1st post long time reader. I have to say you guys are wrong

[emanuel 0]

My wife recently arrived on a k1 visa and I saw she was bored at home so I registered in school so she could get out of the house and not be so bored. She likes to punch me and I always tell her to stop, but it didn't hurt so I didn't think much of it. well, one day I was driving and the police stop me and said I had a warrant for my arrest. I was like what the heck is going on here you must have the wrong person then a detective showed up and told me I'm being arrested for a felony and a misdemeanor .

how in the world can this happen when my wife had no marks at all on her and to make matters worst I'm just finding out that the incident happened about 5 weeks earlier. I asked my wife what's going on and she told me that her friends she met in school pressured her to do it because we were arguing.

I always taught being that the incident was over a month old the police would at least try to make contact with me before charging me with such a violent crime.

I don't put my hand on women so if I would have slap her I would have been saying this is my fault but how could the police just take a lie had face value and ruining someone's life like this. It doesn't matter the outcome of this just having a felony on a person record is enough to screw them for life

So you guys are wrong you don't need people around because it doesn't matter my brother is staying with me and he has no clue what's going on?

[dwheels76 5,462]

My wife recently arrived on a k1 visa and I saw she was bored at home so I registered in school so she could get out of the house and not be so bored. She likes to punch me and I always tell her to stop, but it didn't hurt so I didn't think much of it. well, one day I was driving and the police stop me and said I had a warrant for my arrest. I was like what the heck is going on here you must have the wrong person then a detective showed up and told me I'm being arrested for a felony and a misdemeanor .

how in the world can this happen when my wife had no marks at all on her and to make matters worst I'm just finding out that the incident happened about 5 weeks earlier. I asked my wife what's going on and she told me that her friends she met in school pressured her to do it because we were arguing.

I always taught being that the incident was over a month old the police would at least try to make contact with me before charging me with such a violent crime.

I don't put my hand on women so if I would have slap her I would have been saying this is my fault but how could the police just take a lie had face value and ruining someone's life like this. It doesn't matter the outcome of this just having a felony on a person record is enough to screw them for life

So you guys are wrong you don't need people around because it doesn't matter my brother is staying with me and he has no clue what's going on?

Okay what back that up now. First I don't know what you mean by "we are wrong about having people around you" Now to the story here.

You say 5 weeks earlier an incident happened. Dear for a warrent and a felony conviction to happen would have to be a very serious "incident" that involves court, fines and the like. Can you please tell us what exactly happened. Even you slappin somebody around rarely results in a felony. Were you charged with domestic violence and failed to appear? I find it real unlikely all this could have just happened in 5 weeks.

[mrettercap 24]

Sorry, I don't understand the point of this post...

But why would you stay in relationship with somebody who beats you?

[akihon 129]

maybe the point of this thread is in reference to how having his brother around didn't help?

[Penny Lane 8,159]

My wife recently arrived on a k1 visa and I saw she was bored at home so I registered in school so she could get out of the house and not be so bored. She likes to punch me and I always tell her to stop, but it didn't hurt so I didn't think much of it. well, one day I was driving and the police stop me and said I had a warrant for my arrest. I was like what the heck is going on here you must have the wrong person then a detective showed up and told me I'm being arrested for a felony and a misdemeanor .

how in the world can this happen when my wife had no marks at all on her and to make matters worst I'm just finding out that the incident happened about 5 weeks earlier. I asked my wife what's going on and she told me that her friends she met in school pressured her to do it because we were arguing.

I always taught being that the incident was over a month old the police would at least try to make contact with me before charging me with such a violent crime.

I don't put my hand on women so if I would have slap her I would have been saying this is my fault but how could the police just take a lie had face value and ruining someone's life like this. It doesn't matter the outcome of this just having a felony on a person record is enough to screw them for life

So you guys are wrong you don't need people around because it doesn't matter my brother is staying with me and he has no clue what's going on?

