130 and 485 approved, GC in wife custody

[GAvictim 0]

Hello,

I have a question regarding the approved i130 petition. I faithfully married my wife through arranged marriage accouding to our religious customs. My US citizen wife had an affair which she continued after marriage. She filed green card peitiion for me and asked me to forgive her, which i did. Now that my petition is approved, she is forcing me to devorce her. She has threatened me that she stop my green card (which is in the mail). My case status indicates that I130 approved notice has been sent to my wifes address, I485 welcome notice has already been sent. Now my wife has kicked me out from the house and told me that she will not give me the green card if I don't divorce her. I don't want to divorce her.

She said her lawyer will hold the custody of green card and she will either stop the green card or she will either not give me the green card if i don't divorce her. She has mentally and physically abused me and tortured me and did not give me any food with the help of her parents who are also living with her.

Kindly please advise what i should do in this situation.

Regards,

GA Victim

[Penguin_ie 5,986]

**** Moving from Removing Conditions to Effects of Major Changes ****

The greencard, if already issued, is yours, No lawyer or your wife may keep it from you, that would be theft.

[GAvictim 0]

Thank you very much for the prompt reply. My wife and My father in law are using it as a ransom to get the divorce.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

File a change of address, File a police report that the card is lost/stolen then file and pay for a replacement green card to be mailed to your current address.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Thank you very much for the prompt reply. My wife and My father in law are using it as a ransom to get the divorce.

So why not divorce her and move on with your life?

Why would you want to stay on with a cheater and abuser?

[GAvictim 0]

I am thinking about intercepting the mail man and acquire the the mail once i see the tracking number. My current status is :

Your new permanent resident card should be mailed within 60 days following this registration or after you complete any ADIT processing referred to in the welcome notice, whichever is later.

I am afraid to change the address before that as it might affect my already approved adjustment of status. My wife is saying that her lawyer will cancel my GC.

[GAvictim 0]

hi, Merrytooth, I want to go to my home country for a while, because I had been locked up in her house for quite a long period of time. I don't want to give her divorce just yet. I have gone through all sorts of torture.

So why not divorce her and move on with your life?

Why would you want to stay on with a cheater and abuser?

hi, Merrytooth, I want to go to my home country for a while, because I had been locked up in her house for quite a long period of time. I don't want to give her divorce just yet. I have gone through all sorts of torture. She might try to catch another guy for same purpose. I will stop her on that.

Edited July 2, 2014 by GAvictim

[Caryh 5,206]

You cannot force someone to stay married to you in the USA. If she wants a divorce, there's no way to prevent it. You might as well agree to the divorce, she's going to get it anyway.You don't need to agree to her terms of the divorce, but making it harder to divorce you isn't going to help your situation.

[GAvictim 0]

You cannot force someone to stay married to you in the USA. If she wants a divorce, there's no way to prevent it. You might as well agree to the divorce, she's going to get it anyway.You don't need to agree to her terms of the divorce, but making it harder to divorce you isn't going to help your situation.

Yes but it will delay her fraudulant activities.

[Caryh 5,206]

Yes but it will delay her fraudulant activities.

She's lying to you in order to try to get you to agree to the divorce. She and her lawyer cannot cancel your green card now.

I don't see fraud, I see a cheating spouse that you're trying to hang on to and make things a pain in the rear for. If you think its fraud to want out of an arranged marriage she was likely pushed into when she wanted to be with someone else, you're going to find out you're quite wrong with what is considered fraud in the USA. As a US citizen, she's likely more a part of American culture than the culture from your country. Trying to treat her as something different, would certainly not be good for establishing a marriage here in the USA.

[GAvictim 0]

She's lying to you in order to try to get you to agree to the divorce. She and her lawyer cannot cancel your green card now.

I don't see fraud, I see a cheating spouse that you're trying to hang on to and make things a pain in the rear for. If you think its fraud to want out of an arranged marriage she was likely pushed into when she wanted to be with someone else, you're going to find out you're quite wrong with what is considered fraud in the USA. As a US citizen, she's likely more a part of American culture than the culture from your country. Trying to treat her as something different, would certainly not be good for establishing a marriage here in the USA.

The guy she wanted to be with is already married now. I also did not force her to file my GC. I told the family that she can divorce me then before moving along with any paperwork. However now her insecurities that I will never be loyal and faithful to her, and her parents perception of social defamation is what causing them to abuse me and torture me.

[Caryh 5,206]

The guy she wanted to be with is already married now. I also did not force her to file my GC. I told the family that she can divorce me then before moving along with any paperwork. However now her insecurities that I will never be loyal and faithful to her, and her parents perception of social defamation is what causing them to abuse me and torture me.

Wow, I've got no idea why you didn't just divorce her and go home. I don't know what your culture is, but from my point of view its very messed up from an American point of view.

[GAvictim 0]

Wow, I've got no idea why you didn't just divorce her and go home. I don't know what your culture is, but from my point of view its very messed up from an American point of view.

Isn't it a fraud to marry a money making person with visa issues and offer a green card, and when things dont go as expected kick the person, and threatning the person to take away all the hard work, and deport the person with nothing just because they didn't get what they wanted.

[Caryh 5,206]

Isn't it a fraud to marry a money making person with visa issues and offer a green card, and when things dont go as expected kick the person, and threatning the person to take away all the hard work, and deport the person with nothing just because they didn't get what they wanted.

Actually marrying a person just to get a green card is fraud, the rest just sounds like a truly crappy relationship and ugly divorce. Crappy relationships and ugly divorces go on all the time in the USA and most of the rest of the world. When two people get so angry that they spend their divorce just trying to screw over the other person, the only one who wins is the lawyers, they're going to love you guys. Go to your lawyer, file the divorce first, you'll be in a better position. You can also go to the local sheriff or police and request an escort to get your belongings from the house you've been thrown out of. Which itself is illegal in most jurisdictions. If she refuses to give you the green card with the sheriff there, you have a witness of them keeping your property. You can get a judge to order them to turn if over or be held in contempt of court. Also no lawyer is going to withhold that green card from you because the know doing so is illegal and risks their ability to practice law in their state.

I know you're pissed, I don't blame you for being so even if I don't know the whole story. But acting out in anger and revenge is more likely to get you screwed than to your benefit in both the short and the long term. Be civil, and be smart and you'll be in a much better place at the end of this mess.

[TBoneTX 43,290]

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