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I am seeking advice on what to do next...

On 2/1/15 my alien spouse (he immigrated here from DR on 8/17/2014) called 911 and said I pushed him and broke his nose. (He had fallen on the icy sidewalk when trying to ignore me, turn and walk away from the argument we had been having. I never laid a hand on him. I am 5 foot 1, 100 pounds. He is 5 feet 11, 195 pounds.) He did opt to go to the ER by ambulance (attending EMT's told me to take him; 2 minutes from the house). I heard nothing for hours. At 4:30PM the hospital called and asked me to come and get him (only a scrape on his nose), the police said he was in no immediate danger of abuse, to return home and to call if something DID happen. He told the ER attendants he did not want to go home and was taken to a local hotel. I had tried to contact him several times. It had been snowing all day. He had no coat, no gloves, no boots, nothing. My husband has no license; no car; only a cell phone. He never responded. I considered contacting ICE.

Two days later I was served with a PFA order from the county court. I was scared to death because had he returned, I could have been evicted from my home. Both the sheriff's deputies and my attorney advised me to try to obtain my own to secure my home. It was granted. It seemed as though my husband had been told what to do, possibly from another immigrant friend, I do not know. I read stories about con artists from the DR. I had suspicions about his family (always felt entitled for me to pay for/buy everything; never saying "gracias"), but Lorenzo seemed different.

In the meantime legal documents from the courthouse, including a notice of summons (my PFA) had arrived in the mail at my home for him. Not wanting any more problems, I informed them that I was unaware of his whereabouts and not permitted to have that info. The court had NO OTHER ADDRESS either! On the day of the hearing he did show up, and both cases were dropped. So at the moment we are back to square one, where it most likely looks like abandonment.

At this juncture, I need to report to SOMEONE that he is not residing here. (I signed an AOS stating I would take responsibility for him.) He came here on a CR1, we hadn't been married 2 years (Anniversary 3/25/2013), so if I understand this correctly his conditions cannot be removed until April/May 2016.

I'll admit, things were difficult for us at times. Mainly because it was such a culture shock. I loved (and still do love despite him trying to destroy my life) him with all my heart. I wanted him to have a better life. I knew he missed his family (his son especially - financially it was not smart to begin the visa process for the little one at this time. We were waiting for my raise in September.), but I never thought he didn't love me. For the past 3 years I have spoken with him at least once a day. I haven't heard his voice since 2/1. I am hurting, I am angry, I am scared. I do not know how to proceed, but I know I need to let Immigration know what is going on.

Any/all advice is appreciated.

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I am seeking advice on what to do next...

On 2/1/15 my alien spouse (he immigrated here from DR on 8/17/2014) called 911 and said I pushed him and broke his nose. (He had fallen on the icy sidewalk when trying to ignore me, turn and walk away from the argument we had been having. I never laid a hand on him. I am 5 foot 1, 100 pounds. He is 5 feet 11, 195 pounds.) He did opt to go to the ER by ambulance (attending EMT's told me to take him; 2 minutes from the house). I heard nothing for hours. At 4:30PM the hospital called and asked me to come and get him (only a scrape on his nose), the police said he was in no immediate danger of abuse, to return home and to call if something DID happen. He told the ER attendants he did not want to go home and was taken to a local hotel. I had tried to contact him several times. It had been snowing all day. He had no coat, no gloves, no boots, nothing. My husband has no license; no car; only a cell phone. He never responded. I considered contacting ICE.

Two days later I was served with a PFA order from the county court. I was scared to death because had he returned, I could have been evicted from my home. Both the sheriff's deputies and my attorney advised me to try to obtain my own to secure my home. It was granted. It seemed as though my husband had been told what to do, possibly from another immigrant friend, I do not know. I read stories about con artists from the DR. I had suspicions about his family (always felt entitled for me to pay for/buy everything; never saying "gracias"), but Lorenzo seemed different.

