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OP, if you have doubts about her reactions about this "pre-nup agreement", I think you have to pause or take it slow. I'm a Filipina, but I think it won't matter to me especially when it affects our relationship. I have to understand that you have worked so much to acquire whatever you have right now. There is no certain thing is this world. Some people may change over time despite he/she loves truly now. We could never predict exactly what the future may hold for us. I think if she really loves, then, just accept the fact and still not bother about it. Important is how you treat him NOW and when she gets to the US. In time, she could find a job and maybe start saving for future. Both of you together once married could still start saving or acquire some wealth -- and that would consist your conjugal property, in the event that divorce may occur, at least you both have something to share or divide equally. Of course, you both have to work well in your marriage -- stay in love forever with God as the center in your family.
I hope you give a little time to know her better. She should be open enough to discuss this thing in an open and intelligent way, not getting pissed off. She has to be matured in dealing with this and other issues that may come in the future.

OP, if you have doubts about her reactions about this "pre-nup agreement", I think you have to pause or take it slow. I'm a Filipina, but I think it won't matter to me especially when it affects our relationship. I have to understand that you have worked so much to acquire whatever you have right now. There is no certain thing is this world. Some people may change over time despite he/she loves truly now. We could never predict exactly what the future may hold for us. I think if she really loves, then, just accept the fact and still not bother about it. Important is how you treat him NOW and when she gets to the US. In time, she could find a job and maybe start saving for future. Both of you together once married could still start saving or acquire some wealth -- and that would consist your conjugal property, in the event that divorce may occur, at least you both have something to share or divide equally. Of course, you both have to work well in your marriage -- stay in love forever with God as the center in your family.
I hope you give a little time to know her better. She should be open enough to discuss this thing in an open and intelligent way, not getting pissed off. She has to be matured in dealing with this and other issues that may come in the future.

hi Girl, while reading your post, it really touched my heart out. You seems to be very loving and good woman. Sometimes, I do ask myself, why this thing needs to happen to a very good woman -- who has a good heart? Everytime I ask myself about this, the only answer I get is God loves you truly. Yes it is devastating and embarrassing to be in this situation, but it is better to know it now than later. Please consider it still as a blessings from God. We all want our relationships to work out and last a lifetime. But, we cannot do it alone. Marriage is a union of two persons who have commitment to love each other forever. The way I see you have tried your very best to work out on your marriage. I am not sure if going to seek counseling would help bring back the reason why you both got married -- "love" is important in a relationship. It seems you have not known well your husband before marrying. I understand that as it is really hard to fully determine one's character especially when the relationship is long distance. But never regret about this, it's a way to learn great lessons in life. Important is you have tried to give your best.
I think after you have given enough time and made up all possibilities to work on your marriage, if your husband still not recognizing it, then I guess you have to start moving forward. If getting divorce will finally settle you at peace, then you have to be strong, face realities and file divorce. You deserve to be loved the way it should be. You have so much love to give. I'm sure you could find true love in time. Just know your self-worth -- stay beautiful, enjoy life and take care of yourself. God bless you.

@Cmptrsdeal, I have read your previous and current posts. The USCIS requires legally free to marry and having met in person upon filing 129-F. You said you are divorced now, is it final? If yes, then you are fine, but expect not so good outcome during the interview -- it might be an issue especially with a very limited time or duration of relationship, since you petitioned previous Filipina and recently got divorced.
If I may suggest, why don't you take time to get to know someone better first before getting engaged or married ? I understand that you want to be happy, but learn from your past mistakes and take time -- don't rush to get into another relationship very quickly. Remember, the finest cuisine takes time to cook. You don't want to end up brokenhearted and wasted money again. You may start connection with someone by just being good friends first, try knowing her better --let the friendship grow into something meaningful, and maybe from there you could figure out how you two could be together forever.
First, love yourself and be happy, in this way, in time, you would find a good woman who truly deserves you in a life time. God bless!

