PLEASE HELP. He cheated on me and left me, ive only just arrived in the US!!!!!!!!!!!

[Misis Salome 2]

OMG. Sorry to hear that. Call or email USCIS to check if they got the right address to send your GC. Be strong.

[nigerianchick 0]

ok can any one give me any advice?? :crying: :crying:

im sorry that you went though this. You should stay a make a better living for yourself. make it work for you and you only...

[Moomin 292]

That is a sad and rotten situation to be put in, am very sorry!

Keep an eye on the greencard for when it arrives. You've already proved at your interview that you have(had) a bona fide marriage(I betcha 3 years counted for something). Take a little time to have it sink in before jumping the gun. I'm not advising you to just stick around forever, just get your things sorted out, and your heart in the right place. I understand you can't just pick up and leave within a few weeks, and since you came on a cr-1 you'll be able to start working fast if that's what you want. ROC comes when it comes.

In the long run, if you wish to move back to the UK and still have the opportunity to visit US consider trying to "exchange" the 2 year greencard with a tourist visa instead of just abandoning it. I know exchange isn't the right word though, it's just so you won't close all doors after you.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Im so confused, I don't want to just go home to the UK, i need to stay out here for abit and find closure, and i dont want all the money, time and effort that i invested into moving to the US and starting a new life to be for NOTHING. So i would like to stay (at least for a while), where do I stand on this? its not my fault hes done this to me!

Also, the green card will be sent out soon(ive changed the address to his cousins), but how long does it usually take for them to send this out? Ive been here 3 days- and im worried that it will be sent to HIS address. Will the change of address redirect the card to the address I just put down (his cousins). Plus I have now changed the address on the AR 11 form twice since arrival (when i arrived i had to change the address to his current address since NVC hadn't changed it).

Firstly, did you change your address at the POE when you arrived? I honestly can't guarantee for you that it will arrive at the new address or his address. I can tell you that USCIS should be able to tell you where it was sent and they have tracking details. In the event he gets it and sends it back that's great, it should be then sent to the new address, but if he just keeps it, destroys it or whatever you'll probably have to pay for a replacement. It's also mail fraud so you could get him into sh*t for destroying your mail... if you could prove it :S

Secondly yes you can stay here. You should know though that once you are divorced you need to file for ROC. Even if you're divorced next month you need to file asap. You are in breach of the conditions of your GC if you are divorced on a 2 year card. In the event you don't divorce for 2 years and your 90 days window opens you need to send in your ROC with a divorce waiver and you need to file for divorce.

For ROC you will need to show evidence from NOW to ROC time. You can't just show old info. You might be okay, I can't say you won't be, but if USCIS sees that you arrived and you immediately lived apart it just looks like you married so you could get a GC to come here. They could think your relationship WAS legit but it failed and he helped you get here anyway like a friend would. I honestly don't know how you'll go but you won't know unless you try. I would think an affidavit from his family attesting to him leaving you as soon as you arrived.

[bigdog 376]

If you changed your address on line, and it still show the same send a hard copy. See an attorney for a divorce and my big brother says (loose a husband find a better husband). Sorry to hear this good luck.

Saylin been around and has good advice.

[waytogoliezel 0]

The obvious answer is simple. Go online and change your forwarding address with the U.S. Postal Service. Go to https://www.usps.com/ ; then click on "Manage Your Mail": On drop down list, choose "Forward Mail". Then follow the steps. Do this online and it will take affect on your next delivery date which will be on Tuesday (Monday is national holiday. MLK Day).

Your green card and all mail with your name on it will be forwarded to your new address. Next, apply for address change at USCIS. Sorry to hear about your sad situation. My heart bleeds for you. I went through a painful separation/divorce 15 yrs ago.

[Eddie&A 5]

ok can any one give me any advice?? :crying: :crying:

Like the majority here are saying: focus on the green card first and foremost! While you are waiting for that, find another place to stay; apartment, condo, etc. You MUST take care of yourself.......always take care of #1 ok? Then, get a job and start making some money. After 6 months to a year, then start thinking about what you want to do. Either stay in the US or go back to your native country.

I'm very sorry for what has happened to you. People like him make this immigration thing even harder with longer waiting periods!! My prayers are with you and may God protect you in your time of strife.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

The obvious answer is simple. Go online and change your forwarding address with the U.S. Postal Service. Go to https://www.usps.com/ ; then click on "Manage Your Mail": On drop down list, choose "Forward Mail". Then follow the steps. Do this online and it will take affect on your next delivery date which will be on Tuesday (Monday is national holiday. MLK Day).

Your green card and all mail with your name on it will be forwarded to your new address. Next, apply for address change at USCIS. Sorry to hear about your sad situation. My heart bleeds for you. I went through a painful separation/divorce 15 yrs ago.

USCIS mail is government mail which is NOT forwarded.

