Tygrys

Your anger is misdirected. There isn't a problem with having an alien spouse live with you in the US. There are laws and procedures.
It's likely noted in her USCIS file that she was refused so the opportunity to adjust status while in the US is probably gone. Now you will need to file a petition for her. Having a child doesn't prove much more than that you have met in person. Raising a child proves much more. You shouldn't have much trouble passing muster having been a couple for 10+ years. Read through the guides here on VJ and you will have a great base of knowledge.
One thing to begin sorting out is the I-864 affidavit of support. You'll need to demonstrate an ongoing income that meets the requirements. And/or you can use US held assets to satisfy the income requirement. If you haven't been filing US tax returns then you will need to explore what's needed as well. Returns for the most recent 3 years are needed. See the form I-864 instructions for more information.

The answer is no. After you age out (turn 21), you will move from F2A to F2B category. NVC will not expedite your visa for any reason unless your priority date becomes current even if it is a life threatening emergency. F2B has a much longer waiting time. Sorry about this.

Current and continuing income is what is measured. You support this income claim with an employer letter and recent pay stubs.
You said before you make around $34K. Now you say that you made $50K. That's a big difference. What do you actually earn? What did you show on your 2014 tax return? Will your OT and holiday pay continue at the same rate in 2015?

Good news everyone! My wife did the walk-in, and they took care of her. Apparently it depends on the amount of people there, had it been booked, they would have rescheduled her. She says it was fast, and very few people were there. I am extremely excited that they took care of her because this entire immigration process is stressful. I want to thank everyone who chimed in and gave helpful advice. I need to learn to have way more patience. Having a leveled head through all of this is VERY important, and working on things together is better than going at it alone. Lesson learned!

1. You do not need a reason for needing the SSN. Since you entered on a K-1 visa, your status according to the SSA is LEGAL ALIEN ALLOWED TO WORK. This status does not require a reason. You can apply for an SSN now, as a K-1 visa holder, as long as you have at least 2 weeks remaining on your I-94. If your I-94 is close to expiration, then you will need to wait for the EAD.
2. You can start using your married name the day you are married. On your AOS forms (AOS/EAD/AP) you will put your married name.

I disagree, such an age difference isn't common at all in the Western world, and certainly not "very common". Have yet to meet parents-in-law ok with ther future daughter in law being older than them.

Nigeriaorbust and Dwheels are very correct. Your K1 will expire and if you will get a USCIS letter after 180 days saying : expired you can file again.
I understand the hard blow, the shock of refusal and the desperate hope to win this, been there done that. You are on a roller coaster from hell and when you realize that this is the end of the road you will get off the merry-go-round and retain a top notch waiver attorney to consult about a possible future
CR1. Forget another K1, with a waiver it's not going to happen and this K1 will die the death of expiration. Your one and only chance would be a
CR1 and that's a very slim one. I don't care who told you what at USCIS or NVC , your case will expire and another 6 + months will be wasted.
There are a handful of really knowledgeable waiver attorneys, pick the best, pay for an honest assessment and consultation and forget the
well meaning clowns that you talked to at USCIS. They aren't even supposed to give legal advice. This hurts like hell, have a good cry and
then follow the advice in this thread.

Could you please explain how a misrepresentation and lying for immigration benefit will ever in life get reaffirmed. You say you called this one and that one. But did you actually talk or email the embassy to contact the CO to see was there a ban or is this even waive able? That is very key don't you think?
I don't know what a annotation in your case file will do.
"One of the worse things to do is get married with a k1 petition still at USCIS in limbo." And this isn't true. If the process of returned petitions was faster than yes. But most just go ahead with life because well about time the petition gets back heck you could be married or refiling another petition and at interview. Petitions returning and USCIS sending out a letter is taking now 12 months to 18 months.
I know of someone interviewed February 2014 was told they won't even look at her file until July 2015. Well July has come and gone and they said 180 days they need, Two more cases denied last September they are still waiting for word from USCIS. And none are K1's.

I think that's only the case if you are filing for I - 129F and you've never met in person. From your timeline I see that you've already met so it shouldn't affect you.
Looking at our form there was question 34.a Describe the circumstances under which you met, so for that we told the story of how we first met in person. Then question ​35. Did you meet your fiancé or spouse through the services of an international marriage broker? To which we responded no. You only have to provide all of that extra into if you answered yes to the marriage broker question. But in my understanding meeting online and meeting through an international marriage broker are two different things.