In the meantime legal documents from the courthouse, including a notice of summons (my PFA) had arrived in the mail at my home for him. Not wanting any more problems, I informed them that I was unaware of his whereabouts and not permitted to have that info. The court had NO OTHER ADDRESS either! On the day of the hearing he did show up, and both cases were dropped. So at the moment we are back to square one, where it most likely looks like abandonment.

At this juncture, I need to report to SOMEONE that he is not residing here. (I signed an AOS stating I would take responsibility for him.) He came here on a CR1, we hadn't been married 2 years (Anniversary 3/25/2013), so if I understand this correctly his conditions cannot be removed until April/May 2016.

I'll admit, things were difficult for us at times. Mainly because it was such a culture shock. I loved (and still do love despite him trying to destroy my life) him with all my heart. I wanted him to have a better life. I knew he missed his family (his son especially - financially it was not smart to begin the visa process for the little one at this time. We were waiting for my raise in September.), but I never thought he didn't love me. For the past 3 years I have spoken with him at least once a day. I haven't heard his voice since 2/1. I am hurting, I am angry, I am scared. I do not know how to proceed, but I know I need to let Immigration know what is going on.

Any/all advice is appreciated.

What is most important to you at this very point is the need to cover all the loopholes he might try to use to claim false allegation of abuse. Every marriage has its ups and downs but there should not be room for abuse of any kind by either party. Arguements exist when neither side accepts what is happening and compromise should work the magic. However, excessive arguement exists when one of the parties tries to control the other. Here comes the issue of abuse. control and power---never can sustain a healthy marriage...

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you are so true onye uwaoma,

I am madly in love with my husband and am currently residing with him in his country. Believe me before i come and to stay with him there was never a day that will come and go that we never had fights and some times we insult each other with so unkind words. I got to a point that i told him i was leaving him for good even with my heart knowing i loved him so much. We agreed i will go live with him in his country and since they day i set my feet here, i knew i was wrong in doubting his love because of our fights. You love him so fight to have him into your life because there is nothing like real love. Just make while u do this, use your head and make sure he does not use you to get his way. If you see that there is no love kindly consult VJ members for what to do next to avoid getting further troubles with your AOS. OP take the advice posted from people and report to USCIS and avoid any fight with him if he tries to come back because he might try to get his way.

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I am seeking advice on what to do next...

On 2/1/15 my alien spouse (he immigrated here from DR on 8/17/2014) called 911 and said I pushed him and broke his nose. (He had fallen on the icy sidewalk when trying to ignore me, turn and walk away from the argument we had been having. I never laid a hand on him. I am 5 foot 1, 100 pounds. He is 5 feet 11, 195 pounds.) He did opt to go to the ER by ambulance (attending EMT's told me to take him; 2 minutes from the house). I heard nothing for hours. At 4:30PM the hospital called and asked me to come and get him (only a scrape on his nose), the police said he was in no immediate danger of abuse, to return home and to call if something DID happen. He told the ER attendants he did not want to go home and was taken to a local hotel. I had tried to contact him several times. It had been snowing all day. He had no coat, no gloves, no boots, nothing. My husband has no license; no car; only a cell phone. He never responded. I considered contacting ICE.

Two days later I was served with a PFA order from the county court. I was scared to death because had he returned, I could have been evicted from my home. Both the sheriff's deputies and my attorney advised me to try to obtain my own to secure my home. It was granted. It seemed as though my husband had been told what to do, possibly from another immigrant friend, I do not know. I read stories about con artists from the DR. I had suspicions about his family (always felt entitled for me to pay for/buy everything; never saying "gracias"), but Lorenzo seemed different.

In the meantime legal documents from the courthouse, including a notice of summons (my PFA) had arrived in the mail at my home for him. Not wanting any more problems, I informed them that I was unaware of his whereabouts and not permitted to have that info. The court had NO OTHER ADDRESS either! On the day of the hearing he did show up, and both cases were dropped. So at the moment we are back to square one, where it most likely looks like abandonment.

