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As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

You're welcome in the September thread wbeem!

I addressed the issue of data integrity in my letter to the President:
CREDIBILITY OF DATA
Understandably, it is easy to regard the data presented in this letter and the data on any of the at-large websites that are related to the I-129F petition process as being unreliable. We suspect that the USCIS would make such a claim if presented with this data. However our counterargument to such a dismissal follows:
Lack of incentive. There is no motivation for petitioners to post fraudulent data regarding the filing of their petition on these websites. The petitioner will not benefit by claiming that they received their NOA2 before the actual date. All of the information and data contained in these websites is voluntary and used to assist others. Users receive no compensation for their feedback.
History. The imbalance in the I-129F processing times between service centers is not a new development. Rather, this is simply the most recent instantiation of the phenomenon. During the I-129F petition history, there have been many processing time differences, though few of this magnitude. With such data to substantiate our claims, any suspicion of that data’s reliability is easily refuted. Again, our complaint is not simply that there is a difference in service center processing times, but that the difference is excessive and unfair.
Strength in numbers. The feedback from petitioners who are reporting rapid processing times in the CSC and those who are reporting excessive wait times in the TSC is both large in number and unwavering in content. Such data is indicative of a reliable and repeatable pattern that has persisted over time. It is difficult to dismiss our claims of an imbalance in I-129F processing times when those claims are supported by a large number of petitioners whose petitions are on file with both the CSC and TSC. Simply put, a few people who fabricate data or information about a particular subject is one thing, but consistent fabrication on a large scale is quite another; it is in fact, an impossible endeavor to achieve with any degree of consistency.
Given these factors we ask you to give serious consideration to the accuracy of the information we have presented. This is a significant issue that warrants your intervention, thus the reason behind our letter and request.
Apparently they didn't read this, or don't care, or both. Probably the latter. LOL Anyway, as wbeem has stated, it's no surprise that this response was given to an inquiry from a senator or congressman. They've been doing that to all of us who have inquired via that route, so nothing new there. However the data presented on VJ is accurate and correct. As I mentioned above, folk like D.Ba have no reason to lie.

Sure, you're correct, it does in a way. However what I was trying to communicate to you is that the system is, in its own way, designed to allow fraud to occur in the first place. And you won't change that system, so why bother? File your complaints with ICE if you want, ok, but walk away from it at that point and move on, that is my recommendation. Like it or not, the system doesn't care about you or your situation and it won't do anything to help you. However, it will hurt you if you give it the opportunity. Don't give it that opportunity. Walk away and find happiness elsewhere.
Simply a thought, trying to help as someone who has walked in your shoes. FWIW

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

I addressed the issue of data integrity in my letter to the President:
CREDIBILITY OF DATA
Understandably, it is easy to regard the data presented in this letter and the data on any of the at-large websites that are related to the I-129F petition process as being unreliable. We suspect that the USCIS would make such a claim if presented with this data. However our counterargument to such a dismissal follows:
Lack of incentive. There is no motivation for petitioners to post fraudulent data regarding the filing of their petition on these websites. The petitioner will not benefit by claiming that they received their NOA2 before the actual date. All of the information and data contained in these websites is voluntary and used to assist others. Users receive no compensation for their feedback.
History. The imbalance in the I-129F processing times between service centers is not a new development. Rather, this is simply the most recent instantiation of the phenomenon. During the I-129F petition history, there have been many processing time differences, though few of this magnitude. With such data to substantiate our claims, any suspicion of that data’s reliability is easily refuted. Again, our complaint is not simply that there is a difference in service center processing times, but that the difference is excessive and unfair.
Strength in numbers. The feedback from petitioners who are reporting rapid processing times in the CSC and those who are reporting excessive wait times in the TSC is both large in number and unwavering in content. Such data is indicative of a reliable and repeatable pattern that has persisted over time. It is difficult to dismiss our claims of an imbalance in I-129F processing times when those claims are supported by a large number of petitioners whose petitions are on file with both the CSC and TSC. Simply put, a few people who fabricate data or information about a particular subject is one thing, but consistent fabrication on a large scale is quite another; it is in fact, an impossible endeavor to achieve with any degree of consistency.
Given these factors we ask you to give serious consideration to the accuracy of the information we have presented. This is a significant issue that warrants your intervention, thus the reason behind our letter and request.
Apparently they didn't read this, or don't care, or both. Probably the latter. LOL Anyway, as wbeem has stated, it's no surprise that this response was given to an inquiry from a senator or congressman. They've been doing that to all of us who have inquired via that route, so nothing new there. However the data presented on VJ is accurate and correct. As I mentioned above, folk like D.Ba have no reason to lie.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

