shelly-bug

I hope you get denied. This is our immigration process no matter if you think it is unfair or obsoletr it is ours. Also how does the U.S. disrespect your country's sovereignty? If you think the country you are trying to immigrate to is so bad then stay at home in your own country.

U did not specify that you were speaking of the USCIS website vs the ELIS website. U simply said from the introduction of the GC fee. Furthermore, I can't speak for anyone else, but no one cares who starts a thread, everyone is here for information and to share experiences...i simply did that.

Wow! Can't believe my husband's visa was issued today and his interview was Friday. I guess Jamaica is on the roll! One week from today is my birthday and this has truly been the BEST early birthday gift.

I don't think so, they're worrying about me working illegally (which I'm not) when what I wanted to know was amounts, for example someone who could tell me "I pay about 80 dollars a month for electricity in an apartment for 2".
But thanks anyway.

I opened up an account on a visitors visa so I would think that you should be fine.

It's all about attitude and perspective. Look at what some are saying that left Amazon. The same almost exact words. Who knows. We could be at the same place but because I get along with about everyone it may be great and I love it while others think its the pit of hell.
Personnel isnt the issue at NVC it's policy. They don;t know how to update and implement anything effectively. I am a Software Test Engineer. And when we have a release to our client updating their software applications if we were as ineffective as NVC we would be out of business. The sad thing is we are the customers and have no recourse. I mean NVC fails what do we do.
All I can ask everyone to do is email, and or call the Director of NVC now. Just the people on this thread calling and making some noise can be something.
Also why not get on the phone and start calling your Senators and congressman. Lets find out what is really going on at NVC. No offense LPR folk but citizens should be first in line. This is bogus and waiting 2,3 4 months is nonsense when clearly every embassy is scheduling F1A's and K1's well they never have delay do they! . Infact why is that K1's seem to get preferential treatment. But I digress.