That is correct. Also, if he lied about being involved with the gang, he was not denied for the tattoo, or even for being in a gang. He would have been denied for making a material misrepresentation. That carries up to a lifetime ban from entering the USA. The attorney is right, it recommending fighting it, IMO, but while the tattoo testifies against him, it is not the tattoo, or the gang involvement that's the problem now, if he lied about it.

Take it to your interview, but it likely means nothing, and is just a holdover from filing the I-130 and I-485 separately.

I am the cynic here, Sandra has a very different back story as you can see from her posts mainly about abused spouses and the help she provides.
If I was to make a guess having seen thousands of weird posts over the years, well hundreds at least, my guess is that she knew exactly what the application was for, did not have a real relationship with the sponsor and it all came out in the interview that this was just for an immigration benefit.
So was the bit about wanting to move for a better job, lifestyle education etc true, YES.
Was it dragged out of her in the interview, also YES.
Did she go in there and merrily state that from the beginning, NO.

And how do you think she does that without a car, money, or any resources whatsoever? This is a classic forced-dependency situation. He doesn't want her to be independent. If she wasn't interested in working at all, I might be singing the same tune as you. But when the husband actively prevents her from getting employed or otherwise bettering herself, alimony is warranted. That's partly why alimony exists. Her requests are totally reasonable. A little pocket money while he spends money going to a bachelor party? Give me a break. If money was tight, he wouldn't be traveling to a bachelor party and going to bars.
If my future wife asked for something, and I told her we couldn't afford it right now - well that's one thing. If she asks for something and I say no, but I'll by myself a gift instead - well, that's another.
It's a pretty negative outlook on marriage when the breadwinner gets to do as he pleases and the woman has to sit at home alone, with no friends, no transportation, and no means of caring for herself.

everything about this is not accurate, you really need to stop watching movies.

You will not be able to get insurance on a K1 without having at least filed for AOS. If he has no job he has no insurance to cover you from his work.
You can't get on Obamacare without having the EAD (perhaps the NOA1 from AOS).
Childbirth here costs an average of $20.000-$30.000 and that's without complications. What exactly does he have in mind for insurance ?
Great that he wants to find a good job to be able to support you and the baby but to threaten that he will go on without you if you don't come now
is outrageously insane. He said he will not help you financially with the baby ? Really ? What a low life comment to make.
What would he do financially now if you were there and he is not working ? Provide how ? Childbirth, infant care, wedding......with what will he pay ?
Seek some professional help to get you out of this state of mind, thinking that you can't go on without him.
There are many single Mom's who successfully raise their child(ren) by themselves.
You don't want your child to grow up being bullied because of not having a father around (probably not happening in 2015 much)
but do you want an abusive father for your child that disrespects you ?
Find some support from friends, family....especially your mother and allow yourself to be nurtured like you deserve.
You say you are emotionally unstable but I see a strong woman shining through that is thinking about her baby's health and to me
you are much more emotionally stable than he is. He is just acting like a spoiled brat with a manipulative mean streak and a short fuse.
You can do this and you don't need him.
You are young and have many other chances to meet someone who really cares for you and your child, you deserve better than this,
do not settle for less out of fear. You will encounter much more stress with him than without him.
A move to another country is stressful enough without having a husband without a job, no insurance and a screaming new infant.
What will you do if you come here and he has another hissy fit and decides to 'go on without you' if you don't do exactly what he wants
and when he wants it ? Where will you go ? Think this through, at least have a plan if you need it and empower yourself, you can do this.

