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I was a n international female student on F1, and I got married to a US citizen. We applied for AOS through marriage, and we are waiting for our interview in a few months.

 

Since we were in a relationship for 3 years before marriage, and we have been married for more than a year, we have lots of texts, photos, etc. We are both poor, so we didn't get to travel though. But we also have a joint bank account, joint health insurances, joint car insurance, a rental agreement with both of our names on it, and also all the bills we got in mail with both of our names on them. 

 

However, the problem is, I haven't told my family (except my sister) that I am married. This is because I am lesbian and my spouse is a girl too, and I know my family would hate me if they ever found out that I married a woman. One time, I couldn't keep a secret from my mother, who lives in my home country, so I told her on the phone that I am thinking about marrying someone of the same sex and that I am lesbian, and she said "Please don't. It is just a phase. You will eventually start liking men, so wait until then. Homosexuality doesn't exist. " She sounded very disappointed and I could tell she was crying on the other line of the phone. 

 

Now I can never tell my family that I am now married... My USC spouse's family all know that we are married and they are okay with it, but it is just my family who is not accepting of this kind of marriage and relationship.. 

I know myself and I know I won't change my sexuality, so I decided to marry the girl I love. 

 

Because of all this, my family doesn't know I am married, and they have not met my spouse's family either. I have some photos with my spouse's family, but my spouse does not have a photo with my family. They cannot even travel all the way here either. 

 

Does this lead to an immediate rejection of GC application at the interview? I am scared we might get separated solely because we cannot provide them with family photos with both sides of families in them..

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12 minutes ago, MaryLoves said:

I was a n international female student on F1, and I got married to a US citizen. We applied for AOS through marriage, and we are waiting for our interview in a few months.

Since we were in a relationship for 3 years before marriage, and we have been married for more than a year, we have lots of texts, photos, etc. We are both poor, so we didn't get to travel though. But we also have a joint bank account, joint health insurances, joint car insurance, a rental agreement with both of our names on it, and also all the bills we got in mail with both of our names on them. 

However, the problem is, I haven't told my family (except my sister) that I am married. This is because I am lesbian and my spouse is a girl too, and I know my family would hate me if they ever found out that I married a woman. One time, I couldn't keep a secret from my mother, who lives in my home country, so I told her on the phone that I am thinking about marrying someone of the same sex and that I am lesbian, and she said "Please don't. It is just a phase. You will eventually start liking men, so wait until then. Homosexuality doesn't exist. " She sounded very disappointed and I could tell she was crying on the other line of the phone. 

Now I can never tell my family that I am now married... My USC spouse's family all know that we are married and they are okay with it, but it is just my family who is not accepting of this kind of marriage and relationship.. 

I know myself and I know I won't change my sexuality, so I decided to marry the girl I love. 

Because of all this, my family doesn't know I am married, and they have not met my spouse's family either. I have some photos with my spouse's family, but my spouse does not have a photo with my family. They cannot even travel all the way here either. 

Does this lead to an immediate rejection of GC application at the interview? I am scared we might get separated solely because we cannot provide them with family photos with both sides of families in them..

No, it shouldn't lead to a denial but it may raise some questions. So if they ask a question then answer truthfully and you should be fine overall.

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32 minutes ago, MaryLoves said:

I was a n international female student on F1, and I got married to a US citizen. We applied for AOS through marriage, and we are waiting for our interview in a few months.

 

Since we were in a relationship for 3 years before marriage, and we have been married for more than a year, we have lots of texts, photos, etc. We are both poor, so we didn't get to travel though. But we also have a joint bank account, joint health insurances, joint car insurance, a rental agreement with both of our names on it, and also all the bills we got in mail with both of our names on them. 

 

However, the problem is, I haven't told my family (except my sister) that I am married. This is because I am lesbian and my spouse is a girl too, and I know my family would hate me if they ever found out that I married a woman. One time, I couldn't keep a secret from my mother, who lives in my home country, so I told her on the phone that I am thinking about marrying someone of the same sex and that I am lesbian, and she said "Please don't. It is just a phase. You will eventually start liking men, so wait until then. Homosexuality doesn't exist. " She sounded very disappointed and I could tell she was crying on the other line of the phone. 