At this juncture, I need to report to SOMEONE that he is not residing here. (I signed an AOS stating I would take responsibility for him.) He came here on a CR1, we hadn't been married 2 years (Anniversary 3/25/2013), so if I understand this correctly his conditions cannot be removed until April/May 2016.

I'll admit, things were difficult for us at times. Mainly because it was such a culture shock. I loved (and still do love despite him trying to destroy my life) him with all my heart. I wanted him to have a better life. I knew he missed his family (his son especially - financially it was not smart to begin the visa process for the little one at this time. We were waiting for my raise in September.), but I never thought he didn't love me. For the past 3 years I have spoken with him at least once a day. I haven't heard his voice since 2/1. I am hurting, I am angry, I am scared. I do not know how to proceed, but I know I need to let Immigration know what is going on.

Any/all advice is appreciated.

Hi, I am really sorry to hear your story. In a way, it is good that you are able to see him for what he is. PLEASE, FIND OUT AS MUCH AS YOU CAN ABOUT YOUR OBLIGATIONS UNDER THE AOS FORMS THAT YOU SIGNED. If he is to obtain a permanent resident alien card, you are responsible to support him financially.

PLEASE READ...

AFFIDAVIT OF SUPPORT I-864 is a commitment to act as the financial sponsor of the applicant, once he/she arrives in the United States and your financial responsibility continues for the person who becomes a permanent resident based on a Form I-864 that you signed until that person:

Becomes a U.S. citizen;

Has worked, or can be credited with, 40 quarters (usually 10 years) of coverage under the Social Security Act; In certain cases, the work of a spouse or parent adds qualifying quarters

Ceases to be a lawful permanent resident and departs the U.S.

Becomes subject to removal, but applies for and obtains in removal proceedings a new grant of adjustment of status, based on a new affidavit of support, if one is required; or

Dies.

If he is really is a scammer, I doubt he is going to be willing to work hard when he can get easy money by just staying home.. GOOD LUCK GIRL!

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It's not really clear what you're asking.

This isn't really a forum for marriage advice, although a lot of the threads ask more for that than for immigration advice.

You cannot withdraw the affidavit of support if he has his green card.

If you choose to, you can inform USCIS of the facts of your situation. This may make it more difficult for him to get removal of conditions, and cause him to leave the USA. Generally however, USCIS does not take the position that the spouse has a direct interest in denial of the green card on the basis of the affidavit of support; in legal terms you do not have "standing" to challenge the ROC. If he is able to game the system by claiming you abused him, that's just unfortunate for you. (I don't mean to be unsympathetic, but that's how it is.)

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Why would he go through all of this? At this point, it looks like there is no solid proof that he fraudulently entered the marriage. He could just file for divorce and roc with a waiver.


Nadine & Kenneth

Our K-1 journey

02/06/2006 filed 129F

07/01/2007 recieved visa via "Deutsche Post"

08/27/2006 POE Dallas

->view my complete timeline

AOS, EAD and AP

12/6/2006 filed for AOS & EAD

1/05/2007 AOS transfered to California Service Center

2/26/2007 EAD recieved!

7/20/2007 filed for AP

8/20/2007 AP recieved

01/16/2008 letter to Congressman

03/20/2008 card production ordered---no interview!!!

03/24/2008 Welcome letter arrived

03/27/2008 my GREENCARD arrived!!!!!!!!!! YAY!!! No more USCIS for about two years!:-))

Removal of Conditions

02/02/2010 filed I-751

02/19/2010 check cashed

02/22/2010 NOA1

05/15/2010 touched

06/10/2010 online update:card production ordered

06/17/2010 approval letter in mail

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If i were you i would save any legal documents pertaining to the charges being dropped just because the court didnt give him what he was looking for does not mean he wont try to get immigration to rule VAWA... i would send a letter including copy of what ever the court gave you so that he cant pull VAWA........it could seriously mess up your future......

then change all the locks on your door and refuse to talk to him on the phone or in person alone......start divorce proceedings..you could try to prove mental abuse because of what he is trying to pull but might be faster to just get a divorce and start your future over......from what information you have given it sounds like visa fraud .........its easier to get over a broken heart than to try to fix a mess that is he is attempting

my prayers are with you

sara

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Why would he go through all of this? At this point, it looks like there is no solid proof that he fraudulently entered the marriage. He could just file for divorce and roc with a waiver.

