compromise.