Nervous.. please help !!

[lis&ari :) 0]

Hello!! Me and my Fiance have been togheter for 8 years now, I've been in the USA for 6. Im gathering all the required documentation to sent out the I 129-f. My only concern is that out of those 8 years, and after losing more than 5k trying to bring him to the USA, we decided that it was imposible to be together again, so we basically gave up. During that period of time ( around a year) he started to go out with someone ( just like I did) and we both had babies. The girls are exactly 3 months apart ( coincidence eh?)Anyways, after the girls were born we started comunicating again and I've been in Cuba twice after that just to be with him. My only concern is that when I send the packet they may think that our relationship is not true or valid because we both had babies in 2010. I have a lot of pictures of us together (since my first trip in 2008, 2010 and 2011) I also have phone calls records, text messages, emails and a bunch of stuff that may be helpful. Based on you experience, what do you guys think?? will the girls be an issue?? Thanks in advance for your reply

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Okay so basically you've been together for a year, NOT eight years. You broke up. You've known each other for 8 years but presently together for 1. Otherwise you're saying that during your 8 year relationship you BOTH had affairs and children to other people. That looks worse than breaking up in my opinion.

USCIS MIGHT question whether this is a ploy to get his baby and his previous partner to the US and that he just called up a good friend he had for several years who happens to be a USC and she has a new baby and needs the money so he's paying you to get his GC.

USCIS might wonder how after 6 years together (I'm assuming with a year apart and a year since having the kids that 8-2=6) you gave up and IMMEDIATELY had kids with other people, calling into question the seriousness of the relationship in the first place.

The girls themselves aren't an issue, but it also might make USCIS wonder why you had serious enough relationships to have children in the middle of being "so in love but unable to be together" and now after having said children decided to be together again.

There are red-flags I think but you can't really help that can you?! So file and see what happens. There's so many negative things about what you wrote, but life isn't always rainbows and sunshine. I'm not sure I like your chances, but if you don't take the chance you won't really know.

Edited August 20, 2011 by Vanessa&Tony

[Ready to do it 101]

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USCIS MIGHT question whether this is a ploy to get his baby and his previous partner to the US and that he just called up a good friend he had for several years who happens to be a USC and she has a new baby and needs the money so he's paying you to get his GC.

There are red-flags I think but you can't really help that can you?! So file and see what happens. There's so many negative things about what you wrote, but life isn't always rainbows and sunshine. I'm not sure I like your chances, but if you don't take the chance you won't really know.

[missicy 87]

USCIS won't question the relationship (at least not at K-1 stage, they might later at AOS) because all you have to prove to them is that you met in person within last 2 years, but CO at the embassy will. What do you mean you lost 5k trying to bring him to the USA? How did you try to bring him to the USA?

[lis&ari :) 0]

USCIS won't question the relationship (at least not at K-1 stage, they might later at AOS) because all you have to prove to them is that you met in person within last 2 years, but CO at the embassy will. What do you mean you lost 5k trying to bring him to the USA? How did you try to bring him to the USA?

You would be surprise how people take advantage of Cubans wanting to get out of Cuba. Illegal ways of course... Mexico, Venezuela.

[lis&ari :) 0]

So according to what u guys said, i should just say that we were together for X amount of time, we broke up. had the babies and then after a while got back together. I have all kinds of letters, emails an pictures since we got back together. Would that be an option??? The relationship is real, I do not want to lie to the USCIS. thanks you all for your reply

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

I think to advice you properly we need to know more about the background; when you were first together for those 6 years, what did you do to bring him here? Why did it not work?

[lis&ari :) 0]

I think to advice you properly we need to know more about the background; when you were first together for those 6 years, what did you do to bring him here? Why did it not work?

Ok. I paid someone ( supossedly a friend of a friend) who will send him an invitation letter to Mexico from there he would just cruce the border and ask for asylum , since cubans have the Law Of Cuban Adjustment. Never Happened.. He did sent the initials papers to my fiance but after that never followed up and the guy dissapeared . Thank god we never went to any consulate or anything .