 

Now I can never tell my family that I am now married... My USC spouse's family all know that we are married and they are okay with it, but it is just my family who is not accepting of this kind of marriage and relationship.. 

I know myself and I know I won't change my sexuality, so I decided to marry the girl I love. 

 

Because of all this, my family doesn't know I am married, and they have not met my spouse's family either. I have some photos with my spouse's family, but my spouse does not have a photo with my family. They cannot even travel all the way here either. 

 

Does this lead to an immediate rejection of GC application at the interview? I am scared we might get separated solely because we cannot provide them with family photos with both sides of families in them..

If they ask you if your family knows you should tell them exactly this. Not every family is perfect, not every family is close. They can't just go by a book and check it off their list ("Ok, both families know. Check."). Especially in your situation, every normal should understand that (unfortuantely) today there are still a lot of people who do no accept homosexuality. You just don't go around and tell everyone. There are so many stories out there of people who were so scared to tell their parents about who their sexuality.

Don't worry too much! It is definitely possible that they might ask a few more questions but if you have enough of all other proof you should be fine. I completely understand why you didn't tell your parents. I don't know if I would have told mine if I were in your situation. I would have tested it first like you and see how they'd react.

Good luck and you will be fine! :)


Adjusting from E2 with pending I-130

Category F2A

PD April 6th, 2017

 

April 14th, 2018 - AOS package sent 

April 16th, 2018 - AOS package delivered at Chicago Lockbox

May 1st, 2018 - package returned due to issue with G-1450 Form (I do not recommend this form of payment) 

May 2nd, 2018 - resubmitted AOS package via FedEx

May 3rd, 2018 - AOS package delivered at Chicago Lockbox

May 10th, 2018 - USCIS cashed check :D

May 11th, 2018 - received NOA1 via e-notification

May 14th, 2018 - received hardcopies of all 3 NOA1s 

May 26th, 2018 - received Biometric Appointment letter // Biometric Appointment: June 7th

May 30th, 2018 - Biometrics done in Alexandria, VA - Early Walk-In successful!

May 31st, 2018 - Status Update Online: Case is Ready to Be Scheduled for An Interview (that was fast :o)

June 24th, 2018 - Fingerprint Review Was Completed

August 3rd, 2018 - Called USCIS and requested to have EAD expedited based on "severe financial loss" 

August 13th, 2018 - received notice to provide further evidence to expedite work permit (mailed on the 6th of August)

August 14th, 2018 - successfully faxed evidence over to USCIS after first try & contacted senators office and requested assistance

August 15th, 2018 - Senator's office reached out to me to confirm that they will assist me

August 22nd, 2018 - Case Status Update: New Card Is Being Produced

August 31st, 2018 - Card was mailed to me

September 4th, 2018 - Card Was Picked Up By The United States Postal Service incl. tracking number

September 6th, 2018 - Card in Hand (finally!!!)

 

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Firstly, I'm sorry to hear you feel so uncomfortable telling your family about your life. Family are supposed to be supportive but this is not the case for everyone. And this wouldn't be so stressful if you weren't going through the immigration process.

 

That said, just be honest with the officer IF it comes up. It might not. But what the officer is really looking for is honesty and to see that you and your spouse are on the same page. If this was something you hid from your spouse and this lie was revealed during the interview, that lie would be more the issue. I hope that makes sense. If the IO sees that you both have discussed it and agreed it's better not to tell your family, that shows you're a real couple because every couple has their unique issues (and strengths!) and what matters is that we communicate with our spouses about it. Not telling your family is not grounds for denial, so don't worry about that. Good luck. =)


08/08/17: PD 

08/15/17: NOA1's received

09/06/17: Biometrics Appt

10/23/17: 1st SR for I-765

11/28/17: 2nd SR for I-765 (w/ Tier 2 rep)

01/16/18: Contacted senator

02/01/18: RFIE mailed (online update)

02/04/18: RFIE letter received RE: I-864

03/09/18: RFIE response sent

03/15/18: RFIE response delivered (UPS tracking)

03/19/18: RFIE response acknowledged (online update)

03/30/18: Contacted ombudsman

04/02/18: Contacted senator again

04/17/18: Combo card approval (online update)

04/19/18: Combo card mailed (online update)

04/22/18: Combo card received 

08/21/18: INTERVIEW SCHEDULED! (online update)

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