Jump to content
Venus

Abuse K1 Prior to AOS

26 posts in this topic

Recommended Posts

I am inquiring for my sister.

 

We both brought men here around the same time from Dominican Republic. I have had all very smooth Husbands pretty great he arrived in September. AOS seems to be on track I submitted all before AOS increase.

 

She on the other hand has had a harder time.  She brought her fiancée from Jarabacoa.  He has been here a month, he has had the police called on him twice and last night he destroyed her entire house.  He hit her destroyed her cell phone and hit her 16 yr old daughter trying to grab her cell as well.  The police took him into custody and told her deport him.  She hasn't married him or took out the license they were doing that this week.  He cut himself tried to claim abuse.  The police took him with 2 time the legal limit (he was Drunk).

 

hes in county lock up right now with keys to her house what can she do? He has no family. no one. she doesn't want him in her home. Is she obligated to give him shelter? money food ect?

 

 


 

K1

March 2016 
POE
September 2016
AOS
November 2016

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

She hasn't married him so that is a good thing. It will be an easy seperation for her. She will not have any obligations. She just need to protect herself and her daughter. 

 

Since he was arrested for DV she can prevent him from returning to her home. Since they will not marry he has to return to the DR before the 90 days. If not he will be illegal. Unfortunately, your sister can't "deport"/ force him to leave the US. And by his actions it seems he will probably stay as an illegal.


“When starting an immigration journey, the best advice is to understand that sacrifices have to be made; whether it is time, money, or separation or a combination of any or all.” - NuestraUnion

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
55 minutes ago, Ben&Zian said:

Have her change all her locks on her house.

 

Call and talk to the police and file restraining order.

 

If need be present a one way ticket for him to go away forever.

 

She has not signed anything legally making her responsible to support him yet, so tell her to get rid of him quickly.

thank you we were not certain.  she is at work I will let her know.


 

K1

March 2016 
POE
September 2016
AOS
November 2016

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
49 minutes ago, NuestraUnion said:

She hasn't married him so that is a good thing. It will be an easy seperation for her. She will not have any obligations. She just need to protect herself and her daughter. 

 

Since he was arrested for DV she can prevent him from returning to her home. Since they will not marry he has to return to the DR before the 90 days. If not he will be illegal. Unfortunately, your sister can't "deport"/ force him to leave the US. And by his actions it seems he will probably stay as an illegal.

Ok thanks I don't think shes is as concerned with deporting him as to him making himself a presence in her home.  US having to support him since we brought im as he said. He spends all day drinking while shes at work.  He was very productive in DR but coming here nothing to do that is what he does.

 

my niece is very scared not to mention her father is upset.


 

K1

March 2016 
POE
September 2016
AOS
November 2016

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

For the immediate term, she just needs to protect herself. Get a restraining order. Change locks. Do whatever is necessary to keep him away from her. She has no obligation to him.

 

Once his 90 days are up and he stays, it wouldn't hurt to give USCIS a heads up that he's still there, not married to your sister (a requirement of his K1 visa), and with a DV arrest. At that point, he's an issue for immigration and the police to handle.


Timelines:

Spoiler

AOS (I-485 + I-131 + I-765):

9/25/17: sent forms to Chicago

9/27/17: received by USCIS

10/4/17: NOA1 electronic notification received

10/10/17: NOA1 hard copy received. Social Security card being issued in married name (3rd attempt!)

10/14/17: Biometrics appointment notice received

10/25/17: Biometrics

1/2/18: EAD + AP approved (no website update)

1/5/18: EAD + AP mailed

1/8/18: EAD + AP approval notice hardcopies received

1/10/18: EAD + AP received

9/5/18: Interview scheduled notice

10/17/18: Interview

?/?/18: Approved (hopefully)

 

K-1:

Spoiler

I-129F

12/1/17: sent

12/14/17: NOA1 hard copy received

3/10/17: RFE (IMB verification)

3/22/17: RFE response received

3/24/17: Approved!

3/30/17: NOA2 hard copy received

 

NVC

4/6/2017: Received

4/12/2017: Sent to Riyadh embassy

4/16/2017: Case received at Riyadh embassy

4/21/2017: Request case transfer to Manila, approved 4/24/2017

 

K-1

5/1/2017: Case received by Manila (1 week embassy transfer??? Lucky~)

7/13/2017: Interview: APPROVED!!!

7/19/2017: Visa in hand

8/15/2017: POE

 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
18 minutes ago, geowrian said:

For the immediate term, she just needs to protect herself. Get a restraining order. Change locks. Do whatever is necessary to keep him away from her. She has no obligation to him.

 

Once his 90 days are up and he stays, it wouldn't hurt to give USCIS a heads up that he's still there, not married to your sister (a requirement of his K1 visa), and with a DV arrest. At that point, he's an issue for immigration and the police to handle.

ok thanks his 90 days are up march 2, 2017 we printed his 194 yesterday to take to social security.

