contacting the senator

[terri o'neale 0]

Do I like waiting? NO! But it doesn't help me or anyone else to make personal attacks or act immature. It's funny but I came here for support, but I get more emotional support from my parents of bi-racial children group. They know nothing about this process, but are more compassionate about the pain of separation. It would be nice if we would set personal issues aside and be supportive. I have been a member of many online communities and I have never seen one as disfunctional. How about we try being nice for just one day? Is that possible?

[pax 0]

Gotta say I agree with MissLiss on this one.

Everyone suffers during this process and, as I've often said before, there are lots of sad stories on VJ and a few REALLY sad ones. But have some perspective: quite a lot of the suffering is, unfortunately but realistically, quite common.

[mercuryroad 0]

Do I like waiting? NO! But it doesn't help me or anyone else to make personal attacks or act immature. It's funny but I came here for support, but I get more emotional support from my parents of bi-racial children group. They know nothing about this process, but are more compassionate about the pain of separation. It would be nice if we would set personal issues aside and be supportive. I have been a member of many online communities and I have never seen one as disfunctional. How about we try being nice for just one day? Is that possible?

That's a two way street sister......drop the high and all knowing attitude and things might lighten up. So many people have problems with what you say and the problem is them and not you.....hmmm......

Perhaps you just come off the wrong way.

[terri o'neale 0]

Do I like waiting? NO! But it doesn't help me or anyone else to make personal attacks or act immature. It's funny but I came here for support, but I get more emotional support from my parents of bi-racial children group. They know nothing about this process, but are more compassionate about the pain of separation. It would be nice if we would set personal issues aside and be supportive. I have been a member of many online communities and I have never seen one as disfunctional. How about we try being nice for just one day? Is that possible?

That's a two way street sister......drop the high and all knowing attitude and things might lighten up. So many people have problems with what you say and the problem is them and not you.....hmmm......

Perhaps you just come off the wrong way.

All I have asked is that personal attacks stop. I am a moderator at other sites. These types of personal attacks would never be tolerated elsewhere. If we wish to say something we can do so without personal attacks. That's all I have said.

[Bootylicious!! 2]

I think you calling us junior high school kids and children is a personal attack. So take your own advise. Just because we don't agree with you doesn't mean we are children. Maybe you are the one that needs to grow up and realize people have opinions and they don't all have to match yours.

[Traviesa 0]

I have SEEN personal attacks and this is nowhere near it. It's like I've been told NUMEROUS times...you put personal stuff out there, and you're going to have people who agree with you, and people who disagree with you. I happen to disagree with the idea that everyone who files for a straight-forward immigration case, with a fairly reliable outcome should be seeking Congressional help. It takes time away from more complicated and unfortunate cases, where there are SERIOUS problems, like your child is dying or you're about to file for bankruptcy and lose your house...or your case has been "lost" for over a year. Some of these situations I've heard about on VJ. An unfair immigration process is the EXCEPTION. Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean it's unfair.

[AnaAndDaniel 0]

op posts. includes what some folks consider racist languange.

said folks call op on it.

op apologizes.

some other things are said in betwen cuases some confusion.

emotions flare.

someone else comes in and calls others immature.

now said other acts like a victim.

plz.

this issue is emotional. there are amny views to it. many views are opined here. this is not a group hug area.

I have no problem with this situation/forum. Seems very adult like to me, with all the diff opinions ans situations, icluding yours.

Daniel

:energetic:

[almaty 19]

I think you calling us junior high school kids and children is a personal attack. So take your own advise. Just because we don't agree with you doesn't mean we are children. Maybe you are the one that needs to grow up and realize people have opinions and they don't all have to match yours.

i agree..to go labelling people on this site and then...think that people are negative....is your issue...also, most everyone has a tough go of it one way or another ....

[Welshcookie 17]

Hi Laura! don't see you here on OT very much.....and here you are

I have just caught up with this post and am not here to flame the fire at all. Just wanted to say that I have got to know Laura thro PMs over the months, she helped me a great deal with info and got me to look at a situation in a different way when I hit a brick wall and didn't know where else to go, and she definatley did that bit extra for me...a stranger. She is a very kind helpful young lady. So if she has managed to 'expedite' her case then I know she has worked real hard to do so.....good luck to you Laura!

She doesn't need me to 'back her up' or to come on here to say what nice person she is cos I know she is more than capable of taking care of herself in OT .....

I just wanted to say that about her.......

ok, carry on.......

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

Hi Laura! don't see you here on OT very much.....and here you are

I have just caught up with this post and am not here to flame the fire at all. Just wanted to say that I have got to know Laura thro PMs over the months, she helped me a great deal with info and got me to look at a situation in a different way when I hit a brick wall and didn't know where else to go, and she definatley did that bit extra for me...a stranger. She is a very kind helpful young lady. So if she has managed to 'expedite' her case then I know she has worked real hard to do so.....good luck to you Laura!

