Spouse and I are not living together

[beppo 8]

In addition, my husband first and foremost likes to see success to his relatives, education-wise. He and his mother helped me pass the nursing course in 2009. Now he is doing the same with his brother. He turned his brother from a C/B student to an A student this year. So, he rationalized not moving with me because of this, and it's not like I'm hurt by this decision because we still go out frequently.

Obviously your not going to take certain advice from VJ members. The USCIS don't really care about other family members. All they want to know is about you and your OH, living in the same house, having a bona fida marriage.

All I can say is good luck...................cause you will need at the interview.

[Rhenajones 0]

Obviously your not going to take certain advice from VJ members. The USCIS don't really care about other family members. All they want to know is about you and your OH, living in the same house, having a bona fida marriage.

All I can say is good luck...................cause you will need at the interview.

It sounds like you have not heard of distant marriages, and making it work out through the eyes of USCIS. There have been approved applications with the same scenario as us, especially couples who are apart because of work and college locations. What we need is a good defense - why we don't live together if we live close enough. Thanks for the well wishes, though.

[Boiler 47,526]

Is this an arranged marriage?

[beppo 8]

It sounds like you have not heard of distant marriages, and making it work out through the eyes of USCIS. There have been approved applications with the same scenario as us, especially couples who are apart because of work and college locations. What we need is a good defense - why we don't live together if we live close enough. Thanks for the well wishes, though.

There's distant yes, but your talking of 15 miles away not 150 miles away. You tell me or show me a link on the same sort of scenario as yours.

My question is........Is your husband willing to live with you or not? Easy question to answer.

[Rhenajones 0]

Is this an arranged marriage?

Your post is very offensive.

I knew him from his country and were close neighbors with my parents' house. We knew each other dating back to 1994 and became good friends. We then reunited when I happened to study and work in his town. Our parents and mine have absolutely no weight and influence in our decision to marry, but since I have no place to stay, I accepted to live with him.

[Rhenajones 0]

There's distant yes, but your talking of 15 miles away not 150 miles away. You tell me or show me a link on the same sort of scenario as yours.

My question is........Is your husband willing to live with you or not? Easy question to answer.

In the sense that I have to relocate because of stress, maybe not.

In the sense that we live apart while in a good faith marriage, yes. It's as simple as asking him to move out with me. I brought it up just this morning, and he accepted. Use a search engine to look for such cases "AOS petition different address". I found one too many to link here.

Thanks for the advice and concern. We may have to find a lawyer to tell us what to do. My husband has already received his EAD approval a few days ago, and he can take the driver's license test using my address in the card. We have already requested a change of address in our joint bills, and in the AR-11.

Edited June 19, 2011 by Rhenajones

[nurse1967 287]

Something is rotten in Denmark....no offensive to the Danes of course.....

[VanessaTony 3,567]

I'm sorry but you "got out often"? That is the comment of a boyfriend and girlfriend, not husband and wife. It's obvious you married to obtain immigration benefits for him, you might like him, heck love him even but you got married so he didn't need to leave... which would have been fine if it had been to "stay together" but instead you moved out. It's made all the more obvious by his parents lack of status. You have a LOT of red-flags to overcome. Changing his address to yours just makes it look like you realise he needed to live with you to "pass" the interview.

Anyway it's good you found a lawyer. You might be fine but you need to prepare for the worst. You need to prepare for the tough questions, you need to prepare for denial and trying to overcome that. You can't just think because other people have been fine living apart you will be... because you live 15 MILES apart. That is absolutely nothing and he should have moved with you. USCIS won't buy that he stayed there to help out his family, because again, 15 miles is nothing. You weren't offended he wanted to stay at home and not with you? Yeah... I'm sorry but this doesn't read like a love relationship, this reads like friends helping each other out. And if we think that, USCIS will be much harsher.

Edited June 19, 2011 by Vanessa&Tony

[Casprd 167]

Some threads are like watching an episode of House. Bottom line is you and your spouse don't live together. This will not go down well with USCIS. You can live with him or he can live with you but you can't falsely claim to live with each other. That will be immigration fraud and lead to him getting deported and assuming you are a naturalized citizen, it could lead to issues with your citizenship being revoked and deportation.

