dindo and patty

Part of your problem is that you're on record as admitting to evading Prostitution Charges by committing another crime.
Another part of your problem is that you're on record has having Misrepresented a Material fact during the interview (concealing the arrest).
It really doesn't come down to if the IO believes you or in second chances, the law is the law.

Well, first of all I would like to say that I am so proud of you for still loving your wife inspite of, and since she told you beforehand that you might not be the biological father you still chose to love her. Betrayal is not the question here, she still became honest with you ... as what you have said that she told you before hand.
I don't think this will be a big big trouble in the US Embassy, if you will just get a proper advise. I would suggest that you will seek an expert to this kind of case, try to look at the internet if you can find a US immigration lawyer that is free and then you probably can email him or what about this case. It would be better not to listen to anyone but to an expert to this, so that u will not get confused.

Wow.. people JUDGE before even knowing the entire story.. I thought this forum was to help with immigration process/questions.. we are not psychologists and we are not here to give personal advise unless someone is asking for our opinions of course..
Anyway.. just needed to say that..
As for your situation, I think that it does not matter who the biological father of the child is, legally YOU are the father, PERIOD. I think that you should just keep going with the whole process. Good luck!

Don't include me in that bunch! I tried at the beginning of this thread to constrain some of the over the top "advice" but to no avail, its like trying to reel in a pack of rabid dogs. Some people like to shoot their mouths off on this board as if it's all just a fantasy world. They don't realize the damage they may do to real peoples lives.

I think what hes saying is that he had a visa and was already in the us, planning to marry and adjust status (thus, the set wedding plans) however his previous visa was cut short (the big change of plans) which resulted in them forcing to do the K1 rather than the earlier plan of marrying and adjusting status. So it doesn't seem like it was his fault for making plans because the change of plans was unforseeable. Thats what I'm getting from it anyway lol

What visa fraud did she commit? She jilted you and took your money, shame on you, but maybe she intends to marry and stay with the FL guy!
There is nothing to report. You could tell your tale to USCIS but she didn't break any laws and only time will tell if she is trying to use this guy for immigration fraud;;;;;worst case she could sue you for slander if you are not correct.
I'd say cut your loses, forget about her and live your life and be more careful next time. Don't ever again violate any of the few cardinal rules about international dating.

What you are proposing is staying married to someone to gain immigration benefits. This is fraud. I understand you don't want to uproot your daughter but your relationship isn't working.
You have the choice of TRYING to fix your relationship. He can pull his I-864 and your GC application would be denied and you would have to go home.
If he doesn't do that then you will either get the GC without interview (which is possible when AOSing from a k1), OR you will get called for interview. If you lie at the interview you are guilty of misrepresentation and would be denied and deported with a lifetime ban.
It is of course totally up to you but as what you are proposing to do (stay together simply to gain the immigration benefit) is fraud and advising you in committing fraud is a breach of VJ TOS my advice is to divorce and go back to your home country. Also, do you really think you can afford to stay here? I know I couldn't. You aren't eligible for assistance from the government and he doesn't actually have to give you any money. While the US might offer more "chances" for your child, living in poverty, struggling isn't a life. I know going back home would be a better choice for me. I would have family support and that's important.

I am glad to read you are supportive of Gretchen's choices. And it appears that Getchen is like my Amy very conservative in how she dresses, especially in public.
I personally am not a church person, but have found a church here that Amy can attend if she so chooses, hech the pastor is married to a Filipina, and yes I would attend with her.
~ no benefit in getting mad about what someone of no real importance says, same with getting even... there are no score cards. Negative energy and thoughts only drag you down mentally and physically.

Does that mean you won't be wearing your wedding rings to your cousin Bob's house???
At any rate, I hope all goes well and Happy Holidays!!!

Search the K-1 threads. This has been discussed extensively already. The bottom line is no EAD...you cannot legally work.
The authorization to work does not come from SSA, it comes from DHS. That is why when a K-1 visa holder get their SSN
card, it has "not valid for work without DHS authorization" aka EAD.

Most high end electronics companies warranties are indeed regional or even country specific. Manufacturing specifications for these items often times varies from region to region (or even from country to country) additionally some regions/countries have differing warranty requirements.
If you buy any electronic device in the Philippines/Asia and are bringing it to the US expect that your warranty is worthless once you land here.

