To lie about sordid details?

[utopia2004 2]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

Edited October 10, 2009 by utopia2004

[rebeccajo 14]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

Answer to question 18...

"We met in an online chatroom. After communicating online for some time we decided we should meet in person. On (date) I flew to Prague and met (name of fiancee) at the airport. We spent a wonderful weekend in Prague and decided to get married"

I wrote about as much (actually less) to describe how I met Alla in Prague (Great city, Prague is). Attach copies of your boarding passes and passport stamps and some photos of the two of you together (clothing optional) We were approved in 58 days. No RFEs. Whats to lie about?

[rebeccajo 14]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

My husband was asked what website we met on.

This question is asked because of IMBRA.

And please don't go on and on at me about my previous post. First you are moaning if I use "one liners". Then you moan because I explain my reasoning. And this coming from you anyway - Mr. Can't Answer Without Writing A Book?

Edited October 11, 2009 by rebeccajo

[Kittyfang 6]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

My husband was asked what website we met on.

This question is asked because of IMBRA.

And please don't go on and on at me about my previous post. First you are moaning if I use "one liners". Then you moan because I explain my reasoning. And this coming from you anyway - Mr. Can't Answer Without Writing A Book?

How about we stay on topic without trying to pick fights? (Because, so far, that makes two people to go bat ###### crazy over silly things. Let's remember we're all adults.)

I agree with Gary. A truthful, shot answer is the best and is most likely all that will be needed. Even if the interviewer was to ask "What kind of website?", the only thing that will come out of this is that the couple might giggle and blush. I very much doubt that the interviewer will go into any more details than that... and quite frankly, I wonder if he'd have the right to? I can imagine the discussion: "Where did you meet? "In a chat room" "oh yeah? What site?" "oh it was www.allpornallthetime.com" "mmm what kind of website is that?" "...porn..." "and what were you two doing on there?" See where I'm going? It's not going to go that far.

So, you can relax, don't lie, be honest, but at the same time, don't volunteer information.

Edited October 11, 2009 by Kittyfang

[utopia2004 2]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Oh ok, so they wouldn't find out about this employment through other means (i.e employment background check?) and look badly on the sort of job it is? or would they only be aware of it when she discloses the job on the form?

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Not really. They have to explain how they met IN PERSON. If they feel compelled they can say they were "introduced" online like thousands of others do.

To paraphrae your previous post..."blah, blah, yada, yada"

OK, that said, exactly TWELVE ghosts can dance on the head of a pin. You can put 16 pancakes in a doghouse (because a car only has four doors) Half of Tuesday is Sunday afternoon, and if a train leaves St. louis going east...55 miles per hour.

The OP asks if he should lie. The answer is NO. He does not need to explain how they met, only how they met in person. He does not need to include a job description in the G-325a, only name and address of employer. She has no criminal record. Case closed, fini...it is a non-issue.

To the OP...go on with life, enjoy your new life with your fiancee (soon to be wife) and best of luck to you.

My husband was asked what website we met on.

This question is asked because of IMBRA.

And please don't go on and on at me about my previous post. First you are moaning if I use "one liners". Then you moan because I explain my reasoning. And this coming from you anyway - Mr. Can't Answer Without Writing A Book?

Relevent deatil in answering a members question is not a vice. Rembling irrelevnt drivel is not a virtue.

That said, we were asked no questions at all, so what does that mean?. Suggested answer

Prague IO: What website did you meet on?

Visa applicant: Streammate.

Next question please.

[Gary and Alla 3,696]

Was she doing this full time or part time along side another job?

If she was doing it part time with another job, would it be possible to leave this of the form and just mention the other employment... if they dont background check and find out about this job that is?

They still have to explain where they met.

Oh ok, so they wouldn't find out about this employment through other means (i.e employment background check?) and look badly on the sort of job it is? or would they only be aware of it when she discloses the job on the form?

what do you diclose on the form? Name and address of employer and "occupation". Employer is most likely "self employed" occupation is "internet sales". Problem? Where? They do not do employment background checks.

