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This Topic is for to share our experience, many USC are suffering the Marriage Fraud, manipulation, abuse and many things more hurting us for years or for life.

Let's share our stories and think what could we do different based on our experience and knowledge now.

Immigrants have all the rights and protection in our country. What do we have, we US citizens? Spending a lot and making a lot of documents for to be with our loved ones. Do we deserve being used, manipulated, abused and even send to jail because of our best feelings and intentions? What kind of legal help do we have? What kind of support?

23 hours ago, Daisy.Chain said:

My sister-in-law came to visit from the Dominican Republic for one week in June 2015, then for four months November 2015 - March 2016. 

She hasn't been back since, but today when she applied for her 14 year old son to visit on B2 for one month this summer (while she stays in the DR working), they cancelled her visa and said she had stayed too long. I checked the I-94 - she left well within the 6 month time. I know they can cancel for any reason, even an undisclosed one, but why would they cancel her B2? What did we miss?

Simple. Before she was traveling as a tourist leaving her son in her country, the embassy and border control assume she will go back to her son.

Now she applied for her son tourist visa saying he will travel without her but the embassy assumes if both, she and her son have visa, they can travel both and no return.

Of course 4 months her last stay is also telling them maybe she was working or looking for a job and then get her son visa and come back together.

On 2/23/2018 at 6:01 AM, o0o said:

If i were u I’d make a move fast before she gets perm residency green card coz to me i feel like shes gonna leave once this has been completed. You’ve tried and were patient, don’t be used anymore, put it to an end.

if you still didn't get her 1st green card, get the InfoPass and cancel your Affidavit of Support and divorce her ASAP. Then you will be free to start your life again. If it is the 2nd green card, just divorce ASAP.  Sooner you are out of this marriage, it's better, less complicated emotionally and financially. Forget about how hard financially it will be for her, she is a stranger who is using and milking you, you deserve better wife.

On 2/22/2018 at 7:32 AM, Khallaf said:

I want to tell you something, I married a man and brought him here in 2010, we got married in 2011, what she is doing is the same things that were done to me, I didn't want to see it, I didn't want to admit it to myself, and I most certainly didn't want anyone to say the "I told you so". My husband at that time waiting 5 years 2 days after having gotten his citizenship to tell me that he never loved me, he didn't want to be with me and wanted a divorce.  ALL leading up to was everything you have described....I lost all of who I was I lost my self esteem, I lost the feeling of being loved, I felt alone and betrayed.

 

Do not let yourself get to where I was, notice the signs early, if sitting her down and talking about all you feel and all you notice does not change, then you need to arrange a plane ticket for her and get her out!

 

what she is doing IMO is sucking your life, love, and happiness...

Same here but he traveled back after staying here with me 4 months, 3 of them married, I got the annulment though. But still hurts, my best intentions were badly used.

DIVORCE HER AND LIVE YOUR LIFE. the love and marriage is for 2, you can't make it alone if she is not willing to be with you.

Just live your life, be friendly and civilized with your ex but don't do him any favor, don't do anything for him. Learn, you are divorced, you are strangers and he should do his things by himself, you don't own him anything anymore, don't drag your past in your new life

All well now, thank you. Getting up this topic for others to see

Yes, try to do his citizenship as soon as possible after he lives here, he can work and he can get his pension on your behalf if your pension is more than his, if he is a working man and in a good health (try to keep him healthy until he gets established here), you will be ok, check social security website for how it works

the new immigrant will be soon 60, it's not easy to adapt in the new country, it's not easy to find a job (maybe you think about opening a small business for him in carpentry), not easy to work and the health issues starting, health insurance for his age is expensive and until becoming a citizen, he doesn't qualify for some benefits. Not easy at all. If he has a good job or business in his country, maybe you could live here. What I know some immigrants bring their parents at this age and complaining how expensive is the medical insurance for them, many prefer leave their parents in their countries as medical is more easy and cheaper for them there

Let's hope the USCIS employee doesn't prosecute or doesn't have the access to send the OP to Court and just gives him his documents back, denying the citizenship. Offering to cancel the citizenship application, it was helping OP to stay away from the problems but he insisted in continue. Usually it is advised to all citizenship applicants, not to apply if they have any problems with the law but continue living as a green card holder because the citizenship process does a very deep background check and if there is the law violation, the citizenship process can trigger prosecution, take out the green card and deport. Let's hope the USCIS employee is not very active in insisting to send OP to court. In this situation it is not only his wife could be deported but also himself.

It is very serious, passport and green card taken means the USCIS employee will probably give them to ICE or any immigration authority for to cancel not only the Citizenship application but also his green card and to deport him, as well his wife. The OP needs a lawyer, there will be probably criminal charges and Court for him because he is / was harboring an illegal alien. The government also could get his house, cars and his accounts. Sorry

12 hours ago, Lemonslice said:

The only part that makes sense is this: "having legal representation is [...] important in that situation." 

Rest is rubbish.

I did NOT have a legal representation but I got an Annulment learning and researching, writing the legal publication mysel

Rubbish to advice people to do the best LEGAL way?

 Please, read about the Fraud Marriage being a Federal Crime and how many complications can give it to an innocent USC if we don't protect ourselves with the paperwork which confirms the USC didn't know about Fraud. I see wikihow explanation very reasonable and easy to understand and I don't see why, we US Citizens should just shut up and cover up the Marriage Fraud Federal Crimes when in the official ICE publication says precisely, this kind of crime is usually related to other even more serious crimes.

