kennym

Anyone who uproots someone and makes a commitment like wedding vows, then wants to call it quits over a small cultural diference after two
weeks even after all the sacrifices made by the foriegn spouse... well schmuck wouldn't be the way I would describe that person, it would be much harsher...
But, I am willing to concede to the fact that everyone makes mistakes, but a comitment is a comitment.. There are justified reasons for breaking that commitment, but small cultural diference is not one of them.. Those kinds of issues requires work which is a requirement for any relationship whether it's matrimony or any other type relationship...
I respect your right to comment... This is a item I feel strongly about, and therefore, I will also take advantage of the right to comment.. And not agreeing with me is your right.. But never the less, I hope somebody reading this in the future, and considering a petition for someone, would realize that, first there is the commitment, second there are cultural diferences to consider, third, there is someone making a huge sacrifice to leave their entire life behind with the hope of being with someone they love and trust, and wouldnt think they would be kicked to the curb over a small cultural diference and be expected to return to a life that no longer waits for them back home..
But thankfully, the OP and his wife seemingly will make an attempt to work through this, and I hope others who haven't considered these items, will read this and give this serious thought if they haven't already...

we shouldnt want to send the message that you can seek love abroad, and if the challenges of marrying someone from a diferent place, culture and lifestyle makes you unconfortable, then consider that before you petition, move them here and uproot them from their lfe, and marry, commiting them and them commiting to you.. Dont selfishly do something that you havent considered all the factors, because there is more concequences than how to file for divorce.. the benificiary must somehow accept the fact they've lost all thier hopes of the love and relationship and return to a life they left behind and somehow restore things to normal...
and if they Petitioner had given a few moments of thought to the challenges, he couldve saved some serious heartache for the beneficiary, but because he was thinking of only his hap[iness, then the concequences that the beneficiary must face on thier own to restore thier lives, is not something the petitioner needs to worry about..
That is simply insane..
It would be diferent if it was something resulting from lies, deciept or dishonest, but this was a "small cultural difference"...

Professional Help is a great idea!!
I think you and your wife should go.. I hope you're serious about this..
My appologies if it seems we're attacking, but divorce over a "small culture difference" especially after everything your wife has sacrificed to be with you, is sooo extreme, just seems insane that anyone would consider this..
Find a good counselor and seriously consider all the factors.. I hope to hear that you've been able to work things out...
Kenny

I forgot to add:
We are back together.
We get alone very well. We are a very healthy couple. We eat well. Exercise together. We are not overweight or anything like that. Our decision not to get divorced involved many factors; 1) our love is very strong 2) We don't want to be include in those who are damaging the society by getting married multiple of times 3) we like to follow the steps of our parents. Never divorced
Thanks for the advice.

Cultural issues are the forgotten part of the adjustment factor in any of these relationships.. My wife and I deal with this in many forms as well as every other person marrying a partner from another place, it's the same if you marry another USC from the opposite coast or someone from the opposite side of the globe..
It upsets me that a Petitioning Spouse up-roots someone from a forreign country and creates hopes and dreams of a long lasting loving relationship without considering the Cultural diferences and how that factors into the adjustment..
I dont know the specifics, but you say it's not money, and I must assume since you're married, this issue cant possibly be new to you since you wouldn't have married someone you don't know. So it seems the only thing it could be, is something that you should have been able to compromise on..
This kind of divorce and loss is sooo senseless and such a waist of good USCIS, NVC and Consulate Time and just upsets me that people are soo thoughtless....
Kenny

Cultural issues are the forgotten part of the adjustment factor in any of these relationships.. My wife and I deal with this in many forms as well as every other person marrying a partner from another place, it's the same if you marry another USC from the opposite coast or someone from the opposite side of the globe..
It upsets me that a Petitioning Spouse up-roots someone from a forreign country and creates hopes and dreams of a long lasting loving relationship without considering the Cultural diferences and how that factors into the adjustment..
I dont know the specifics, but you say it's not money, and I must assume since you're married, this issue cant possibly be new to you since you wouldn't have married someone you don't know. So it seems the only thing it could be, is something that you should have been able to compromise on..
This kind of divorce and loss is sooo senseless and such a waist of good USCIS, NVC and Consulate Time and just upsets me that people are soo thoughtless....
Kenny

That's simply ridiculous.. You tie up all USCIS resources, NVC Resources, and Consulate Time, not to mention you wife's life and didn't take the time to evaluate all that before? Seiously? That cant be true... Is that what you did?
You asked your wife to give up everything, and build up her hopes, and you dont have the foresight to consider the cultural issue before you putting all the people that's been involved with your process through all this? and you find out only 2 weeks after the marriage something you should have already known prior to waisting everyones time and up-rooting lives?
I am wondering, if this is simply a thread created by an 11 year old, for entertainment purposes.. because, there is no way a grown-up would've have allowed a relationship and the immigration process to get to this point without considering all those factors..
If this is a adolescent child posting, please tell me, so we can all laugh, because I just cant beleive this is an adult...

