HELP!!!!!!!! What should I do?

[Penguin_ie 5,988]

***** Moving from AOS to Effects of Major Family Changes as this is what is happening *****

[TJ 4EVER 40]

Hi OP,

My heart began to ache as I read your post. First and foremost I am praying for you and your unborn baby. No one deserves to be betrayed the way that it appears that you have been betrayed. I do not have advice in regards to ICE but as for your emotional and spiritual well being if you haven't already I would say take all of your worries and concern to God. I cannot imagine the amount of pain and disappointment you must be experiencing right now. I commend you for reaching out and seeking the support of others (posting your comment). Do not isolate yourself, that would invite depression to creep in. If you have good family support lean on them right now. Someone posted that you should see a doctor, I agree. the amount of stress you could be experiencing will not be good for you or your baby. I would like to be hopeful as I see you are trying to be by hoping there is a reasonable explanation. Unfortunately as it appears (him packing all his belongings) it seems as if he used you to gain a GC. I know for myself, the amount of money, time, blood, sweat and tears it takes to get your spouse.fiancee) over here must make you feel enraged, used and taken for grated. All of what you are feeling is normal and please whatever you do, do not blame yourself for this and do not do the could of, should of because it will only make you feel worse. Continue or start praying and I will keep praying on my end. Follow up with filing a missing persons report. Check his cellphone records, email accounts or any other social networks he could have been using. Perhaps you will get the answers you are looking for. God bless you, keep your head up and if you need to keep reaching out, keep posting, we are here for you.

[coraliesolms 47]

Yes, that would be my first move. Check his cell phone records and start calling numbers on it. You might find something out that way. Start scouring your computer for anything that seems suspicious to you. Something like this would have to be co-ordinated. Do you have a credit card that he might have used? Does he have his own credit card?

[magdasal 19]

This is so unusual....perhaps you may want to wait until some more information comes thru before drawing the conclusion that it is fraud on his part though. He hasn't used his cell phone or withdrawn any money and doesn't have a car...it's very, very strange. I know this thought won't make you feel any better (maybe worse), but he could be a victim of foul play of some kind. I think that is what the police were getting at. Just keep gathering any information you can and check with the police often and pray for the best.

[Boiler 43,859]

I see no evidence of immigration fraud, I can not see why ICE would be interested.

[The Clown 1]

Good idea...or check your online phone record to see who he last contacted, that may give you a clue.

Depending also who is your cell phone provider I know AT&T has what is called Smart Limits. It cost 4.99 a month and it shows you ( if the phone is on of course ) will show you the adress where he is !!!

[James and Cynthia 70]

I see no evidence of immigration fraud, I can not see why ICE would be interested.

This seems like fraud to me. If his stuff and luggage is gone, then he must have planned it. If he gave you no clue and there were no problems, then he was hiding his intentions very well. If he has not used any accounts or cell phones, then it sounds like he knows how to disappear very well.

I am really sorry for you. But I can't think of any other explanation.

Can anyone give any possible explanation for this kind of thing happening other than it being fraud?

I would suggest looking through the phone records as others have said, but if he can't be found soon, report him to ICE and don't continue hurting yourself by looking. You're going to have to move on. I'm sorry to say that, but the sooner you start, the better you will be.

-James

[Nicole-N-Nattoy 24]

WOW...If that isn't every JVers worst nightmare. I am hurting for you and am here if you need to message me or anything. Know that it may take years and he may smile for awhile, but what goes around comes around, and if he did just leave you like that he will one day live 2 regret it, and it may be immpossible to believe but you will find better and appreciate the situation one blessed day. Am so sorry this has happend. I would find him, put him on child support, and ruin every chance he has of getting a 10 year GC, or let it be and God will take care of it. I would suspect someone in his family knows what's going on, but are sticking up for him. Maybe he got cold feet with the new baby and all and will come back and you 2 can sort things out. Give it as long as u have hope then I would do what you have 2. I think him taking his things is a sign he left willingly, but in this world you never know. Someone could have took his things to make it look like he left.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

You said you are pregnant , how far along are you ? Did you recently tell him ? How old is he ? What has he been doing since he arrived ? If he is not working what did he do ? Does he have places he normally goes ? Is there a computer in the house he used ? Have you looked though it ? Have you paid someone to look trough it ( geeks can usually find things normal people think they have hidden). To me it sounds more like he has cracked under the pressure of impending fatherhood. If he left with "all his stuff" he probably had some help as carrying around stuff is not easy. Someone that dumped you would have probably cleaned out the bank accounts also. Whatever happened some serious consoling is in order. The first thing is to locate him. Good luck.