[Olomi_811 130]

If you have ID or paperwork reflecting your husband's address you could go to the post office and request that they hold your mail and you could pick it up. It's not 100% effective, but you increase you chances that your GC doesn't fall into his hands.

[Tatsi 6]

Wow what a story. So sorry to hear that. Dont worry it will all work out, i had an ugly story too but i managed. Your card should come to you if you changed the address on time. I suggest you call USCIS and find out where did they send it to, they will tell you, also every time you change the address INS sends you a paper that they have changed it.

There is nothing he can do to hurt your green card and if he does, you have all the proof of the proper marriage. Once you get it, move on with your life and do what you have to do.

Good luck

Hi, i need some serious help here, im so so distraught, confused, hurt, cant eat, sleep anything.

My husband petitioned for me, we got married last Feb, and had a great relationship for 2 1/2 years. But on this the last leg of waiting for the green card (for the past month) he has been cheating on me. He confessed to cheating and said that he wanted to do what ever it takes to make it up to me and save our marriage. I arrived in the US 3 days ago, and the first day i was here he was apologising non stop, he loves me and wanted to make it up to me. But two days later, he just left me at the house and ran off with her, he told his friend who lives at the house that he wont come home until im gone!!!

I didn't see this coming at all, everything has been great between us and we loved each other deeply.

So now im at his cousins house who have been great and feel sick to their stomachs since they love me and cant believe hes done this to me. His cousin works in health care and wants me to stay with her and says she can help me find a job etc.

Im so confused, I don't want to just go home to the UK, i need to stay out here for abit and find closure, and i dont want all the money, time and effort that i invested into moving to the US and starting a new life to be for NOTHING. So i would like to stay (at least for a while), where do I stand on this? its not my fault hes done this to me!

Also, the green card will be sent out soon(ive changed the address to his cousins), but how long does it usually take for them to send this out? Ive been here 3 days- and im worried that it will be sent to HIS address. Will the change of address redirect the card to the address I just put down (his cousins). Plus I have now changed the address on the AR 11 form twice since arrival (when i arrived i had to change the address to his current address since NVC hadn't changed it).

Please help!!!

[Rufus2012 175]

Sorry to read what has happened to you.

In addition to the advice you have been given, I suggest you start developing a network of friends here in the US, even if you will not eventually stay. It's great that his family is being supportive of you, but remember that blood is thicker than water, and you should avoid placing too much faith in their assistance. Avoid revealing your plans to them and be discreet about any meetings you have with an attorney, for example.

Best of luck to you.

[evelyn1140 18]

Hi, i need some serious help here, im so so distraught, confused, hurt, cant eat, sleep anything.

My husband petitioned for me, we got married last Feb, and had a great relationship for 2 1/2 years. But on this the last leg of waiting for the green card (for the past month) he has been cheating on me. He confessed to cheating and said that he wanted to do what ever it takes to make it up to me and save our marriage. I arrived in the US 3 days ago, and the first day i was here he was apologising non stop, he loves me and wanted to make it up to me. But two days later, he just left me at the house and ran off with her, he told his friend who lives at the house that he wont come home until im gone!!!

I didn't see this coming at all, everything has been great between us and we loved each other deeply.

So now im at his cousins house who have been great and feel sick to their stomachs since they love me and cant believe hes done this to me. His cousin works in health care and wants me to stay with her and says she can help me find a job etc.

Im so confused, I don't want to just go home to the UK, i need to stay out here for abit and find closure, and i dont want all the money, time and effort that i invested into moving to the US and starting a new life to be for NOTHING. So i would like to stay (at least for a while), where do I stand on this? its not my fault hes done this to me!

Also, the green card will be sent out soon(ive changed the address to his cousins), but how long does it usually take for them to send this out? Ive been here 3 days- and im worried that it will be sent to HIS address. Will the change of address redirect the card to the address I just put down (his cousins). Plus I have now changed the address on the AR 11 form twice since arrival (when i arrived i had to change the address to his current address since NVC hadn't changed it).

Please help!!!

I just wonder did you change your UK money? I remember you said something about it

[NYAMEYEODO 0]

sweetheart, so so sorry to hear this. I pray you get that inner strenght to go through this tough time.

My only advice is to go to the local post office and request for a redirection of your mails to a more secured

address. You do not want to confuse uscis/dhs on anything. Be strong. God is still good. It may all be for your good.

[Macbook 2]

WOW!

For first 2 years (2 year mark starts with first GC) you are in safe. Now I will recommend before divorce to talk to immigration attorney. Its Very important how are you gonna get divorced. After divorce I would inform USCIS that marriage is not valid!

Because you are married for some time it won't surprise me if USCIS send you 10 year GC (Then you won't have conditions)!

Good luck and God bless!

I'm not attorney and this is not legal advice! This is just my personal opinion!

[jen1217 5]

gosh sorry to hear that this is sad , at least there's his cousin who's willing to help and support you emotionally,,, do whatever is best for you God bless!

Edited January 14, 2012 by jen1217