EXACTLY.... it is all a matter of HIM proving the marriage... not her.


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Why would he go through all of this? At this point, it looks like there is no solid proof that he fraudulently entered the marriage. He could just file for divorce and roc with a waiver.

Look through this forum. Look and see how many people claim their spouses falsely accuse them of DV to use the VAWA to keep their green cards. Why did they chose that route instead of simply divorcing and remove conditions on their own?

It is possible that he is operating under the notion that the VAWA is his best chance to keep his green card. He may not know that he could simply divorce and remove condition on his own. There are tons of people on this site who do not realize they can do this since this question comes up practically daily.

You are operating from a position of knowledge. He may be operating with less knowledge.

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Of course it's possible that he doesn't know about that. But really, he aquires knowledge about VAWA, but not about the most basic info about the ROC process after he already got his 2 year greencard?! How much sense does that make?

And yes, I have read a lot in here and most real fraudsters are very knowledgable about how to go about things.


Nadine & Kenneth

Our K-1 journey

02/06/2006 filed 129F

07/01/2007 recieved visa via "Deutsche Post"

08/27/2006 POE Dallas

->view my complete timeline

AOS, EAD and AP

12/6/2006 filed for AOS & EAD

1/05/2007 AOS transfered to California Service Center

2/26/2007 EAD recieved!

7/20/2007 filed for AP

8/20/2007 AP recieved

01/16/2008 letter to Congressman

03/20/2008 card production ordered---no interview!!!

03/24/2008 Welcome letter arrived

03/27/2008 my GREENCARD arrived!!!!!!!!!! YAY!!! No more USCIS for about two years!:-))

Removal of Conditions

02/02/2010 filed I-751

02/19/2010 check cashed

02/22/2010 NOA1

05/15/2010 touched

06/10/2010 online update:card production ordered

06/17/2010 approval letter in mail

07/01/20010 Greencard arrived

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Of course it's possible that he doesn't know about that. But really, he aquires knowledge about VAWA, but not about the most basic info about the ROC process after he already got his 2 year greencard?! How much sense does that make?

And yes, I have read a lot in here and most real fraudsters are very knowledgable about how to go about things.

It makes lots of sense because people overseas listen to what the "US immigration experts" around them tell them is a good way to game the system.

Read through this website and you will see many cases of people operating on misinformation.

You are operating on the presumption that people should know the easy stuff before attacking the big stuff.

There is a DV thread on here where the OP thinks she can bring an adopted child to the US based on her understanding of immigration law despite what long time posters have opined. She thinks its doable while asking for the definition of what is an LPR.

People operate thinking they know how immigration laws work when they don't even know basic definitions.

This discussion will not help the OP so this is my final post.

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Of course it's possible that he doesn't know about that. But really, he aquires knowledge about VAWA, but not about the most basic info about the ROC process after he already got his 2 year greencard?! How much sense does that make?

And yes, I have read a lot in here and most real fraudsters are very knowledgable about how to go about things.

I thought they were given information about VAWA at the embassy interview, in an effort to make sure that those who (actually) need it know about it. Not true? If it is true, that would explain it. He has a pamphlet that says "if you are a victim of DV, you can get your green card even if you're divorced". They don't run around saying that one of the conditions (remain married) is not "really" a condition.


