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No, health care is not a requirement for residency. Once you are married, you can add yourself onto your husbands work insurance plan if he has one. I hope you have gotten a social security number/filed for one before marriage if not, go now. YOu willl need that for everything. Go get one now.

Teapotgurl - you should never argue with an idiot because they will only bring you down to their level and beat you with idiot experience.
It's best not to get in conversations with people who are judgemental. It is hard enough to change ourselves so how hard is it to change someone elses beliefs ? Do what is best for yourself. Judgemental people do not have enough life I presume so they want to invade yours as well. The last judgemental person that tried to give me advice is married to a woman similar in his age and he told me, don't marry such a younger woman. I stood up to him and asked him "Your wife is divorcing you, right ? Didn't your children run away from home recently too? You are also broke and have no money." Go manage your own life. I don't need your advice . He left me alone then. I walk around confidently and know what I am doing more than anybody else from the outisde.
I don't need anybody else's opinion. Go fix your own problems you loosers because I am sure you have them.

If they wanted more, they wouldn't give a box only big enough for four sentences. These people are busy. Be specific and too the point. Don't make them work to find the answer.

It's a shame you do not see the women as a person but rather as an object and you think your money will draw them. My fiancee would not tolerate you. She is beautiful inside and out and too smart for you. I treat her with great respect. You give men a bad name and I predict you will die alone. I have seen your other post about trolling, drinking and seeking eye candy. You could never be a womans dream. Only their nightmare.

It's a shame you do not see the women as a person but rather as an object and you think your money will draw them. My fiancee would not tolerate you. She is beautiful inside and out and too smart for you. I treat her with great respect. You give men a bad name and I predict you will die alone. I have seen your other post about trolling, drinking and seeking eye candy. You could never be a womans dream. Only their nightmare.

It's a shame you do not see the women as a person but rather as an object and you think your money will draw them. My fiancee would not tolerate you. She is beautiful inside and out and too smart for you. I treat her with great respect. You give men a bad name and I predict you will die alone. I have seen your other post about trolling, drinking and seeking eye candy. You could never be a womans dream. Only their nightmare.

Look there is a secret to selecting good women for marriage. Usually the secret is that you have to go through the kind of relationship you are in now to allow you to pick better next time. I really looked into my Filipina's character to see how much she was supportive of me during our entire dating period. I judged her by her actions and it didn't take long to find out that she was a keeper.
These signs you speak of were there but you just were not looking for them. It's not your fault if you had no experience with negative combative non supportive disruptive women who can't take care of themselves but want to cause you trouble. Although my Filipina has not arrived, I will assure you that she is not selfish and I am positive she will support our goals and our family structure because we are in this together and she will give more than I request. I will do the same for her.
I can tell you one thing. If everything you say is true, patience with this woman (in most cases) will only cause you heartache, trouble, greif. She might get marginally better over time but with someone this far off balance, she will never provide you the love and support you need and you might even loose your health, financial future and everything else because she might pull you under with the ship.
It's your call but I think you know in your heart what is best what to do after the advice of your friends, family and your readings...

Look there is a secret to selecting good women for marriage. Usually the secret is that you have to go through the kind of relationship you are in now to allow you to pick better next time. I really looked into my Filipina's character to see how much she was supportive of me during our entire dating period. I judged her by her actions and it didn't take long to find out that she was a keeper.
These signs you speak of were there but you just were not looking for them. It's not your fault if you had no experience with negative combative non supportive disruptive women who can't take care of themselves but want to cause you trouble. Although my Filipina has not arrived, I will assure you that she is not selfish and I am positive she will support our goals and our family structure because we are in this together and she will give more than I request. I will do the same for her.
I can tell you one thing. If everything you say is true, patience with this woman (in most cases) will only cause you heartache, trouble, greif. She might get marginally better over time but with someone this far off balance, she will never provide you the love and support you need and you might even loose your health, financial future and everything else because she might pull you under with the ship.
It's your call but I think you know in your heart what is best what to do after the advice of your friends, family and your readings...

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

A lot of people make the mistake. I have too. I was taken for a ride once worse but when the light was shed upon them, I moved out and got distance from them and cut them off. The problem with the OP is she still cares for him. That is dysfunctional and dangerous.
Fool me once, shame on you ! Fool me twice, shame on me !

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

You have a right to answer the questions or not. The CO could not care any less about your sex life. If you feel so strongly you could tell him you will not answer them and the interview is over. It's that simple. It's your choice. Nobody is twisting your arm. Why do you feel you can impress on the US that we should let you in as a resident without your cooperation? You don't have to move here. You are asking to move here.
What you are not aware of is the amount of people that will pay $ 10,000 to move to the US because they want to live here. There is so much fraud that if the CO is not convinced about your relationship ( and they were not convinced in this case) that it is within their right to determine if they are telling the truth or a "sham".
We were prepared to answer such questions because we knew they were doing their job and we support them in making sure that fraudulent people don't come into this country and suck our resources, health care, food stamp programs and other government benefits dry.
By the way, we were not asked these kinds of questions as I would bet 98% of people are not. The other 2% should do a better job of proving their relationship to the CO and not making him figure it out. Our interview was so simple because we were prepared and presented a strong case.
I am really sick of people who come to this country and complain about it. These are the same people that were complaining when they left their own country. At least here you can get involved in government and you have a chance of changing it. Talk to your congressman about this but don't say they can't ask these questions because they can.

