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Too many doubts. I think you have your answer already. We can't and shouldn't help you make this decision. If you leave, it's a K-1 all over again. Good Luck.

No expedite for pregnancy.

I think we can agree that they both broke the law by he getting a job and getting hired so the other laws broke are ripple effect. I doubt the employer reported his income and paid SS and medicare taxes on his behalf..can of worms
But i understand your point.

There are various agencies you go through who would are authorised to do this, not something you would do yourself.

There are several separate issues that have been brought up:
Taxes: Tax law does not care about legal or illegal income. All income is taxed the same way. If his income for a particular year was above the threshold for filing taxes for that year, then he needs to have filed tax returns. (And if he failed to file, he should file now.) You did not indicate whether he filed taxes properly for that income or not; people are advising that he should make sure that his taxes are filed. Immigration: You did not indicate whether your friend is a US citizen or not. If your friend is a US citizen, and this guy entered legally, then they qualify for Adjustment of Status, and being out of status and/or illegal employment won't affect the case at all. So in this case, he has every reason to be 100% honest about all his employment when asked.Another thing is to make sure that he has never claimed to be a US citizen; his illegal employment raises the question of how he was allowed to work. Was his employer complicit or negligent and didn't ask him to fill out an I-9? Was he working as a contractor so he didn't need to fill out an I-9? Or if he filled out an I-9, what did he put on it?

Have you called nvc?? You realize the noa2 expires???
O i miss read you put noa2 both times....alot of people around your date are now being approved...its a waiting game

The only thing I can comment on is clear the waters. I think you are "putting the cart before the horse" as they say.
1) File for divorce.
2) Get the divorce finalized. It took 26 months for my divorce to be finalized so be prepared for that. You have to prove you are clear to remarry.
3) Get DNA results for child if you are making decisions to marry based on the child being yours or not.
Good Luck

The only thing I can comment on is clear the waters. I think you are "putting the cart before the horse" as they say.
1) File for divorce.
2) Get the divorce finalized. It took 26 months for my divorce to be finalized so be prepared for that. You have to prove you are clear to remarry.
3) Get DNA results for child if you are making decisions to marry based on the child being yours or not.
Good Luck

One of the biggest parts of my decision to pursue a long term relationship and then filing for a K-1 was trust. I was once in a horrible relationship both emotionally and financially. So, I was a bit paranoid at first about trusting someone again. Over time those fears went away and trust was built. But, it took time. 1000+ hours of video chats various times of the day, visit(s) seeing the person under stress and other circumstances. Understanding their personality and how they interact and treat others. Pre-nups are for protecting what you have. They aren't for getting expenses back if something goes wrong. That's called a "Warranty." You're not buying a product or service. I politely suggest you listen to what others have said before me. I can only reinforce the message to take your time, build trust and remember that in marriage/divorce situation, what is yours before the marriage stays yours. You can build a life and finances together without jeopardizing what you already have.

One of the biggest parts of my decision to pursue a long term relationship and then filing for a K-1 was trust. I was once in a horrible relationship both emotionally and financially. So, I was a bit paranoid at first about trusting someone again. Over time those fears went away and trust was built. But, it took time. 1000+ hours of video chats various times of the day, visit(s) seeing the person under stress and other circumstances. Understanding their personality and how they interact and treat others. Pre-nups are for protecting what you have. They aren't for getting expenses back if something goes wrong. That's called a "Warranty." You're not buying a product or service. I politely suggest you listen to what others have said before me. I can only reinforce the message to take your time, build trust and remember that in marriage/divorce situation, what is yours before the marriage stays yours. You can build a life and finances together without jeopardizing what you already have.

One of the biggest parts of my decision to pursue a long term relationship and then filing for a K-1 was trust. I was once in a horrible relationship both emotionally and financially. So, I was a bit paranoid at first about trusting someone again. Over time those fears went away and trust was built. But, it took time. 1000+ hours of video chats various times of the day, visit(s) seeing the person under stress and other circumstances. Understanding their personality and how they interact and treat others. Pre-nups are for protecting what you have. They aren't for getting expenses back if something goes wrong. That's called a "Warranty." You're not buying a product or service. I politely suggest you listen to what others have said before me. I can only reinforce the message to take your time, build trust and remember that in marriage/divorce situation, what is yours before the marriage stays yours. You can build a life and finances together without jeopardizing what you already have.

OP, you are doing a very poor job of keeping your accounts straight. Not to mention, exactly who is watching you?
For the record, I don't believe a word you are saying. But, putting that aside, let's get this striaght:
1. Your "friend" from another state sent you cash to purchase a vehicle.
2. You would be buying this vehicle in your name, not your friend's.
3. You friend for whatever reason cannot buy a vehicle in their own name in their own state, nor can they travel to your state and make the purchase. They need you as the middle man.
4. Your wife took the $8,000.
5. When you confronted her, she claimed not to know anything about it.
6. At some unknown time, she claimed there was an IRS levy against her and the IRS took exactly $8,000.
7. You had no idea about your wife's supposed $8,000 IRS debt.
8. You want to go through with this marriage.
9. You contacted the bank and they showed you that she signed for and withdrew the money.
10. You met your wife sometime last year and now you're back here on vacation.
11. She spits on you.
12. She closed a joint account all by herself.
13. You are going to give her a 2nd chance.
14. You created a 2nd account and are chiming in with advice for yourself from yourself from your 1st account.

