Visa Fraud Question...

[worriedwoman 0]

I don't know what to do. I brought my husband over on a k-1 visa and we got married and...well I won't go into details but things got crappy fast. I want to separate and he doesn't. I finally put down my foot and said I couldn't put up with this anymore and I wanted him out. The problem is...we haven't even gotten his temporary greencard yet. He's told me he can NOT go back to his home country because of the shame of such a short marriage and that if he can't stay in the US because we divorce he has no other choice but to kill himself. I honestly think he is serious about this and I agreed to put off a divorce until he got his permanent resident card after the 2 year one is up. But now I'm starting to get worried. We haven't even had our conditional green card interview yet and I'm really starting to get scared we might get caught and I'll get in trouble for committing Visa fraud. To top it off, he's moving half way across the country in a few days and I know that's going to be nearly impossible to explain without raising some eyebrows. I read that's like a felony and could land me 10 years in jail... but I'm at a loss as to what to do. He refuses to got back to his home country saying it's not even an option and I seriously believe he's going to kill himself if I refuse to continue the visa process. I don't want to do this but I don't see any other choice. Worse case scenario, we do get caught...would I really face 10 years in jail? I know this is wrong, I don't want to do it. But I don't want him killing himself and having that on my head for my entire life.

[cardigans5 43]

Honesty is always the best policy! End things and do what you need to do to end the visa on your part. It's not fraud if you married on good intentions and for whatever the reason it didn't work out. As far as his suicide threats...call his bluff. I'll bet it won't happen and if it does so what? Not your fault...you worry about yourself and your morals and integrity. It's insulting this person would use a suicide threat to make you do something illegal. Screw him!

[Bill and Vicky 25]

He's told me he can NOT go back to his home country because of the shame of such a short marriage and that if he can't stay in the US because we divorce he has no other choice but to kill himself.

Sounds like an ultimatum. If he wants to kill himself, that's his business...not yours. It's not your fault if he hurts himself.

But now I'm starting to get worried. We haven't even had our conditional green card interview yet and I'm really starting to get scared we might get caught and I'll get in trouble for committing Visa fraud.

Yep. Not to mention rewarding bad behavior and letting someone who doesn't play nice with other women loose to abuse others.

Worse case scenario, we do get caught...would I really face 10 years in jail? I know this is wrong, I don't want to do it. But I don't want him killing himself and having that on my head for my entire life.

You're both going to have to show up for an interview, and the first thing they'll do is swear you in. I'm pretty certain they tell you the penalties for perjury and fraud as a part of that...if not, it's available on the Internet. Don't do it...not only is it illegal, but it's a bad move.

Why not contact CIS now and *withdraw* your petition? Or wait a few days until he moves and then do it? Tell them it's not working out, that you're getting a divorce, and you are trying to be honest and open with the government. If he has a problem with that, then you've still got a divorce and the legal system to protect you from him.

And, again, if he kills himself that's "not on your head". That's his problem.

Sorry you're having to go through all of this. Good luck.

Care,

Bill

[bigdog 376]

I don't know what to do. I brought my husband over on a k-1 visa and we got married and...well I won't go into details but things got crappy fast. I want to separate and he doesn't. I finally put down my foot and said I couldn't put up with this anymore and I wanted him out. The problem is...we haven't even gotten his temporary greencard yet. He's told me he can NOT go back to his home country because of the shame of such a short marriage and that if he can't stay in the US because we divorce he has no other choice but to kill himself. I honestly think he is serious about this and I agreed to put off a divorce until he got his permanent resident card after the 2 year one is up. But now I'm starting to get worried. We haven't even had our conditional green card interview yet and I'm really starting to get scared we might get caught and I'll get in trouble for committing Visa fraud. To top it off, he's moving half way across the country in a few days and I know that's going to be nearly impossible to explain without raising some eyebrows. I read that's like a felony and could land me 10 years in jail... but I'm at a loss as to what to do. He refuses to got back to his home country saying it's not even an option and I seriously believe he's going to kill himself if I refuse to continue the visa process. I don't want to do this but I don't see any other choice. Worse case scenario, we do get caught...would I really face 10 years in jail? I know this is wrong, I don't want to do it. But I don't want him killing himself and having that on my head for my entire life.

[bigdog 376]

End his visa, he won't kill himself. It will only get worse, get an attorney and divorce. No fraud on your part, he has moved on now you need to.

[Dumb/Dumber 61]

I don't know what to do. I brought my husband over on a k-1 visa and we got married and...well I won't go into details but things got crappy fast. I want to separate and he doesn't. I finally put down my foot and said I couldn't put up with this anymore and I wanted him out. The problem is...we haven't even gotten his temporary greencard yet. He's told me he can NOT go back to his home country because of the shame of such a short marriage and that if he can't stay in the US because we divorce he has no other choice but to kill himself. I honestly think he is serious about this and I agreed to put off a divorce until he got his permanent resident card after the 2 year one is up. But now I'm starting to get worried. We haven't even had our conditional green card interview yet and I'm really starting to get scared we might get caught and I'll get in trouble for committing Visa fraud. To top it off, he's moving half way across the country in a few days and I know that's going to be nearly impossible to explain without raising some eyebrows. I read that's like a felony and could land me 10 years in jail... but I'm at a loss as to what to do. He refuses to got back to his home country saying it's not even an option and I seriously believe he's going to kill himself if I refuse to continue the visa process. I don't want to do this but I don't see any other choice. Worse case scenario, we do get caught...would I really face 10 years in jail? I know this is wrong, I don't want to do it. But I don't want him killing himself and having that on my head for my entire life.