Never look back! Just move forward...you will be fine, don't worry too much! God bless and heal your heart.

Hi there! Sorry for what happened to you. I think your husband doesn't deserve you. Life is too short to stay with the kind of relationship you have. It's not worth it. I don't know if you could file a divorce there. You will be illegal in the US without the approved paperwork. And reading your stories, it's really not worth fighting for. If I am you, I would be happy to come home and have a peaceful life. In time you will recover and would find true love. Have faith....God is good.
By the way, I was in your situation before, but, in my case, I didn't marry. The moment I noticed there was something wrong just few days I arrived in the US thru K-1 Visa, I really prayed to God to help me. I was in love very much but I don't want my life to be miserable. I'm a very patient woman but I cannot continue to take it. Like you I was also staying with his mother. At the beginning I thought she was nice as I was talking to her before I went to the states. But everything changed and she was a mean person to me. Always looking for mistakes on me. Maybe she don't want her son to marry me and she tried everything to ruin our relationship by inventing stories not true. It was so hard for me as I don't have friends and family near where I could go and express what I feel. I felt so homesick, scared, and all I just want was to come home as I was not happy there. I didn't marry though we already have applied for a marriage license. My Fiance that time was really confused as every time he hears negative feedback or lies from his mom. In the Philippines, we have a strong culture on how we care and respect for our parents and elders. So I just thought it would be best to come home because it wasn't worth at all. I don't want them to be fighting about me. My fiance is the one caring his mom and they are just so attached to one another. I think there were times my Fiance believed on his mom as he was acting so strange sometimes to me.
Thank God we didn't marry that soon or else I would be like you. But, in fairness, my Fiance is not like your husband the way you tell here. He is a nice man but just so hard for me as he has a very controlling mom.
Now, I'm better....having peace-- this is the most important to me! America is not important to me at all, of course, I love it there! It's a wonderful country!
I'm back to my nice job and life which I left before coming to the states. Our country is nice too....as long you work hard everything is good from weather, foods, people, etc.... I thank God for helping me getting back on my feet.
I hope you would be strong....love yourself and be happy. We only have one life to live. Live it without regrets! God bless you!

Wow! you may consider this bright suggestion of Sir Darnell. I think it would help you! Go exercise! and most prayer... always think, this is just temporary -- you will get over this soon! If you need to send me a private message, please do so. I would be glad to help you relieve a little of your depression. Always think, this doesn't happened to you alone. And that things happened for a reason. Sis, please cheer up! and be strong!

I understand what you mean, but I think beneficiaries have the right to stay in the US if after the relationship didn't work out with the petitioners especially the ones who came to the US in good faith. Of course, they should have acquired legal stay, if not, it is advisable they come back home. There are beneficiaries who still want to continue life in America on their own -- we never knew they might have already resigned from their jobs or sell properties before going to the US. There are those also would be better to come home as they would have better situation. So we never know what everyone is going through. I think they have the right to stay in the US for good reasons and move forward in life. Important they aren't fraud and have done their best efforts in working on the relationship. I guess this is one reason the USCIS also tries to give protection to beneficiary-immigrant because there are also abusive USCs like taking advantage of the need of the immigrants to acquire legal stay. As always there are good and bad ones. Life has to go on despite of challenges in life. And no one has the right to stop anyone as long he / she is doing the right thing or mean doing legally and not manipulating. We all have rights to live peacefully and happily on earth. God bless everyone!

Hi beth, thanks for posting, glad to read about your story. I hope others especially ladies from Philippines, who are experiencing similar situation would have the courage to fight for their rights. As long you are telling the truth and doing the right thing and not FRAUD, please don't hesitate to ask for help by calling the number posted by Ms. Beth. The US government I think is very fair in treating cases like this. Don't allow yourself to settle for less. Hold on your prayers and God will give you light!