Obviously everyone should be extremely cautious when choosing their partner, regardless of country or age, etc, but here are a few of my observations after having been around dozens of Fil-Am relationships and “couples groups” across several years. There are always exceptions, but logic dictates that you WILL be part of the rule, and not the exception. ZERO offense is meant to anybody. I only hope to inform and setup reasonable expectations for new couples and soon to be newly weds.
I met my wife while I was living in the Philippines. I was in Asia for business for a few years. I had an extreme luxury compared to many other guys that I’ve met because I had the chance to really get to know her before marrying her and bringing her to the USA. She had a very good family with a conservative upbringing and influence from her parents and other elder relatives. She’d never had a drink or been in a club until my corruption of her began. She was 21 and I was 31 when we met.
When we moved to the USA we quickly got caught up in the Fil-Am couples culture. And let me tell you, it is quite a culture. There are many great benefits and serious flaws with these groups. Here is some insight into these groups.
There are large, elaborate parties planned every week. If your “home group” doesn’t have one, then another group nearby will have one. At these parties the guys are usually sitting around, drinking beer, and watching some rather boring TV. The guy’s average age is probably around 55 years. The girls, average age of 24, will be in another room speaking whichever Filipino dialect that they speak. They’ll be doing shots, playing bizzare sexually themed party games, and screaming louder every 30 second than you’ve ever heard before. The food will be Filipino every time. The guys and girls equally have nothing and everything in common at the same time.
That’s where your ability to observe their social life ends. After these parties, everything goes into the underground world of Facebook, Instagram, FB messenger, Wechat, etc. Your wife will LIVE on her smartphone. She will live for private messages, selfies, group chats, and Facebook statuses.
You’ll want to give privacy to her, and if you do that, you’ll have no clue whatsoever what she’s up to. If you try to translate it you’ll fail because of their shorthand, it incomprehensible to any automated translation system. And that’s if it’s Tagalog. If it’s Visaya or Ilocana, etc, you’re just screwed. You will be able to, however, see that a lot of the people she is speaking to are 20 year old Filipino guys.
Is it starting to sound like I’m bitter? I’m not, because my wife does not do any of this. What I do have though is a front row, insiders seat to what all her “friends” are up to. And what they are up to is no good. No good at all.
They are very sophisticated phone users. If she doesn’t want you to find her secrets, you won’t. They have ridiculous “sleep overs” very frequently where they head to the local club or bar and stumble home at 5am. They sleep with all kinds of guys, here in the USA, or ex boyfriends when they go home for a visit. They’ll give their night shift manager at their minimum wage job sexual favors just to spice things up.
Often times because of pride and the desire to“one-up” each other, they’ll sleep with / mess around with the other guys in the group. (their “friend’s” hubands) They’ll start flirting, messaging, coming onto the younger guys in these groups. They’re more of a “prize” and the younger guys tend to use these tech tools with more familiarity than their older counterparts.
Last night at 2am I was invited by two of the four girls having an impromptu pool party. They didn’t invite my wife because she’s fallen out of favor with them this month. I think they were already drunk enough to imagine that I’d go there without her. They would have likely wanted a threesome, hoping to get a pic or two for future bragging rights or leverage, whatever is needed at the time.
Countless times I’ve been the direct target of many, many, many of these different girls revenge plots, thrill seeking, or boredom solving schemes. I think I have unsolicited topless/naked selfies of around half of the girls that we associate with.
Because I actually go to the clubs and bars with my wife and often times her “friends”, I get to hear their drunken rants about how much they miss home. How controlling their husbands are. How they’ll just stay until they have citizenship. After that they’ll get a decent job, save up, and then move “home”.
They really do love and care about their husbands. Sometimes enough to cry about their horrible behavior, but not enough to actually quit all of this fun.
I also get to hear all the stories about the affairs that they had while engaged but not able to come to the USA until the K1’s are approved.
Most of these girls actually hate each other. It’s a lot of what we all saw in Jr High School. It is full on Mean Girls. They are extremely cliquish and will banish, shame, ignore, and embarrass a girl if she doesn’t uphold their needs for popularity and beauty.
These groups work hard to have the largest most popular group possible. The smaller the group, the less powerful and cool they feel. When the invitations stop coming your way, you’ve been fazed out. We’ve been through so many groups, iterations of the same groups with the key players revolving around, alliances shifting, and grudges spring up.
Husbands, who usually desire a peaceful relationship that is free from drama will try their best to be supportive of these new immigrants. They know their wives don’t have family or friends, so you want to help them enjoy a social life and give them the privacy and respect that anybody seeks.
At some point a lot of these women will realize you don’t have half as much money as they had fanaticized about when they met you. They realize that you really are 10,20,30,40 years older than them. They realize that they get a sh*t ton of attention when they all go to the club together, and these are young foreigners, just like their friends in PH are seeing in the movies. Their friend’s opinion is everything.
A lot of these ideas/issues don’t even exist when you first meet. People change A LOT in their 20’s. They figure out who they are, what they want, what their strengths and weakness are. Before coming to the USA their options are so limited, that you are likely their very best option. Once they naturally mature and experience more of life they see how many options they really have. They further recognize the power of their beauty and sexuality. If they can get some spousal or child support from you, then they’re really getting setup. Especially if paring that with a blue USA passport.
This statistic with be complete BS, but I’ll throw my guess out there anyway. I’d expect that these bad relationship account for around 60% of the whole. Probably 20% are quite good, and the other 20% are somewhere in between. One common link in these statistics? The larger the age gap, the worse the loyalty is. The really big trouble seems to start when the girls are in their 20’s and the guys are 60+. Oh, and the plainer looking girls seem to just really want a stable husband and family… The one wearing the $500+ Versace dress that you bought her isn’t too worried about impressing you anymore.
If you fall into one of the above trouble groups, please just use caution. You might be lucky, but you are probably not.

Hey. . Just a suggestion. . Don't throw stones... lol.. Could Canadians start their own thread? #WhistlingAway!

Jamaica his not a high fraud visa country.OP, you have a lot of redflags. You have stated that bcuz of surgery u have no feeling there, so you can have that verified by a medical proffessional and give a written statement to USCIS this is also one of the reason that you and an elderly make a match when he files for a k-1 or a CR-1 (Best). I wouldnt advise getting married on a tourist visa bcuz of ur redflags, AOS may end up getting deny.
age is just a number and love have no limit

hahaha! yes speaking to a supervisor really helps... i hounded one down all week and guess what FINALLY my case has been complete!!!!
if anyone wants to know the name, go to Sylvia!! she knows what she is doing !

