He is 65 and She is 23

[Hell0W0rld 10]

it doesn't matter how much stats you want to see this is not a debate so stop trolling for one. 65 and 23 is a big age difference, that is the truth..... OP needs to deal with it, again, prepare as much as possible.

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I have love and will love him forever. .

Thank you soOOo much for the corcen VJ members here. . weee!

Yay, actually I am not good in numbers, so counting is not my thing. hehe!

Anyhow, my only concern was might the consol be very strict about it. . But so glad hear from different views all of you. weeeeee!

Again Thank you superRrr much!

xoxo

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Ahem,

I have read all the responses. . and quiet a bit something goin on down here. . .

Guys. . relax!

just need some views. . and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. .

thank you for helping with this issue. .

Keep the love burnin'!

xoxo

[L179 1]

I guess its not a requirement by any governing agency. However, there are some norms in this society. Its very rare that one ends up breaking these norms. You can always expect a 65 year old to fall in love with a 23 year old, however very rarely would a 23 year old want to marry a 65 year old. I mean one always wants to spend the rest of their lives with their significant others. And very rare do you expect a 65 year old to live as long as the 23 year old one would. Normally a young one marries the older seeing a secure and stable future if the older partner is quite rich.

Otherwise age difference usually makes things a bit complicated becuase the two parties are in totally different wavelengths. One has lived their lives, and seen it all, the other is about to begin their life and wishes to explore and adventure.

A 23 year old is full of energy to have children and take on responsibility where a 65 year old is done and through with responsiblities and wishes to lay back and hit the remote button.

Again this is not the stereotypical statement however just something rarely expected. The consulate will definately want significant proof of a valid relationship to strengthen the case. Definately many questions will arise and you need to be prepared for all

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Thru this journey the (print) always appears age is never to be a issue BUT in the end it is the (unspoken) thoughts of the person doing the interview. It does and can affect the papers its just never written that this is the problem on the returns. As was said the age difference can cause problems along the way, the older person already has done so many things and the younger has never experienced alot of these things. The older will in time feel they are raising another child

[Susita 175]

Does it really matter when it come to interview at USEM? Would the consol give you a hardtime about it?

HELPPPP!!!!!!!

It could seem kinda weird. They need to make a good case.

My grandma is 68 and I'm 25 soooo.... can seem quite strange.

But if they fell in love with each other for real, they need to do as much as they can to prove it to the CO.

[Krikit 1,163]

There are some very unnecessary comments in this thread. Please be civil. Thank you.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

Being a 42 year age difference I would make sure you have a good petition package and have lots of proof/evidence of a true relationship for her to bring to the interview. There is a 32 year age difference between me and my wife. I was worried about it but I had a very good petition package and loads of evidence of a true relationship and I had made more than 1 trip to the Phils to be with my fiancee.

Our age difference was never mentioned at the interview.

Good luck

[Susita 175]

It could seem kinda weird. They need to make a good case.

My grandma is 68 and I'm 25 soooo.... can seem quite strange.

But if they fell in love with each other for real, they need to do as much as they can to prove it to the CO.

I just want to clear up and say that I didn't mean to offend with this. I was just saying in the minds of a CO, it's probable that they are going to think this way and be wary.

My aunt and uncle have a 30 year age difference, and although they're very happy we have to understand the reality, people are going to be people and people talk. They have problems with this all the time, even though they've been married for almost 20 years now.

Normally I would say, who cares what anyone else thinks? Or age is just a number. But the reality is that you're dealing with the embassy unfortunately and they are ultimately deciding your future.

Good luck!

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Consular officers look at the totality of the case when determining whether they suspect fraud, and what to do about it. They can't deny a visa because they merely suspect fraud - this would be comparable to readjudicating an approved petition, which they don't have the authority to do. What they usually do instead is try to find a flaw, such as a contradiction in the evidence, which they can use as grounds to send the petition back to USCIS. If they can't find the flaw in the documents, then they'll grill the beneficiary and try to get him/her to slip up and provide the contradiction for them. This is especially true at high fraud consulates.

The age difference by itself is not cause to refuse a visa. However, at some consulates it can be a red flag if it is a common characteristic in fraudulent applications. I know with certainty that this is true at the consulate in Vietnam, and strongly suspect it is the same in Manila. When the CO's in Ho Chi Minh City see a young female beneficiary and an old male petitioner, they assume the beneficiary is looking for a green card, and the petitioner is looking for a sex toy.

On the other hand, I've seen a lot of couples with a large age difference and a beneficiary from Southeast Asia or the Pacific Islands succeed in getting a visa. I think the key is to not have too many red flags in your case that are common to fraudulent applications, and to adequately address the red flags you do have. The more evidence you have of a sincere relationship, the better your chances are. However, even a truckload of evidence can be offset if you have too many other red flags. I don't know precisely what those red flags are in Manila, but I assume they're not too much different from Vietnam, and most focus on things that go against local customs and traditions.

In other words, expect the age difference to be an issue at the interview. However, you can overcome this issue and get a visa if your evidence and responses to the interview questions satisfy the CO that your relationship is sincere.

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ayyttt!

Thank you soOOo much for all your responses. . It may be hard to believe how a 23 year old woman fell inlove to a 65 year old man and vice versa. But one thing is I'm talking about fate here - when feelings are so powerful it's as if some force beyond your control is guiding you to someone who can make you happy beyond your wildest dreams.

And surely. . LOVE is when you find yourself spending every wish on him. .

xoxo

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I'll be ready by then. . with GOD is my strength. .

Ohhh well, I will surely prove to them its not FRAUD.

Thank you suppperrr much everyone!

xoxo

[No-Where-Man 147]

if only one visit to actually meet each other then yes it could be a problem. make sure to get more visits before the interview. be prepared to answer any questions regarding the big age difference, get all of your evidence of relationship in order....

a part of this is true ..the other is not

ok

Age difference ....is not BY LAW a reason for Visa denial , but it may raise Questions or that the officer to be NOT SURE if he/she should issue the Visa ..and thats one of the reasons of the AP

as of meeting manytimes is not also a factor ..some countries like arabic and Islamic ones doesnt allow the unity of male and female wzout marriage and could cause problems as of religion and laws also ..and so marriage at the first meeting is certain ,

and as of meeting after marriages is not also something to make the officer deny or worry about it , because everyone has his own emergencies and circumstances that prevent multiply meetings (financial problems ...job vacation problems ...sickness ...etc )

so my advice ...regadrless Age diff , or how many visits ..make sure u r reay to answer any Question that may come and make sure u have enough bona-fide evidences ..

Good Luck

[rmncm 0]

Heck I am 87 and my wife turned 18 the day before we married and we had no issue. Heck she even had a baby by me, got to love viagra! Age doesn't matter at all.

Btw it's not true, our age difference that is.

[Nagishkaw 510]

It may be hard to believe how a 23 year old woman fell inlove to a 65 year old man and vice versa.

Why is it hard to believe? It's their lives and no one can live it but them.