Auds

On 9/26/2017 at 6:53 AM, Tatsi said:

Hi Auds,

Thank you for the reply, great to hear feedback from someone who has been through the process. The thing is i read the travel ban exceptions etc and students from Iran and J1 visitors will still be processed. The thing is the travel ban slowed things down to begin with and now here goes another one!!

When the travel ban first came in ( and then was put on hold), a lot of others got their interviews scheduled in Abu Dhabi - as soon as a month after NVC CC.  I have tracked this embassy very closely for 1.5 yrs so I know they are probably pulling out files now to start scheduling the others after the effective travel ban date.

We are not in a position to question legitimacy and the chances of this relationship being for purposes of migration.  The embassy very much  can make a call on that and I am sure they have seen that the relationship started at an age where the petitioner could have been booked for statutory rape even had this been in the US.  We do not know when the relationship was consummated but it's too close to being illegal.

Culturally a family would never be okay with their child marrying a woman so much older.  Actually most families would not be okay.  Culturally it's just something that does not happen.  I know the culture very well - unless of course the family see it as a marriage for immigration.

Iranians form a large chunk of those being interviewed in Abu Dhabi.  For instance when i went for my IV interview in June 2017, out of the 20 groups/individuals they do each day for IV, about 16 were Iranians.

So do expect your interviews sooner now...

Your visa is not yet approved or stamped.  You still have hope.  Take new forms filled up to the interview and explain.  They will advise.

Daughter can always be petitioned later depending on age.  Just ensure she is mentioned wherver you are asked about children.  You may have misunderstood your lawyer.

it may or may not mean delays in yours but better now then later

Of course my assumption is you have mentioned all other marriages, divorces accurately and were not practicing bigamy.

11 hours ago, aamirnicole said:

Update:

First I'd like to thank everyone for all the advice and opinions. We were able to figure out the correct way of doing this which is to file for a Fiance visa after we have met a few times 1st in Dubai and of coarse with supporting evidence (documentation, etc.) of our relationship and love. We both agree we are eager however being eager and impatient will not work through this process and if we don't accurately and correctly follow steps we could fail and that would be horrible. We will have the rest of our lives to spend together if we take caution and go step by step without trying to leap. He is 27 and I'm 36. I completely agree with meeting in Person and spending as much time together to get to know each other first is very important and he also agrees. It was more or less we are uneducated about this process and didn't know which direction to begin. So I thank you all for your advice we now know where to begin  I wish everyone the best of luck and a lifetime of happiness and love!

-Nicole

Nicole also try suggesting that you may want to move to Pakistan....  Culturally marriage to a woman 9 yrs older is very rare.  You have got to think beyond.

Your husband is going to have to document the interview to the best of his memory, he really should have some idea of where extra probing was..

is this both your first marriage

any red flags such as excessive age gap? Culture differences? Less meetings?

Just call empost with your passport number...  have you checked yoir email?  The one you registered your appt with.  Check Junk too - empost sends an email.. 

Unfortunately suing him is not possible from where you are...

try seek therapy and help for yourself, so you learn why and how you got yoursekf in this situation.

We met on Shaadi.com too - I included a timeline of our love story, his profile and mine (only had word version), screen shot of our success story that only had first names and no picture. 

All went well - no RFE, in US now on CR-1

Did your husband also overstay in the US?

what was the reason and initial time frame of visiting?  Maybe they feel - he came with the intention of finding someone to marry...

Your husband worked illegally in the US

others on here would be able to tell you if that's a ground for denial.  I believe so.

do you have red flags are you much older?

5 hours ago, ysrmf said:

I don't have a visit visa for the States my husband might visit so there's something to look forward to. 

 

I'm on my old company's visa so anytime they ask me to cancel I have to .. I'm worried about starting another job because if it's only for a few months.

 

I'm so stressed

You really should get sorted in a couple of weeks.. hugs to you.  The summer must have delayed things more for you.  

Abu Dhabi embassy is extremely busy - wait time from CC is 7 to 8 months.  Please search on this site you will know.