 

I will tell her I sont know if she is gonna forgive him since she bailed him out.


 

K1

March 2016 
POE
September 2016
AOS
November 2016

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
12 hours ago, Transborderwife said:

She cannot deport him, but she can provide info to uscis and get a restraining order 

No but ICE can. 

 

https://www.ice.gov/about

 

To the OP, follow the advice by Ash.1011 above but also let ICE know about the situation. 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

She needs to keep him away. If she lets him back in the house she may lose custody of her child. Her ex already knows what happened, it would not take much for her to lose her daughter. No man is worth losing a child. 

Edited by Ontarkie

Spoiler

Met Playing Everquest in 2005
Engaged 9-15-2006
K-1 & 4 K-2'S
Filed 05-09-07
Interview 03-12-08
Visa received 04-21-08
Entry 05-06-08
Married 06-21-08
AOS X5
Filed 07-08-08
Cards Received01-22-09
Roc X5
Filed 10-17-10
Cards Received02-22-11
Citizenship
Filed 10-17-11
Interview 01-12-12
Oath 06-29-12

Citizenship for older 2 boys

Filed 03/08/2014

NOA/fee waiver 03/19/2014

Biometrics 04/15/14

Interview 05/29/14

In line for Oath 06/20/14

Oath 09/19/2014 We are all done! All USC no more USCIS

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Why on earth did she bail him out ?

What about him being a danger to her and her child ?

 

He is NOT going to change.

 

Change locks, file restraining order and move on is what she needs to do instead of settling to be his punching bag.
I just don't get why she bailed him out. That's crazy.


Spoiler

 

I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

UPDATE: Aug 24, 2015, EAD card being produced/ordered. ( 102 days from AOS receipt day and 55 days from RFE response received.) Thank you Jesus !

Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

Renewal application send for EAD/AP : May 31,2016 (AOS pending over 1 year). Received June 2, 2016,Notice date June7, 2016, emails,texts, NOA1 hard copy

Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
Service request for pending AOS June 14, 2016, tier 2 said performing background checks.
Expedite request for EAD/AP Aug 3, 2016, Aug10 notification >request was received, assigned, completed. RFE letter requesting evidence for expedite, docs faxed Aug18

*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

Third Biometrics appointment letter received Aug 19, 2016 for Sept. 1, 2016. WTH ?!

EAD/AP (renewal) approval Aug 22, 2016, NOA2 received Aug 25, 2016

Renewal EAD in production notification text and online, expedite successful 4 days after RFE request response was faxed, Aug25mailed,Aug29received.

Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
Several service requests made, contacted Senator and Ombudsman. Background checks still pending.
July 21, 2017 HOME VISIT.  Went well. Topic thread in AOS forum.
Waiting to skip ROC and get 10 yr GC due to over 2 year while pending AOS
AOS APPROVED Oct. 4, 2017 * Green card in hand Oct 13, 2017 !!!!!

First K1 denied after 16 month of AP. Refiled. We are a couple since 2009. Not a sprint but a matter of endurance.

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
30 minutes ago, Ebunoluwa said:

Why on earth did she bail him out ?

What about him being a danger to her and her child ?

 

He is NOT going to change.

 

Change locks, file restraining order and move on is what she needs to do instead of settling to be his punching bag.
I just don't get why she bailed him out. That's crazy.



Some people either think that they aren't good enough for a "good" man or woman and believe that the abuser is the best they can have, either because of poor self-esteem they had to begin with, or conditioning from the abuser to believe that. Some also believe that the abuser can be changed for the better and that they're the person to do it. The whole "But I've seen a different side to them!"

The problem is in both situations, either believing that the abuser is all they will get in life so they might as well settle, and the "I can change them! I know they can be great people!" type, is that usually both are being manipulated by the abuser and don't know it. 

In the first, the abuser just manipulates them to believe that he's all they can get, in the second, the abuser will show a sweet good side and tell them how they're not that awful person, or that they can be a great person with their significant other, or that they can help or the cliche "being with you makes me want to be a better person" thing.

There's other situations in which she could feel the need to bail him out, but for the most part it's something with her that she's not realizing or getting. Love blinds people and can allow others to do HORRIBLE things (like hit your kid in this case), and then just brush it off as a fit of anger or too much to drink. Until she sees AND accepts him for who he truly is (Someone that literally comes into her home and in less than a month is hitting her and her kid), she'll probably never give up that hope he can be the husband she pictured.

It sucks but there are really people who just don't get it. They just don't see why others would say "Why did you bail him out?" because they think it's what they were suppose to do, or that they were truly that lost feeling with them gone that they -needed- them. A dependency like that, they'll have a hell of a time seeing anything wrong with it.

