Marieke H

Do NOT book anything, do NOT make any reservations before having a visa in hand!!! There have been countless stories about people losing their money and reservations because they didn't get their visa in time. You can't truly predict how much time your process will take. You might get lucky or not. 
 
Embassies also suggest to not make any solid plans before having a visa  

Many K-1 visas have taken longer than 10 months from date of filing the petition until visa is in hand. The average is about 6-8 months right now but that can change quickly and there are never any guarantees. I have personal experience of visa process taking way longer than expected so I would never, ever recommend anyone to plan something that can't be changed. It's up to you if you want to take the chance.

***** Op seems unwilling to accept reasonable advice and prefer ranting about his situation, so this thread is now closed and not to be re-started. *****

You sound scary. 
 
No one is saying she has a case through VAWA. But she has the right to file a case and there's nothing you can do about it. 
 
Everyone is telling you to DISENGAGE. File for divorce and move on. 
 
You can submit evidence of fraud to USCiS. Do so, then move on. What she does is up to her. 
 
By the way, I am a US citizen and have been from birth. 

Cancel the aos now. Divorce her move on. Don't be alone with her and the vawa claim needs physical proof (medical reports, police reports, etc). Being bitter won't do you any good. 
 
You can't "send her back." She's not an amazon package. If she stays in the country legally or not, it's not your problem after divorce and cancelling aos. 

First, I extend my deepest sympathies to you. I have dealt with some family deaths the last 2 years and still dealing with a family member who has serious cancer.
 
Second, take care of yourself. Seek out your very best friend or closest family member. Ask them for advice. No one on this forum is as trustworthy for advice as someone you know intimately in real life. You might also seek out a counselor if you don't already have one.
 
As for your immigration issue, you have already received some good advice, above. I would focus on yourself. Moving away from you so early after receiving a green card might make it very difficult for her to remove conditions on the green card over the next 2 years. I would simply divorce her and move on.

It's people like you (liars) that make it so hard for other people in your country to get visas. You lied to the American embassy and then you come here to ask for advice on how to try to get another chance to enter the US.. Have you no shame?

Putting your dirty laundry on VJ for all to see is not gonna solve anything. If you're serious about your relationship, listen to each other and talk to each other. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. 

Since both of you obviously have internet connections I would suggest you guys close this thread and do a chat together privately to sort this matter out. 
 
Marriage is not easy but doing this in a public forum is just wrong and definitely won't help your marriage or the problems you guys obviously have to sort out also before you the husband gets here so it won't get worse. 
 
Good luck. 

No one can tell you what is going on since we're not there with him, and we don't know him like you do.
 
Here is my point of view.  Unless it was a business trip, there is NO WAY i would take a pleasure trip with a woman that my wife/fiancee did not know.  That's stupid and disrespectful.
 
Here is something else to consider.  Many fake marriage green card scammers start acting differently when they think they are in the clear and have the magic ticket to the US.  This is when they screw themselves by revealing their true motives before getting a green card in hand.
 
If he is disrespectful to you, you should run.  That is what I would tell my daughter.

I'm sorry to hear your marriage isn't going that well
 
No one in here can tell you if it's okay or not. Every couple have different things they are okay with and some not.
 
You will find people who would not be comfortable with their partner doing that and others who is fine with it.
 
The most important question is how do YOU feel? Are you okay with it? Do you want to be with your husband? Do you trust your husband?
 
Not questions you should answer here but ask yourself and figure out what to do. 

This person obviously has no intentions of being honest. Let's face it, honestly speaking, the chances of a known drug user getting into the US is just about 0. You're inadmissible if you confess to drug use and I don't believe there's a waiver for that. 
 
I'm not going to give you advice on how to go about beating the system (not that I know of a way) but it sounds like you're still using knowing that there's a chance it might be detected in your system...not a smart move. Even if you happen to beat the system and make it to the US, this habit could send you back quick. 
 
Give it up (the drugs) or Give it up (trying to get to the US).

Stop playing games if you want help.  What country are you from is a simple question.  Elucidating which US Embassy you have to deal with will get you the correct specific help that you need.  There is no need to play the vague guessing game with "a western-friendly country to the US."  Don't turn people off to helping you by being cute.  
 
This is my thoughts to you to help you get quick and accurate answers.  Properly answer questions from people trying to help you.  Don't make them guess with vague answers.

What country is this? The only solution right now is that the visa will be denied at the luckiest, and a ban is more than likely the case. He lied to the embassy and your solution is for him to keep lying? That does not make sense  at all. 

Solution:  VISA DENIED
NO
Well now that the embassy has this information they will ask him did he marry local woman.  What is he going to do lie??  Just because its not registered does not mean the embassy will overlook it.  He cannot explain it away.  The embassy only needs suspicion, not proof.  He is the one that needs to prove them wrong.  
So what will his "local" wife do if he got an approved visa and moves to USA to be with his "USA wife"??   Your friend does not deserve to be approved for a USA visa.  Done with this post of fraud.

You're preaching to the choir here, telling us that the process is slow, it hurts to be apart, etc. Your pain and suffering being apart from your girlfriend is no greater than anyone else's. We have all survived. There is nothing you can do to speed it up. If there was, we would all do it and no one would be here waiting and waiting. It is what it is. Reading posts about how terrible it is to be apart is nothing new and somewhat redundant. We all go through major life events without our spouses during this process. I was scheduled for brain surgery to cure my epilepsy during the time apart from my husband. I spent a long time in the hospital without my husband. I got through it and I'm sure you'll get through an athletics event without your girlfriend by your side. 
 
With all all due respect, if being able to travel to competitions and events is part of your life and you want her to be able to come with you then you chose the wrong visa path. That's water under the bridge now but you wouldn't be in this situation of potentially having to go to Budapest without her if you had done some research beforehand. You can't blame USCIS or the embassy for your poor planning. 
 
 

They do understand.  Do you understand that they're operating on a very low budget without government money?  Our fees is what sustains them.  Do you understand that they're overworked and underpaid?  Do you understand that if one mistake is made and a terrorist slips in on a k1 the organization as a whole takes the blame?