[jpidgley 9]

Wow, this sounds like a plot in a Special Ops army movie, not what would really happen. Im sure no one here can realistically understand what you're going through. all we can do is offer any vague ideas we can think of. i agree with the first statement, theres not much we can really do for you, we arent professionals.

All i can think of is a few things you can do at home, online. as your on here, i can assume you have internet. check your phone history, check your mobile phone history, check email history, check your computer's IP history. Google him, and yourself, you might be surprised. check your bank account history, check where his cards were last used.

finally triple check your home for a note. anywhere it could have potentially blown to or fallen behind.

[carolynhotstuff 252]

I had the same situation happen to me after 10 years of marriage but my ex-husband is a US Citizen. I came home and all his things were gone and he didn't leave a note. We had a 6 year old son together and he left on our sons birthday. He had also cleaned out our savings account.

I filed a missing persons report, talked to his family, tired to get information from his employer, etc. In talking to family members they finally admitted that he had retired from his job and left me for another women that he had met online and was in a different State. They even had his address but I didn't want it I just knew what State he was living in. I was lucky he retired from General Motors so I was able to go after him for child support. Because he had abandoned his wife and son the judge was very hard on him. I was given the same amount of child support as if he been working and I was also given alimony.

The hardest part of the whole thing was watching what it did to my son. It tore him up not seeing or hearing from his father.

It took about 3 months before he contacted me because things were not working out with the other woman and he wanted to come home. I refused to take him back.

I'm so sorry your husband has left you without leaving a note. It's a mean thing for him to do. Keep talking to his family members as they can be your best source of information. He will get in touch with his parents or brothers and sisters at some point.

Try to stay strong and put the health of your baby first. You will get through this. It's your decision if you want to report him to ICE.

[ptgarner1 8]

It was a cruel and classless thing to do...packing up and leaving without an explantion or even a note. You need to protect yourself since he has shown you cant depend on him. Change the locks on your front door. If anyone questions you, you are worried something has happened to him and they now have the key to your house. Also please take any money he can get from the joint bank account or credit cards. For now it seems he has not used this but if things get desperate for him he could wipe you out.

At this point it really doesnt matter if you missed signs this was going to happen or even could have done something to help him before. You need to take care of yourself now. The fog will lift and you can sort thru the wreckage another day.

[Jenn! 918]

Was there really no hint that would indicated fraud to you? If not, why would you assume that? Did he know you are pregnant? Maybe he got scared and pulled a runner, but will come to his senses and come back? Maybe he got involved in some shady stuff and he had to leave because he was going to put you in danger? I think there are so many possibilities, it doesn't do a lot of good to speculate.

Whatever has happened, I'm really sorry for you.

[w8inglongtime 29]

You should not worry too much about his safety at this time. Spend time making sure you are in good health and most especially the baby is doing fine. The fact that he packed his belongings show he had planned this a while back. If he was kidnapped and robbed, the house would have been a mess by the time you got back. Get a copy of the police report of a missing person and if you find out he abondoned you and the unborn child, you can write to ICE and add a copy of the police report letting them know he took off once he got the card. Good luck.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

I am sorry to know about your situation. Specially since you are pregnant and, therefore, particularly vulnerable. It must be really hard, but you must try to take care of yourself and your unborn baby. Make sure to eat right, get enough sleep, and try not to worry... Yes, I know, it is much easier said than done. You have contacted the police and the missing persons. You also said that his family says they do not know his whereabouts. Did he take his joint debit or credit cards with him? Maybe you could try to track him through expenses or purchases made with these cards (if you are joint account holder). If you want to go through the expense, I guess you could hire a private investigator. Otherwise, it will be the one very painful thing left for you to do: wait.

I am not saying this is the case in your situation, but yes, I have read and known of cases where the beneficiary married the USC ONLY to gain migrant benefits (aka residency) and soon after abandoned the USC petitioner. Contact ICE and let them know of this in order to make sure this goes on his records so that he has a really hard time later on if he were to try to remove the conditions of his residency on his own.

Best wishes to you in this very devastating situation. Do take care