I understand what you mean, but I think beneficiaries have the right to stay in the US if after the relationship didn't work out with the petitioners especially the ones who came to the US in good faith. Of course, they should have acquired legal stay, if not, it is advisable they come back home. There are beneficiaries who still want to continue life in America on their own -- we never knew they might have already resigned from their jobs or sell properties before going to the US. There are those also would be better to come home as they would have better situation. So we never know what everyone is going through. I think they have the right to stay in the US for good reasons and move forward in life. Important they aren't fraud and have done their best efforts in working on the relationship. I guess this is one reason the USCIS also tries to give protection to beneficiary-immigrant because there are also abusive USCs like taking advantage of the need of the immigrants to acquire legal stay. As always there are good and bad ones. Life has to go on despite of challenges in life. And no one has the right to stop anyone as long he / she is doing the right thing or mean doing legally and not manipulating. We all have rights to live peacefully and happily on earth. God bless everyone!

Hi "Bri & Mar", it is sad what the OP is going through, but we never knew exactly what is the other side of the story. It is not enough to determine once foreign spouse left the USC -- he or she just married for immigration purpose. It is not right to say the OP's wife just used him to get to the USA as we haven't heard her side. There could be true love, but there are other factors attributed why the relationship change. Right now, you are still in the visa process, you still never know what exactly gonna happen once you get to the US. There are lots of reasons --culture and traditions, money, etc. It is sometimes so difficult to totally adjust life once together in one roof. I could say this as I had been to the US thru K-1. My fiance seemed so very nice to me while he had 2 vacations here of 15 days each and we talked for over 3 years. We never had any arguments. All seemed to be very good for us. But when I arrived there -- all was just a nightmare! I wasn't treated very well especially with one member of the family. They are so attached to their belongings or things at home. They acted like very mean to me. With my almost 3 months stay there I proved that my Fiance loves me very much, but he couldn't fight for our love because of lots of fears. Things turned out not good while I was there. I was scared of how they can be mean to me. I decided not to marry though we already had our licence to marry. I came back home before my 90 days expiration. About 1-2 weeks of stay there, I could already tell that I won't last long if the way they treat me won't change. Very petty things they make it a big deal. I felt like I was dumb. I always talked to my Fiance about my feelings. He listened but it was so hard for him to do the right thing because of too many reasons. I felt really homesick and the more it really pushed me to come home. I had to stay out at the malls or anywhere most of times just to avoid staying in the house and experience more issues with the family. Good for me, I had some cash on hand and at my ATM when I went there so I enjoyed a little of America and did shopping just to lessen my hurts and frustrations. I always thought I have a good life here and a nice and secured job. I truly have loved my Fiance that was why I came to US -- sacrificing to be with him, but it didn't work out the way it should be. I wasn't happy in the US though it is a nice place to live in. I'm a woman who value myself- I cannot exchange it for green card. I was hoping to have a lifetime marriage-- not getting divorce afterwards, so what I've seen around me really scared me off. At least I tried my best and not regret later. I'm back home, having peace of mind and enjoying life once again.
I posted this to let others understand that if the relationship didn't work out -- please don't think that foreigners are just using USCs for immigration. Not everyone! There are truly good people around who have good faith and intentions -- just be nice and treat them fairly to have a lasting relationship.
OP, you may have seen your wife with another man, but you cannot make a conclusion that she is cheating you. I also have met nice friends there -- where sometimes I had to talk to them just to share what I feel deep inside my heart - releasing my frustrations and hurts because if not as if I was getting sick, crazy and heart attack -- but it doesn't mean that I was cheating. Remember, we don't have families and friends near us where we could run to if we have problems -- we are like stranger in America. There are times we have to talk it out just to feel better and make us realize that this is life that we need to accept and be strong enough. It could happen to your wife as well. We never knew. OP, May God bless you and hope you could move on with your life.

It does work the other way as well, you know.

Very right and Thanks Gowon! God bless...