[thongd4me 69]

The sordid thing is that i met my fiancee on a porn site, Streammate. She used to chat with guys and do private shows. We have decided to marry. We have made up our minds, so i am not asking for advice about that. Question is, should we lie on the K1 application and when she goes to her interview? We could make it vague, but what if they ask detailed questions during the interview? We did not break any laws and it was not a marriage broker site. We have good evidence for the relationship.

Anyone else met this way, pls PM me.

Should I get a lawyer before we file K1?

Thx

No. Do not lie. You met on the internet. What's to lie about? Lots of K-1 petitions start this way...meeting on the internet. And something tells me the site is not subject to IMBRA regulations.

You also don't need a lawyer. Tell them it was a chat room. Perfectly honest answer. I doubt it is illegal in Russia, besides she has never been arrested and has no criminal record. The whole thing is a non-issue.

I agree with Gary 100%. We also met on a site that, given both of our past histories

and upbringing, moral values, etc. was not a place where either of us belonged.

My interactions with other members were ZERO as well as were hers. No fees were

paid or received by either one of us. We both removed ourselves from the members

list shortly after we met. The site does not even exist today. If they ask her what site

it was, I can't really remember the name but would suffice it to say it was an "MSN

interest group" in which neither of us really had any interest. I picked her ID from

the members list and the rest is history. I didn't chat up anyone else from that group.

If you ask a lawyer if you need a lawyer if you fit the OP's scenario the lawyer will

most certainly tell you yes you need one. I think that speaks for itself.

[Applying4K1Visa 0]

Thanks again for all the advice. I realize that they are opinions, and noone knows for sure what will happen in Vermont or in Prague. I don't really have any interest in the internal feuds on this site. I realize now that the worst thing would be to tell any lies at any point during the process. I am essentially going to take Gary/Alla's advice and I think all will be ok.

[Old Dominion 26]

In the interest of the integrity of this site, these irrelevant personal dialogues should be excised by those who are empowered to do it. Pot shots and one-up-manship detract from VJ's credibility.

[Kathryn41 3,207]

I agree with Old Dominion and in the interest of preserving the integrity of this thread and keeping useful information available for the OP and for others who may find themselves in similar circumstances, I have gone through and removed the judgmental, the bickering, the personal attacks and the off-topic comments from this thread. There are some good comments that have also been removed but because those posters chose to quote the bickering, judgmental or OT type of comments in the body of their post even though their comments did not apply to the quoted material, those comments also have to be removed as I cannot edited out the poor content and leave only the good comment. I can leave all of a post or none of a post.

To those who wish to continue this thread as a battleground for personal agendas - don't. The OP has received the information he requested. If anyone has anything else that is useful to add to this thread, please do so. If you have nothing useful to say, then don't. If a repeat of any of this poor behaviour continues in this thread I will close it.

[TBoneTX 49,816]

Trust me, the US Embassy's and US Consulate’s that are spread out in the world have neither have the resources or time to drain the petitions, Visa apps et al and chase down every item listed on them much less conduct a full scope background check beyond what's available to them locally (a cursory police check within that country) and what available to them from within the US.

On what authority do you state this, please?

The US folks that staff these Embassies and Consulates are pretty first rate, doesn’t mean that their aren’t exceptions but for the most part-first rate. Same for the local staffers, for the most part. In any case, they don’t have the time and resources to chase down all the minutia about your fiancée.

On what authority do you state this, please?

So, no worries.

On what authority do you state THIS, please?

I cannot believe how many perhaps-otherwise-sensible people on VisaJourney can dismiss or disregard the investigative capabilities of the embassies and consulates -- which can be exercised at ANY time on the basis of ANY motive per ANY consular officer's whim, or in accordance with the policy of ANY Immigrant Unit Section Chief.

[Road 2 Peace Arch 0]

I think the OP's question has been answered about 10 times so far.

Now, lets get back to watching Jon and Kate + 8 or is it Kate plus 8 minus the girly man, Jon