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Ok. I paid someone ( supossedly a friend of a friend) who will send him an invitation letter to Mexico from there he would just cruce the border and ask for asylum , since cubans have the Law Of Cuban Adjustment. Never Happened.. He did sent the initials papers to my fiance but after that never followed up and the guy dissapeared . Thank god we never went to any consulate or anything .

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[lis&ari :) 0]

BTW he is NOT bringing his daughter. It's just him

[Gosia & Tito 199]

I think to advice you properly we need to know more about the background; when you were first together for those 6 years, what did you do to bring him here? Why did it not work?

I second this. Getting out of Cuba is not precisely 'easy' or at least so I've been told by some people I know. I think that if you in fact will go ahead with this, you can have a detailed explanation in the box (with attachment) that asks how you met and can then write the entire history of how you met 8 years ago and why exactly you both gave up. Playing devil's advocate, I would think that you could have married in Cuba and then do a CR1, there will have to be a very good reason why he would not have been able to obtain the permissions to leave Cuba. You would also have to have a very good reason why you would've not moved there, as it seems that there is no major problem for you to visit. You've mentioned spending 5k; how?, when? (this is for the 129F form in the same box as I noted before). Of course, if you relate details, members here will be able to give better advice.

I think it is obvious but you would have to have a reasonable and convincing explanation (when you get to the interview stage) of why after giving up, things re-kindle, even after children.

Not to be cold or anything like that, but you would need to consider the possibility that from your side it could be a valid and real relation, but not from the other side; there have been many cases related here in which the situation developed that way.

As other posting says, I don't think the children would have a negative impact in your petition, but the facts surrounding it would. THere could be a perfectly reasonable and valid explanation to all, and your job is to bring it up front to the CO a the Embassy.

Good luck!

[Dan & Jenni 457]

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Hello!! Me and my Fiance have been togheter for 8 years now, I've been in the USA for 6. Im gathering all the required documentation to sent out the I 129-f. My only concern is that out of those 8 years, and after losing more than 5k trying to bring him to the USA, we decided that it was imposible to be together again, so we basically gave up. During that period of time ( around a year) he started to go out with someone ( just like I did) and we both had babies. The girls are exactly 3 months apart ( coincidence eh?)Anyways, after the girls were born we started comunicating again and I've been in Cuba twice after that just to be with him. My only concern is that when I send the packet they may think that our relationship is not true or valid because we both had babies in 2010. I have a lot of pictures of us together (since my first trip in 2008, 2010 and 2011) I also have phone calls records, text messages, emails and a bunch of stuff that may be helpful. Based on you experience, what do you guys think?? will the girls be an issue?? Thanks in advance for your reply

love always finds a way so good luck to you in whatever you decide to do. if you think it is worth risking up to 2000 dollars to be with the one you love then what have you got to lose?? (apart from the money that is) just understand the risks your taking, get as much advice as you can, and be nothing but completely honest throughout the process

[NY_BX 397]

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So according to what u guys said, i should just say that we were together for X amount of time, we broke up. had the babies and then after a while got back together. I have all kinds of letters, emails an pictures since we got back together. Would that be an option??? The relationship is real, I do not want to lie to the USCIS. thanks you all for your reply

Just don't tell them about bringing him illegally, as you stated.

How will you tackle not bringing his daughter? That's another issue you will need to handle.

[lis&ari :) 0]

Just don't tell them about bringing him illegally, as you stated.

How will you tackle not bringing his daughter? That's another issue you will need to handle.

The mother wont give him permission to bring the baby to the usa, thats understandable. They are not longer together , i wouldnt let my child go anywhere without me.

[lis&ari :) 0]

love always finds a way so good luck to you in whatever you decide to do. if you think it is worth risking up to 2000 dollars to be with the one you love then what have you got to lose?? (apart from the money that is) just understand the risks your taking, get as much advice as you can, and be nothing but completely honest throughout the process

Thanks .I will be honest , especially when it comes to a decision that could change my life forever. I' ll do wathever will take me to be with him, i gave up once, it wont happen again .