Please, read, 

https://www.ice.gov/sites/default/files/documents/Document/2016/marriageFraudBrochure.pdf

1 hour ago, Lemonslice said:

Wikihow.... Yeah, that's a good site to learn how to remove stains, however the advice you're quoting is wrong.

Then, please, explain better and tell us what is it wrong?

• If you were the victim of marriage fraud, you also could face criminal charges if you don't handle the matter quickly and carefully, so having legal representation is most important in that situation.
• Divorce simply ends the marriage, while if you get the marriage annulled it is treated as though it never happened. Having the marriage annulled could have vastly different consequences for you than simply getting a divorce.
• However, if you and your spouse have children together, it may not be possible to seek an annulment.
• read more ... https://www.wikihow.com/Report-Immigration-Marriage-Fraud

5 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

This is what I mean by preparation.  Whether you did it in advance or reactively, you did it.  

Thank you. And it still hurts how my best wishes and intentions were wasted.

4 hours ago, TBoneTX said:

You were very prepared, and therefore one of the fortunate ones.

I wasn't, at all, I didn't know anything, I was lucky he left before the AP came and when he left and all the information started to show up, his women talking to me, I was very hurt and confused but decided to do what needs to be done, researching, learning and telling to myself to try to do it the best way, not leaving myself on the hook for community property, married for long and him not willing to sign the divorce, I was trying to figure it out how to do well and get the divorce or better the annulment and it did work.

But I was very lucky he left after hitting me, breaking the door and his 2 women ordering him to be back to his children. I was lucky he left yet I wasn't prepared at all.

and adding to the link about the Fraud Marriage, please, read. And if you know, your marriage is a Fraud marriage or you suspect that, please, report. Please, read the link I gave you above, it's a serious crime, better protect yourself from jail and all legal implications.

MARRIAGE FRAUD IS A FEDERAL CRIME

Report Marriage Fraud to the Homeland Security Investigations Tip Line

CONTACT US For more information, contact the nearest HSI office and ask to speak to a group supervisor in the Identity and Benefit Fraud Unit. If marriage fraud is suspected, You could end up walking down this aisle. contact the HSI Tip Line at 1-866 -347 -2423 www.ice.gov/tips

https://www.ice.gov/sites/default/files/documents/Document/2016/marriageFraudBrochure.pdf

On 3/24/2017 at 4:19 PM, Mirjana said:

I have pic of him with her and kids while we were married and people's comments under,good looking family,finally reunited,her responses,happy and all togethetr.

Her posted pic of his brother in his house with comment:he has best sister in law,look what I maid for my brother in law.I have people's testimonies about his marriage,so what else do I need?

I have a very similar situatation.

First thing I did, I made the Info Pass and gave them all evidence (chats, him, his family, his women) saying he married me for papers only and he has other kids, I didn't know about them. I asked for to talk to the Fraud Officer and we talked, my documents as a prove were accepted.

Second, I applied for the Marriage ANNULMENT by Fraud attaching the same proves, chat's printing and my letter about it, the Fraud was based on him saying he married me for papers and it is not a valid marriage for him and he didn't tell me about having 2 other kids and living with other women, he told me he is a single father with 1 kid.

The judge gave me the Annulment by Fraud, which is good for me because it is like this marriage never existed, it doesn't make me share my property with him, I got my Military benefits back under the fact this marriage was annuled and also if he wants to marry an American again, he will need the divorce decree but he only can get the Annulment decree by Fraud, which probably won't let him to adjust his status with another marriage.

8 minutes ago, amaada said:

I think there’s no way she can file for divorce? He’s sending her home in a couple days, she has no money and I don’t think she can work up the courage to file for divorce alone. She doesn’t even want to divorce. So it’ll be all up to the guy.

if she wants her life clean, she needs the divorce too, she can offer the guy to sign both the quick divorce asking him to change the ticket for to travel a little later, she is still legal here and for her would be better to get her divorce decree with her. If it's both signing and no arguments, the divorce is very fast

Many new immigrants believe it's so easy to sue the petitioner because he/she signed the affidavit of support. Yes, you can but look at the cases, how many won and what? mainly the Affidavit of Support it is between the Petitioner and US government in case if the new immigrant becomes the public charge, even then, the US government doesn't sue the Petitioner.

For to get a spouse support, the new immigrant needs to go to the court, get a good lawyer and see how good is the American judge to give to the new immigrant the alimony, usually the judge see how long did you live together, what were the petitioner properties BEFORE the marriage, if they have children together, etc. Many years of marriage and children could give you alimony, few months of marriage ... I doubt. Yet the new immigrant usually doesn't go for alimony as the lawyer usually cost lots of money and it is not worth it to spend 5-10K for to get for a short time of marriage 1K or even less

2 hours ago, Tom & Lily said:

Don't forget; "Divorce does not terminate your obligation under Form I-864."  If he remains in the US.

 

and it is the obligation to the US government, not to the beneficiary

On 1/2/2018 at 6:38 AM, Persevere_hope said:

Is there anything immigration wise that I would need to do before or during a divorce?

 

I’m a born US citizen and he is an immigrant. He came over on a K1 and has his green card. 

He will go home, so is there anything that would need to be done?

Just check for how long were you married and if he asks for a spouse support, division of the joint property or whatever your state law says about the divorce and property, if you have children, the custody and apply for the divorce