No offense vacrimefighter, but you sound a bit defensive, having made up your mind about a prenup based on the bitterness of what befell you in the past. Marriage is about trust, you trusted your past wife and she took advantage of that (based on what you've said), but that is no reason to apply that same mistrust to the woman you are choosing to marry. Love cannot exist without trust. If you have even a shred of doubt that this woman whom you profess love for, whom you want to share the rest of your life with, is a person who will take you for everything you have and deny your children safety and financial security after you are gone, why even bother getting married? Yes, planning for the future in all that, yes, being safe because you never know etc. But then why get married? Why not have a girlfriend, someone to spend time with but that you can keep at arms length. You keep saying you love her, but I just can't understand loving someone and having even a tiny lingering thought that they may be dishonest with you or planning to leave you.
To me a prenup in the 'foreign spouse' type way, suggested by the petitioner, seems IN MY OPINION almost like marital slavery. Picture this, you don't have a lot of money, you have known a man for about a year, who speaks a different language than your native tongue, who has a culture far different from your own. You know him from visits but not the day to day life as roommates, getting to know each others quirks and seeing flaws as they emerge naturally over the course of being in constant close quarters. So you arrive in the US, a completely new and strange place to you, living with a man whom you love but know nothing about how he lives at home, far away from all your family and friends and everything familiar to you. He has everything and wants a prenup, you sign it because your in love and he won't marry without one. Time passes. You find maybe that he wasn't everything you thought. You find that the two of you are incompatible in ways you never thought of, because living together as husband and wife are completely different than the romance of visits. Maybe its not his fault, maybe its just what happens, people discover they aren't right for each other because we are all only human. But then, what if she wants out. Divorce is expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Depending on how a prenup is worded, and if people are savvy enough to weedle in the right conditions, such a thing could leave someone trapped in a loveless marriage. What if the man has children with her, and it doesn't work out? Staying together for the kids and the security is a bad idea, trust me. All it does is create an environment of misery, bitterness, and disappointment of what could have been.
Obviously this scenario is worst case, and prenups aren't totally at fault. But the attitude is. To me if you're going into it with the lingering bitterness from what was in your past, then you need to do some introspection, have some premarital counselling, something that will help you let go. I was never married, but I did have a long term relationship that ended badly. I know what its like to harbor bitter feelings because of an ex, and feel as though its hard to trust anyone new. But after working on myself a lot, and with my current man's careful gentleness and him weathering my flare ups of fear at trusting, I came through, and now I'm ready to get married because that hole was healed with love.
Am I saying don't get a prenup? NO. Like you said, some people it's a good idea. Just make sure its for the right reason and don't make your fiancee pay for what someone else did to you in the past. Make sure there is a mutual respect and that you talk about it with her a lot and fairly, not just 'this is what we're doing and thats that.' Marriage is give and take after all.
As for me, I'm obvs not getting one. I don't own any property and neither does he. This is both our first marriages and we don't have kids. So its totes obvious that we don't 'need' one anyway. But even if I was filthy rich or forsaw myself becoming that way, I wouldn't sign one because basically I don't care about money. We love each other, and I know that even if I was rich, and even if things wen sour one day, we both have a mutual respect for each other and would make sure everything was done fairly. We would both grieve if the marriage died, and wouldn't be spiteful to each other with respect to the love we had, and the possible kids we would have. SO In my OPINION if someone really loves someone and respects them, even if things go sour they wouldn't spitefully seek to ruin them. And if they do, then they never loved them at all. That's why people should do some deep talking and soul searching BEFORE they get married.
(Also, not trying to flame anyone here, I just think this whole sort of discussion rather sad )

Bill, it sounds like you're the problem.
As a bartender, she will speak with customers, and they will hit on her. This is what life is like for every female bartender. You have to trust your wife to say no. If she didn't tell you about being hit on, perhaps you should be more suspicious. If she was a bartender in Thailand, and she did more than flirt with customers, you knew precisely what you were getting into.
If she were using you, she'd stay quiet until her status was solid, then leave you the day after she didn't need you. Instead, she's complaining loudly about the lifestyle and you. This would indicate that she did come with honorable intentions. She's also paying for you. Why would she do it if she didn't like you? She doesn't want to be here except for you.
Looking at it from her side, she's in a land she dislikes, paying for a jealous, deadbeat husband who's plotting to deport her.
You are the issue. You married a wife. You didn't buy an indentured servant. Educate yourself, get a job, and be worthy of your wife. All you have are jealous suspicions that would drive any woman into the arms of another.

I know now a days it makes a lot of sense to have a prenup. But I cannot get over the above statement. To me this says loud and clear "I care about my stuff and my money more than you." Which in my mind does not fit the definition of love that I know and believe. And so I could never ever even think about doing a prenup. I want to give my all and everything I have to my marriage. And if it doesn't work out and I still have stuff, then I didn't give it my all.
That being said, I know not everyone view love and marriage like I do. So I will never judge anyone that gets one, especially when dealing with legal issues with immigration, second marriages etc. Like I said, from a purely logical point of view it totally makes sense. Marriage is what doesn't make sense.. : p
Best bet is to check with a lawyer to help you write one up I would say. They know what they're doing. And yes, pretty much anything can be on a prenup: cheating, etc. I've even read about ones where there are consequences for the woman gaining too much weight...

For a K-1 Visa, the I-94 can not be extended.
a K-1 Visa holder can marry someone other than the petitioner, but can not AOS. there is no waiver. they would have to return to their home country and have an I-130 filed for them.

