Form 485 not filed yet

[duriantaste 44]

Greetings,

We got married two weeks ago. Recently we had a major argument. After that argument we both decided to call it off. I, the petitioner, haven't filed any form(s) yet like Form 485, and so on. What will happen to her if I don't continue the process for AOS?

Also how hard it is to get divorced when been married for such a short time? Is annulment an option?

Thank you very much. (Salamat)

Edited September 20, 2011 by duriantaste

[clueless55 18]

Where were you married? You are the US citizen? Is she willing to go back to the Phils?

[duriantaste 44]

Where were you married? You are the US citizen? Is she willing to go back to the Phils?

We got a civil wedding in USA. Yes, she is willing to return.

[Barbara J 115]

Greetings,

We got married two weeks ago. Recently we had a major argument. After that argument we both decided to call it off. I, the petitioner, haven't filed any form(s) yet like Form 485, and so on. What will happen to her if I don't continue the process for AOS?

Also how hard it is to get divorced when been married for such a short time? Is annulment an option?

Thank you very much. (Salamat)

Then if you really can't work it out and you have only been married 2 weeks. Shame but as you have not filed AOS she must leave the country before her I-94 expires. I suggest if you really can't work this out then buy her a plane ticket and send her home.

[duriantaste 44]

Then if you really can't work it out and you have only been married 2 weeks. Shame but as you have not filed AOS she must leave the country before her I-94 expires. I suggest if you really can't work this out then buy her a plane ticket and send her home.

Thanks....how about the divorce procedure. Do I need to hire a lawyer?

[payxibka 10,045]

Thanks....how about the divorce procedure. Do I need to hire a lawyer?

state law... google "divorce [name of your state]"

[iloverb 5]

omg! Ohhh felt bad huhu sad story....so no more second chance??????hope there's miracle happen...so uve said she wants to go back here it means she gve up already....

[caramelwhite 0]

Greetings,

We got married two weeks ago. Recently we had a major argument. After that argument we both decided to call it off. I, the petitioner, haven't filed any form(s) yet like Form 485, and so on. What will happen to her if I don't continue the process for AOS?

Also how hard it is to get divorced when been married for such a short time? Is annulment an option?

Thank you very much. (Salamat)

Is thers no more second chance? try to solve it and talk both of u that come deeply to the heart !God bles .God will inlighten u always!!! GooD luck

[ronluvme 10]

hey guys,

i am sorry to hear your situation its hard to beleive that after the long waiting game and spend so much money for the process everything will turn out into trash,hmmmmmmm i think life always have a second chance if you look into a positive way,think about it deeply,tak to her face to face,and dont make any decision if you are angry,take a walk,think....think ...think,,,i am sure there is a tiny piece in your/her heart that are stil remain to have a second chance,,,

i am not being nosey but if you want to discus your problem you can tell us by stating what was the arguement all about,you can hear our opinion which is the best,its hard to predict and help u for advice,but whatever happen its your choice..

clear up your mind and Talk to yourself and heart

[duriantaste 44]

hey guys,

i am sorry to hear your situation its hard to beleive that after the long waiting game and spend so much money for the process everything will turn out into trash,hmmmmmmm i think life always have a second chance if you look into a positive way,think about it deeply,tak to her face to face,and dont make any decision if you are angry,take a walk,think....think ...think,,,i am sure there is a tiny piece in your/her heart that are stil remain to have a second chance,,,

i am not being nosey but if you want to discus your problem you can tell us by stating what was the arguement all about,you can hear our opinion which is the best,its hard to predict and help u for advice,but whatever happen its your choice..

clear up your mind and Talk to yourself and heart

We talked and we are both calmed now. But, I really don't have the energy to continue with this. I really feel bad because I can sense she likes to continue the relationship.

It is a a very tough situation because we are having a very GOOD TIME. I have never been this happy before. She can cook well, take care of the house like I could never imagine, sings like a pro, and makes me laugh so much and so healthy. Another thing, She gets alone with my family and friends.

The sad part is that the problem is not about the usual (like money or cheating). It is about a small culture difference that I need to respect but I really can not get over it.

I love her but I think it is the best thing for us to do now before it gets more complicated.

[ronluvme 10]

okay now i gotcha,

if you really dont feel to live with her and you cant just let it go i know your feelings,i think you need some space,to heal the wound in your mind.im sorry to hear this once again,,,...ive been to your situation and everytime i see his face the more i get irratated hahaha funny!!!

okay sometimes i dont believe in this saying,if there is love there is forgiveness this is unrealistic,how you can forgive one person if the wound is stil there??time can heal right??space needed,i think its like a washing machine u did try to fix it but the washing machine doesnt want to cooperate to be fixed.lol

if she is willing to go back thats good..try google it research on divorcing her if thats yur option,did u guys send the marriage cert in philippines nso??if you did well thats long process if the marriage is already on the computer at NSO...how about talk to lawyer on how to get rid of this situation?

[kennym 275]

We talked and we are both calmed now. But, I really don't have the energy to continue with this. I really feel bad because I can sense she likes to continue the relationship.

It is a a very tough situation because we are having a very GOOD TIME. I have never been this happy before. She can cook well, take care of the house like I could never imagine, sings like a pro, and makes me laugh so much and so healthy. Another thing, She gets alone with my family and friends.

The sad part is that the problem is not about the usual (like money or cheating). It is about a small culture difference that I need to respect but I really can not get over it.

I love her but I think it is the best thing for us to do now before it gets more complicated.

Cultural issues are the forgotten part of the adjustment factor in any of these relationships.. My wife and I deal with this in many forms as well as every other person marrying a partner from another place, it's the same if you marry another USC from the opposite coast or someone from the opposite side of the globe..

It upsets me that a Petitioning Spouse up-roots someone from a forreign country and creates hopes and dreams of a long lasting loving relationship without considering the Cultural diferences and how that factors into the adjustment..

I dont know the specifics, but you say it's not money, and I must assume since you're married, this issue cant possibly be new to you since you wouldn't have married someone you don't know. So it seems the only thing it could be, is something that you should have been able to compromise on..

This kind of divorce and loss is sooo senseless and such a waist of good USCIS, NVC and Consulate Time and just upsets me that people are soo thoughtless....

Kenny

Edited September 20, 2011 by kennym

[din15 0]

i guest you can filed for dissolution of marriage...since u guys are married for 2 weeks...

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

The sad part is that the problem is not about the usual (like money or cheating). It is about a small culture difference that I need to respect but I really can not get over it.

I love her but I think it is the best thing for us to do now before it gets more complicated.

Why not head over to The Philippine Sub-Forum and ask how others have handled the issue?

Just about everything my wife and I have butted heads (and yes the Big D word has been thrown around) it was something cultural in nature and we have learned to overcome them all.

BTW, relationships are meant to be complicated. It gives us something to work on together!

[ronluvme 10]

the earlier post is right!!!

i guess cultural differences thats the point,have you read some philippine blog and cultural skills and behaviour?it might help.