Im sad today

[PACIFICO2011 1]

could these be early warning signs?

has anybody else had fights with their loved one for the littlest things. I understand the distance is having an effect on us. just curious what fights you guys have had.

[IR5FORMUMSIE 850]

could these be early warning signs?

has anybody else had fights with their loved one for the littlest things. I understand the distance is having an effect on us. just curious what fights you guys have had.

It is a stressful time, I'm single but I've been around long enough to see this scenario repeat itself, over and over. You'll get through it, just remember it is a journey and unless there is more to your story than you are relating, very common. Hang in there!!!!

Edited April 13, 2012 by IR5FORMUMSIE

[X Factor 1,112]

Could you be a bit more specific? Who initiates the fights? How long does it last for? Who apologies - is it primarily the same person? And for how long a time have you noticed that you have had these fights?

In my situation I have experienced the opposite to you - we had no fights. We had a differing viewpoint on where the wedding should be held - we talked about it for a few days and it was settled. Even though we had to address it 2 weeks later. But other than that for the past 6 months no fights.

[PACIFICO2011 1]

Could you be a bit more specific? Who initiates the fights? How long does it last for? Who apologies - is it primarily the same person? And for how long a time have you noticed that you have had these fights?

In my situation I have experienced the opposite to you - we had no fights. We had a differing viewpoint on where the wedding should be held - we talked about it for a few days and it was settled. Even though we had to address it 2 weeks later. But other than that for the past 6 months no fights.

sure ill be more specific. we fight over distractions during skype calls. sometimes some of her lady friends will instant message her. I hate that. if i dont answer one call from her she gets really offended. sometiems i feel like she is loosing interest. when she gets really upset. she does not want to talk to me, but if one of her lady friends calls her she will answer their call. im starting to consider telling her to rethink what she wants and prove to me that she wants to be with me. please advise.

[Inky 1,111]

sure ill be more specific. we fight over distractions during skype calls. sometimes some of her lady friends will instant message her. I hate that. if i dont answer one call from her she gets really offended. sometiems i feel like she is loosing interest. when she gets really upset. she does not want to talk to me, but if one of her lady friends calls her she will answer their call. im starting to consider telling her to rethink what she wants and prove to me that she wants to be with me. please advise.

Getting angry and not talking to your man is very common thing for women to do. Its called the silent treatment. They will talk to anyone else BUT not their man.

But it can also be attributed to childish behavior as its much better for the relationship to have a discussion on the problem rather than go silent or just yell at each other.

Try and communicate with talking rather than fighting over a problem thats happened. Often also its better to just drop it and not let things bother you when its a small thing.

[Ontarkie 14,276]

I answer all calls and messages when we were going through the K-1 process while if we were chatting online or a skype type of thing. I wouldn't answer the other line most times when we talked on the phone. Unless it was from my best friend or mother. If he would of got upset with me I probably would of bit his head off I don't think she is being rude to you by answering another message or call she does have a life after all.

I'm going to say this as someone whose ex was very controlling( I am not saying you are trying to control her at all) but she may think you are over reacting telling her not to message other ppl etc while talking to you.

Now if you 2 only get a few minutes to talk and only a few times a week then maybe something else is going on and this is just stressing you out more then it would otherwise.

If this is your only cause for arguments try to let it go.

[luckytxn 2,264]

Sounds bad. It could be that she has found another boyfriend.

[Operator 1,927]

sure ill be more specific. we fight over distractions during skype calls. sometimes some of her lady friends will instant message her. I hate that. if i dont answer one call from her she gets really offended. sometiems i feel like she is loosing interest. when she gets really upset. she does not want to talk to me, but if one of her lady friends calls her she will answer their call. im starting to consider telling her to rethink what she wants and prove to me that she wants to be with me. please advise.

If I ever asked my wife to "Prove that she wants to be with me" I'd probably walk with a limp for a week. That having been said; if your soon-to-be is giving you reasons to doubt her love then you need to sort that out. Long distance relationships are a serious test of a persons patience and commitment and fights happen (in our case some really good ones). Communication is key so tell her how you feel but I might re-think the "prove it to me" approach.

Good luck!

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Time to reassess things and make sure you are both on the same page. Some disagreement and argument is normal and healthy. Do you feel it is past the healthy stage?

[amyandjorge 76]

I used to freak out if Jorge didn't call me one day. Yell at him when he finally did get around to calling. I would get upset and it would come out like I was angry, but I was really more sad/worried. We worked it out.

It's a stressful situation, and you don't get to hug at the end of a tiff (or slap )

Most people aren't prepared for stressful long distance relationships, takes a whole new level of strong communication.

[Nagishkaw 510]

sure ill be more specific. we fight over distractions during skype calls. sometimes some of her lady friends will instant message her. I hate that. if i dont answer one call from her she gets really offended. sometiems i feel like she is loosing interest. when she gets really upset. she does not want to talk to me, but if one of her lady friends calls her she will answer their call. im starting to consider telling her to rethink what she wants and prove to me that she wants to be with me. please advise.

You sound like a jealous control freak.

[웃 910]

sure ill be more specific. we fight over distractions during skype calls. sometimes some of her lady friends will instant message her. I hate that. if i dont answer one call from her she gets really offended. sometiems i feel like she is loosing interest. when she gets really upset. she does not want to talk to me, but if one of her lady friends calls her she will answer their call. im starting to consider telling her to rethink what she wants and prove to me that she wants to be with me. please advise.

I would say end it immediately.

How many 'days' have you spent with her. 2 weeks in a hotel and you want to get married

You sound like a jealous control freak.

Check this out: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/362669-facebook-password-from-fiance/page__view__findpost__p__5297572

Edited April 14, 2012 by ☠

[MnnnB 4]

could these be early warning signs?

has anybody else had fights with their loved one for the littlest things. I understand the distance is having an effect on us. just curious what fights you guys have had.

We do have issues but never last for 2dayz...Mind you, it can never be ALWAYZ rossy..Dnt let that discourage you.

Edited April 18, 2012 by MnnnB

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Run while you still have a chance.