I'm unsure as to what you mean by this.

[belinda63 2,981]

All it takes in some areas is for a person to go to the county attorney's office and make a sworn statement that an incident happened. The CA evaluates the statement and decides what charges might be appropriate, and in your case, requested a warrant be issued. It DOES NOT mean there is any merit to the charges as probably the only proof they have is your wife's statement.

You need to explain to your wife the serious consequences of what she has done (assuming the two of you wish to remain together). She has opened a can of worms that is going to cost both of you a lot of time and money and possibly jail for one of you. You need to be very clear with her to explain filing a false sworn statement is a crime and she could go to jail for doing so. So much advise I could give you, what, exactly, are the charges?

Your relationship has some deep issues that you need to explore. There is a big difference between arguing and actual domestic violence.

[JJ Rawlings 2]

My wife recently arrived on a k1 visa and I saw she was bored at home so I registered in school so she could get out of the house and not be so bored. She likes to punch me and I always tell her to stop, but it didn't hurt so I didn't think much of it. well, one day I was driving and the police stop me and said I had a warrant for my arrest. I was like what the heck is going on here you must have the wrong person then a detective showed up and told me I'm being arrested for a felony and a misdemeanor .

how in the world can this happen when my wife had no marks at all on her and to make matters worst I'm just finding out that the incident happened about 5 weeks earlier. I asked my wife what's going on and she told me that her friends she met in school pressured her to do it because we were arguing.

I always taught being that the incident was over a month old the police would at least try to make contact with me before charging me with such a violent crime.

I don't put my hand on women so if I would have slap her I would have been saying this is my fault but how could the police just take a lie had face value and ruining someone's life like this. It doesn't matter the outcome of this just having a felony on a person record is enough to screw them for life

So you guys are wrong you don't need people around because it doesn't matter my brother is staying with me and he has no clue what's going on?

Unfortunate situation. Hope justice prevails, but I dont get the point of the post

[X Factor 1,110]

I hope this isn't a baiting thread to get our reaction. It doesn't make sense and the OP isn't providing more details.

[del-2-5-2014 1,339]

All it takes in some areas is for a person to go to the county attorney's office and make a sworn statement that an incident happened. The CA evaluates the statement and decides what charges might be appropriate, and in your case, requested a warrant be issued. It DOES NOT mean there is any merit to the charges as probably the only proof they have is your wife's statement.

You need to explain to your wife the serious consequences of what she has done (assuming the two of you wish to remain together). She has opened a can of worms that is going to cost both of you a lot of time and money and possibly jail for one of you. You need to be very clear with her to explain filing a false sworn statement is a crime and she could go to jail for doing so. So much advise I could give you, what, exactly, are the charges?

Your relationship has some deep issues that you need to explore. There is a big difference between arguing and actual domestic violence.

Excellent response.

A lot fo VJ folks have blinders on or see through rose colored glasses.

You can be charged for a felony and a warrant issued just from the word of a Police Officer without an arrest being made. Unless the crime is a continued danger to someone they will not come to arrest you and just wait for an encounter during this austere times (this is why routine traffic stops escalate quickly). I was at CA DMV and a Guy got arersted there when he went to renew his license on a 1 year warrant. One year???

Like OP hinted at, you don't have to have collaborating witness for DV and you don't have to have any bruises for the charge to stick - the testimony from one of the Spouses is enough. Once the case is filed, even if the Spouse recants, the state can still go ahead and pursue the criminal charges and in fact at times threaten the Spouse with hindering a police case for the refusal.

If the OPs story is true then, in my book and one of my unaaceptables, the marriage is over. It's a cacophony of issues of unnecessary police contact, influence by cohorts and withholding pertinent information.

Good luck to all concerned.

Edited August 6, 2012 by Gowon

[rlogan 2,036]

So you guys are wrong you don't need people around because it doesn't matter my brother is staying with me and he has no clue what's going on?

