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I don't want to get married until I'm 30.
I have a goal in my life and I don't want to waste my life being married to someone I don't love.
Thanks though.

Lets get the terminology straight.
Alimony is when one spouse gives money to another upon a divorce and that typically ends when the receiving person gets married again.
A pension is money paid to a person, typically from the company he/she worked for, as retirement money, and typically lasts for their lifetime. It can only be given to the person who worked for that company.It cannot be transferred.
Social Security or SS is government money and is given only to the individual who worked here, and is based upon age, prior years of employment and is only given to the person who retires. It cannot be transferred.
It sounds like, and I could be wrong, that this person is receiving alimony and this was the arrangement from the divorce and will last for 6 more years, then it will end. If this is the case however, then once he got married it should end in any event.

Questions, no answers, just a mega chip on the shoulder that will get him nowhere.

This.

It's not just you.

wow, maybe just me ,people just try to respond your post and you seem ..

looks like Noah is right - http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/324138-some-guidance-needed/

Im going to say this one more time, you have proof that she is cheating... ICE DOES NOT CARE SHE IS CHEATING. CHEATING ON YOU IS NOT PLAYING THE SYSTEM. You must have proof she used you to get a visa for ICE to do something. CHEATING IS NOT IMMIGRATION FRAUD... THERE IS REALLY NOTHING YOU CAN DO...

Be careful with that...reports around VJ say that K-1 visas have been denied at interviews for merely appearing to be married (like having photos of an engagement party, religious wedding, or "pre-wedding" wedding on facebook or referring to each other as husband and wife even without a legal marriage). If that happens, you'll have to start all over with a CR-1.

Saylin, I'm so sorry to read this. He is being completely selfish and immature to string you along like this (I don't love you, but I'm going to continue accepting sex from you? Total and utter BS!). I think my advice is coming out of a place of anger on your behalf but here it is anyway:
Tell the girl you know and blow their relationship up. You don't seem like someone who has a hot temper, but try to fake it toward her. Or, if you think you can be cool and rational and get the same result (breaking them up), then you're a better person than me. This might sound reactionary, but I think it's actually necessary for one reason: he is relying on the support/attention of this other woman (frankly, I think it seems like it's just a source of entertainment for him) to feel good about himself and justify his distance from you. If you do want to have any hope in marriage counseling and/or of him growing up and no longer being completely self-centered, you have to take away his external ally.

Marrying someone solely to get an immigration benefit is fraud.

You are supposed to file taxes even if you live and work abroad. You do not have to PAY taxes due to the no-double-taxation rules, but you do have to file.

Seriously, if the USA opened its doors to every place that was dangerous or troubled, we'd double our population overnight. If we opened our borders to everyone who was starving we'd double our population overnight. We just don't have a capabilities to be the world's savoir. Some are lucky and manage to get in here. But there are trouble spots all over the world where its not safe to walk the streets, there's a reason the USCIS doesn't give a #######, we don't have the resources to give a ####### about everything. In a perfect world, maybe would could. But in a perfect world, there would be no need to. RiaB, I hope you can help your family get somewhere that is safer. Its a real shame when people who just want to live peaceful lives are caught up in the things going on there.

To everybody, for the record: I consider Sachinky's posts (anywhere, anytime) to be sensible, literate, and well worth considering by anyone who reads them.

I know Boiler addressed this but I don't get this. Somehow when the question of the USC moving is posed, it is always damned near impossible. House, mortgage, kids, wonderful job, retirement etc are cited and yet, apparently, the beneficiary has no binding ties. He or she is capable of moving across oceans but it is unreasonable to expect his/her spouse to do the same. Do these conversations not take place before marriage? Especially in red-flag cases where denial is a very likely outcome, especially on the first try? "It is impossible for me to leave, but the US government must issue a visa to my intended despite murky circumstances! How can they not? We are in love! Love, I say!"
I know Mr. Sachinky and I talked at length about possibly living in India since I am the only child of my parents. We eventually went with the CR-1 since I had been in the US for four years (on a F-1 visa) and there wouldn't be any issues regarding transitions. If denied, Mr. Sachinky would've moved to Calcutta and we would've made a go of our life there. Perhaps, we would've have given the DCF a try in the future. Perhaps not. Anyway, V&C, your case doesn't seem similar to the OP's (the circumstances and evolution, at least, but perhaps, you too, have an age difference and therefore are relating your situation to the OPs?) and this discussion is rather off-topic as it has no bearing on the original thread.

No, they really don't. Children need good, loving supportive people in their life to grow into well rounded individuals. Living in a conflicted household can emotionally cripple a child and result in anger issues, self-esteem issues and all sorts of other problems.
Are you saying that by simply spawning a child that person MUST be in said child's life? Or are you saying that at least a male and female parent must be in the child's life because a biological connection does not a parent make. Also, by your logic if a parent passes away the surviving parent must IMMEDIATELY find a replacement parent because only one parent is bad for the child.
It's a complete fallacy that children raised by single parents are less well-off by only having one parent. It depends ENTIRELY on the type of parent/s and the situation the child grows up in (including school and peer group).

If it was the case, no one would file for K-1s and CR-1s. You think the rest of us just wanted the hassle?
This is going to be your wife...for life. The most important person in the world, except for maybe your children one day. For HER you want to do it right so that SHE is protected forever. It is not that long to wait to start your married life properly and without having to always worry if they will "find out" Now concentrate on what you need to do and forget the nonsense.

I think what people are reacting to is less than he is canceling a petition and more that he has canceled a petition SO RECENTLY that he hasn't received or sought confirmation of it being canceled, and he already has plans to marry another woman in just over a month. It appears as though he must have met and pursued that woman while he was already petitioning for another.

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I think this is a rather selective reading of all of these posts. Seems to me like most people are talking about cultural/familial/personal identity losses rather than simply economic. And I think the whole thesis from the very first post is that neither beneficiaries from more developed nor less developed countries (relative to the US) should have to feel like they have received the "gift" of coming to America from their spouses. There is a legitimate sense of loss for beneficiaries from both types of countries, and it's not just economic loss for those coming from more developed countries.

Paul, if you want to study human behavior, then you'd have to start by studying humans. This guy doesn't fit that bill. Aside from appearance, there's nothing human about him.

I think this is a rather selective reading of all of these posts. Seems to me like most people are talking about cultural/familial/personal identity losses rather than simply economic. And I think the whole thesis from the very first post is that neither beneficiaries from more developed nor less developed countries (relative to the US) should have to feel like they have received the "gift" of coming to America from their spouses. There is a legitimate sense of loss for beneficiaries from both types of countries, and it's not just economic loss for those coming from more developed countries.

I think this is a rather selective reading of all of these posts. Seems to me like most people are talking about cultural/familial/personal identity losses rather than simply economic. And I think the whole thesis from the very first post is that neither beneficiaries from more developed nor less developed countries (relative to the US) should have to feel like they have received the "gift" of coming to America from their spouses. There is a legitimate sense of loss for beneficiaries from both types of countries, and it's not just economic loss for those coming from more developed countries.

I think this is a rather selective reading of all of these posts. Seems to me like most people are talking about cultural/familial/personal identity losses rather than simply economic. And I think the whole thesis from the very first post is that neither beneficiaries from more developed nor less developed countries (relative to the US) should have to feel like they have received the "gift" of coming to America from their spouses. There is a legitimate sense of loss for beneficiaries from both types of countries, and it's not just economic loss for those coming from more developed countries.