She doesn't need me to 'back her up' or to come on here to say what nice person she is cos I know she is more than capable of taking care of herself in OT .....

I just wanted to say that about her.......

ok, carry on.......

Thanks for that Welshcookie. That was very kind of you. Unfortunately, I am sure there will be someone who will attack even that, but ohwell. I am really not bothered by ppl that want to attack me. I only gave my opinion and wanted to help. Never did I racially slander anyone. Nor would I ever. It doesn't make any sense for ppl to call me a racist when I have married outside of my own race...hmmmm.. What I did do was post my opinion of yes the Mexicans because that is the majority of the ppl right now that are in America wanting amnesty. It is much harder for ppl say of Puerto Rico, or Cuba, or anywhere else at that matter to sneak into the country. For those of you who have seen that I am from New York and automatically think that I for some reason referring to the Mexicans in my state you are so very wrong. I was talking about the Mexicans as a whole that are on the news and that our in the country illegally. YES, there are other illegal immigrants other than them, BUT I AM TALKING ABOUT THE HERE AND NOW PROBLEM. The problem that is on the news at the very moment, of the VAST majority of the illegals that are YES MEXICANS!! Where the hell do you get the idea that I am racist from that?? I am only stating a fact.

Yes, the attacks were very narrowminded because again, those of you who went into a rampage and saw me as a racist only saw what you wanted to see instead of looking at the bigger picture. The bigger picture being because of those illegals, if the amnesty goes through, then it will slow things down for all of us. EVEN THOSE WHO GET AN EXPIDITED CASE!!! Yes, I do have reasons for an expidited case but that is my business and none of anyone elses here. Yes, I do come onto this sight for support and for advice on my case. ON MY CASE. That is all I talk about on here. I don't talk about my personal affairs on a public forum. I am not here for sympathy for what I may or may not be going through. I am not here to act like a child and attack people when I feel that their opinion is way out of whack from what I MAY think is right. Instead, I will not attack but I will give another perspective of the issue at hand and try to open your mind up. In return, I will do the same when someone approaches me and says hey...I don't think you are right on that, how about you look at it from this point of view?? This is a proven fact that if you approach ppl the way some of you have approached me on this issue on the public forum, you tend to shut down and stop listening. What is it that you are wanting to achieve here by attacking? Its no wonder why there is so much hate in this world. Its called interpersonal communication skills. There is a right way to approach things and there is a wrong way. Hmmm...Can we look back at the responses and see what ways were the wrong way??

I expect nothing less then more personal attacks after this so fire away. I am really not bothered. I have other issues in my life other than my husbands immigration that way heavily on my mind, then to sit here and worry about what "others" maybe thinking of me or my post.

I sincerely wish for all of you, to have a quick, and smooth process in getting your immigration sorted.

Laura Mitchell

[aussiewench 9]

Hi Laura! don't see you here on OT very much.....and here you are

I have just caught up with this post and am not here to flame the fire at all. Just wanted to say that I have got to know Laura thro PMs over the months, she helped me a great deal with info and got me to look at a situation in a different way when I hit a brick wall and didn't know where else to go, and she definatley did that bit extra for me...a stranger. She is a very kind helpful young lady. So if she has managed to 'expedite' her case then I know she has worked real hard to do so.....good luck to you Laura!

She doesn't need me to 'back her up' or to come on here to say what nice person she is cos I know she is more than capable of taking care of herself in OT .....

I just wanted to say that about her.......

ok, carry on.......

[noemij 0]

It is much harder for ppl say of Puerto Rico, or Cuba, or anywhere else at that matter to sneak into the country.

Laura, I understand where you're coming from, I guess you worded your letter wrong. Just a quick note, Puerto Ricans are US citizens, so they wouldn't be sneaking into the country.

[Laura_and_IanM 0]

It is much harder for ppl say of Puerto Rico, or Cuba, or anywhere else at that matter to sneak into the country.

Laura, I understand where you're coming from, I guess you worded your letter wrong. Just a quick note, Puerto Ricans are US citizens, so they wouldn't be sneaking into the country.

PMSL..sorry..i think sometimes when I get upset and let things get to me...I do forget my geography..hmmmm...i so could say something but that would just be putting myself on the butcher block once again lol...

[Fandango 1,439]

For the record, I too have talked via pm to Laura and I think she's kind ,very mature & smart.

I also don't think she was trying to be racist. I think people are just being oversensitive on this issue. Demographics don't lie

[almaty 19]

i always enjoy the fellowship at vj..