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Another cautionary tale regarding typical Filipna-American relationships.

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Good Post and a lot of truth in what you posted.

I have seen so called "good girls" go bad once they get to USA, It tends to be the younger girls who hang around the wrong friends.

But overall you hit the nail on the head....

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Excellent post! Tell you what, I'm 27 and Im with a 29-yr old american. I was bashed a few times for being with a "young" american because they said they didn't have money while their nasty old farts have pension and whatnot (thehelldoIcare?) ridiculous, right? I always try to say i'm an independent girl who doesn't need to be with somebody to support my needs and my wants. It just happened that he's american and I'm filipino, no big deal. Those ignorant girls think that their way out of poverty is marrying "old foreigners" - the older the better because they say "it's closer to being dead, therefore it's sooner that they can get out of the relationship after getting what they really want." It is horrifying. To be quite honest, ever since I've been in the US, I never acquainted myself with my fellow filipinos just to stay away from trouble. This is America, speak in a language where everybody can understand you. I am not saying that all of the Filipinos are like that but I just really think there's no room for self-improvement if you surround yourself with Filipino friends, eat filipino food all the time, talk in your language... This is America and I am privileged to get to experience their culture and I am embracing it. I have not eaten any Filipino food since I got here. I weaned myself out of rice pretty easily.

So generally, as a filipino myself, i dont like hanging out with filipinos here since most of them are just really nosy about what's happening in your life. And I'm not like that. In actuality, i dont give a sht. Lol

Bravo though for this heads up. :)

I too am a young woman, 24 and my husband is an american, 28. And i agree to everything you have said. Back when I was still in the Philippines, there are a lot of Filipina women who were only focused on how much money these old foreigners (american, non-american) have and how much it would be of benefit to them. No emotional or love aspect contributing to these 60+ foreign men and 20 y/o women. A lot of factors may play in this situation. They might be poor when they grew up, did not have parents who raised them properly, or maybe they did not get good education. It's sad to see but they believe they are powerful, attractive etc when everybody around them (even if its just their filipino friends) praises and looks up to them.

I too, have chosen not to be acquainted with fellow filipinos as well and I am trying to contribute to the american society and embracing its culture. I've chosen to stay away from them and not be involved with people who talks about each other and tries to always bring fellow filipinos down like everything's a competition.


Our Relationship

10/31/2011 - met online
04/23/2012 - I traveled to the US
05/04/2012 - met personally in DC
06/17/2012 - I traveled back to the Philippines
11/09/2012 to 11/23/2012 - He traveled to the Philippines
02/18/2013 to 03/01/2013 - He traveled again to the Philippines
05/16/2013 to 05/26/2013 - His 3rd trip to the Philippines
09/20/2013 to 09/26/2013 - My 2nd trip to the US
03/27/2014 to 04/11/2014 - His 4th trip to the Philippines
10/22/2014 to 11/02/2014 - My 3rd trip to the US


K1 Journey

10/30/2014 - got engaged
11/12/2014 - I-129F sent to Dallas
11/18/2014 - received NOA1 email notification
12/1/2014 - electronic NOA2 notification
12/17/2014 - NVC Case Creation Date
12/23/2014 - Updated Status to "Ready"

01/14/2015 - Got our case# through NVC hotline
01/16/2015 - Paid Application for Interview
01/20/2015 - Booked Interview Appointment for February :D

02/10/2015 - to 02/11/2015 Medical - Passed!
02/25/2015 - Interview - APPROVED!
03/11/2015 - CEAC Issued
03/14/2015 - Visa and Packet on hand!
03/18/2015 - CFO seminar, sticker and certificate

04/22/2015 - POE Seattle

05/05/2015 - Got married!!

AOS Journey

06/29/2015 - AOS/EAD/AP Packet mailed through USPS

07/01/2015- USPS: Delivered

07/09/2015 - USCIS text notification: CASE was RECEIVED AOS EAD and AP

07/14/2015 - Received Biometrics Appointment Letter

07/29/2015 - Biometrics done

08/07/2015 - USCIS My case Status: CASE ready to be scheduled for interview


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Needs to be a stickie.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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The 4 M's !! Every Pinay knows what those are, so if you are curious, just ask your wife. ;):lol:

And yes, marrying too young of a Filipina is an issue. I know of lots of age gap marriages that work and the couple is very happy, but the Filipina is old enough to have "life experience"

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Matandang Mayaman Madaling Mamatay


Hank

"Chance Favors The Prepared Mind"

 

      HandArrow.gif.adeb854ba620933849ae921ca0b44a0c.gif  Link to the Visa Process for Manila Embassy once you have your NOA2 : Click Here

 

Contact Hank: HERE

K-1 visa approved 21 March 2012

...Citizenship... complete!

 

 

 

 

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I need to share this post to my fiance since he has been encouraging me to join these groups. Thank you for the info :)


K1 VISA :)
02-25-2015: I-129f sent
03-03-2015: NOA1
03-25-2015: NOA2
04-29-2015: Medical (passed)
05-18-2015: Interview (approved) yay!
05-21-2015: Issued! ?
06-25-2015: US entry

AOS
09-16-2015: Sent AOS, EAD and AP packets
09-22-2015: NOA

10-15-2015: Biometrics

11-20-2015: EAD and AP approval

12-21-2015: Interview

12-30-2015: AOS approval :)

 

ROC

11-02-2017: I-751 sent

11-07-2017: NOA1

11-30-2017: Biometrics

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I need to share this post to my fiance since he has been encouraging me to join these groups. Thank you for the info :)

My fiancee wouldn't believe this if I showed her, she's clueless about some of the women that come out of here country. I, like OP, was lucky enough that we lived together overseas for a year and half, have been together 5 years now, and only have 3 years difference in age. I have zero hesitations with her, but who knows maybe in a few years I'll be on here telling my tale.

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My fiancee wouldn't believe this if I showed her, she's clueless about some of the women that come out of here country. I, like OP, was lucky enough that we lived together overseas for a year and half, have been together 5 years now, and only have 3 years difference in age. I have zero hesitations with her, but who knows maybe in a few years I'll be on here telling my tale.

Yeah it seems like taboo but i guess it really happens. Maybe us here in vj can have our own group instead :) hehe just a thought


K1 VISA :)
02-25-2015: I-129f sent
03-03-2015: NOA1
03-25-2015: NOA2
04-29-2015: Medical (passed)
05-18-2015: Interview (approved) yay!
05-21-2015: Issued! ?
06-25-2015: US entry

AOS
09-16-2015: Sent AOS, EAD and AP packets
09-22-2015: NOA

10-15-2015: Biometrics

11-20-2015: EAD and AP approval

12-21-2015: Interview

12-30-2015: AOS approval :)

 

ROC

11-02-2017: I-751 sent

11-07-2017: NOA1

11-30-2017: Biometrics

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Tragic. Will surely be cautious on the "friends" that I will have when I get there.


And all those things I didn't say

Wrecking balls inside my brain

I will scream them loud tonight

Can you hear my voice this time

- Fight Song by Rachel Platten

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Wow! Just wow for your post OP. Thank God, my fellow Pinay friend already quit the same group and i hope they will read this post. My friend met them here on VJ when she was still on K1. she always invites me to go with her when they have get together parties but i never say yes because i never liked parties eversince and i dont understand their dialect too ? (P.I. has 70 plus dialects ? )

Been here for 9 years and i only have 4 pinay friends the other 3 are on their 60s, 30 years my senior ?

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