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Hello All,

 

I became engaged to a US citizen in August and am visting him in a few days.

 

1.When asked about the purpose of my trip, will I be questioned more if I say I am visiting my fiance?

 

2.What happens when we decide to get married? Do you get asked more questions about that your plans to do so at border control? 

 

3.What about when you are married? Do they question you even more being in separate countries and visiting?

 

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It will all depend on the officer. Just stick to the truth and you should be alright. Make sure you have proof of going back home and don’t do anything that your visa doesn’t allow to


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My experience is with crossing the San Diego / Tijuana port of entries. There's lots of couples in all sorts of situations that cross daily with no troubles. 

I suggest simply stating that you're visiting your boyfriend. I learned real quick that referring to my fiancee as my girlfriend drew a lot less attention from the border agent. When I did use the word fiancee, depending on the officer, they would ask a few more questions, usually asking if we were planning on getting married, etc. 

 

If and when you do get married and if you are trying to obtain permanent residence then you can explain that you're going through the proper legal channels to obtain a visa.

 

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On 4/8/2019 at 2:50 PM, Lolitainkwell said:

I became engaged to a US citizen in August and am visting him in a few days.

 

1.When asked about the purpose of my trip, will I be questioned more if I say I am visiting my fiance?

 

2.What happens when we decide to get married? Do you get asked more questions about that your plans to do so at border control? 

 

3.What about when you are married? Do they question you even more being in separate countries and visiting?

You are engaged and no longer a gf/bf. You would have to declare as visiting your fiance if asked by CBP. 

 

As long as you have evidence of plans to return home from the US and continue with the immigrant visa processing in your home country, you should be fine visiting after getting married. Plenty of married int'l spouses visit. 


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23 minutes ago, WeGuyGal said:

You are engaged and no longer a gf/bf. You would have to declare as visiting your fiance if asked by CBP. 

 

As long as you have evidence of plans to return home from the US and continue with the immigrant visa processing in your home country, you should be fine visiting after getting married. Plenty of married int'l spouses visit. 

I agree that the OP is fine visiting as gf/bf, fiancé, or wife/husband as long as they intend to visit in accordance with their visa agreement. I disagree that they must declare themselves as engaged to a US citizen. Engagement is not a legally binding agreement. For their purposes, there's no difference between courtship and engagement. It has no bearing on the situation.

 

 

 

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1 hour ago, battsher said:

I agree that the OP is fine visiting as gf/bf, fiancé, or wife/husband as long as they intend to visit in accordance with their visa agreement. I disagree that they must declare themselves as engaged to a US citizen. Engagement is not a legally binding agreement. For their purposes, there's no difference between courtship and engagement. It has no bearing on the situation.

 

 

 

An engaged individual is no longer a gf/bf. There is no gf/bf visa, but there is a fiance visa, therefore a legal distinction. 


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3 minutes ago, WeGuyGal said:

An engaged individual is no longer a gf/bf. There is no gf/bf visa, but there is a fiance visa, therefore a legal distinction. 

I agree with this. Engaged means = plans to marry by both parties. Gf/bf = no such plans agreed upon by both parties. People might be engaged and not use the phrase "fiance(e)" because they personally don't like it or find it old fashioned, but the point stands that there's a difference between bf/gf and a couple who has active agreed upon plans/intent to marry.


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5 minutes ago, WeGuyGal said:

An engaged individual is no longer a gf/bf. There is no gf/bf visa, but there is a fiance visa, theref

Meh, we're splitting hairs at this point. But if you care to argue about it, the K1 only counts if you apply for it.  And we've already agreed that it doesn't matter for the purposes of a visit.

 

Will the OP be questioned more if they claim to be a fiancé? In my experience, yes.

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2 hours ago, battsher said:

Meh, we're splitting hairs at this point. But if you care to argue about it, the K1 only counts if you apply for it.  And we've already agreed that it doesn't matter for the purposes of a visit.

 

Will the OP be questioned more if they claim to be a fiancé? In my experience, yes.

You can’t have it both ways. You can’t claim there is no difference, and then say they will be questioned more for being one rather than the other.  If that’s the case, there clearly is a difference. 

 

It’s never a good idea to try mislead immigration officials.

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Visiting from the UK? You are unlikely to have any issues. I visited over 40 times as a girlfriend/fiancée/wife and all without incident. 

 

What is your travel history like? I assume you have been here before and if you have had a good history with CBP and you always left on time then there’s nothing to suggest that your next POE experience will be any different than the previous ones. 

 

You must answer all questions truthfully but do not have to divulge any information that was not specifically requested. 


 

 

 

 

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11 hours ago, battsher said:

Meh, we're splitting hairs at this point. But if you care to argue about it, the K1 only counts if you apply for it.  And we've already agreed that it doesn't matter for the purposes of a visit.

 

Will the OP be questioned more if they claim to be a fiancé? In my experience, yes.

Bf/gf or fiance, doesn't matter for the purposes of a vist, agreed, and you are correct. 

 

My point is, if CBP asks whom someone is visiting, they have to be truthful and say fiance. That is the truth, claiming anything else would be a lie. Irrespective whether they're questioned more or less; that's beside the point. 


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