Very emotional after mailing I-129F

[whiteyadam 4]

The wait time between sending in the I-29F and getting our NAO2 was the most stressful and emotional time of my life. I just can't wait until it's all over!!!

[LionessDeon 2,060]

Most people will say this, but here goes again...

First off, congratulations, as you said you are that tiny bit closer to being together, forever.. I absolutely remember the feeling (for us it was in 2010) when my now wife sent off the petition, the anxiety feeling of getting prepared was definitely met with the feeling of emptiness. But have comfort in the fact that it's out of your hands, even though that might sound silly. Deal with RFE's if they happen, and remember they are NOT the end of the world, deal with whatever happens face on and you really don't be delayed! We got an RFE in our I-129F petition (birth certificate issue) and again in AOS (birth certificate issue again with co-sponsor), both times we took care of it and it didn't effect the outcome one tiny bit!

It sounds like you were ample prepared for the petition, I read your previous post about your package contents and I think you'll be fine. All that white letter paper scattered over the floor so bad you can't see the floor? All nicely bundled into a folder and taken to the post office, "Here you go government, here's my future".. oh yes, I think most people can feel it too?

One thing I will tell you, is the wait will be long and drawn out, there's simply no sugar coating that; it sucks.. but know this, right now you are building together something most people don't ever get to experience, and that's the blatant agony of being apart, the desire and appreciate to just be in the same room together, just to be able to hug, kiss and hold their hand. It's priceless and weird to say, but cherish it, and DON'T forget about it.

The silver lining here is though, some day soon(ish), you will be together, and then you will be walking down the isle (or however you choose to do that) and then your 'forever' (how my wife an I call it) will begin as husband and wife.. after that you WILL look back on this time as a BLIP in your forever. you WILL look back, just like my wife and I do today and be damn PROUD of what you did.. what I'm saying is the heartache of today will strengthen and solidify your forever; forever.

Don't think about tomorrow, plan for your future. My only other advise will be, stay busy, distract yourselves as best as you can and talk each and every day. Right now you get to plan your perfect future and that's something to be excited for.

Best of luck through your VISA journey, and yes as others have already mention, the VISA hoops will keep coming and coming. I moved here in 2011 and no I'm going through ROC, it's still that necessary thorn, but it gets easier, at least after this is done, the other hoops you can jump through hand in hand together, so know that it gets easier from now on in.

Good Luck!

PS.. Also be thankful for today's technology, our loved ones are closer than you may think. Don't get angry when Skype fails you, or your Facetime connection fails.. be thankful for it.. when I was going through all that, I kept reminding myself of my parents, they immigrated to Australia in 1981, two years before I was born. My mum and dad left their families and ventured out for a new beginning. Back then to call back to England was $2 a minute, voice calling over a scratchy and delayed line! My mum told me she could only afford to call home once or twice a year. I guess we take for granted what we have, but I think sometime the stresses of not being together makes us not appreciate the tools we do have at our disposal! Imagine doing this 30 years ago? WOW!!

Wow, thanks that was beautifully said and helps tremendously!

[mondix 12]

GrayL my goodness what a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing with us.

I will be traveling to my fiance's home country in December for Christmas. It's nice to know that I have the Xmas trip to look forward to, some certainly among all that's unknown.

It's also so great to log onto VJ and know there are all of you --- in love and supporting each other through this challenging process. At this point I'm just a newbie with little advice to share, but your wisdom and advice have had such a big impact on me and I could never thank you guys enough.

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[Ketsuban 1,034]

I remember when I sent our I-130 package to my husband to sign the forms, I felt relieved that I'd finally finished. It took me about a month to get everything together, so I was glad to see the back of it

The most emotional I got was when our case was transferred out of the National Benefits Center to the Nebraska Service Center. I was happy that something was finally happening! When we got our NOA2 I was just like "jolly good, on to NVC". Except it wasn't so jolly good since we got there just before the backlog began

Edited September 7, 2014 by Ketsuban

[Pinkrlion 2,610]

This process takes you on an emotional rollercoaster, you will lean on each other for support, as JA embassy will drive you crazy.

[LiliBurd 85]

Don't think about tomorrow, plan for your future. My only other advise will be, stay busy, distract yourselves as best as you can and talk each and every day. Right now you get to plan your perfect future and that's something to be excited for.

Very nice story. And this is a great way of thinking to get through this crazy adventure I might steal that quote GrayL

[Sekhvaruli 74]

I know how you feel. I've been there.

After preparing everything for sending out, I was desperately waiting for one single paper to enclose - my final divorce decree. Once it arrived by mail - on May 31st in the afternoon - I rushed to the post office. But, since it was Saturday and UPS was closed, I went to Office Depot, where you can drop off your package for shipping even on weekends. I was struggling with the address and the box, feeling really nervous and frustrated. When I finally got the slip and sat in my car to go back home, I felt a little helpless.... - there is nothing left I can do... I can only sit and wait now.... And I've been doing so for more than 3 months already.

Waiting is my full-time job since then.

[slymn 0]

Wait until your fiance calls you and tell you his visa approved, and then you will feel like it worth every second you send

Well my fiance didn't get excited so much she told me she knew we would get it ( deep note i call her at might night after a long day work:D and 8 hours gap is not helping)

[TBoneTX 43,126]

Several posts have been removed from the thread, and the following post has been edited and returned to the thread:

I believe many feel like that too, so I can understand your pain.

What I kept in mind was that it's the very first step to a lifetime together. While nothing can really ease the pain of being so far away and for sometimes very long... it does help to know that this is the first step.

The removed material referred to deceiving CBP at POE. CBP thrives on the truth. The above poster is very fortunate not to have been thread-banned or suspended for treating the matter in such cavalier fashion.

TBoneTX

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[GrayL 47]

Very nice story. And this is a great way of thinking to get through this crazy adventure I might steal that quote GrayL