Hi "Bri & Mar", it is sad what the OP is going through, but we never knew exactly what is the other side of the story. It is not enough to determine once foreign spouse left the USC -- he or she just married for immigration purpose. It is not right to say the OP's wife just used him to get to the USA as we haven't heard her side. There could be true love, but there are other factors attributed why the relationship change. Right now, you are still in the visa process, you still never know what exactly gonna happen once you get to the US. There are lots of reasons --culture and traditions, money, etc. It is sometimes so difficult to totally adjust life once together in one roof. I could say this as I had been to the US thru K-1. My fiance seemed so very nice to me while he had 2 vacations here of 15 days each and we talked for over 3 years. We never had any arguments. All seemed to be very good for us. But when I arrived there -- all was just a nightmare! I wasn't treated very well especially with one member of the family. They are so attached to their belongings or things at home. They acted like very mean to me. With my almost 3 months stay there I proved that my Fiance loves me very much, but he couldn't fight for our love because of lots of fears. Things turned out not good while I was there. I was scared of how they can be mean to me. I decided not to marry though we already had our licence to marry. I came back home before my 90 days expiration. About 1-2 weeks of stay there, I could already tell that I won't last long if the way they treat me won't change. Very petty things they make it a big deal. I felt like I was dumb. I always talked to my Fiance about my feelings. He listened but it was so hard for him to do the right thing because of too many reasons. I felt really homesick and the more it really pushed me to come home. I had to stay out at the malls or anywhere most of times just to avoid staying in the house and experience more issues with the family. Good for me, I had some cash on hand and at my ATM when I went there so I enjoyed a little of America and did shopping just to lessen my hurts and frustrations. I always thought I have a good life here and a nice and secured job. I truly have loved my Fiance that was why I came to US -- sacrificing to be with him, but it didn't work out the way it should be. I wasn't happy in the US though it is a nice place to live in. I'm a woman who value myself- I cannot exchange it for green card. I was hoping to have a lifetime marriage-- not getting divorce afterwards, so what I've seen around me really scared me off. At least I tried my best and not regret later. I'm back home, having peace of mind and enjoying life once again.
I posted this to let others understand that if the relationship didn't work out -- please don't think that foreigners are just using USCs for immigration. Not everyone! There are truly good people around who have good faith and intentions -- just be nice and treat them fairly to have a lasting relationship.
OP, you may have seen your wife with another man, but you cannot make a conclusion that she is cheating you. I also have met nice friends there -- where sometimes I had to talk to them just to share what I feel deep inside my heart - releasing my frustrations and hurts because if not as if I was getting sick, crazy and heart attack -- but it doesn't mean that I was cheating. Remember, we don't have families and friends near us where we could run to if we have problems -- we are like stranger in America. There are times we have to talk it out just to feel better and make us realize that this is life that we need to accept and be strong enough. It could happen to your wife as well. We never knew. OP, May God bless you and hope you could move on with your life.

Wow! I was still typing I guess when this poster sent out his/her comments. Yeah, basically, this is what I am trying to tell you, but I don't wanna make judgment for you.....hope you listen to some red flags before it is too late, but, always it is your DECISION! May God bless you with the right guidance and wisdom and always give you hope and strength. Take care always!

Hi beth, thanks for posting, glad to read about your story. I hope others especially ladies from Philippines, who are experiencing similar situation would have the courage to fight for their rights. As long you are telling the truth and doing the right thing and not FRAUD, please don't hesitate to ask for help by calling the number posted by Ms. Beth. The US government I think is very fair in treating cases like this. Don't allow yourself to settle for less. Hold on your prayers and God will give you light!