I just had my interview on nov. 23 and got approve...now i got my visa this morning . I called my fiance right away. Were so happy and now ready to buy a plane ticket... Such a wonderful feeling that were gonna be together now and never be separated again. Its hard to have a long distance relationship but we make it through. All the waiting is all worthy. The process of k1 visa makes our relationship more stronger. Because it will took a lot of patience and understanding. Its so amazing that there is a billion people in the world and a thousand miles apart but I found him and he found me that's destiny were soo meant to be.. I wanna shout to the whole world how much I love him.. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH SWEEETIEE... I really do... and i miss you soo bad
Im sooo excited to meet his family and plan our wedding.... Thanks visa journey people... good luck to those who are just in the process its all worthy..
this is the very first time i ever right to visajourney cause it was always him before lol
CHERRY

Sometimes I think their is some misperception as to how girls from the philippines are, I can only relate my own story. First I have always thought that girls from this part of the world are beautiful both inside and out. I was fortunate to have been to the Philippines when I was serving in the USMC and have been to diffrent parts of Asia for business since then.
To me a girl is a girl is a girl meaning yes there will be cultural influence and yes maybe certain attributes that are local to that community or area but beyond that is a woman, a woman who just happens to live in another country who sometimes eats diffrent foods, speaks other languages and lives in a diffrent climate. What woman anywhere in the world does not want to be loved and cared for, and to feel secure, and I answer most all women do. once in love geography goes right out the window.
Of course there is an attraction to a better life, but thats just an attraction, the real thing is the same old things that have drawn couples together and kept them together for centuries, Love, Committment, chemistry, similair beleifs and attitudes, being able to make one another laugh and just that over all feeling of being meant to be. I think there are a lot of misperceptions both on behalf of westerners as well as east, I think though if people search their heart they will find that it all comes down to love, no matter where you may be from.
For me, I know I met a girl who just happens to live in another country and for me she is the girl I love, not a girl from the philippines, but just a beautiful woman inside and out. I think most of the people here on VJ know this and are lucky, so that being said cheers to us all, God Bless us and our realionships today,tommorow and the next.

The threads with advice to avoid ceremonies are numerous on this site. The CO's view of a "religious ceremony" is quite different from an opinion.
Besides, not sure how there could be a "religious ceremony" that wouldn't be viewed as a marriage, in a country that takes such a serious view of marriage as to not allow divorce.

Go to the interview definitely... and tell them that the new passport is just not ready yet... maybe she will get a 221g to send the new passport to the embassy on a later date... Goodluck!

There are more filipinos in Columbus than you think. There are two groups TOPAS and PASCO which have events throughout the year and once you get in a group you will see that your social circles expand. There is also a filipino restaurant, La Herba Buena in the Dublin center that you can visit and the owner can probably hook you up with contact information.

OK... You are trolling.
Well...you baited me in and wasted some of my time. Kudos.
Won't happen again.

I would think the best advice Darren and Gretchen can consider would come from other Phil-Am couples. A few years ago I had a question specific to where my husband was going to have his interview. I had a lot of advice from all over the place....Ukraine, Phils, Canada....all of it was wrong. No one had any experience with the Congo and interveiws there. If I had a problem with my Danish in-laws, and I thought it might be a cultural issue, then I'm not going to ask for advice from anyone but other Dane's.
Darren's OP is in the Phil's forum.
Kenny - In my opinon, all you are doing is creating a name for yourself on VJ as a troll and a disrupter of threads. You've managed to turn this entire topic into something all about you and your grudge against RJo - back to topic, please!

Tell me this VJ'ers, if the country was not Philippines and lets say either from africa or south america or even central american. Would you have anything to say?? Remember cultures vary in different parts of the world, in some like mine this is very acceptable and not frowned upon AS LONG as its for love and affection and not for any other reason. Heck, if I was 60 and my fiancee 21 and I loved her as much as I do now, Whos to stop me? WHO are you? to tell me NO? to say love has a age limit? Isnt this site based on breaking limits? breaking the limits of distance! GOING OVER AND BEYOND THE NORMAL FOR THE ONES WE LOVE?! People call US not normal! for having a long distance relationship and for wanting to marry someone who live miles and miles away!?! But we know, everyone here knows that the love they are recieving from their significant other is worth the fight, worth the time, and worth the critisism and sacrifice. Whos to say that this 60 year old man can't take care and love this young lady as well or better than someone her age?? How would you like it if everyone stood against you in your current relationship?? you would'nt give a flying f***!
When there is love , there is no distance! and when im 90 years old you best believe that Im going to still be capable of loving my partner just as much as I do now.
Only God can Judge me

Your experience is certainly different. Patty also applied for a name change after we were married and her SSN card still has the restriction.
Something tells me that an SSA employee may have inadvertantly pushed the wrong button or entered incorrect information to receive an
unrestricted SSN card.
Maybe some other K-1ers will see this thread and post their experience on getting employment without an EAD. Has anyone read or seen
any thread with which a K-1er was able to get employment without EAD?

I dont see any info here about the situation with the child. You need to check into what it takes to take the child out of Colombia. To bring the child to the USA for example the mother will need a signed statement from the father allowing the child to leave.
I would think your company would have more info on sending it employees & families to other countries. My husband was sent to Saudi Arabia & Colombia. The company had people that did nothing but visas for entering those countries to work & live.