Suicide threats are a way of controlling you. It would be the same if you told him that you are going to commit suicide if you have to stay in the marriage. Say goodbye and good luck. Take care of yourself.

[tan&tuyet 15]

I don't know what to do. I brought my husband over on a k-1 visa and we got married and...well I won't go into details but things got crappy fast. I want to separate and he doesn't. I finally put down my foot and said I couldn't put up with this anymore and I wanted him out. The problem is...we haven't even gotten his temporary greencard yet. He's told me he can NOT go back to his home country because of the shame of such a short marriage and that if he can't stay in the US because we divorce he has no other choice but to kill himself. I honestly think he is serious about this and I agreed to put off a divorce until he got his permanent resident card after the 2 year one is up. But now I'm starting to get worried. We haven't even had our conditional green card interview yet and I'm really starting to get scared we might get caught and I'll get in trouble for committing Visa fraud. To top it off, he's moving half way across the country in a few days and I know that's going to be nearly impossible to explain without raising some eyebrows. I read that's like a felony and could land me 10 years in jail... but I'm at a loss as to what to do. He refuses to got back to his home country saying it's not even an option and I seriously believe he's going to kill himself if I refuse to continue the visa process. I don't want to do this but I don't see any other choice. Worse case scenario, we do get caught...would I really face 10 years in jail? I know this is wrong, I don't want to do it. But I don't want him killing himself and having that on my head for my entire life.

Don't let his threats of suicide stop you from moving on and living your life. If he truely loves you he would let you move on and be happy.

[worriedwoman 0]

I know that I shouldn't be doing this but it's just we have a daughter and if he does kill himself...ugh..I'm feeling kinda trapped. I wish there was an easy answer to this. I can't afford a lawyer and I already have a huge amount of guilt over breaking this marriage up. I think I'll wait till he moves and talk to him over the internet...but he'll still blame me I'm sure. This is a classic case of following your heart over your head :\

[Kengux 3]

You have not told us what led to this.. Did he cheated on u with another woman or what really happened if i may ask? And try and put the beneficiary's country so that it'll be helpful for us to advice u amicably

Edited July 22, 2011 by Kendra O Shamonti

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

If you really think he is a threat to himself, send him to a hospital for mental health treatment. You should not let him manipulate you into staying married and lying to get his greencard. What if YOU go to jail... where would your child be then?

[Darnell 8,478]

well, it sounds like (correct me if I'm wrong) that the two of you have filed the Adjustment of Status paperwork.

If you wish to walk away, now, prior to interview and/or greencard issuance -

write a letter to:

--local USCIS office

--national USCIS office

withdrawing your I-864, affadavit of support. He cannot adjust status without this affadavit, and to 'stop his process' - the withdrawal of the I-864 is the ONLY thing you can do.

I suggest you send off the letter tomorrow, then file divorce paperwork this week.

[Anh map 2,098]

+1 for Darnell and others. Withdraw your affidavit of support and file for divorce.

If your affidavit of support goes through with the Adjustment of Status you are liable for any means tested benefit he uses.

Don't let the emotional blackmail push you to a decision that you know isn't the right one.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

My son was going to kill himself if he didn't get a specific toy. He is now a grown man and lived to adulthood without the toy. Threats like that are how immature personalities try to get their way. You should never lie to the government to help someone no matter how "rotten" their life way back home or how embarrassed they would be. He will live to see tomorrow no matter how embarrassed he is. What he is embarrassed by is he was gragging to his friends back home how he found a foolish person in the US to marry him so he can get a green card. Now you have uncovered his scheme and he has to face the music. Stand up and kick him to the curb. Pull your affidavit and let him worry about his own messes.

[worriedwoman 0]

Well, I would like to say that I'm certain he didn't get into this just for a greencard. The breakup is a mutual thing but mostly on me. It's more of a completely incompatible personalities over anything else. But I honestly am afraid he'd kill himself. His culture is pretty 'ok' in general with suicide over stupid stuff like this. He's completely shamed because most of his relatives told him this wouldn't work and he was crazy for marrying an American. So now he feels he can't go back there and face the music, so to speak. He's leaving on Monday and I think that's when I'll contact him via email with the bad news. I just can't do it face to face. I already went through a 24 hour period where I constantly thought I was going to walk in to find him dead and I don't want to have to go through that again. I just still feel so guilty about all this which is why I'm hesitating. But as Harpa said, if I do this and get caught...I need to think about my daughter.

Now...I have a joint sponsor on the 864. Do they have to send in something separately? Is there some official form or something they need to fill out to withdraw support? Thanks everyone for the advice.

[Mal and Meg 12]

Sounds like a horrible situation to be in and i hope it works out ok for you! If hes threatening to kill himself it is not your problem so let him do what he wants