With that said, I truly hope she realizes that her and her daughter are both worth way more than she may think they are at this moment and I hope she realizes that by keeping him around, she could lose her daughter. There's a lot more relationships at stake than just her and her fiance, she could lose everyone by staying with him, and potentially her life as he sounds like a loose cannon..

Edited by Ash.1101

*More detailed timeline in profile!*
 
Relationship:     Friends since 2010, Together since 2013

The K-1 Process:    Done in 208 days                                               
 

Spoiler

04/27/15- NOA1 Recieved                                                    
06/02/15 - NOA2 Recieved
09/22/15 - Interview       (221g for more documents (a SECOND cosponsor), see profile for more details!)                                            
11/09/15 -  ISSUED!!                                                              
11/10/15 - Passport received                                                
02/20/16 - Wedding!              


                                                
 AOS   Done in 77 days                                                                            
 

Spoiler

04/08/16 - I-485, I-765, I-131 AOS Application recieved by USCIS
04/12/16 - 3 NOA1's received in mail
05/14/16 - Biometrics for AOS and EAD
06/27/16 - I-485 Case to changed to "New Card being produced"  (Day 77)
06/27/16 - I-485 Case changed to Approved! (Day 77)
06/30/16 - I-485 Case changed to "My Card has been mailed to me!"
07/05/16 - Green Card received in mail! 

 



ROC 

05/09/18 - Mailed out ROC to CSC

05/10/18 - CSC Signed and received ROC package
06/07/28 - NOA1 

06/11/18 - Check cashed

06/15/18 - NOA received in the mail
08/27/18 - 18 month extension recieved (Courtesy Copy)

09/18/18 - Request for official 18 month extension
 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
21 hours ago, Venus said:

I will tell her I sont know if she is gonna forgive him since she bailed him out.

For real? 

 

Please. For her own and her kid's safety, do not do anything to help him. It's one thing to hurt her, and another to hurt the kid. Either of the two is unacceptable. This guy is def bad news.


K1 Visa Timeline (4 months / September 2016 to January 2017):

Sept 23, 2016 - I-129F Packet sent to USCIS via USPS

Sept 28, 2016 - NOA1 email/text
October 5, 2016 - Received the written NOA1. 
October 28, 2016 - Received NOA2 via mail
November 17, 2016 - Called NVC and got case #
November 19, 2016 - Case status changed from At NVC to In Transit
November 26, 2016 - Case status changed from In Transit to Ready
December 22, 2016 - Packet 3 received. 
January 07, 2017 - Medical Exam, 8am - PASSED!
January 25, 2017 - Interview, 8am - APPROVED!!!
January 30, 2017 - Visa on Hand! 

Our K1 Visa Process on our blog: https://happilyhaberlafter.wordpress.com/2018/04/21/k1-visa-process/

 

AOS Timeline (4 months / April 2017 to August 2017):

April 11, 2017 - Dropped off packet at USPS
April 13, 2017 - Delivered at USCIS
April 22, 2017 - NOA1 via text and email received with case #s
April 27, 2017 - NOA1 Hardcopies received
May 6, 2017 - Biometrics Appointment Letter Received
May 18, 2017 - Biometrics done
June 1, 2017 - Case Ready to be Scheduled for Interview
July 21, 2017 - Interview is Scheduled for August 28

July 29, 2017 - EAD/AP Approved

August 4, 2017 - EAD/AP on Hand!

August 28, 2017 - AOS Interview, 1:15PM - APPROVED!!!!

September 14, 2017 - Greencard on Hand! 

Our AOS Process on our blog: https://happilyhaberlafter.wordpress.com/2018/05/13/adjustment-of-status-greencard-application/

                                                     SEE YOU IN 2 YEARS, USCIS! 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
 
Didn't find the answer you were looking for? Ask our VJ Immigration Lawyers.

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
- Back to Top -


Important Disclaimer: Please read carefully the Visajourney.com Terms of Service. If you do not agree to the Terms of Service you should not access or view any page (including this page) on VisaJourney.com. Answers and comments provided on Visajourney.com Forums are general information, and are not intended to substitute for informed professional medical, psychiatric, psychological, tax, legal, investment, accounting, or other professional advice. Visajourney.com does not endorse, and expressly disclaims liability for any product, manufacturer, distributor, service or service provider mentioned or any opinion expressed in answers or comments. VisaJourney.com does not condone immigration fraud in any way, shape or manner. VisaJourney.com recommends that if any member or user knows directly of someone involved in fraudulent or illegal activity, that they report such activity directly to the Department of Homeland Security, Immigration and Customs Enforcement. You can contact ICE via email at Immigration.Reply@dhs.gov or you can telephone ICE at 1-866-347-2423. All reported threads/posts containing reference to immigration fraud or illegal activities will be removed from this board. If you feel that you have found inappropriate content, please let us know by contacting us here with a url link to that content. Thank you.
×