Important Decision..what would you do?

[HollyEslem 6]

Okay so here is the dilemma. I just got back from Tunisia over a week ago from visiting my fiance. He is set to graduate college the end of next month. Due to financial reasons, I can only afford one more trip. It's $1,500 per flight. We'd also like for me to be present at his interview(God willing we get approved!) What would you do? Would you spend the money and go to graduation, something that will never happen again or not worry about going to the interview? or would you go to the interview? I can't go IN to the interview with him but I feel like it would look better for us if i WERE there anyway..if nothing else, as support for my fiance. ahhhhhhhhh! Any suggestions would greatly be appreciated! We are stuck between a rock and a hard place for sure

[pend 8]

If I were you I would choose to go to the graduation. Of course Tunisia is different but when my fiance was in Amsterdam from the States to join me to the Interview they didnt even let him in at the American Consulate!!

They said that only the person listed on the letter is invited to come in. So he had to wait outside until I returned (it was superfast). And I told the immigration officer during my interview that my fiance was here but couldn't get in the building, he said: oo, that's okay.

Just enjoy the graduation!

[samirsashasafi 3]

Hi Of course no one can know what to do better than you guys but I say go with your heart and if your heart says to be with your fiance even just for support than go for it then you can celebrate your Graduation and the Approval together which is even better Good Luck ! I came to the interview with my fiance last week and feel blessed that we got to go together especially I know it is not possible for everyone...

[Penguin_ie 5,988]

You've done 5 tips, so plenty of face time for the bonafide part of the visa interview. Thus, I would go to whichever event you and your fiance prefer... the graduation is a big deal and would be great to go to, but the interview may be nice to keep his nerves calm.

[midge and isi 8]

Okay so here is the dilemma. I just got back from Tunisia over a week ago from visiting my fiance. He is set to graduate college the end of next month. Due to financial reasons, I can only afford one more trip. It's $1,500 per flight. We'd also like for me to be present at his interview(God willing we get approved!) What would you do? Would you spend the money and go to graduation, something that will never happen again or not worry about going to the interview? or would you go to the interview? I can't go IN to the interview with him but I feel like it would look better for us if i WERE there anyway..if nothing else, as support for my fiance. ahhhhhhhhh! Any suggestions would greatly be appreciated! We are stuck between a rock and a hard place for sure

With all the trips you have had (more then many other couples who get approved) I would go with the graduation....

You may not even be able to go in for the interview- other country specific people can let you know-

[baron555 934]

Okay so here is the dilemma. I just got back from Tunisia over a week ago from visiting my fiance. He is set to graduate college the end of next month. Due to financial reasons, I can only afford one more trip. It's $1,500 per flight. We'd also like for me to be present at his interview(God willing we get approved!) What would you do? Would you spend the money and go to graduation, something that will never happen again or not worry about going to the interview? or would you go to the interview? I can't go IN to the interview with him but I feel like it would look better for us if i WERE there anyway..if nothing else, as support for my fiance. ahhhhhhhhh! Any suggestions would greatly be appreciated! We are stuck between a rock and a hard place for sure

The interview.......it's a life changing, long term decision that your presence can only help with.

Attendance at a graduation will not mean much if he gets denied at the interview.

[2far 185]

Personally, I would choose the interview. By that time, you would have not seen eachother for a while. Although you will not be able to go in, you can spend the days leading up to the interview preparing and calming nerves together. It would be sad to miss the graduation, but I think it would very difficult to be apart during the stressful interview process.

[TBoneTX 43,549]

Attendance at a graduation will not mean much if he gets denied at the interview.

This is dead-nuts accurate and the ONLY thing that matters.

[HollyEslem 6]

Thanks everyone!!after deep thought and careful consideration, we've both decided the interview is more important. He's planning on furthering his education here so it won't be the last graduation! We feel, even though I can't go in, that it would still look good if I were there and I know he's going to a little nervous so being there will help

[TBoneTX 43,549]

we've both decided the interview is more important. He's planning on furthering his education here so it won't be the last graduation! We feel, even though I can't go in, that it would still look good if I were there and I know he's going to a little nervous so being there will help

Excellent decision! Get there a few days early, in time to take pictures of yourselves in various situations. Find a place to have them developed, and hand them over to the person who collects them at the embassy.

[Darnell 8,478]

OP - since yer NOA-1 date is 2012-11-19 -

I say do yer own stuff for graduation, and plan and budget for the trip to Tunisia, around December of 2013.

Be certain the Packet 3 docs are returned to the IV Unit around the end of October, 2013.

Go Get Em !

[HollyEslem 6]

OP - since yer NOA-1 date is 2012-11-19 -

I say do yer own stuff for graduation, and plan and budget for the trip to Tunisia, around December of 2013.

Be certain the Packet 3 docs are returned to the IV Unit around the end of October, 2013.

Go Get Em !

okay i'm curious but why so late? That would be over a year since we filed and got our NOA1 It's been almost 5 months already and according to USCIS, the average time is 5 months..the average time to get an interview appointment in Tunisia is 59 days I think..I was thinking it would be more around July or August. Am I not understanding something? sorry..I've never done this before lol

[Darnell 8,478]

ya, you can delay stuff at the IV unit by NOT sending in the Packet 3 response asap. You have 3 to 4 months to send it in, after it arrives.

Once it's sent in, one gets on the interview calendar.

[HollyEslem 6]

ya, you can delay stuff at the IV unit by NOT sending in the Packet 3 response asap. You have 3 to 4 months to send it in, after it arrives.

Once it's sent in, one gets on the interview calendar.

oh i see what you are saying now..We have the funding now so no need to delay lol We are hoping to get everything sent in as soon as possible as it comes..We don't want to be apart any more longer than we have to

[daliroya 7]

I was wondering why you think that you can't go into the interview with him. I was with my fiance (now husband) at his appointment. We used his appointment receipt for his admission and I showed my American passport. I had made an appointment, just in case, at the same time; however, they told me Americans can always enter the embassy. We went through security together, we were escorted to the waiting room together. There are two areas in the office. One is for citizens and the other for non-citizens, but we sat together. We were called up to the window together. I was asked to step away from the window while my fiance was asked questions but everyone in the room could hear the conversation. We could hear the conversations at every window. No one is taken into a private area. I was then called to answer questions also. The interviewer asked my fiance to step back. The interview was not long. They looked through all our papers and we left together. It was a very bonding experience to share. I think it is not necessary to be there but it was nice. I'm glad I did it.