I would like to chime in here. There are many factors that have not been discussed here, which in my view I consider important. First off I am an older gentleman. If my wife was ill, i would be on the next plane to Ukraine. If I didn't have the money I would beg, borrow, steal or pick up cans on the side of the road. A pack of hungry wolfs could not keep me away from her. Besides being my wife, she is my best friend and lover We treat each other with respect and understanding. With a foreign spouse you have to try, give, and have patience with each other. Everything is more difficult, but the out come is blissful and more rewarding than you would ever think possible.
I lived with her, and i know first hand about the issues....many times I had my bags packed to come home. I was home sick! I miss my friends, family and son. I was in a country where no one spoke my language, food tasted different, transportation was different, I did not know how to shop in the market, I did not know what products to buy, the country smelled different, people were different.....every thing in my life was different. My now wife worked very hard to make me feel comfortable. I was a problem for her, and that made me feel sad....but we worked TOGETHER and got through it.
Right now you are stressed to the bone, and about to have a child. You are not even here yet.
It saddens me to say, your man is a game player
You will have a child.....very stressful
You will have a wedding....stressful
You will have tons of paperwork to file....stressful
Taking care of your newborn...WOW...stressful and very costly
Adapting to your new country....beyond stressful
A husband that is not employed....stressful
where is money coming from...stressful
He will be going to police academy.....stressful and costly
He won't have a lot of time to spend with you....and believe me, you will need it.
He already shows signs of abuse, and he clearly doesn't support you or your feelings.
Also it is fact that police officers have a high rate of Domestic Abuse.
Is this the way to build a foundation to a lasting and loving relationship? You have many issues and problems to over-come just with in the foreign relationship...Then you throw all the additional stress factors in..... I would doubt that the relationship could survive....I know I could not do it.
I am just being real here and don't want to upset you....but these are thing to think about

He said come now or don't come at all, my response would be ok I won't come at all, have a nice life ! End of story.
What a jerk. I see a big red flag looming.

If they ask this or anything about your sex lives, it's highly (if not completely) inappropriate for a K-1 interview. One response is, "If you want an answer to that question, please put it in writing, in an e-mail, to me with copies to my two U.S. Senators, and include the name and e-mail address of your Section Chief. I'll be more than happy to answer questions on other subjects."

Since you overstayed your visa less than 180 days, you will not be barred from re-entering. But, the next time you try to enter the US, the border officer will see that you overstayed the last time and it is up to them to decide if they will let you in or not. Since it's only ten days, they will probably let you in. I think it becomes more of an issue when you overstay by a couple of months.

If it's just to show proof of US citizenship, you only need to send the bio page, which is the page that shows your nationality. If you're using your passport to show bona fida relationship (having met in person) as well, you should send all pages.

I have to disagree, I'm a military veteran and I'm far from being a hero.
Hero is a word that is used far too often.
I served my country, I was (and still am) willing to die for my country, I've saved lives. I was never a hero, I was a soldier and for me, that is enough to feel pride.
A hero is someone who when given the choice to keep going or hang back and, when they know they are likely to be killed, they choose to go for it. They are heroes.
A British Royal Marine purposefully rolled over on to a grenade to protect the other members of his patrol, hoping that his body armour would absorb most of the blast. Hero.
An armoured vehicle driver who after his vehicle had been hit by an RPG and he was seriously wounded drove his damaged vehicle back in to the firefight to provide cover so the rest of the wounded could be evacuated. Hero.
Any bomb disposal specialist, walking alone towards a bomb that could go off at any time. Super freaking Hero!
Private Joe Nobody who works in supplies. Not a hero.

Go away please. Thanks.

Uh Oh started it again huh.
Well I could say some of those same things about plenty of other countries around the world. You are generalizing, stereotyping, and lumping every Amercian into the same category. You are very wrong. I know plenty of hardworking, dedicated, never been on government assistance, caring individuals that fight everyday for what they believe in. Government assistance was put in place to help those in need, there may be abusers to the system, but the benefits outway the bad.
As far as #6, yes we are patriotic and anyone who chooses to put their safety and life in jeopardy to fight for others is a hero all day in my book.
So here are your options:
1. Leave and go back to your country if you don't like it here.
2. Do something about it. Instead of making these whining posts go out and do something actively to improve the situation
Peace

F.U. This country does not owe you US citizenship. YOU OWE THIS COUNTRY FOR LETTING YOU LIVE AND WORK HERE.
You didn't have to come here. You made a choice. You can choose to leave.
You take a hike.

If you hate and have no respect for the people here, then why do you want to be a US citizen?
You can leave here without a US passport. You don't need a US passport to leave here and live in Europe.
Euro trash who wants the advantage of US citizenship and talks poorly of the people he wants to join.