Sure, you're correct, it does in a way. However what I was trying to communicate to you is that the system is, in its own way, designed to allow fraud to occur in the first place. And you won't change that system, so why bother? File your complaints with ICE if you want, ok, but walk away from it at that point and move on, that is my recommendation. Like it or not, the system doesn't care about you or your situation and it won't do anything to help you. However, it will hurt you if you give it the opportunity. Don't give it that opportunity. Walk away and find happiness elsewhere.
Simply a thought, trying to help as someone who has walked in your shoes. FWIW

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

As someone who has been through this personally, I would recommend that you not pursue any endeavor to have her removed from the USA. Granted, in my case there were no police reports and she never actually filed a VAWA claim, but she certainly threatened to do so. As others mentioned that you should do, I retained legal counsel and divorced her immediately. I did everything I could to facilitate and maintain separation from her. Once the divorce was final I simply moved on with my life and let her have hers. She ended up going back home because life was too difficult here for her; with no education, no work experience and when all of those so-called "friends" who convinced and helped her pull off her scam (and yeah, she took tons of stuff from my house too, including titles to my cars, etc. - and the officer to whom I reported the incident merely laughed at me) had scattered to the wild wind, what *else* was she gonna do? Short of finding some clod to latch onto, she had little choice. This woman sounds like she has more of a support network established here than mine did, but I'd suggest that you don't let that bother you either. It is what it is.
The primary point I'm struggling to make is that I recommend that you forego your quest to do anything about her presence in the USA. As others have mentioned, there isn't much you can do anyway and it will simply cause you grief for the next however-long until you finally do move on. I recommend that you re-focus on protecting yourself against any type of charges that might come up, though without proof, that's unlikely. Then simply find a way to be ok with her obtaining her goal of being here, even though she used you to do it. Be ok with merely getting away unscathed in the end, as unfair as that sounds/is. Given the way our system works, those who wanna play it like a fiddle can do so quite easily; and that playing can involve some serious repercussions for you. So I'd recommend just being glad that it didn't. Let it go, live your life, find happiness elsewhere. And the time to do that is now.
Just my $0.02. Take it FWIW.

Welcome to TSC hell!

Sorry to hear about that wbeem!

Yes. As of today the injunction remains in effect.

Well there is a bit of an update for the pseudo-official amalgamation thread, but no revelation of any type. Yet. My letter to the White House has received a response through Stef's contact. The response, in summary, is that the USCIS says that there is no problem with I-129F processing times. So it's more of the same. Stef's contact was reportedly hacked off at the way both he and we were treated when we raised this issue. Therefore he has said that he will try other means to affect change. We're gonna touch base with him again early next week.

I'll keep everyone updated......

Janelle and I exchanged email tonight regarding the name of the channel. I suggested that she consider changing the name to include fiance and she did that. So it reflects both sides of the fence now, which is cool. Thanks Janelle!

Hi again Janelle,
As I mentioned in the September thread, I'm volunteering the skunkworks team to put together a video regarding the issue and the fight we've been waging. We'll get back to you ASAP.
Thanks!
Jerry

TBoneTX-
This sounds like good advice in the general sense, but I - for one - am curious to know more about what you're referring to ... I mean, what is the concern exactly? I have a few ideas, but am interested to hear clarification, beyond the obvious of "my full name is XXXX and my address XXXX and my passwords are XXXX, etc. Thanks!

TBoneTX-
Hmmmmmmmm....ok. Well that's kinda difficult for me personally because I don't think like that. If I tried to do "no good" with something, well, I'd just suck at it. LOL
Anyway, ok, thank you for the general guidance and word of caution. I'll do my best.

TBoneTX-
Hmmmmmmmm....ok. Well that's kinda difficult for me personally because I don't think like that. If I tried to do "no good" with something, well, I'd just suck at it. LOL
Anyway, ok, thank you for the general guidance and word of caution. I'll do my best.

TBoneTX-
Hmmmmmmmm....ok. Well that's kinda difficult for me personally because I don't think like that. If I tried to do "no good" with something, well, I'd just suck at it. LOL
Anyway, ok, thank you for the general guidance and word of caution. I'll do my best.

Hi Monica,
Ok sure. The skunkworks crew will investigate putting together a video for you, no problem.