That's simply ridiculous.. You tie up all USCIS resources, NVC Resources, and Consulate Time, not to mention you wife's life and didn't take the time to evaluate all that before? Seiously? That cant be true... Is that what you did?
You asked your wife to give up everything, and build up her hopes, and you dont have the foresight to consider the cultural issue before you putting all the people that's been involved with your process through all this? and you find out only 2 weeks after the marriage something you should have already known prior to waisting everyones time and up-rooting lives?
I am wondering, if this is simply a thread created by an 11 year old, for entertainment purposes.. because, there is no way a grown-up would've have allowed a relationship and the immigration process to get to this point without considering all those factors..
If this is a adolescent child posting, please tell me, so we can all laugh, because I just cant beleive this is an adult...

+1 this.
@Tim/Mav actually my husband HATES vj and if wants to look something up does it without an account and respects my privacy and personal space.that statement was stupid as ####.youre paranoid man.
i used to have respect for you but that statement was dumb as hell

After reading this post, and the OP's admitted motives for his relationship, and all the examples of immature behaivior, I seriously doubt we're getting an accurate portrayal of the real problem and it's very likely the wife's anger is justified likely to some other childish behaivior that could be going on in other areas of thier lives... Sounds like there still is some major issues with maturity on at least one side of this relationship...
I doubt we'll hear from the OP Again...
He's either a real troll or he was expecting advise on how to devise a stupid plan of dumping his wife and Kidnap his Child from VJ, thinking he ought to be able to convince us that his motives are genuine and hes the innocent victim..
Good going VJ'rs for not falling for the OP's garbage... I guess he didnt realize that VJ is made up of honest people, and not a bunch of Jerry Springer fans looking to help someone perpetrate a ridculous and stupid plan...

After reading this post, and the OP's admitted motives for his relationship, and all the examples of immature behaivior, I seriously doubt we're getting an accurate portrayal of the real problem and it's very likely the wife's anger is justified likely to some other childish behaivior that could be going on in other areas of thier lives... Sounds like there still is some major issues with maturity on at least one side of this relationship...
I doubt we'll hear from the OP Again...
He's either a real troll or he was expecting advise on how to devise a stupid plan of dumping his wife and Kidnap his Child from VJ, thinking he ought to be able to convince us that his motives are genuine and hes the innocent victim..
Good going VJ'rs for not falling for the OP's garbage... I guess he didnt realize that VJ is made up of honest people, and not a bunch of Jerry Springer fans looking to help someone perpetrate a ridculous and stupid plan...

Weirdest.comment.ever.

After reading this post, and the OP's admitted motives for his relationship, and all the examples of immature behaivior, I seriously doubt we're getting an accurate portrayal of the real problem and it's very likely the wife's anger is justified likely to some other childish behaivior that could be going on in other areas of thier lives... Sounds like there still is some major issues with maturity on at least one side of this relationship...
I doubt we'll hear from the OP Again...
He's either a real troll or he was expecting advise on how to devise a stupid plan of dumping his wife and Kidnap his Child from VJ, thinking he ought to be able to convince us that his motives are genuine and hes the innocent victim..
Good going VJ'rs for not falling for the OP's garbage... I guess he didnt realize that VJ is made up of honest people, and not a bunch of Jerry Springer fans looking to help someone perpetrate a ridculous and stupid plan...

Advice or intentional misinformation we are seeing repeatedly by the "Anti-AOS from non-immigrant Visa" Gang?
I agree she probably entered with immigrant intent which is illegal but it's fact that USCIS needs more than perceived intent at POE to deny the AOS so unless you don't mind telling them how to correctly file for AOS VJers really should just not reply to these threads. The intentional "You'll be deported automatically" and "No you can't do that" misinformation replies really do sully the value of VJ.

This post makes me aware how old and old-fashioned I personally am. I would not even consider an intimate relationship with a married woman, as I consider adultery not a desirable trait for any spouse. That in turn prevents me from such unfortunate experiences and protects me from husbands who may not find it funny that I'm making out with their lawfully wedded wife.
But that's just me.

I like it, I like it alot...

oh, and my dad is a retired US Postal Worker, so he said it's ok if I open my WASband's mail, since I'm his wife and all, so no worries about that being a legal issue (in case anyone was wondering).
now, if I DESTROYED something, that would be a different story. But I'm doing the right thing and returning the card to its rightful owner--the US GOVERNMENT!!