In some ways, I lived your story. I ended up arrested (when the cops come, somebody is going to jail and guess who that will be). I now have a record (albeit dropped). No crime was committed but it doesn't matter because I still have a record which I have to explain.
If you don't have $ 50,000 to throw away on lawyers... you better move on dude. You have no idea how bad this can end. If I would have known, I would have never gone so far in my relationship with a similar troubled woman. We are now divorced and I thank my three lawyers and God for that freedom.
We just got approved the other day and I cried. The reason is because I have done a much better job of finding a supportive, loving woman that wants to help us get somewhere in life. We talk, she listens, she agrees, we discuss. This was not by chance. This was the kind of woman I was looking for. Life is hard. Its much harder if you have a woman like you have now.
I would drop your girl so fast. You sound like a good guy trying to fix her when in actuality, you are ENABLING her to act this way. People don't want to be fixed. Move on. Go get someone that will appreciate you. They are out there.

You are probably going through what I went through 3 weeks after mailing it the I-129f. I was a short fuse but then I realized how I could damage our relationship with my frustrations. It was the only time we really were tense. My fiancee was fairly cool but it was me. When I thought that if I create an argument because I was so tense about the process, how could I repair our relationship over SKYPE !!! 8,000 miles away ?? It was at that time that I realized, it was in my best interest to settle down. Settled down immediately and that is what I did.
That's when I said, this process has a definate end. We are in line and when it comes, it comes. I relaxed and didn't worry about it anymore. Thats when I was at peace and then 3 days after Christmas, the NOA2 just showed up in my mailbox. No text, no email, just showed up. I read it 3 times to make sure it sayed we were approved. It was a good feeling but I went through the same pain as you did. It was hard. If you don't learn to manage the stress like I did, it's going to be a lot harder on you than it was on me.

I just went through this process. The key is not getting an RFE for something you did wrong. We were approved 2 days ago with no RFE's. The process is frustrating but when you get approved look back at it like I am now, you will likely agree that it is done properly in many ways.
I watched the boards. I saw many couples break up between 1 and 4 months in. The fact is that many couples rush into this process and are truly not solid in their relationships. If this process was done any faster, many more couples would get married and have to get unmarried. Our approval took 5 months, 20 days. Our NOA2 was approved just after 4 months. We went through Vermont. I think they did a good job. I grew up in this great country and not everybody should be allowed in.
If you can't make it through 5 or 6 months, you'll never make a lifetime of marriage.

I can finally get my life back to normal and work on my house. Focus on business. No more assembling documents, planning for trips to the Philippines (for a while) and most of all no more endless hours in Skype.
My finacee was approved today on February 15th at the Embassy. We are very happy. I will check in from time to time and it has been an interesting six months (actually 5 months and seventeen days) on our journey from NO1 till approval today.

I can finally get my life back to normal and work on my house. Focus on business. No more assembling documents, planning for trips to the Philippines (for a while) and most of all no more endless hours in Skype.
My finacee was approved today on February 15th at the Embassy. We are very happy. I will check in from time to time and it has been an interesting six months (actually 5 months and seventeen days) on our journey from NO1 till approval today.

The problem with the lawyer is they will make you do all the work anyway. A lawyer feels his his time is worth $ 300 or more an hour so divide that by the price they charge and that will be the lawyers estimate for how many hours he will help you with your petittion. If you don't believe me ask him if he will offer you 20 hours assistance ??? He won't or he will say that is unnessary.
I did it myself with only VisaJourney as a guide. I think there are two items a lot of people make a mistake on when filling out the package to watch out for.
1. They don't send in proof of divorce to satisfy the petittion. I sent in every page the court gave me of my final divorce papers registered in the court including all the agreements and I had them assign a seal and have the judges signature to it to assure it was correct. It cost me about $ 1.00 more. Get 2-3 of those so you can send your fiancee one overseas and you will keep one at your house. That is what I did. It worked. I didn't get an RFE.
2. The only other warning is that, I should have compared all my forms with the forms on VisaJourney.com. I left two items blank when I should have putten "N/A" or "None". I think it asked for Alien # and that was one I left blank. The correct answer should have been "N/A" I believe. Just compare your forms with the online forms.
I think filling out the forms is the only help the lawyer will provide you but that is easy. All the other work is going to be done by you whether you hire a visa service, do it yourself or a lawyer. That is what takes time. Getting all the documents together and that nobody is going to do that for you.
I also included a copy of every page of my passport and my birth certificate. I think that helped as well but others have done it with less.
I vote with do it yourself ans save the money, take your time (3-4 weeks) and ask questions on VisaJourney.com and remember that many of the questions you will have are as close as the search feature on this forum because they have been asked many times before.

As an option, you can probably find a travelling preacher/preist/marriage officiant to do it at your location. Getting married in the court room (even though my parents were) just doesn't appeal to me. Orlando is the second busiest marriage location just behind Las Vegas. I was able to find a preacher to meet us at a beautiful park in Downtown Orlando who will marry us for $ 165.00 during the weekdays or $ 250 on the weekends.
Good luck to you all and I hope it doesn't rain on your wedding day !

except in pushbrk comments should be accurate. I haven't even read his comments yet but I am sure he will give good advice. I have studied this web site for four months and there are a few that are usually very accurate with information.

This adds alot of stress to your situation but now that you are in it, you both had better settle down and
just be happy. Everything will be okay. I just did some finger counting on the months and she's going to have that baby there so you best prepare for that. Even if she did get the Visa a month before giving birth, the airlines would likely not let her fly. Sorry for your stress. I hope everything goes well for you but keep a cool head. That's the most important and I too say enjoy your family !