11 hours ago, wanderlust88 said:

Maybe it's selfish of me to say this but I wish they prioritized UAE citizen and resident applications. We can't apply from anywhere else and are stuck because of backlog from other countries...

I remember feeling that way too - but do note those from the certain other countries that get interviewed in Abu Dhabi don't have other embassies as an option.

the day I was there out of the 20 groups of immigrant visas that day about 15 to 16 were likely from Iran.

Have you considered requesting an expedite?

Just now, wanderlust88 said:

 

I guess they don't owe the beneficiary anything, but how can they be okay with making a US citizen wait for 1.5-2 years to start living with their spouse? this is not right and does take a big mental and emotional toll on the partners.

Been the case for about 2 years now.  Abu Dhabi is extremely busy handling others such as Iran interviews etc....

its really terrible - but it is what it is.

Please also listen to the non immigration advice.  Anyone who wants to marry without having met in person especially if it's not their culture must be questioned.  Physical, in person compatibility is very different.

also, is he much younger to you? Religon? Culture?

please take your time.

5 hours ago, HarelD said:

Hi Latonia and thank you for your comments.

You are definitely right, the feeling of someone else taking a decision  for your life and your family is very hard. All this process suppose to join or keeps family together, the CO recommended me to fly, with or without the kids, to US for an unknown amount of time and my wife will join us once the process will be done. We explained her our child with special needs need 24/7 assistance and every small change is an emotional challenge for him. Separate the family may affect him so hard that god knows what would be repercussion of this move on his mind. Beside, who will take care of the kids while I'm at work. Right now my wife and me barely eat and sleep.

Instead of keeping us unified how it should, this process makes my family falling a part and there is nothing I can do....

I understand they have laws and rules and they have to make them work but in our case, they take good people and treat them like criminals. With Roller Coasters emotional changes when they reply to emails with "Cold and Generic" answers and when they don't care about all the preparation, time, energy and money you spent to get everything done and ready for this move. USA has been built by Immigrants, they should embrace good people that want to work legally, pay Taxes and contribute to the economy.

I understand the personal tragedy and have been in a very similar situation - didnt know at that point if i would survive the pain.

do keep in mind - good and bad people is relative.  Any talks about what immigrants did etc will get you no where.  If your wife did gain immigration benefit while she was 'seperated' from her ex or other benefits or there was any claims of being married while she was seperated - this will be a long saga.  You did not have to answer this question in the board but this is what will need resolving.

I know someone who had a fraction of a similair issue - just a fraction and it required a lot of work.

Chill

medical doesn't care about the little stuff.

even the big ones just 3 to 4 things are looked out for.

It does seem like the kids situation is the issue. Also, was there a point where she had her green card conditions removed last time claiming marriage but in fact at that time she was separated?  Any other benefits availed as a result of being married to US citizen when in fact she was actually separated?

I am guessing kids birth records are correct.

Looks like a lawyer, senator contacts possibly waivers are in order.  If no benefits were made etc, did you submit a timeline with your application?

If your mother married the US citizen before you were 18 years old, she will be able to file CR-2 for you and in about a year you will legally be in the US.  If not yes it will be a long process - BUT you going on tourist visa and adjusting is not legal and even if you had not travelled with the intention to adjust I don't see how it can be legal.

Go for the interview.  Visa will never be issued till medicals are submitted. Once medicals come in, you may submit along with passport.

Wanderlust - if you have any major life changing reason to request for an expedite.  Please request for one. 

If not please be prepared for 5-7 month wait from NVC CC

Diana, as painful as it is to you, they are doing it in your interest.  there are so many stories of women & men being frauded for paper work.  Marriages on their own are tough work and then where someone has met once raises a red flag.

Do send the letter you got from the site on to them and also add on why you were unable to visit - financials etc.  If possible put affidavits from those who know both of you and are of good social repute, such as an uncle who may be a professional etc.  You will have to visit your husband again soon and hope that if the worst happens and files gets denied or second interview eventually you have more evidence of meeting.

Who knows they may do other things like background checks which are only to protect you.  Stay Strong.

Best wishes to you and your husband.