failed k1 im manila

[jeraldgefre 0]

hello people...have not been here for a while..yesterday my girl had her interview and was denied because of a pitition that another man had started..i was unaware of this and she told me that she thought it was done and over with..she said it only cleared nvc but she pulled from relationship because of problems that he would not accept her family and was wanting no part of them.so this brought me into picture as new petioner after 6 months.i have been there to visit her and family a total of five weeks and in two trips.she is unsure if our case is closed but was denied because of old case.is there anything that i can do to get old case removed?i am dissapointed she never said anything to me of this but she says she was afraid that i would turn on her for this.i do understand her thinking but i told her that paper trail is in system and she should have known this when we first filed in laguna,ca.i am at loss to know what to do now..any help would be greatly appreciated please.

[marklovetina 52]

contact the previous petitioner and tell him to withdraw the previous k1...

u can re-file the k1 again or do the cr1....

[Tero 105]

Sounds like your girl is fishing for foreigners. You might want to get to know her very well first before you continue. What else is she not telling you? You can get the previous petitioner's contact from her and try to have a friendly chat with him. Find out why he did not follow through with her (hopefully their stories match). There may be other things you would find out from him that your girl would not let you know. If all goes well, then you can have him withdraw any pending petition so you can initiate yours again.

[wendy&tamer 10]

I think I would be a little cautious and look more into the fact that she hid that from you. It will take time to refile and in that time the relationship may need re-evaluated. IMO that shouldnt have been something she kept to herself (being engaged to another man in such a short time and confessing her undying love so fast to another US citizen). I wish you the best of luck and hope this wasnt some elaborate set-up. I hope it all works out.

[Anh map 2,098]

From what you've stated as the facts it sounds like the CO in Manila is questioning your fiancee's true motives: love or wanting to reside in the US. That is what she needs to be able to explain satisfactorily in the interview.

Even with the old petition expired/removed/revoked that will be a part of her file. A consultation with an experienced immigration attorney may be helpful to prepare your next step.

Best of luck.

[Messybrownhair 251]

First of all, I am sorry that she did not tell you about it. It must not have been a pleasant surprise to hear. She should have known better but I have a feeling she was too afraid to risk losing you. Anyway.. it sucks that you have to be the one to suffer the consequences of the unaccounted previous petition. And if I am not mistaken, you will have to wait for USCIS to get back to you right? Someone correct me if I am wrong. Also, is there a way to ask the previous petitioner to withdraw it as previously mentioned by godsgift? Also, remember that honesty is very important in a relationship. Just a thought.

[Messybrownhair 251]

To me it seems like when the other one didn't work out, she looked for a back-up right away. Maybe I'm being judgemental but that's just how it looks from my perspective ^.^ I hope I am wrong and best of luck to you both!

Edited January 29, 2011 by messybrownhair

[Tero 105]

It is hard for me to imagine that a girl would be willing to marry two different men in a span of less than 6 months. Marriage is not a joke, it's a serious institution. If the first guy broke her heart, I don't see how easy it would be for her to meet someone else, fall in love, and be ready for marriage again in just a total span of 6 months. From the OP's story, when you factor the time between filing a petition and an NOA2, it seems she jumped on the OP's boat almost immediately the first one did not work out. OP, please you need to rethink this again thoroughly. She hid some facts from, got you proposing immediately after her last, ...are you sure she really loves you? As bitter as it may sound, I smell a rat ...or a fish.

Edited January 29, 2011 by Tero

[john & jean 37]

RUN, and do not look back

[Tero 105]

RUN, and do not look back

You have the nerve I lack to say the obvious!

[bayojona3231 4]

I agree with everyone. This girl might be hiding a lot from you. How can she ammry twice in a period of 6 months. I do not like to be judgemental; but this relationship does not look good. If I were you, I would some investigation before I take my next step. Most Filipinas are NOT like this. There must be trust in a marriage. If there is no trust, you have nothing. Good luck on your journey

RUN, and do not look back

[Richie Rich 70]

Forget about her --it smells ''fishy ''--too many red flags . She sounds like a ''gold digger''.Consider yourself lucky it happened now and not later.

[James and Cynthia 70]

I would run too. Previous relationships, especially serious ones that were recent, should have been disclosed to each other. She's got to be hiding more. Sounds like you both jumped in too soon. If you filed so soon, how could you know she is faithful or honest? Doesn't sound like she was. What a risky way to get married. Good thing you found out now. Take your time with the next one.

-James

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

I have to agree with everyone else. The fact that she didn't tell you about this should be setting off alarms in your head. I can't count how many people have posted on this forum after their fiancee arrived in the US, got married, and then turned into bridezilla. At that point, it was obvious to them that they'd been played for a green card, and almost all of them say that there was an alarm like this early in the relationship but they chose to ignore it.

If I were in your shoes, I'd pull the plug. If the petition is allowed to expire (which is likely with CSC) then don't file another one. Tell her you are hurt by the fact that she hid this from you, and you'd like at least another year or two to allow your relationship to develop before you consider filing another petition. If she drops you like a hot potato then you've got your answer.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Take the advice from many here. Good Luck!