These are your only choices. Go to USCIS as is and let the chips fall where they may or one of you moves and updates your address and you go to USCIS prepared to explain why you had seperate addresses for a while. Unfortunately your efforts to convince us why your situation is ok is a wasted effort. The members on VJ aren't the ones who must be convinced. It is the IO who must be convinced so you can take the advice and information you have been given or not. Good Luck to you, sounds like you will need it.

[Rhenajones 0]

I'm sorry but you "got out often"? That is the comment of a boyfriend and girlfriend, not husband and wife. It's obvious you married to obtain immigration benefits for him, you might like him, heck love him even but you got married so he didn't need to leave... which would have been fine if it had been to "stay together" but instead you moved out. It's made all the more obvious by his parents lack of status. You have a LOT of red-flags to overcome. Changing his address to yours just makes it look like you realise he needed to live with you to "pass" the interview.

Anyway it's good you found a lawyer. You might be fine but you need to prepare for the worst. You need to prepare for the tough questions, you need to prepare for denial and trying to overcome that. You can't just think because other people have been fine living apart you will be... because you live 15 MILES apart. That is absolutely nothing and he should have moved with you. USCIS won't buy that he stayed there to help out his family, because again, 15 miles is nothing. You weren't offended he wanted to stay at home and not with you? Yeah... I'm sorry but this doesn't read like a love relationship, this reads like friends helping each other out. And if we think that, USCIS will be much harsher.

Friends don't share bank accounts, bills, credit cards, buy wedding rings, state them as work beneficiary, half a shelf full of our pictures, health insurance, life insurance stating our wills to each other, and a bunch of people who knew our marriage. We are confident with evidence of our marriage, other than the fact that we don't have kids yet. We want our own house for that, so we'll need a stable career together. I screwed up in my driver's license, and I still have proof and receipt of the old one.

[beppo 8]

Friends don't share bank accounts, bills, credit cards, buy wedding rings, state them as work beneficiary, half a shelf full of our pictures, health insurance, life insurance stating our wills to each other, and a bunch of people who knew our marriage. We are confident with evidence of our marriage, other than the fact that we don't have kids yet. We want our own house for that, so we'll need a stable career together. I screwed up in my driver's license, and I still have proof and receipt of the old one.

You would be surprised what so called friends do to help one another out. I actually know a US citizen who was offered a lot of money to help someone out in immigration. I can't remember how much was involved, but it was around $15,000 and part of the deal was to live with each and make out the marriage was real for about 3 years. She obviously and rightly refused.

I'm not saying that is you, so don't take it the wrong way. If the USCIS smells something wrong, they may and probebly will go in deeper. The last thing you want is to get get denied or whatever else may happen eg- Stokes Interview.

Again, good luck.

[Rhenajones 0]

You would be surprised what so called friends do to help one another out. I actually know a US citizen who was offered a lot of money to help someone out in immigration. I can't remember how much was involved, but it was around $15,000 and part of the deal was to live with each and make out the marriage was real for about 3 years. She obviously and rightly refused.

I'm not saying that is you, so don't take it the wrong way. If the USCIS smells something wrong, they may and probebly will go in deeper. The last thing you want is to get get denied or whatever else may happen eg- Stokes Interview.

Again, good luck.

Neither of us came from a rich family, nor do we know anyone who would spill that amount.

Thanks for the advice everyone. We will take this to a lawyer. My concerns are more or less cleared up. We've been reading all the responses together.

Edited June 19, 2011 by Rhenajones

[TBoneTX 47,547]

Please let us know what the lawyer says, and what happens at your AOS interview.

[BobnCherry 10]

I'm with the rest of the members: the best way to resolve this is the obvious... he moves in with you. He is your husband. I'm with the rest... I don't get it.

I have to side with the group also something just don't add up..I say get ur poop in a group and move back in with each other.

[Sunny123 44]