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13 hours ago, carmel34 said:

I get that you're worried, waiting for the I-130 petition to be approved so that you can move on to the NVC stage.  You want to be with your husband, the love of your life.  We're all going through this and it's painful.  The waiting really sucks, and you start to wonder why it's taking so long....  Hang in there, you'll be approved soon.  TSC is taking at least 7-8 months.  Be grateful that you didn't get assigned to Nebraska!  Those people have been waiting almost a year for just the petition adjudication.  If your relationship is bona fide, your documents are all good, and there are no problems related to inadmissibility, your petition will be approved.  It's hard not to worry but try to focus on the next stage and get all the documents ready to upload as it goes so much faster after the petition is approved.  If you have any red flags like a big age gap then side-load additional evidence of your bona fide relationship like financial co-mingling and visits since filing the petition at the NVC stage.  It only took us 4 months from the petition approval to receiving the CR-1 visa, so before you know it, you'll be together.  Good luck!

I am in an age gap relationships 30years apart. He has visited twice, the second time we married.  

We are about to fill the 1-130 petation will the two visit be enough evidence. 

Any more evidence you would suggest?

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It would be helpful to know more about your situation.  Some countries it may play a bigger part in the scrutiny due to marriage fraud if the wife is older? I am older than my husband and have had a bumpy ride during our journey, could it be related to our age gap? I think so and the recommendations to me are to spend time together. I am sure others will chime in :)

 


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Age is as we say on VJ just a number.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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More face to face time always helps.   We are 26 years apart but married a year later with only 3 visits prior to marriage and then lived together before filing.


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  The big question is what is culturally normal ?   If  younger men marry old woman as the norm there you are OK.  If not then it is a red flag.  Most places older men marry younger woman so it isn't an issue.


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11 minutes ago, NigeriaorBust said:

  The big question is what is culturally normal ?   If  younger men marry old woman as the norm there you are OK.  If not then it is a red flag.  Most places older men marry younger woman so it isn't an issue.

IMO ........ I don't think that is many places, it is a worldwide epidemic of double standards;) 

(referring to the woman being older :))

 

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I think we must remember that what may be described as cultural norms do not hold true when we add Immigration into the mix.


“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

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My husband and I have a 27 year age gap and a relatively short long-distance relationship, so I was very concerned that our marriage would not be considered bona fide.  Plus he's from Brazil so I was worried that our case would be scrutinized every step of the way.  We were prepared for a denial with a plan B that I would move to Brazil.  Surprisingly, everything went very smoothly, the process was 11 months from filing the I-130 petition to CR-1 visa received in hand, most likely because of the many trips to be together (9) and all the evidence we submitted, described below.

 

Here's what we sent with the I-130 petition:

 

a few photos of each visit together, date stamped, from multiple visits over time (4 before filing petition)

four or five photos from the wedding, date stamped, some with family and friends

passport stamps, boarding passes, hotel receipts, restaurant receipts as evidence of these 4 visits

joint credit card account statements showing that we are already co-mingling finances

documents showing my Brazilian husband as my beneficiary on life insurance, retirement accounts, investment accounts

evidence of my husband's health insurance, dental insurance based on my US employer's plan

evidence of my husband as my emergency contact at work, statement that he is my husband on employer's HR website

wills and living wills

Christmas cards addressed to both of us at my US address

copies of cards and letters we have exchanged since the beginning of our relationship

wedding ring receipts

email logs, phone call logs, video call logs to show continuous daily communication

representative chat records (only a few pages of sample chats) from WhatsApp, Messenger

printout of our Facebook relationship with a few photos, comments from friends and family, words of congratulations on wedding day

affidavits from family members attesting to the nature of our relationship

brief statement of relationship history, how we met, how the relationship developed over time

 

We uploaded additional evidence of three more visits since filing the petition, at the NVC stage, and took more evidence from our 11-day trip to London and Paris together in April to the June 12 interview, but the CO did not even ask for it.  The interview was very quick and she said we were approved.  It was obvious from the questions that she had pretty much decided to approve the visa before the interview.  Two days later the visa was sent to my husband, and he received it a week after the interview.

 

I think the lesson learned from our case is that any relationship with red flags like an age gap or quick marriage after meeting (we married on my fourth trip to Brazil) can be overcome with time spent together and lots of evidence to support the relationship as bona fide.  Good luck!

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On 6/25/2019 at 8:02 AM, carmel34 said:

My husband and I have a 27 year age gap and a relatively short long-distance relationship, so I was very concerned that our marriage would not be considered bona fide.  Plus he's from Brazil so I was worried that our case would be scrutinized every step of the way.  We were prepared for a denial with a plan B that I would move to Brazil.  Surprisingly, everything went very smoothly, the process was 11 months from filing the I-130 petition to CR-1 visa received in hand, most likely because of the many trips to be together (9) and all the evidence we submitted, described below.

 

Here's what we sent with the I-130 petition:

 

a few photos of each visit together, date stamped, from multiple visits over time (4 before filing petition)

four or five photos from the wedding, date stamped, some with family and friends

passport stamps, boarding passes, hotel receipts, restaurant receipts as evidence of these 4 visits

joint credit card account statements showing that we are already co-mingling finances

documents showing my Brazilian husband as my beneficiary on life insurance, retirement accounts, investment accounts

evidence of my husband's health insurance, dental insurance based on my US employer's plan

evidence of my husband as my emergency contact at work, statement that he is my husband on employer's HR website

wills and living wills

Christmas cards addressed to both of us at my US address

copies of cards and letters we have exchanged since the beginning of our relationship

wedding ring receipts

email logs, phone call logs, video call logs to show continuous daily communication

representative chat records (only a few pages of sample chats) from WhatsApp, Messenger

printout of our Facebook relationship with a few photos, comments from friends and family, words of congratulations on wedding day

affidavits from family members attesting to the nature of our relationship

brief statement of relationship history, how we met, how the relationship developed over time

 

We uploaded additional evidence of three more visits since filing the petition, at the NVC stage, and took more evidence from our 11-day trip to London and Paris together in April to the June 12 interview, but the CO did not even ask for it.  The interview was very quick and she said we were approved.  It was obvious from the questions that she had pretty much decided to approve the visa before the interview.  Two days later the visa was sent to my husband, and he received it a week after the interview.

 

I think the lesson learned from our case is that any relationship with red flags like an age gap or quick marriage after meeting (we married on my fourth trip to Brazil) can be overcome with time spent together and lots of evidence to support the relationship as bona fide.  Good luck!

very helpful, thank you

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