They cannot discriminate but, I would be very concerned about consistency of documentation and names/genders matching up with who you are. Have plenty of documentation to back up whatever you put on the forms. Unless you change all your ID before you file, you're going to have to put the names/genders as is.

From what I can gather, child did something, computer taken away, child pissed and cried, teacher got involved and child said was hit in head by parent, meeting called for parent to explain, didn't show up, child protective services called in. Did I get even close to that mess?

From what I can gather, child did something, computer taken away, child pissed and cried, teacher got involved and child said was hit in head by parent, meeting called for parent to explain, didn't show up, child protective services called in. Did I get even close to that mess?

I don't think the OP even wants help or advice. She's made up her mind.
But if she does decide this marriage is worth saving, she needs to give the UK a fair shake. As a nurse, she would be considered a "key worker" and would be entitled to various affordable housing plans. The pay isn't great in the NHS (I gave family members who are nurses and midwives so I know all about that) because we consider it a vocation here. And there are plenty of things to make up for the shortfall in pay. Family tax credits, subsidised child care, affordable housing, housing association homes, etc. After the divorce my mother raised 5 children on an NHS salary.

Reading your post, I haven't once heard you say anything about how your husband feels about all this. He was ready to give up everything for you, yet now when the table's reversed, you're not ready to do the same for him...
Your kid is three years old, she will have no problems moving. Kids adapt soooo easily, especially when they're so young and you're moving to a country that speaks the same language. I've worked in the hotel industry for 15 years, I've seen Directors and General Managers come and go in the different countries I've lived in, they all brought their families along and I never saw any kids have problems adapting to their new country. My family moved twice when I was a kid, once when I was your daughters age and once when I was 8 years old, if anything it made me stronger and more adaptable to change. Sounds to me like you're the one that's scared of moving?!
I understand that you're worried about your elderly parents, especially in the US where you don't have the social safety nets we do in Europe but you must have know this was gonna be a possibility before you started the K-1 visa journey. I mean you did your research before starting the process, right?! You knew it was gonna be hard for your husband to get a visa with his two prior convictions. If you refuse to move to the UK, another alternative could be Canada. Your parents could move up to Seattle and you and your husband to Vancouver, that way you could live together as a family but you would be very close to your parents too, to help them out if needed.
Since you asked for our personal opinion, I'm gonna put it out here; When you marry someone you make a commitment to each other and that means doing whatever it takes for each other. I don't think it's fair on your husband or your daughter for you to refuse to move to the UK. You're basically splitting your family apart and keeping your daughter from her dad. You haven't even given the UK a chance, you haven't even tried.

I would think this is your best option. Even if somehow the annulment didn't happen, not saying that is the case, then the death would absolutely prove you are no longer married.

This book? My marriage counselor had me read this and write out examples in our marriage.
http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901/ref=dp_ob_title_bk
Needless to say, it was right on. It didn't matter. The marriage was already dead by that time.

I saw this coming. Good Luck but I will not be surprised if you come back soon telling us you made a mistake staying. I lived with a BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) person for 15 years.

I am going to go out on a limb here and say he's dealing with a "Borderline Personality Disorder" situation. It's a nightmare situation at a minimum. I do have to agree that delaying/reacting is not a good thing to do. Everything has to be pro-active now or he is going to find himself in a much worse situation because "Borderline's" live for chaos and will stop at nothing to win and portray herself as the good guy and him as the bad guy. I would not be surprised if she accuses him of rape, injuring herself and saying he did it, accuses him of being a drug dealer or even that he watches child porn and hangs out around school yards. That is just a few examples of what a "Borderline" is capable of.

Too bad for them. If we have to put up with approval delays, they can deal with our paperclips, binder clips, transparent document protectors, envelopes, document folders and binders. lol

Since I am very familiar with the behaviors you are talking about, I will give you some very important advice. Document everything. Leave immediately with all the belongings that are important to you and file for divorce. Do not worry about alimony. Do worry about your assets and bank accounts. There is no saving this marriage. Do not talk with your wife. Record conversations. Do not get into situations where she can accuse you of domestic violence or worse. Don't argue with her. Don't say anything unless absolutely required. Please. I know exactly what you are experiencing.

From what I am reading here.
1) Girlfriend
2) 5.5 Month intended stay
3) Answers "Fiance" when she is not. If she said girlfriend, inconsistency.
4) Answers "getting married". If she said no, inconsistency.
5) Answers "I don't know to married" when. Didn't help his case.
6) If she told CO going to school.
3/4/5/6 probably raised a number of red flags on their own enough to get a denial of entry.
2 most likely blew up the process. I can't see Customs Officer letting that one slide no matter what. It screamed "Intent to Immigrate" Especially, with a B-2 Visa.

I saw this coming. Good Luck but I will not be surprised if you come back soon telling us you made a mistake staying. I lived with a BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) person for 15 years.