LOLLLLL! how did i know that people would be on here, blaming this woman for an individual's--WHO ABANDONED HER AND MISTREATED HER WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED--choice to suicide?
Viodoll, congrats on your citizenship and new life, I'm glad you finally are living the life you wanted to live. Sorry you had to endure abuse from your ex-husband.
p.s.: Viodoll, you don't have to explain yourself or ask permission on how to feel from ANYONE. i'm noticing a lot of misogynist 'personalities' on this board, so please take comments with a grain of salt.

First, congratulations to OP.
Second, I find many of the responses to be very rude to the OP. Re-reading her post, I don't see where she is insensitive in regards to the death of her husband. He was abusive, non-communicative, and abandoned her. She only related his behavior to her within her marriage. Even the man's father seems to support her views of his behavior. I don't see any evidence in her story to draw the conclusion that she married him for citizenship; in fact, just the opposite. She took some time away to give him space, called him while he was gone but he would not answer. Sounds like she was doing what she could to save the marriage until he became impossibly uncooperative.

Thank you, very much. I appreciate it.
Actually, a lot has happened since I posted this. Miss Swiss kicked him out after speaking with me. She and I have become friends, along with Miss Poland . We speak regularly and are all helping each other through it. The three of us are even making plans to meet up for a vacation later this year! Haha Funny how things work out.

I would not only be sure to notify the US Embassy, ICE, NVC, etc... - I would also do my research and notify the Swiss embassy - send them the full story and proof - copies of what he sent you with their pictures, his visa, etc... - and copies of all of your filings - Let them revoke his visa. These are the no good low lifes who hurt the process for others -
I am so sorry for what you are going through, and know it hurts - but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and you are better off without him -

My husband hates this site. he is the US Citizen. Thinks it's too negative and drama filled. Hates it when he sees me on it. I like reading this board because it's like watching daytime television. Also tells me what not to do.

People are free to post or not post as they choose. Avoid insulting each other's replies -- there are more diplomatic ways to disagree with someone's comments or proposed solutions. Report any violations of the VJ Terms of Service (review those first, before reporting). Read the OP's words and topic accurately, interpret them literally, and respond on-topic.
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hi,
nope not for immigration purposes,
they would have to been legally married before your 18th birthday, since you need to send a copy of their marriage certificate

Dude.
Get marry whenever. (Before or after getting your US citizenship.)
Get your US citizenship next month.
File to adjust her status as your wife AFTER you become a USC.
It's legal for a USC to file for a green card for his wife when she is in the US on another visa.

She is here now. She can simply get marry and adjust, the law allows it.
Previous trips are judged on the intent on those trips.
What a plan - date someone for several years before getting marry and adjust to live in the US.
Where is it illegal to have the intent to marry?
The intent to immigrate is irrelevant. Suggest you read Matter of Batista and Matter of Cavazos.

As a US citizen, you can file to adjust her wife's status.
Read the instructions for Form I-130 and I-485. You will need to file both.
Follow this Guide (ignore the K1-K3 bits): http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1k3aos
Follow this subforum; http://www.visajourney.com/forums/forum/130-adjustment-of-status-from-work-student-tourist-visas/
Best of luck.

She is already in the US. It's legal for her to adjust as the spouse of a US citizen.
Where is the fraud?

no we don't. George W ruined this country and we are still paying for it

You think the Republicans are going to change things?
They don't like immigrants at all. There isn't votes in helping engaged people bring in their foreign partners. The situation was as bad in the past under Republicans as Democrats and that isn't going to change. None of them care, don't fool yourself into thinking another guy is going to change things.

Get real, ICE isn't going to track anyone down. Don't scare her the last thing she has to worry about is ICE.

Thanks everyone for your kind words. I told my sister and she was very supportive and cried with me. I plan on telling mom and other family members over the weekend.
I am definitely not filing any paperwork. He called a few times today and I didn't answer the phone. I know I will be ok but right now I am still hurting.
thanks again for listening