We may be wrong about something or other. But you are most certainly wrong in your choice of partner.

Filing charges without even telling you - cute.

[Harsh_77 716]

When you guys punched each other or wrestled was your brother around?

When ppl on VJ ask someone to have company around is simply becoz one partner cannot claim something happened, when in reality it never happened.

Having someone would be having them at the witness.

When your wife went and filed a report at that time police would not look for witness to incident, but if the same thing would had happened and police was called to your place than police would get the witness statement and county attorney would make a call based on the police report.

In your case no such report was present other than the report from your wife.

[TBoneTX 43,058]

If the OPs story is true then [...] the marriage is over.

Si, man (sigh, man).

It's a cacophony of issues of unnecessary police contact, influence by cohorts and withholding pertinent information.

Good summation. It also sounds as though there's zero trust and severe disconnection between the parties.

[emanuel 0]

Hi everyone thanks for the response. I'm just getting in. many questions ask where do I start?

the purpose of the tread was to make many of you aware that it doesn't matter if someones around when you are arguing with your sig. other because every time we argued my brother was there. the only time I touch her is when she's punching me in the face and has my hair locked in her hair and I have to pull her hands away from my hair in which chunks of my hair fall out in the process. when I force her hands lose and push her away she always say I beat her because I removed her hand with force.

She went to my family and told them that I was beating her so all of my aunts came over to confront(beat me) me about it, but after I told them what her definition of beat was. my aunts told her to stop going around and telling people that I beat her when the fact is she was the one beating me.

to the story of the arrest:

to this day I still don't know what's going on. the report stats the incident happened well over 5 weeks and the charges were filed 2 days before I was stopped in the streets and arrested. If the city felt like I was beating my wife why in the world would they let her stay for 5 weeks after she filed the report and it could have been even longer if I wasn't stopped for making and illegal turn.

The police never came to my house in that month to hear my side of what was going on and hey had 1 month to do it before they filed the charges. I know it's going to get throwing out but being arrest for a felony is all it takes to have a person screwed for life

Edited August 6, 2012 by emanuel

[emanuel 0]

When you guys punched each other or wrestled was your brother around?

When ppl on VJ ask someone to have company around is simply becoz one partner cannot claim something happened, when in reality it never happened.

Having someone would be having them at the witness.

When your wife went and filed a report at that time police would not look for witness to incident, but if the same thing would had happened and police was called to your place than police would get the witness statement and county attorney would make a call based on the police report.

In your case no such report was present other than the report from your wife.

I never punch or put a hand on her only to lose my hair out of her hands and yes everytime my brother was there asking me what was her problem

the police never asked me anything or any one else.

I hope this isn't a baiting thread to get our reaction. It doesn't make sense and the OP isn't providing more details.

I didn't go into details because the tread was to warn you guys to stop think by having someone there you aren't going to jail even if it's a lie. well , I'm hear to tell you that you are going to jail no question asked months later. if she/he lies on you

[emanuel 0]

All it takes in some areas is for a person to go to the county attorney's office and make a sworn statement that an incident happened. The CA evaluates the statement and decides what charges might be appropriate, and in your case, requested a warrant be issued. It DOES NOT mean there is any merit to the charges as probably the only proof they have is your wife's statement.

You need to explain to your wife the serious consequences of what she has done (assuming the two of you wish to remain together). She has opened a can of worms that is going to cost both of you a lot of time and money and possibly jail for one of you. You need to be very clear with her to explain filing a false sworn statement is a crime and she could go to jail for doing so. So much advise I could give you, what, exactly, are the charges?

Your relationship has some deep issues that you need to explore. There is a big difference between arguing and actual domestic violence.

Belinda you are right, that's the way it works. the system or"game" is rigged to purposely screw a person life up. it doesn't matter the outcome you will still be a felon just not a convicted one. no major corporation will touch you if you apply for a job, you can't work in law enforcement or most government(unless as a janitor or in the parks department)