True, it is very hard for you to get tourist visa. But, there is no harm in trying, there are times, without even much ties in the country, the USEM approves visa for LUCKY reason we never know.
Yes, it will take after 5 years for her to start filing for 129-F, since she needs to become a USC first. Since you mentioned that you both are still young, then, maybe it is also a test of love-- how much you still love each other over time / years. Yes, she could marry you maybe when she would have her future vacation. That is also good as when she is ready to file for you -- she will be filing a spousal visa by that time - that means, you maybe entitled to receive GC upon entry to the US, no more AOS needed as required in K-1 visa.
As to making work your LDR, it really depends on both of you. How strong and solid your relationship. Nowadays, communication modes are fast and reliable as there are cellphones and the Internet (call, SMS, IM, Skype, etc). Trust and respect are key ingredients to have lasting relationship. For now, I think you have to focus on your study or if you have graduated college, then you could start working and save for future.
No worry too much, if you two are really meant to be -- it will happen with God's grace no matter how far and long you both have to wait. Stay in love and always communicate with each other. God bless you and your girlfriend.

True, it is very hard for you to get tourist visa. But, there is no harm in trying, there are times, without even much ties in the country, the USEM approves visa for LUCKY reason we never know.
Yes, it will take after 5 years for her to start filing for 129-F, since she needs to become a USC first. Since you mentioned that you both are still young, then, maybe it is also a test of love-- how much you still love each other over time / years. Yes, she could marry you maybe when she would have her future vacation. That is also good as when she is ready to file for you -- she will be filing a spousal visa by that time - that means, you maybe entitled to receive GC upon entry to the US, no more AOS needed as required in K-1 visa.
As to making work your LDR, it really depends on both of you. How strong and solid your relationship. Nowadays, communication modes are fast and reliable as there are cellphones and the Internet (call, SMS, IM, Skype, etc). Trust and respect are key ingredients to have lasting relationship. For now, I think you have to focus on your study or if you have graduated college, then you could start working and save for future.
No worry too much, if you two are really meant to be -- it will happen with God's grace no matter how far and long you both have to wait. Stay in love and always communicate with each other. God bless you and your girlfriend.

Very right Stay positive!

Dean_De has correct answer! Having a court judgement / finality of the annulment is not enough. It has to be annotated in the previous marriage contract. Also, this must be printed out in security paper issued by NSO.

That's a good deal. Preparation is important to achieve success. VJ members gave you a very good advices based on realities of life. Glad that you listen and appreciate. It is for good of you and your girlfriend. God bless you and good luck !

While these comments maybe helpful, but this could also post possible danger in the relationship. If you aren't sure of your partner, please don't ever start the paperwork. Usually there are always red flags coming out even at the early stage, but as we know love is blind, we tend to keep it out of our minds.
IMHO, trust is also important to make the relationship work. If you cannot trust your partners while living together before getting 10 GC, then, you think the outcome would be good? for sure, it would also result to disaster for having no trust at all. It could result to unhealthy relationship and still possibly end with separation.
When you love, please give your best of love. Love + Love = Love
Don't ever think of failure -- because there is no failure in life. There is nothing certain life -- all comes temporarily. The only certain in life is the love of God for all of us. God bless everyone !

Hello! So sorry about your awful experience after spending lots of money. Hope you could finish the divorce process so you would have peace of mind. If he really got his GC, well, let him go own with his life and not bother you anymore. At least you already got rid of him in your life. Continue to move on. This guy is absolutely very tricky, wise and liar -- he used you to get the visa. I'm wondering how he was still able to adjust status without your support, despite of your written complaint with the USCIS. He's very good, I'm sure someone helped him with the paperwork. Anyway,let it go and trust God. Don't continue with your stress and to spend more money -- cut your losses. Let the truth comes out -- as God sees us everyday. No worry if he wasn't telling the truth. That's always the case as he clearly wants GC. I'm sure one day he would realize his mistakes as definitely with this kind of character he won't get further in life. Getting a GC is not guaranteed to have a happy and prosperous life. Take care and God bless you !

May God bless you and your husband to be together soon and forever. Good luck...stay positive!

K-1 visa holder doesn't need to have a round trip ticket. Look for another travel agent who has right knowledge. Good luck to his arrival in the states.