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23 Dec 2015: Legal marriage

23 Jan 2016: Wedding!

23 Jan 2016: "Blizzard of the Century", wedding canceled/rescheduled (thank goodness we were legally married first or we'd have had a big problem!) :sleepy:

24 Jan 2016: Small "civil ceremony" with friends and family who were snowed in with us. December was a bit of a secret and people had traveled internationally and knew we *had* to get married that weekend, and our December legal marriage was nothing but signing a piece of paper at our priest's kitchen table, without any sort of vows etc so this was actually a very special (if not legally significant) day. (L)

16 Apr 2016: Filed for AOS and EAD/AP (We delayed a bit-- no big rush, enjoying the USCIS break)

23 Apr 2016: Wedding! Finally! :luv:

27 Apr 2016: Electronic NOA1 for all 3 :dancing:
29 Apr 2016: NOA1 Hardcopy for all 3
29 Jul 2016: Online service request for late EAD (Day 104)
29 Jul 2016: EAD/AP Approved ~3 hours after online service request
04 Aug 2016: RFE for Green Card (requested medicals/ vaccination record. They already have it). :ranting:
05 Aug 2016: EAD/AP Combo Card arrived! (Day 111)
08 Aug 2016: Congressional constituent request to get guidance on the RFE. Hoping they see they have the form and approve!

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14 Feb 2015: Mailed I-129f to Dallas Lockbox. (L) (Most expensive Valentine's card I've ever sent!)

17 Feb 2015: NOA1 "Received Date"
19 Feb 2015: NOA1 Notice Date
08 Aug 2015: NOA2 email! :luv: (173 days from NOA1)

17 Aug 2015: Sent to NVC

?? Aug 2015: Arrived at NVC

25 Aug 2015: NVC Case # Assigned

31 Aug 2015: Left NVC for Consulate in San Jose

09 Sep 2015: Consulate received :dancing: (32 days from NOA2)

11 Sep 2015: Packet 3 emailed from embassy to me, the petitioner (34 days from NOA2).

18 Sep 2015: Medicals complete

21 Sep 2015: Packet 3 complete, my boss puts a temporary moratorium on all time off due to work emergency :clock:

02 Oct 2015: Work emergency clears up, interview scheduled (soonest available was 5 business days away--Columbus Day was in there)

13 Oct 2015: Interview

13 Oct 2015: VISA APPROVED :thumbs: (236 days from NOA1)

19 Oct 2015: Visa-in-hand

24 Oct 2015: POE !

15 Dec 2015: Fiance's mother's B-2 visa interview: APPROVED! So happy she will be at the wedding! :thumbs:

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I thought they were given information about VAWA at the embassy interview, in an effort to make sure that those who (actually) need it know about it. Not true? If it is true, that would explain it. He has a pamphlet that says "if you are a victim of DV, you can get your green card even if you're divorced". They don't run around saying that one of the conditions (remain married) is not "really" a condition.

This is "True" my wife was given the pamphlet to keep at 1st part of a 2 part Interview, she was advised to read it before the 2nd Interview.


Met onilne 17 Jan 2012, via skype & yahoo IM

Married 4 Dec 2013

I-130 Filed 1/24/2014

I-130 NOA1 2/7/2014

I-130 NOA2 7/11/2014 Approved

I-130 Package Sent to NVC 7/31/2014

I-130 Package Received at NVC 8/4/2014

Case Uploaded 8/13/2014

Received Case # and Invoice # 8/15/2014

DS-261 Completed 8/27/2014

AOS Fee Paid and Cleared Bank 8/29/2014

AOS Package sent to NVC 8/30/2014

AOS Package Received at NVC 9/2/2014

IV Fee Email Received 9/27/2014

IV Fee Bill Payment Made 9/27/2014

COC for Malayisa Applied Online 9/27/2014

COC for Singapore Applied for at Local Office 9/29/2014, pick-up date 13 Oct 20

DS-260 Completed 10/2/2014

IV Fee's Mark as Paid by NVC 9/30/2014

IV Packet Sent to NVC on 16 Oct 2014

IV Packet Received at NVC 17 Oct 2014

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