What about all of the American citizens who work their butts off at low paying jobs and can't afford insurance? If someone like me, who works 2 jobs to make ends meet but can't afford outrageous insurance premiums has a heart attack- I should just DIE because I can't afford insurance!? Screw you, man.. That's all I can say.

Agreed: Everyone, PLEASE avoid quoting the entire original post in your replies.
OP: As stated by others:
1. File a report with Child Protective Services immediately.
2. Take their written report to your police station.
3. Take their written report(s) to ICE, in person, as Darnell recommended. Also -- and this wasn't suggested previously, that I saw -- report to ICE (with back-up in writing, if you have it) that the attorneys (and judge?) are influencing you to commit immigration fraud by suggesting (ordering?) your filing and paying for the ROC. You can bet your remaining dollars that you'll shoot to the top of the priority list -- first ICE's, and by extension the attorneys' and court's -- when you do this. To end the charade and much of your pain, you must do this.
Performing the actions above should take care of your attorney problems.
Remember that the Federal government has unlimited time and resources to make our lives miserable. You have the rare opportunity to turn this to your advantage. Do the above immediately, and stand back and watch how quickly and completely matters swing in your favor.

Oh, this is good. I didn't even think of of all that. I just wondered why she had not filed ROC yet, that her green card must have expired already. Also, how could a court order him to file for and pay for her ROC? It made no sense to me. Of course awarding him to pay $500 a month based on the I-864 to someone that makes double the 125% level made no sense to me either.
OP> Get started on all this first thing Monday morning. You need to stop getting 'walked all over' and begin doing some 'boot stomping' of your own.

Ok...no offense but the only person you need to blame is yourself! You knew she was evil to you...your mom...and YOUR CHILDREN! Yet when they were ready to deport her you helped her out. I have a philosophy...if someone gets hit by a car I feel sorry for them. If they throw themselves in front of that car they got what they deserved. I was sympathetic until you kept helping and trying to be with that woman. From that point on you're to blame for your misery. Sorry...don't use love as an excuse and make better decisions for your kids!

Are you still on this kick? Did you get rejected for the K-1 before going the CR-1/IR-1 route? Just curious as it seems to bother you enough that it pops up out of nowhere (repeatedly).
You're married. It was in Colombia. Congrats. We're married. It was in the USA. So be it. I don't see the difference other than we probably paid more, especially when you consider the 7 trips to Colombia made prior to her getting the visa (and the one more after.) Since I highly doubt you are paying any K-1 visa seeker's way, I don't see why it's any of your concern.

Listen Rhenajones...
Lotsa things don't add up..
15 miles/15 minutes apart, doesnt provide a good enough reason to live apart.. unless the marriage in on the rocks.. Stuff like that happens.. It seems additionally troubling whe you add up that he arrived in the USA and moved in with his parents.. And you guys continue to live apart.. This just seems odd to us, and will certainly seem odd to the USCIS..
It's understandable that You're Status is at stake, but it seems more important that you're relationhip is strugling.. YOu need to work on that. 27 days is not much time to fix all the things that are outta whack here..
My suggestion is you stop looking at how to convince the USCIS that things are normal, when it's obvious that it isn't to many reading this tread much less the USCIS interviewer. You should be honest with yourself about the reasons you brought your partner to the USA and if it's genuine, then you should be considering how to fix your relationship, or simply decide the problems are not fixable, and consider having you spouse AOS on his own and show proof that he entered in the USA and into the relationship in good faith..
If this seems suspicious to us, imagine how it's going to seem to the person at the interview.. The whole process is designed to weed out scams and that's why we have to continuously show that our relationships are genuine.. If the relationship is not genuine, it will be dificult to prove it is.. That's the reason for the AOS Process...
Good Luck
Kenny

Seems like you're not sharing the details completely with us.. If you want good advise, you absolutely need to be completely forthcomming..

You are needing relationship advise here, not immigration advise..
Sooo... if it was me, being the USC, I would ask my spouse, "Do you want to be with me? If so, then be with me... If not, I am not sure how much energy, time, or stress I can continue to devote to making this relationship appear to be genuine"
Simply that simple.. The concequences of not having a genuine relationship is likely a denial of the AOS.. Then, likely steps to deportation.. In addition, you don't want USCIS to feel you're part of the deception.. That could have dire concequences on your future, and likely impact you if you ever meet someone again and want to petition for them.. If your feelings are genuine and not his, then this battle is impossible to win on your own without the participation of your spouse..
You have a short time to make things happen, I wouldn't delay the conversation and I wouldn't recommend trying to carry the whole weight of trying to prove a relationship is genuine if your spouse isnt willing to contribute to this relationship..
I am someone who's been in a one-way relationship in the past, and I know how hard it can be to continuiosly compensate for the lack from your partner.. Its draining and completely consumes you... Don't spend any more time than needed to try to fix this if it's not worth fixing..
That's just my opinion..